Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

OffSheGoes35

No

njnancy said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Nothing as unsexy as people talking about meat.

Me and Agnes never talk about meat. 

You've obviously never been to Jersey.

And when did you and Agnes last speak? Inquiring minds want to know.

I think they're on hiatus, because she cuts into his KISS time.

OffSheGoes35

No

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

For the single people...Do any of you plan on staying single by choice?  My Dad had 2 cousins who choose to be single.  One did eventually marry, in his 70's, he died about 2 years later...  

I crave love. But then I feel like I don't want a relationship. I'd like companionship but not the arguments, having to fit in with her family and social group who I may not like etc.

Have you tried sped dating?  Many places arrange speed dating for free, check out the community news.  No idea how you avoid conflict/argument, it's part of life ... it's more important how you handle conflict, unfortunately, most people have never been taught good conflict resolution skills.  Your last sentence is normal fears.  Just be yourself.  You do not want someone who can not except you, as you.  

I've considered it as I refuse to try online dating. Not just the acceptance of me as me but the having to put up with people I don't like.
Plus seeing how my two sisters' marriages have turned to shit has left me feeling less than optimistic about marriages.
As well as what I learned at university, passion fades over time, we habituate to our partner and that is why people break up or cheat.

That why I suggested speed dating.  Do like playing cards/board games ... some community centres host things like this.    Have you tried meetup.com?  Sadly, lots and lots of marriage's turn to shit these days.  And lots and lots of marriages are going to turn to shit.  It is true, with some the passion fades.  Some it's a mid-life crisis that ends the marriage, affairs, spouse wants a different life...whatever it is.  My Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years until she passed, always said people need to learn forgiveness to have successful marriages.

What advice did your dad give?

Meltdown99

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

For the single people...Do any of you plan on staying single by choice?  My Dad had 2 cousins who choose to be single.  One did eventually marry, in his 70's, he died about 2 years later...  

I crave love. But then I feel like I don't want a relationship. I'd like companionship but not the arguments, having to fit in with her family and social group who I may not like etc.

Have you tried sped dating?  Many places arrange speed dating for free, check out the community news.  No idea how you avoid conflict/argument, it's part of life ... it's more important how you handle conflict, unfortunately, most people have never been taught good conflict resolution skills.  Your last sentence is normal fears.  Just be yourself.  You do not want someone who can not except you, as you.  

I've considered it as I refuse to try online dating. Not just the acceptance of me as me but the having to put up with people I don't like.
Plus seeing how my two sisters' marriages have turned to shit has left me feeling less than optimistic about marriages.
As well as what I learned at university, passion fades over time, we habituate to our partner and that is why people break up or cheat.

That why I suggested speed dating.  Do like playing cards/board games ... some community centres host things like this.    Have you tried meetup.com?  Sadly, lots and lots of marriage's turn to shit these days.  And lots and lots of marriages are going to turn to shit.  It is true, with some the passion fades.  Some it's a mid-life crisis that ends the marriage, affairs, spouse wants a different life...whatever it is.  My Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years until she passed, always said people need to learn forgiveness to have successful marriages.

What advice did your dad give?

My Dad lead by example.  They both were forgiving people.  I do think there is a lot of truth to forgiving.  It takes a lot of negative energy to argue/has a dispute and let it fester...

Spiritual_Chaos

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

OffSheGoes35

No

Meltdown99 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

For the single people...Do any of you plan on staying single by choice?  My Dad had 2 cousins who choose to be single.  One did eventually marry, in his 70's, he died about 2 years later...  

I crave love. But then I feel like I don't want a relationship. I'd like companionship but not the arguments, having to fit in with her family and social group who I may not like etc.

Have you tried sped dating?  Many places arrange speed dating for free, check out the community news.  No idea how you avoid conflict/argument, it's part of life ... it's more important how you handle conflict, unfortunately, most people have never been taught good conflict resolution skills.  Your last sentence is normal fears.  Just be yourself.  You do not want someone who can not except you, as you.  

I've considered it as I refuse to try online dating. Not just the acceptance of me as me but the having to put up with people I don't like.
Plus seeing how my two sisters' marriages have turned to shit has left me feeling less than optimistic about marriages.
As well as what I learned at university, passion fades over time, we habituate to our partner and that is why people break up or cheat.

That why I suggested speed dating.  Do like playing cards/board games ... some community centres host things like this.    Have you tried meetup.com?  Sadly, lots and lots of marriage's turn to shit these days.  And lots and lots of marriages are going to turn to shit.  It is true, with some the passion fades.  Some it's a mid-life crisis that ends the marriage, affairs, spouse wants a different life...whatever it is.  My Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years until she passed, always said people need to learn forgiveness to have successful marriages.

What advice did your dad give?

My Dad lead by example.  They both were forgiving people.  I do think there is a lot of truth to forgiving.  It takes a lot of negative energy to argue/has a dispute and let it fester...

I agree with that.

