Okay married folks, what do you think about these rules?
9a. When a man admits fault, do not begin your next sentence with "I just think it's funny how..."
That means you were very very much at fault, and you made someone very very angry. Sometimes admitting fault just ain't enough. The adrenaline is still pumping--- you're past the point of admitting fault, you have to admit defeat. https://youtu.be/iiq5tnzmLBM
Sure, perpetuate the argument, that'll solve everything. It should be enough to admit you're wrong.
I spoke via Facebook messenger to the woman I recently friended on Facebook. So that's two online chats we've had about 2 weeks apart. Not sure if I should just take it easy and keep chatting online before trying to sum up the courage to ask her out or do it sooner. Heck, I don't even know if I want a relationship right now.
I would think think this depends a bit on who she is and how you got to be facebook pals. Etc.
Why not ask her out as a friend first, if you've only talked to her online... maybe she sucks IRL.
And if she eats meat. Dump her.
Do you want him to be a 40 year old virgin? Who gives a shit if she eats raw meat at this point?
HAVE SOME STANDARDS WOMAN!
STANDARDS BE DAMNED, I'm coming straight on for you!!!!! In a meat dress like Lady Gaga!
I spoke via Facebook messenger to the woman I recently friended on Facebook. So that's two online chats we've had about 2 weeks apart. Not sure if I should just take it easy and keep chatting online before trying to sum up the courage to ask her out or do it sooner. Heck, I don't even know if I want a relationship right now.
I would think think this depends a bit on who she is and how you got to be facebook pals. Etc.
Why not ask her out as a friend first, if you've only talked to her online... maybe she sucks IRL.
And if she eats meat. Dump her.
Do you want him to be a 40 year old virgin? Who gives a shit if she eats raw meat at this point?
HAVE SOME STANDARDS WOMAN!
STANDARDS BE DAMNED, I'm coming straight on for you!!!!! In a meat dress like Lady Gaga!
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
Okay married folks, what do you think about these rules?
9a. When a man admits fault, do not begin your next sentence with "I just think it's funny how..."
That means you were very very much at fault, and you made someone very very angry. Sometimes admitting fault just ain't enough. The adrenaline is still pumping--- you're past the point of admitting fault, you have to admit defeat.
Sure, perpetuate the argument, that'll solve everything. It should be enough to admit you're wrong.
Yes, but why are you sorry? And is your answer lengthy and remorseful? Do you have a detailed inventory of your wrongdoings? She needs to know that you caught everything. Don't leave anything out.
It's not meant as reciprocal when it's used by people now, no. That's what I meant. Like, if only people understood it that way. I do actually think the ORIGINAL meaning of it was indeed meant to be like a kind of humourous riddle or whatever that was meant to be cyclical. Or at least that's what I like to think, lol. I.e. husband treats wife well = happy wife = wife treats husband well = happy husband = husband treats wife well = happy wife = wife treats husband well = happy husband... and so on to infinity, lol.
Honestly, I feel like this common cynical view of the phrase is sad. I mean, Happy wife DOES often equal happy life for a husband. That is undeniable. How many men do you know when happy wives who are miserable?? I don't know any. That phrase makes no mention at all of the husband being nagged or anything like that. People just infer it. I think that inference tells a much bigger story than the phrase itself (and is sexist too), and also simply gave the phrase a "bad name" that it probably doesn't deserve, just as an innocent sentence.
pretty sure if you look at the history of it, and the generation it came from, the opposite is true. I think it originated as a sexist term, and is now being considered as reciprocal.
and no, happy wife does not equal happy life for a husband. saying that is assuming that a man's happiness is in large part dependent on the happiness of his wife, which discounts his life/feelings/self almost entirely. men, especially these days, aren't the emotional simpletons you seem to be making them out to be.
"Oh Canada...you're beautiful when you're drunk" -EV 8/14/93
It's not meant as reciprocal when it's used by people now, no. That's what I meant. Like, if only people understood it that way. I do actually think the ORIGINAL meaning of it was indeed meant to be like a kind of humourous riddle or whatever that was meant to be cyclical. Or at least that's what I like to think, lol. I.e. husband treats wife well = happy wife = wife treats husband well = happy husband = husband treats wife well = happy wife = wife treats husband well = happy husband... and so on to infinity, lol.
Honestly, I feel like this common cynical view of the phrase is sad. I mean, Happy wife DOES often equal happy life for a husband. That is undeniable. How many men do you know when happy wives who are miserable?? I don't know any. That phrase makes no mention at all of the husband being nagged or anything like that. People just infer it. I think that inference tells a much bigger story than the phrase itself (and is sexist too), and also simply gave the phrase a "bad name" that it probably doesn't deserve, just as an innocent sentence.
pretty sure if you look at the history of it, and the generation it came from, the opposite is true. I think it originated as a sexist term, and is now being considered as reciprocal.
and no, happy wife does not equal happy life for a husband. saying that is assuming that a man's happiness is in large part dependent on the happiness of his wife, which discounts his life/feelings/self almost entirely. men, especially these days, aren't the emotional simpletons you seem to be making them out to be.
No, that isn't what I meant at all, and I really don't get how you can be taking me the way your are, nor that you would think in any way that I believe men are emotional simpletons - I take that as an insult, and would have thought that you'd know me better than that by now. I'm talking in a bigger picture, and you're just not picking up what I'm putting down at all. I don't think it discounts anything, because I've never known a wife who was happy while her husband is completely miserable for whatever reason either, because she is also concerned about his happiness. And I'm not talking about happiness just relying on the simple happiness of another. I am (I thought obviously, because I saw no other alternative) assuming that happiness of both parties depends on EVERYTHING going on in their shared lives together, including the feelings and situation of the other. Again, reciprocal. FWIW, I'm not the emotional simpleton you apparently take me for, if you actually thought I was saying what you said, lol.
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
On a side note love conquers all. Where I'm at atm. Without the love and understanding of my partner and kids and mum in fact I would be dead. Love is hard and easy.
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On a side note love conquers all. Where I'm at atm. Without the love and understanding of my partner and kids and mum in fact I would be dead. Love is hard and easy.
You must've done something right to have such love and understanding surrounding you now.
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Actually, he dresses more like Carlton from Fresh Prince...
and no, happy wife does not equal happy life for a husband. saying that is assuming that a man's happiness is in large part dependent on the happiness of his wife, which discounts his life/feelings/self almost entirely. men, especially these days, aren't the emotional simpletons you seem to be making them out to be.
-EV 8/14/93
Where I'm at atm. Without the love and understanding of my partner and kids and mum in fact I would be dead.
Love is hard and easy.
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So I will go home from my job now and rest infront of netflix.
-EV 8/14/93
besides, um, *cough*, my wife, of course.
-EV 8/14/93
You love the cheesiest rock band ever and you hate the best SNL sketch of an era?
Get thee hence!
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