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  • Collin
    Collin Posts: 4,931
    cutback wrote:
    no tux?

    :D
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  • Abookamongstthemany
    Abookamongstthemany Posts: 8,209
    Sex is fucking awesome, casual or not!
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  • Ahnimus
    Ahnimus Posts: 10,560
    AmentsChick wrote:
    What does that mean, exactly?

    It means I only get off once, she gets off twice. That's the deal.

    Per round that is.
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  • polaris
    polaris Posts: 3,527
    i thought the initial article was discussing why casual sex is treated differently between men and women ...

    i think its a great thing as long as people know what they are getting themselves into ...
  • Ahnimus
    Ahnimus Posts: 10,560
    Abookamongstthemany wrote:
    Sex is fucking awesome, casual or not!
    My sentiments exactly!
    I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
  • Collin
    Collin Posts: 4,931
    Abookamongstthemany wrote:
    Sex is fucking awesome, casual or not!

    Sex is fucking awesomely.
    THANK YOU, LOSTDAWG!


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  • jlew24asu
    jlew24asu Posts: 10,118
    Abookamongstthemany wrote:
    Sex is fucking awesome, casual or not!

    I always knew there was a reason why a liked you :)
  • Derrick
    Derrick Posts: 475
    Foxtrot...
    Unicorn...
    Charlie...
    Kilo!

    Put the you-know-what...in the you-know-where
    Put the you-know-what...in the you-know-where



    (sorry, couldn't resist!)

    On a more serious note, sex is fun, it should be celebrated and enjoyed and encouraged unlike guns and violence. You only live once and then you are dead and dead is forever. FOREVER.
  • Pacomc79
    Pacomc79 Posts: 9,404
    This article is quite interesting indeed. The "hooking up" thing has been pretty common at least around me the last at least decade or so that I've been old enough to want to have sex.

    I don't have any real problem with it other than the obvious health/pregnancy questions and the lack of caring for other people mentioned in the article.

    I'm more worried about the way men and women are treating the men and women they are with in serious relationships with and the severe lack of respect shown to the other from both.

    Women being assertive and going after what they want is awesome, I just hope the women and men in question are doing it safely (which I tend to doubt) but I'm glad the "slut" stigma is being lifted off people who have had more than a few partners, everyone makes mistakes, some just enjoy thiers more than others.

    I kind of find the hooking up thing to be a little immature. It is how us guys act in high school and college, but by our mid 20's we are supposed to be a little smarter than that. It's a hollow, shallow way to live a life. Sure you can do it and it's fun for a while, but a few years of it gets really stale and you wind up being the old guy/girl in the bar hitting on young people.....lame.


    The emotional aspect of sex and relationships in general is one of the reasons men and women have communication disconnects. It's really a fascinating chemistry.


    I don't think it's a self respect thing at all, I think it's a lighter attitude towards sex and the seperation between having sex and being in love.
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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    Abookamongstthemany wrote:
    Sex is fucking awesome, casual or not!

    Must we go on. Everything that needs to be said has been said right there. :D
  • Staceb10
    Staceb10 Posts: 675
    soulsinging wrote:
    precisely. it's why im having so much trouble finding a mistress... women just have too much self respect when they're not drunk. it's frustrating :)


    Not all women have to be drunk to engage in casual no-strings attached sex. I think it happens more with the one night stand because usually women are out and drinking anyway. How often do you go to the movies and bring home a one-nighter? Now getting drunk specifically to lower you inhibitions so you can have a one-nighter is absurd. I don't know anyone that gets drunk just to have an excuse for having casual sex although I'm sure it happens.

    I know you were being funny but I did find it interesting that you said they have "too much self respect when they're not drunk.". Now, keep in mind I don't know the seriousness of the comment but do you think that a woman is incapable of engaging in casual no-strings sex unless they have low or no self-respect?

    I appreciate Know1's honesty and his stance on a lot of things because he's always upfront about his feelings on a subject regardless of how well others will take it. I don't agree with his outlook but I can appreciate it.

