Cyber bullying

gue_barium

I've never met a cyber-bully that I couldn't whup.

The truth be told, I don't know exactly what adult-on-adult cyberbullying might be. There are the trolls and the malcontents who do their share of verbal posturing, but I don't think they amount to much. I guess the worst case scenario is when someone has it in for you and follows your every post with a derogatory, or generally annoying, reply. Fuck 'em. Put 'em on ignore.

Jeanie

Trailer wrote:

I know I've offended a couple of people on here over the course of my "pit life", but it has never been intentional. I'm new to this whole forum thing, and definitely post without thinking it over most of the time.:) I don't see any bullying going on here though... maybe people are doing it in pms, but from what I see it's pretty tame.

I grew up with a very sarcastic father though... so I can pretty much take anything that is thrown at me:D

Do you visit all the forums Trailer?

And when you have offended someone have you attempted to rectify the situation?

Trailer

Jeanie wrote:

Do you visit all the forums Trailer?

And when you have offended someone have you attempted to rectify the situation?

I pretty much stay in AET... while wandering over here, other music, and the porch every once in a while.

Of course I tried to rectify the situation.. I'm a nice guy;).... but they seemed like they wanted to keep up their defense and prolong the issue, so I got over it and can care less what they think now

Jeanie

gue_barium wrote:

I've never met a cyber-bully that I couldn't whup.

The truth be told, I don't know exactly what adult-on-adult cyberbullying might be. There are the trolls and the malcontents who do their share of verbal posturing, but I don't think they amount to much. I guess the worst case scenario is when someone has it in for you and follows your every post with a derogatory, or generally annoying, reply. Fuck 'em. Put 'em on ignore.

Now that's sounding more like what I was thinking of gue.

Do you consider someone that follows someone else around the board consistently being derogatory and annoying to a particular individual bullying?

And I'm really glad you mentioned the ignore button because that would only remove from view the post from the person on ignore, it wouldn't stop you seeing what they had to say if anyone subsequently quoted them. So I'm not sure that it's an effective tool. What do you think?

gue_barium

Jeanie wrote:

Now that's sounding more like what I was thinking of gue.

Do you consider someone that follows someone else around the board consistently being derogatory and annoying to a particular individual bullying?

And I'm really glad you mentioned the ignore button because that would only remove from view the post from the person on ignore, it wouldn't stop you seeing what they had to say if anyone subsequently quoted them. So I'm not sure that it's an effective tool. What do you think?

I think the ignore feature works. I also think the regular posters here have elevated their game quite a bit over the past year, so you don't get near as many quotes in a thread of someone you may have on ignore as used to be the case.

Jeanie

Trailer wrote:

I pretty much stay in AET... while wandering over here, other music, and the porch every once in a while.

So do you think there is more potential for argument or nastiness in one forum over another? Do you consider think where you have experienced this that it is more likely to happen in one forum over another?

Trailer wrote:

Of course I tried to rectify the situation.. I'm a nice guy;).... but they seemed like they wanted to keep up their defense and prolong the issue, so I got over it and can care less what they think now

Well I figured you did! I'm well aware of your Nice Guy status!
But when it continued beyond what you could be bothered with you walked away from the conversation and avoid them entirely now? Or continue to discuss other things on other threads with them?

Jeanie

gue_barium wrote:

I think the ignore feature works. I also think the regular posters here have elevated their game quite a bit over the past year, so you don't get near as many quotes in a thread of someone you may have on ignore.

oh. ok. Do you mean that if someone is offensive that other regular posters are less likely to quote them now or respond than they would have in the past?
Coz if that's the case then the ignore button would be more appealing.

gue_barium

Jeanie wrote:

oh. ok. Do you mean that if someone is offensive that other regular posters are less likely to quote them now or respond than they would have in the past?
Coz if that's the case then the ignore button would be more appealing.

Here on AMT that's what I'm seeing, yes. I can't tell ya about the rest of the Pit since I don't spend a lot of time anywhere else .

catefrances

Jeanie wrote:

Do you think it happens here on PJ?

Do you think it happens more on one forum than the others?

Have you been subject to it?

Have you found yourself doing it?

What do you think we can do to eradicate it?

yes

yes

no

no

turn your computer off.

baraka

gue_barium wrote:

I've never met a cyber-bully that I couldn't whup.

The truth be told, I don't know exactly what adult-on-adult cyberbullying might be. There are the trolls and the malcontents who do their share of verbal posturing, but I don't think they amount to much. I guess the worst case scenario is when someone has it in for you and follows your every post with a derogatory, or generally annoying, reply. Fuck 'em. Put 'em on ignore.

This is what I was thinking gue. I think with adults it is mainly trolling, trying to push buttons, inflame and irritate. I'm not sure that is bullying unless they target a particular poster.

soulsinging

Jeanie wrote:

Well it's all pretty much there in the document but not in point form so I dunno how else to clarify it for you without having to pretty much type the relevant bits out and I can't be stuffed. The idea was that you'd read it and form your own opinions anyway.

So if you feel that no one cares what you have to say, why post in the first place?

cos i enjoy formulating my thoughts and debating the merits of my points.

Trailer

Jeanie wrote:

So do you think there is more potential for argument or nastiness in one forum over another? Do you consider think where you have experienced this that it is more likely to happen in one forum over another?

I don't think there is that much nastiness going on anywhere.. but what do I know. I take everything with a grain of salt.

Jeanie wrote:

Well I figured you did! I'm well aware of your Nice Guy status!
But when it continued beyond what you could be bothered with you walked away from the conversation and avoid them entirely now? Or continue to discuss other things on other threads with them?

I wouldn't say "avoid" is the right word.. but if I think that they still have a problem with me, then I just will leave them alone. I'm only sensitive when I'm drunk:D

Trailer

soulsinging wrote:

cos i enjoy formulating my thoughts and debating the merits of my points.

Yeah, I like soulsinging posts because they have character to them. What fun would this forum be if everyone was kissing eachother's asses?

soulsinging

baraka wrote:

This is what I was thinking gue. I think with adults it is mainly trolling, trying to push buttons, inflame and irritate. I'm not sure that is bullying unless they target a particular poster.

i can think of 4 posters i can't resist responding to. they are so ridiculous i cannot help myself from calling them on their nonsense almost every time they spout it.

Jeanie

gue_barium wrote:

Here on AMT that's what I'm seeing, yes. I can't tell ya about the rest of the Pit since I don't spend a lot of time anywhere else .

Oh. Well that's good to know.

soulsinging

Trailer wrote:

Yeah, I like soulsinging posts because they have character to them. What fun would this forum be if everyone was kissing eachother's asses?

i like to think so too. but some would call it bullying.

Jeanie

catefrances wrote:

yes

yes

no

no

turn your computer off.

How does turning of your computer eradicate it? The behaviour would still continue and you would have to change yours in order to stop it happening to you. That doesn't really seem fair or reasonable if you've not done anything wrong.

gue_barium

soulsinging wrote:

i can think of 4 posters i can't resist responding to. they are so ridiculous i cannot help myself from calling them on their nonsense almost every time they spout it.

You may be touching on another topic. Obsessive-Compulsive Cyber Replying.

Jeanie

baraka wrote:

This is what I was thinking gue. I think with adults it is mainly trolling, trying to push buttons, inflame and irritate. I'm not sure that is bullying unless they target a particular poster.

And you don't think that happens barak? That they target a particular poster?

catefrances

soulsinging wrote:

i like to think so too. but some would call it bullying.

you know when you go after someone because of things theyve said previously that are irrelevant to the topic at hand, and you do it relentlessly, some could construe that as bullying.