the article discussed the rising popularity of one-night stands. perhaps my subject line was misleading, but if the premise of the article is true (and i think there is ample reason to believe it is) then young singles are more and more engaging in one night stands to avoid the responsibilities of even a casual sexual relationship. essentially, the article is about your partner being as disposable as the condom. you go out to get laid, find someone, fuck them, kick them out, and never talk to them again. it's increasing in popularity. the article contends this is not a good sign. i happen to agree.
I agree with this. I just cringe when I see so many blanket generalizations and mischaraterizations thrown around. It's portraying people who engage in casual sex as drunken, miserable people. I know a lot of married, monogomous people who are drunken and miserable too. Doesn't mean all are. Doesn't mean the behaviors are even related.
Anyway, casual sex is great, when done correctly and for the right reasons. Get off its back........
Had I read your original post, I'd have read that you don't think WOMEN should be getting drunk to have sex. You then said that people in general should not be so cavalier.
And the article is more about sex leading to alcohol than vice versa. She basically is saying that men have these healthy urges and women are having to manufacture theirs. Then they have a one-nighter that they regret and become alcoholics. I find that almost amusing.
As for the article, I think the key thing the author says in the interview is "I have no data to back this up..."
the post you referred to was directed at ffg and meant to be an example or hypo for him. the article focuses on women yes. but my insertion before the article was that this is sound advice for men as well. the article is more about people forcing themselves to live this lifestyle they don't actually enjoy than alcoholism. yes, she has no data to verify the alcohol-depression-sex link. that would require a very specific scientific study. but the increase of this culture is visible everywhere and it being intertwined with alcohol is also pretty easy to see.
do you know any girl who has gone out and had a one night stand without alcohol being involved? i know many guys who have, and i think it's a bad move on their part too. the only difference is women bring the drink into the mix to act the same way. it's irrelevant really. the point of all this is, are one night stands a good idea?
I agree with this. I just cringe when I see so many blanket generalizations and mischaraterizations thrown around. It's portraying people who engage in casual sex as drunken, miserable people. I know a lot of married, monogomous people who are drunken and miserable too. Doesn't mean all are. Doesn't mean the behaviors are even related.
Anyway, casual sex is great, when done correctly and for the right reasons. Get off its back........
well yeah, i think the only reason i mentioned alcohol was to illustrate just how undesirable this sexual lifestyle is. even the people engaging in it (the women at least) feel compelled to get intoxicated to go through with it. i wasnt trying to make it about how people who have casual sex are depressed drunks. just that serial one night stands are probably not the best lifestyle.
IMO the only way to truly love someone, is to spend enough time with them to allow it to bloom.
On the other hand, where are these one-night stand girls?
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
well yeah, i think the only reason i mentioned alcohol was to illustrate just how undesirable this sexual lifestyle is. even the people engaging in it (the women at least) feel compelled to get intoxicated to go through with it. i wasnt trying to make it about how people who have casual sex are depressed drunks. just that serial one night stands are probably not the best lifestyle.
I was talking this girl into having sex and she said "I can't, I'd need to be drunk." less than a week later "You should come over, I'm drunk."
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
well yeah, i think the only reason i mentioned alcohol was to illustrate just how undesirable this sexual lifestyle is. even the people engaging in it (the women at least) feel compelled to get intoxicated to go through with it. i wasnt trying to make it about how people who have casual sex are depressed drunks. just that serial one night stands are probably not the best lifestyle.
Well, these women are at risk of contracting HPV, which can lead to cervical cancer. Women can be vaccinated prior to infection, but men can't. Approx. 70% of the population comes in contact with the virus. It's solely up to women to be vaccinated for HPV. I know several women who are aware of the vaccine, but haven't got it and continue to have casual sex.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
precisely. it's why im having so much trouble finding a mistress... women just have too much self respect when they're not drunk. it's frustrating
I think the alcohol is to overcome their inhibitions. I think they always have the thuoght "I'd like to fuck that guy". IMO, women are very much like men in the sex department, but culturally they've been forced to block and hide these thoughts. They only come out in girl-girl chats. Whereas men are more open about it. In order for sex and procreation to work, women need to like sex too..
