Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

OffSheGoes35

No

At least I hope not. That makes me tired just thinking about it.

PJ_Soul

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

I'm counting on not caring about sexual chemistry when I'm 80.

Okay great! Although some people are still randy at 80, so don't count it out. So what's the pact for? Just be good friends (and roommates) if you want. No pact necessary.

OffSheGoes35

No

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

I'm counting on not caring about sexual chemistry when I'm 80.

Okay great! Although some people are still randy at 80, so don't count it out. So what's the pact for? Just be good friends (and roommates) if you want. No pact necessary.

Yeah, maybe I'll just try for a Golden Girls living situation.

OffSheGoes35

No

Meltdown99 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't think there is a formula or anything... You just do it however you want, and wait until someone who goes for whatever that is comes along. The only "trick" to dating is handling rejection well and perseverance.

Here is how I'm approaching things for now.  I am not actively looking, but if I meet someone that would be great too.  In a nutshell, if someone ends up in my life accidentally I'll pursue.  Does that make sense?

There's no way I would meet someone accidentally, I don't go out enough for that to even happen. lol

PJ_Soul

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

I'm counting on not caring about sexual chemistry when I'm 80.

Okay great! Although some people are still randy at 80, so don't count it out. So what's the pact for? Just be good friends (and roommates) if you want. No pact necessary.

Yeah, maybe I'll just try for a Golden Girls living situation.

I'm thinking that would actually be a way more emotionally and intellectually fulfilling situation in at least 95% of cases, lol.

OffSheGoes35

No

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

I'm counting on not caring about sexual chemistry when I'm 80.

Okay great! Although some people are still randy at 80, so don't count it out. So what's the pact for? Just be good friends (and roommates) if you want. No pact necessary.

Yeah, maybe I'll just try for a Golden Girls living situation.

I'm thinking that would actually be a way more emotionally and intellectually fulfilling situation in at least 95% of cases, lol.

Ha! I think you're probably right. 

F Me In The Brain

No

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't know, man, there are some great models here in this thread to try and work from.

Find someone you fancy

Go on the fan club forum for your favorite rock band

Take a survey to see if people you have never met think you should go for it

Send a text

Wait

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Listen to Kiss - a lot

That is one way.

You could also: Sit next to him/her and hope they do not immediately move a few spots over from you (hint from friends - make sure you bathed recently and do not have bad BO)

jk. 

I know what you mean.  I was a dealer back in the day but I am old now.  Not as thin as I used to be, unless you count the number of hairs on my dome...and I am much thinner than I was!  Also, crankier now...and I care about what people think/converse about.   

Upside is that I would not have to hook up with older women to get nice dinners and fancy drinks at this point. 

(If the women were much older I would be in Wob's bracket!  )

PJ_Soul

Yes

F Me In The Brain said:

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't know, man, there are some great models here in this thread to try and work from.

Find someone you fancy

Go on the fan club forum for your favorite rock band

Take a survey to see if people you have never met think you should go for it

Send a text

Wait

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Listen to Kiss - a lot

That is one way.

You could also: Sit next to him/her and hope they do not immediately move a few spots over from you (hint from friends - make sure you bathed recently and do not have bad BO)

jk. 

I know what you mean.  I was a dealer back in the day but I am old now.  Not as thin as I used to be, unless you count the number of hairs on my dome...and I am much thinner than I was!  Also, crankier now...and I care about what people think/converse about.   

Upside is that I would not have to hook up with older women to get nice dinners and fancy drinks at this point. 

(If the women were much older I would be in Wob's bracket!  )

You were a dealer?

F Me In The Brain

No

PJ_Soul said:

F Me In The Brain said:

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't know, man, there are some great models here in this thread to try and work from.

Find someone you fancy

Go on the fan club forum for your favorite rock band

Take a survey to see if people you have never met think you should go for it

Send a text

Wait

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Listen to Kiss - a lot

That is one way.

You could also: Sit next to him/her and hope they do not immediately move a few spots over from you (hint from friends - make sure you bathed recently and do not have bad BO)

jk. 

I know what you mean.  I was a dealer back in the day but I am old now.  Not as thin as I used to be, unless you count the number of hairs on my dome...and I am much thinner than I was!  Also, crankier now...and I care about what people think/converse about.   

Upside is that I would not have to hook up with older women to get nice dinners and fancy drinks at this point. 

(If the women were much older I would be in Wob's bracket!  )

You were a dealer?

I dealt in the currency of.....well, current.

I never had issues speaking to people and connecting.  (I do this for a living.) 

I have my issues, as we all do, but making friends with members of the opposite sex was not one of them....in the late 80s/early and mid 90s.  I have been with the same woman since the late 90s, so being an 40+ year old man and completely out of the game for so long...this whole 'swipe right' thing would freak me out. 

Easy to make jokes but I can recognize that it would be very different.

