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Unfortunately, this is not a hypothetical question. My good friend, best man at my wedding, moved in with my wife and I 2 months ago. I was on his computer the other day, and I stumbled upon his uh, child pornography collection. 1.4 GB. What the fuck do I do? Can't imagine confronting him about it. For sure can't do nothing. The best I can think of is to delete the folder without his knowledge, making it gone, and letting him realize he's been caught. I feel violated that he's in our house rent-free, using our internet to do this. I feel sick now. Better get back to class..
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...and that slo makes him total scum and you don't need friends like that.
also kick him in the dick for me.
You need to think of the children he has/may hurt so yeah, he needs to be turned it. Sometimes it sucks to do the right thing.
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Bro, if it is really legit child po_rn.... you got to confront him. That's just wrong and sick. He needs help. Get him it.
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I wouldn't try and delete it if I were you, leave it to the cops maybe? Who knows.
it was his friend's computer, not his. Diff. IP address, right?
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yikes. this is a tough spot.
1. you need to cover yourself first. it's your home and your IP address. you could be held responsible. so it needs to stop, now.
2. it's a tough call on involving the police. it will end the friendship and he's going to have a hard time in prison. as a friend, it's not easy, but it may be worthwhile to try confronting him. he's going to be angry that you "snooped" on him (going to be his first reaction). but if you can get past that, you could try to get him into some counseling or something. my guess is he doesn't want to be doing this, though it's one disease that has pretty poor success rates with respect to cure.
no matter what though, you can't let him continue living there and doing this. it jeopardizes your family. even if you delete it, he could just pick up doing it again and try to be more sneaky about it. you don't know if it will actually stop him.
Too soon?
Seriously, call the cops. That's just sick.
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You already know in your mind what you have to do I'm guessing.....you just don't want to admit it just yet. Good luck
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2. I'm not sure about going to the cops. It is your IP address, and he could claim it is you, you claim it is him, and you get into a finger pointing match. You both could get prosecuted. I just don't know.
I'd say kick him out and consider going to the police. Permanently delete all that shit off your computer.
This is a tough situation, but you need to cover your ass here, and do not need to tolerate this or just not say anything. He is putting you in danger with the police.
I probably would go to the police with a preliminary strike. If you don't the police could come after you and then if you implicate him, it could look like you are passing blame.
Wrong - same IP address. The ISP (internet service provider) will assign one IP address to your home...than your router will assign internal IP addresses to your individual computers. The one that will be reported is the one the ISP assigns your home.
If I read correctly - this is his computer. That will go a long way in showing that it was not you.
However - this could still get you in HUGE trouble. If he downloaded any of the photos using your interenet connection, there is a trail pointing to YOU. And if the police come knocking on your door and you had kicked him out already and you have no evidence (his computer) than you are most likely screwed.
I'm not a lawyer - but you should talk to one ASAP. And depending on what they say - you may need to call the police. At the very least - as a friend - I'd confront him if I were in your position. He needs help!
Good luck!
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It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?
To us on an internet message board, it's probably black and white. But I doubt it ever is. We don't have any idea about the relationship this guy has with his friend. Christ, he was his best man.
That said, I wouldn't waste time with this. You've got to do something becuase he's putting you at risk as well.
Well, he obviously has a close relationship with him. Best man at his wedding. Letting him move in. The only thing we know about this guy is that he collects cp. The OP knows this guy as someone else. And I'm guessing has known him for quite a few years.
i agree with the suggestion of calling an attorney.
sorry you gotta deal with this, it's awful on so many fronts. good luck.
I feel bad that it is your friend doing it...must be tough
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he may be your friend, but he needs help. fast. Please...
If it is on his computer & not a shared one, it will be on him. If you delete it & it is tracked to your computer somehow, you may look guilty as well for not reporting it.
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I understand the best man thing, but once a best man does something to put my life and legal standing in jeopardy, I am not concerned about him. It isn't like he had a kegger and didn't clean up after the party. He committed a very serious crime witch will involve law enforcement doing forensic analysis on every computer in that house. It will bring heat down on every resident of the home. If he doesn't call the cops, he is now aiding and abetting, and could possibly spend time with his buddy behind bars.
I would not wait 2 seconds to call the cops. You want to show that you acted immediatley, that you had no prior knowledge, that you don't condone the actions in any way, shape or form.
So if everything else about the guy is cool, that's something you'd be able to overlook?
That is all I need to know about the guy.
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No, what I said is that the OP knows a lot more about this person and has a close relationship to this person. Therefore it's going to be a lot harder for them to choose a course of action than it would be us, a neutral party.
I don't understand how that could be mistaken for "overlook it".