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
well yeah, i think the only reason i mentioned alcohol was to illustrate just how undesirable this sexual lifestyle is. even the people engaging in it (the women at least) feel compelled to get intoxicated to go through with it. i wasnt trying to make it about how people who have casual sex are depressed drunks. just that serial one night stands are probably not the best lifestyle.
I guess is a reflexion of the emptyness of the society in our days. When you look around you normal talks are what did you bought, that you feel fat, or that you look so thin but I'm really not making any diet, last movies in cinemas or the orange and black string sitting 3 tables away... That is pretty depressing... So love? out of fashion, too deep for our instant-times, and get to know someone? and be dependant? What if she makes a scence everytime I want to meet the boys? If he spreads toothpaste on the toilet mirror... People keep looking for love trough sex, to fill the emptyness with something that does not last, but you convince your self that you are feeling something. Is just sad... resigning to the mechanics cause we gave up looking for the soul or we are too lazy to do it.
Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
Just as an FYI...this is not a very effective pickup line.
How about "Hurry up and drink that so I can go down on you."?
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
I guess is a reflexion of the emptyness of the society in our days. When you look around you normal talks are what did you bought, that you feel fat, or that you look so thin but I'm really not making any diet, last movies in cinemas or the orange and black string sitting 3 tables away... That is pretty depressing... So love? out of fashion, too deep for our instant-times, and get to know someone? and be dependant? What if she makes a scence everytime I want to meet the boys? If he spreads toothpaste on the toilet mirror... People keep looking for love trough sex, to fill the emptyness with something that does not last, but you convince your self that you are feeling something. Is just sad... resigning to the mechanics cause we gave up looking for the soul or we are too lazy to do it.
I think people are realizing that lust and love are two different things. Once they get the sex out of the way and come down from that high, they don't feel the same for that person. The anticipation of sex with someone may be a founding factor in love, I'm not sure exactly.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
I think people are realizing that lust and love are two different things. Once they get the sex out of the way and come down from that high, they don't feel the same for that person. The anticipation of sex with someone may be a founding factor in love, I'm not sure exactly.
I dont know if they are two different things, but they are splitable. We should just be honest enough with our selfs to see and accept in which side are we standing. Cheap stuff like "I have never met someone like you before" "I usually dont do this, but you are so special"... please people! be creative!
Fighting fire with fire since world's birth, bumping into the same stone over and over again... and we call this evolution?
For a variety of reasons. Among them that it cheapens the experience, it's selfish, demonstrates that someone lacks self-restraint, I think it should be saved for marriage, etc., etc.
Agreed. Both men and women are nothing but sluts, in respect to "free love". Sleeping with multiple partners just for the sake of sex isn't a great deal.
I just don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.
I think the alcohol is to overcome their inhibitions. I think they always have the thuoght "I'd like to fuck that guy". IMO, women are very much like men in the sex department, but culturally they've been forced to block and hide these thoughts. They only come out in girl-girl chats. Whereas men are more open about it. In order for sex and procreation to work, women need to like sex too..
I have a crazy sex drive. I just choose to be selective. As I mentioned before, when I am in a committed relationship, I make up for the lackthereof.
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FYI guys, I conducted a mini-survey with all the women I could.
Women like the idea of a guy going down on them, it lacks commitment on their part and your gonna get laid in the end anyway. Some aren't worried about the commitment, but the fact that a guy will go down on them is nice.
I think the casual sex scene is hit and miss for women. A guy is gonna get his rocks off no matter what. But women will encounter men who "wham bam, thank you ma'am" and the women are left looking for more. So, if a guy goes down, or implies that he would, better chances. Besides eating girls out is fun.
Additionally, I've been suggesting to women "I prefer to get sex out of the way and then assess how I feel about a person" I haven't posed this scenario to many women, but one said "I would be in favor of that." I have the suspicion that many would these days.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
I don't think I'd date someone that wouldn't. I mean, girls like getting it as much as guys do.
I offer a 2 for 1 special.
I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
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I am to an extent. But, in a relationship I definitely make up for it.
I agree with this. I just cringe when I see so many blanket generalizations and mischaraterizations thrown around. It's portraying people who engage in casual sex as drunken, miserable people. I know a lot of married, monogomous people who are drunken and miserable too. Doesn't mean all are. Doesn't mean the behaviors are even related.