    Aside from the "get drunk hook-up" like the article is discussing, I don't have a problem with casual sex. I have found that the biggest problem with women and the casual sex issue is that they use it to get attention or to feel loved.. even if they don't realize that's what they are doing. This is probably going to change Know1's opinion of me (or maybe not :) ) but I am quite comfortable in having casual sexual relationships for the sexual factor alone. I don't usually go for the one-night thing but I have had a couple in my life. I just think that I can physically be attracted to someone and want the physical connection but not have the emotional ties. I'm a very sexual person and I'm comfortable with who I am and what I do. I don't bring men home in front of my son, I am monogamous when I'm in a relationship, I've never had an STD, I've never had an abortion and I've never hurt anyone else with my actions. Some will say "if you give your body to others then what are you saving for your husband" and my response to that is my heart and my life.
  • know1
    know1 Posts: 6,801
    Staceb10 wrote:
    Not all women have to be drunk to engage in casual no-strings attached sex. I think it happens more with the one night stand because usually women are out and drinking anyway. How often do you go to the movies and bring home a one-nighter? Now getting drunk specifically to lower you inhibitions so you can have a one-nighter is absurd. I don't know anyone that gets drunk just to have an excuse for having casual sex although I'm sure it happens.

    I know you were being funny but I did find it interesting that you said they have "too much self respect when they're not drunk.". Now, keep in mind I don't know the seriousness of the comment but do you think that a woman is incapable of engaging in casual no-strings sex unless they have low or no self-respect?

    I appreciate Know1's honesty and his stance on a lot of things because he's always upfront about his feelings on a subject regardless of how well others will take it. I don't agree with his outlook but I can appreciate it.

    Aside from the "get drunk hook-up" like the article is discussing, I don't have a problem with casual sex. I have found that the biggest problem with women and the casual sex issue is that they use it to get attention or to feel loved.. even if they don't realize that's what they are doing. This is probably going to change Know1's opinion of me (or maybe not :) ) but I am quite comfortable in having casual sexual relationships for the sexual factor alone. I don't usually go for the one-night thing but I have had a couple in my life. I just think that I can physically be attracted to someone and want the physical connection but not have the emotional ties. I'm a very sexual person and I'm comfortable with who I am and what I do. I don't bring men home in front of my son, I am monogamous when I'm in a relationship, I've never had an STD, I've never had an abortion and I've never hurt anyone else with my actions. Some will say "if you give your body to others then what are you saving for your husband" and my response to that is my heart and my life.


    You're right, I don't agree with that philosophy, but you explain it in a reasonable way and I can appreciate it as well.
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  • Collin
    Collin Posts: 4,931
    So where do friends with benefits fit into this all?
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  • PJ_Saluki
    PJ_Saluki Posts: 1,006
    I'd like to know where all these hook-up and casual sex girls are. They sure as hell aren't hanging out with me. I'm beating my dick like it owes me money. Thank you for that gem, Charles Q. Murphy.
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  • locked
    locked Boston Posts: 4,048
    I find the mention of a 27 year old nanny from Atlanta to be a major turn on..

    Like that refrigerator scene from "the Hand that rocks the cradle"

    :)
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  • viviflu
    viviflu Posts: 122
    Pacomc79 wrote:
    Sure you can do it and it's fun for a while, but a few years of it gets really stale and you wind up being the old guy/girl in the bar hitting on young people.....lame. I don't think it's a self respect thing at all, I think it's a lighter attitude towards sex and the seperation between having sex and being in love.

    Touché!
    Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
  • Gremmie95
    Gremmie95 Posts: 749
    Being drunk only amplifies feeling/ urges you already have. No more, no less.
  • viviflu
    viviflu Posts: 122
    Collin wrote:
    So where do friends with benefits fit into this all?

    Casual sex = lots of sex

    Friends with Benefits = you can have a beer from once in a while, go out barbecuing with common friends AND get lots of sex. Hypocrisy rules here "I would really like you if..." bah!
    Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    cutback wrote:
    no tux?

    Very cute!! :D
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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    locked wrote:
    I find the mention of a 27 year old nanny from Atlanta to be a major turn on..

    Does that go for 27 year old nannies from San Diego, too?
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