Not all women have to be drunk to engage in casual no-strings attached sex. I think it happens more with the one night stand because usually women are out and drinking anyway. How often do you go to the movies and bring home a one-nighter? Now getting drunk specifically to lower you inhibitions so you can have a one-nighter is absurd. I don't know anyone that gets drunk just to have an excuse for having casual sex although I'm sure it happens.
I know you were being funny but I did find it interesting that you said they have "too much self respect when they're not drunk.". Now, keep in mind I don't know the seriousness of the comment but do you think that a woman is incapable of engaging in casual no-strings sex unless they have low or no self-respect?
i was not being very serious at all. i suppose that makes sense, but this gets into kind of a circular rut. they're out drinking, but why are they going out? usually to pick someone up. so it's kind of a confused issue of causation that doesn't really matter. what matters is the drive to go out, grab a stranger, and use them like a condom. i think that's unwise. i dont think men or women have to have low esteem to do it. but i do have to say that i have never know or spoken to a woman who went home to have sex with a guy she met only hours before... unless she was drunk. the other side is i know girls (as they go out in packs) who will go out with the intention of hooking up. if they are sober that night, they maybe make out but then nothing more than exchange numbers and would not go home with a guy... EVER. if they have been drinking they will. maybe it does lower their inhibitions, but is that good? if they are unwilling to sleep with the guy sober, why is it better to do it when your judgment is compromised? why do they need the alcohol as an excuse or a cover up?
I mean the act of sex is outstanding but it is overly glorified.
When you are a virgin people talk about how special it will be and how you need to be ready for it etc. And then you do it. And no fireworks go off and you realize that you are still the same person as you were before.
It doesn't matter if you call it "love making" or "fucking" it is stil just sex.
It's an animalistic urge that both genders need to satisfy.
I mean the act of sex is outstanding but it is overly glorified.
When you are a virgin people talk about how special it will be and how you need to be ready for it etc. And then you do it. And no fireworks go off and you realize that you are still the same person as you were before.
It doesn't matter if you call it "love making" or "fucking" it is stil just sex.
It's an animalistic urge that both genders need to satisfy.
Exactly! For years, for most of my life, I've denied this truth. I would go 3 or 4 years between partners, looking for love, so to speak. I'm through with that.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
they fit into the idiot category... we all know that never works
Sure it does.
Beneath every male-female friendship is a sexual attraction; biologically speaking. Remove the psycho-cultural backdrop to our lives and there's no reason not to engage in sex with friends. Besides the STD/Pregnancy thing, but at least the person is trustworthy.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
Beneath every male-female friendship is a sexual attraction; biologically speaking. Remove the psycho-cultural backdrop to our lives and there's no reason not to engage in sex with friends. Besides the STD/Pregnancy thing, but at least the person is trustworthy.
yeah, but eventually someone always wants more or gets jealous and then feelings get hurt.
Exactly! For years, for most of my life, I've denied this truth. I would go 3 or 4 years between partners, looking for love, so to speak. I'm through with that.
Lyer... I'm sure any of these days you'll find your self thinking in hearts and pink rabbits
Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
Lyer... I'm sure any of these days you'll find your self thinking in hearts and pink rabbits
Pink rabbits? I'm a guy
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
My mistake dude! make them black-long-hair-muscles-very-masculin pink rabbits then
You lost me. Are you talking about the Pink Rabbit™? The female pleasure product?
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
It's quite expensive. I was recently asked by a female friend to purchase one for her, as she broke her previous one. Apparently they are bit pricey and I refused.
I say, just get one of those little vibrating bullets. That does the trick for a fraction of the price. Fantasia™ has some nice quality ones.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
You are well informed about rabbits, but no, i was not talking about the dildo rabbit, it was an innocent metaphore to when you are in love and you walk around with the most stupid smile on your face
Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
You are well informed about rabbits, but no, i was not talking about the dildo rabbit, it was an innocent metaphore to when you are in love and you walk around with the most stupid smile on your face
"bajiggity" ref: The Sweetest Thing
This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper
Is that it mentions that one of the causes for women to seek one night stands is that they can't combine a career with a relationship. But the subject in question is a 27 yr. old nanny from Atlanta, not some ad executive/corporate type.
No offense to the nanny from SD posting on this thread
Is that it mentions that one of the causes for women to seek one night stands is that they can't combine a career with a relationship. But the subject in question is a 27 yr. old nanny from Atlanta, not some ad executive/corporate type.
No offense to the nanny from SD posting on this thread
No offense taken. I'm just completely sexless right now, so the whole article is irrelevant to me.
This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper
No offense taken. I'm just completely sexless right now, so the whole article is irrelevant to me.
Heh, too bad your in San Diego, nice place, but too far for me to help.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
not if you get an std cos you were too drunk to put the condom on right...
Yeah, but that can still happen if you waited months to sleep with the person. Also, having sex with anyone at anytime with no regards to the negative aspects that may come along with it isn't advisable.