Anyway, casual sex is great, when done correctly and for the right reasons. Get off its back........
or behind it
the post you referred to was directed at ffg and meant to be an example or hypo for him. the article focuses on women yes. but my insertion before the article was that this is sound advice for men as well. the article is more about people forcing themselves to live this lifestyle they don't actually enjoy than alcoholism. yes, she has no data to verify the alcohol-depression-sex link. that would require a very specific scientific study. but the increase of this culture is visible everywhere and it being intertwined with alcohol is also pretty easy to see.
do you know any girl who has gone out and had a one night stand without alcohol being involved? i know many guys who have, and i think it's a bad move on their part too. the only difference is women bring the drink into the mix to act the same way. it's irrelevant really. the point of all this is, are one night stands a good idea?
well yeah, i think the only reason i mentioned alcohol was to illustrate just how undesirable this sexual lifestyle is. even the people engaging in it (the women at least) feel compelled to get intoxicated to go through with it. i wasnt trying to make it about how people who have casual sex are depressed drunks. just that serial one night stands are probably not the best lifestyle.
On the other hand, where are these one-night stand girls?
Hehe...nice
What if the opportunity arose with a certain bass player?
I was talking this girl into having sex and she said "I can't, I'd need to be drunk." less than a week later "You should come over, I'm drunk."
Definitely not.
precisely. it's why im having so much trouble finding a mistress... women just have too much self respect when they're not drunk. it's frustrating
ah haaaaayl yeeee-uh!
I think the alcohol is to overcome their inhibitions. I think they always have the thuoght "I'd like to fuck that guy". IMO, women are very much like men in the sex department, but culturally they've been forced to block and hide these thoughts. They only come out in girl-girl chats. Whereas men are more open about it. In order for sex and procreation to work, women need to like sex too..
Just as an FYI...this is not a very effective pickup line.
I guess is a reflexion of the emptyness of the society in our days. When you look around you normal talks are what did you bought, that you feel fat, or that you look so thin but I'm really not making any diet, last movies in cinemas or the orange and black string sitting 3 tables away... That is pretty depressing... So love? out of fashion, too deep for our instant-times, and get to know someone? and be dependant? What if she makes a scence everytime I want to meet the boys? If he spreads toothpaste on the toilet mirror... People keep looking for love trough sex, to fill the emptyness with something that does not last, but you convince your self that you are feeling something. Is just sad... resigning to the mechanics cause we gave up looking for the soul or we are too lazy to do it.
How about "Hurry up and drink that so I can go down on you."?
I think people are realizing that lust and love are two different things. Once they get the sex out of the way and come down from that high, they don't feel the same for that person. The anticipation of sex with someone may be a founding factor in love, I'm not sure exactly.
Better, but still a little rough around the edges.
Ok, yeah, in that case...
That would work for me.
I dont know if they are two different things, but they are splitable. We should just be honest enough with our selfs to see and accept in which side are we standing. Cheap stuff like "I have never met someone like you before" "I usually dont do this, but you are so special"... please people! be creative!
Agreed. Both men and women are nothing but sluts, in respect to "free love". Sleeping with multiple partners just for the sake of sex isn't a great deal.
I have a crazy sex drive. I just choose to be selective. As I mentioned before, when I am in a committed relationship, I make up for the lackthereof.
FYI guys, I conducted a mini-survey with all the women I could.
Women like the idea of a guy going down on them, it lacks commitment on their part and your gonna get laid in the end anyway. Some aren't worried about the commitment, but the fact that a guy will go down on them is nice.
I think the casual sex scene is hit and miss for women. A guy is gonna get his rocks off no matter what. But women will encounter men who "wham bam, thank you ma'am" and the women are left looking for more. So, if a guy goes down, or implies that he would, better chances. Besides eating girls out is fun.
Additionally, I've been suggesting to women "I prefer to get sex out of the way and then assess how I feel about a person" I haven't posed this scenario to many women, but one said "I would be in favor of that." I have the suspicion that many would these days.
I offer a 2 for 1 special.
What does that mean, exactly?
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