F Me In The Brain

No

At least if things went south, I know a few people who would be dtf.

https://community.pearljam.com/discussion/263997/id-f-brett

mcgruff10

Yes

F Me In The Brain said:

PJ_Soul said:

F Me In The Brain said:

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't know, man, there are some great models here in this thread to try and work from.

Find someone you fancy

Go on the fan club forum for your favorite rock band

Take a survey to see if people you have never met think you should go for it

Send a text

Wait

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Listen to Kiss - a lot

That is one way.

You could also: Sit next to him/her and hope they do not immediately move a few spots over from you (hint from friends - make sure you bathed recently and do not have bad BO)

jk. 

I know what you mean.  I was a dealer back in the day but I am old now.  Not as thin as I used to be, unless you count the number of hairs on my dome...and I am much thinner than I was!  Also, crankier now...and I care about what people think/converse about.   

Upside is that I would not have to hook up with older women to get nice dinners and fancy drinks at this point. 

(If the women were much older I would be in Wob's bracket!  )

You were a dealer?

I dealt in the currency of.....well, current.

I never had issues speaking to people and connecting.  (I do this for a living.) 

I have my issues, as we all do, but making friends with members of the opposite sex was not one of them....in the late 80s/early and mid 90s.  I have been with the same woman since the late 90s, so being an 40+ year old man and completely out of the game for so long...this whole 'swipe right' thing would freak me out. 

Easy to make jokes but I can recognize that it would be very different.

Did you wear one or two pants legs up?  

F Me In The Brain

No

mcgruff10 said:

F Me In The Brain said:

PJ_Soul said:

F Me In The Brain said:

HesCalledDyer said:

Meltdown99 said:

I know I would suck at dating at this point.  The last time I asked someone out on a date was 30 years ago, and I was not very good at it then...lol, so if I ever become interested in dating again I'd be totally lost.  LOL

I'm with ya, I don't understand how it works anymore at all.

I don't know, man, there are some great models here in this thread to try and work from.

Find someone you fancy

Go on the fan club forum for your favorite rock band

Take a survey to see if people you have never met think you should go for it

Send a text

Wait

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Listen to Kiss - a lot

That is one way.

You could also: Sit next to him/her and hope they do not immediately move a few spots over from you (hint from friends - make sure you bathed recently and do not have bad BO)

jk. 

I know what you mean.  I was a dealer back in the day but I am old now.  Not as thin as I used to be, unless you count the number of hairs on my dome...and I am much thinner than I was!  Also, crankier now...and I care about what people think/converse about.   

Upside is that I would not have to hook up with older women to get nice dinners and fancy drinks at this point. 

(If the women were much older I would be in Wob's bracket!  )

You were a dealer?

I dealt in the currency of.....well, current.

I never had issues speaking to people and connecting.  (I do this for a living.) 

I have my issues, as we all do, but making friends with members of the opposite sex was not one of them....in the late 80s/early and mid 90s.  I have been with the same woman since the late 90s, so being an 40+ year old man and completely out of the game for so long...this whole 'swipe right' thing would freak me out. 

Easy to make jokes but I can recognize that it would be very different.

Did you wear one or two pants legs up?  

No pants

F Me In The Brain

No

https://youtu.be/oFSWsKiWNBc

Spiritual_Chaos

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

PJ_Soul

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

And you didn't ask her out then and there because why? Just not your type? Sounds like she was throwing a door wide open for you and you turned and bolted, haha.  

Spiritual_Chaos

PJ_Soul said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

And you didn't ask her out then and there because why? Just not your type? Sounds like she was throwing a door wide open for you and you turned and bolted, haha.  

Yeah. Didn't feel an interest. But I guess I could have thrown out an "lets go for a coffee and talk KISS!" line.

PJ_Soul

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

And you didn't ask her out then and there because why? Just not your type? Sounds like she was throwing a door wide open for you and you turned and bolted, haha.  

Yeah. Didn't feel an interest. But I guess I could have thrown out an "lets go for a coffee and talk KISS!" line.

Tinder isn't exactly where you're finding date-able people anyhow. I don't think people on Tinder are actually looking for real relationships, are they??? If they are, they are using the wrong app, lol!

mcgruff10

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

Duuuuuuuuudddddddeeeeeddde!!! What the?!

Spiritual_Chaos

PJ_Soul said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

"We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.

And you didn't ask her out then and there because why? Just not your type? Sounds like she was throwing a door wide open for you and you turned and bolted, haha.  

Yeah. Didn't feel an interest. But I guess I could have thrown out an "lets go for a coffee and talk KISS!" line.

Tinder isn't exactly where you're finding date-able people anyhow. I don't think people on Tinder are actually looking for real relationships, are they??? If they are, they are using the wrong app, lol!

In Sweden I'd say a lot of people (women) actually use it for "serious" dates. It's not used as a straight "hook up" app for many here. There's a lot of "Have two children, and is looking for something serious so swipe left if you just want sex"-people. 

Maybe it differ in the US. Or maybe it's the same.

lastexitlondon

Yes

Dude ffs.  Why not try with her for a date at least. You never know if you don't  dip your toe in the water