If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde
i have always been opposed to it. It is supposed to mean something, something special, its not supposed to be some casual thing, and it shouldnt be either.
I am a straight edger, and am very much against casual sex, or sex before marriage
all I can say is I think casual sex is dangerous, and I must admit I hold high esteem for those who choose NOT to participate in it.. I think in all respects that those people are wise and very respectable. ( not that those who DO engage in casual sex aren't these things, just that I don't know how one could respect themselves after just dishing themselves out like a fast food platter). Anyhow I feel it is a horrid lack of self esteem that drives one to just lie down for or with another when they know nothing about the person they lie with.. it's almost as if that is their validation, ( oh this person will sleep with me I must not be that bad sorta thing..) and that TO ME ( and I streessss that this is only MY opinion) is sad.
I have no problem with it. If that's what you want to do and everyone is of legal age and it's consensual...f away. It's a freedom we have in this country.
I personally, need it to mean something.
This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper
I have no problem with it. If that's what you want to do and everyone is of legal age and it's consensual...f away. It's a freedom we have in this country.
I didn't read all the pages so I don't know if anyone made that point, but here it is.
I won't feel confortable with a girl who had many (many) one-night stands and casual sex experience. For many reasons, the number one being the std paranoia. So if I expect the other to have had some restraint only for my benefit the very least is to offer the same on my side.
It may be salutary sometimes but shouldn't be overindulged in (not sure that's english).
Contrary to this thread...I'm not looking for "casual sex".
Your loss
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
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i was not being very serious at all. i suppose that makes sense, but this gets into kind of a circular rut. they're out drinking, but why are they going out? usually to pick someone up. so it's kind of a confused issue of causation that doesn't really matter. what matters is the drive to go out, grab a stranger, and use them like a condom. i think that's unwise. i dont think men or women have to have low esteem to do it. but i do have to say that i have never know or spoken to a woman who went home to have sex with a guy she met only hours before... unless she was drunk. the other side is i know girls (as they go out in packs) who will go out with the intention of hooking up. if they are sober that night, they maybe make out but then nothing more than exchange numbers and would not go home with a guy... EVER. if they have been drinking they will. maybe it does lower their inhibitions, but is that good? if they are unwilling to sleep with the guy sober, why is it better to do it when your judgment is compromised? why do they need the alcohol as an excuse or a cover up?
I mean the act of sex is outstanding but it is overly glorified.
When you are a virgin people talk about how special it will be and how you need to be ready for it etc. And then you do it. And no fireworks go off and you realize that you are still the same person as you were before.
It doesn't matter if you call it "love making" or "fucking" it is stil just sex.
It's an animalistic urge that both genders need to satisfy.
they fit into the idiot category... we all know that never works
Exactly! For years, for most of my life, I've denied this truth. I would go 3 or 4 years between partners, looking for love, so to speak. I'm through with that.
Sure it does.
Beneath every male-female friendship is a sexual attraction; biologically speaking. Remove the psycho-cultural backdrop to our lives and there's no reason not to engage in sex with friends. Besides the STD/Pregnancy thing, but at least the person is trustworthy.
yeah, but eventually someone always wants more or gets jealous and then feelings get hurt.
Lyer... I'm sure any of these days you'll find your self thinking in hearts and pink rabbits
Been there a few times, after a while, plastic love gets hell of boring!
Pink rabbits? I'm a guy
My mistake dude! make them black-long-hair-muscles-very-masculin pink rabbits then
You lost me. Are you talking about the Pink Rabbit™? The female pleasure product?
That thing is a waste of money, IMO.
It's quite expensive. I was recently asked by a female friend to purchase one for her, as she broke her previous one. Apparently they are bit pricey and I refused.
I say, just get one of those little vibrating bullets. That does the trick for a fraction of the price. Fantasia™ has some nice quality ones.
You are well informed about rabbits, but no, i was not talking about the dildo rabbit, it was an innocent metaphore to when you are in love and you walk around with the most stupid smile on your face
"bajiggity" ref: The Sweetest Thing
No offense to the nanny from SD posting on this thread
No offense taken. I'm just completely sexless right now, so the whole article is irrelevant to me.
Heh, too bad your in San Diego, nice place, but too far for me to help.
I'm glad you weren't offended. Don't think too much about it, when you least expect it you'll find the ONE. Just follow the "white rabbit".
Yeah, but that can still happen if you waited months to sleep with the person. Also, having sex with anyone at anytime with no regards to the negative aspects that may come along with it isn't advisable.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde
Contrary to this thread...I'm not looking for "casual sex".
I am a straight edger, and am very much against casual sex, or sex before marriage
I personally, need it to mean something.
Amen sister!!!
I won't feel confortable with a girl who had many (many) one-night stands and casual sex experience. For many reasons, the number one being the std paranoia. So if I expect the other to have had some restraint only for my benefit the very least is to offer the same on my side.
It may be salutary sometimes but shouldn't be overindulged in (not sure that's english).
Your loss