Spiritual_Chaos

1. Being able to forgive
2. Having a similiar interest in music/movies
3. Similiar vibes concerning sex
4. Not eating meat or vote for the unsympathetic and unempathetic right
5. A pure and magnetic sense of humour

All you need for a succesful relationship

HughFreakingDillon

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

I would caution against dating/asking someone out from HR. 

Meltdown99

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

You should.  If it works out well, people here have given you options for preparing her a good breakfast...

Spiritual_Chaos

HughFreakingDillon said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

I would caution against dating/asking someone out from HR. 

Haha. Yeah. True that.

PJ_Soul

Yes

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

For the single people...Do any of you plan on staying single by choice?  My Dad had 2 cousins who choose to be single.  One did eventually marry, in his 70's, he died about 2 years later...  

I crave love. But then I feel like I don't want a relationship. I'd like companionship but not the arguments, having to fit in with her family and social group who I may not like etc.

Have you tried sped dating?  Many places arrange speed dating for free, check out the community news.  No idea how you avoid conflict/argument, it's part of life ... it's more important how you handle conflict, unfortunately, most people have never been taught good conflict resolution skills.  Your last sentence is normal fears.  Just be yourself.  You do not want someone who can not except you, as you.  

I've considered it as I refuse to try online dating. Not just the acceptance of me as me but the having to put up with people I don't like.
Plus seeing how my two sisters' marriages have turned to shit has left me feeling less than optimistic about marriages.
As well as what I learned at university, passion fades over time, we habituate to our partner and that is why people break up or cheat.

If you refuse to participate in life with people, which will necessarily involve some conflict/disagreement, and meeting other people who turn up in said life, then there is no way you can have a relationship, or have any children. Sorry. Sounds like you either need to get over that, or resign yourself to being alone, or find someone with literally no family, no friends, who doesn't want children, and never has anything to say or thoughts of her own for you two to disagree over.  These are the only options you've left available to yourself at this time. I really do hope you can change them somehow.

njnancy

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

njnancy said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Nothing as unsexy as people talking about meat.

Me and Agnes never talk about meat. 

You've obviously never been to Jersey.

And when did you and Agnes last speak? Inquiring minds want to know.

I think they're on hiatus, because she cuts into his KISS time.

Well I hope their hiatus doesn't last...

https://youtu.be/UGiruo6K238

OffSheGoes35

No

Nancy's kicking out the jams! Love it! 

HesCalledDyer

HughFreakingDillon said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

I would caution against dating/asking someone out from HR. 

I would second that caution.

Rule #1: Never take someone to bed from where you make your bread.

HesCalledDyer

And it only took me about 10 times to learn that...

F Me In The Brain

No

HesCalledDyer said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

I would caution against dating/asking someone out from HR. 

I would second that caution.

Rule #1: Never take someone to bed from where you make your bread.

I prefer "Don't shit where you eat"

Advice from my old man when I was a youngster

OffSheGoes35

No

F Me In The Brain said:

HesCalledDyer said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Went to the pharmacy and ran into a new employee from the HR department. She stopped me and we talked a while about my surgery and about how I was feeling. 

One - kind of weird talking to people from work outside of the office. Sort of. A bit.

Two - Maybe I should ask her out. BEING ON THE ROLL THAT I AM!

I would caution against dating/asking someone out from HR. 

I would second that caution.

Rule #1: Never take someone to bed from where you make your bread.

I prefer "Don't shit where you eat"

Advice from my old man when I was a youngster

+1 
Line from Moonstruck
  

Spiritual_Chaos

njnancy said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Nothing as unsexy as people talking about meat.

Me and Agnes never talk about meat. 

You've obviously never been to Jersey.

And when did you and Agnes last speak? Inquiring minds want to know.

IRL, we haven't met yet. 

Talked on messanger about some ad-awards-show she was at. Last week. She said she had nothing to wear. I said I believed that was BS. She later said she found something to wear.

HughFreakingDillon

Spiritual_Chaos said:

njnancy said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Nothing as unsexy as people talking about meat.

Me and Agnes never talk about meat. 

You've obviously never been to Jersey.

And when did you and Agnes last speak? Inquiring minds want to know.

IRL, we haven't met yet. 

Talked on messanger about some ad-awards-show she was at. Last week. She said she had nothing to wear. I said I believed that was BS. She later said she found something to wear.

how does one have monthly/bi monthly beers having never met in real life?

Meltdown99

Yes

HesCalledDyer said:

And it only took me about 10 times to learn that...

LOL

Spiritual_Chaos

HughFreakingDillon said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

njnancy said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Nothing as unsexy as people talking about meat.

Me and Agnes never talk about meat. 

You've obviously never been to Jersey.

And when did you and Agnes last speak? Inquiring minds want to know.

IRL, we haven't met yet. 

Talked on messanger about some ad-awards-show she was at. Last week. She said she had nothing to wear. I said I believed that was BS. She later said she found something to wear.

how does one have monthly/bi monthly beers having never met in real life?

Haven't met since I asked her out.