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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    brianlux said:
    hedonist said:
    Sometimes we just are who and as we are, and there is no why. Otherwise we’d be wondering what we did to deserve mental pain, physical disease, etc. It can be as simple as the old “play the cards you’re dealt as best you can” but to wonder why you have those cards to begin with?

    This isn’t said in a cold way, but it’s just...life.

    (Of course, I can say this calmly now, vs. when I’m going through something similar myself.)
    I think you're absolutely right, Hedo, and I don't see you words as being cold at all.  Truth and reality and saying it like it is is never a bad thing!   Yes, wondering why is really not very productive.   When I worked in the Human Services doing counselor training at out local community college, one of the things we stressed was avoiding too much focus on a causal past and placing the emphasis on building coping methods. 
    West Coast Dreamgirl said:
    brianlux said:
    Fifthelement said:
    Sending love and light to whomever needs it.  Keep hanging in there. I’m trying to limit my time online as well @Matts3221. The situation south of the border is terrifying to witness from afar, I cannot imagine what it’s like living there.  I really hope that there is a change in administration, but I fear the result either way.

    Thanks for love and light, Fifth.   

    So tonight I ask the powers of the universe that be to grant me a better day tomorrow.  I sometimes wonder what my anxiety and depression could do to me.  I'm pretty tough, I fight it off, but it's hard and I don't comply understand why I have to be this way.  But then again, these strange days don't help and I think everyone is affected by them to some degree.  How can you not be, right?


    Hi Brian @brianluxSorry to hear things are tough. I'm sure there are better days ahead.  A while ago I had a tough time and then after (like now) I'm having better days. It's a relief and makes me feel grateful for staying strong through the bad times. I'm sure it will be same for you too.  My dad has cataracts and when we took him on holiday last year he couldn't remember which hire car we had hired and kept going up to random cars and trying to open the door. It was nuts and I kept imagining the worst like a woman was sitting there or even worse an angry man that thought we were trying to steal his car.  I'm so pleased neither happened. The mad thing was he kept trying to get back in the car straight after we  parked and got out, when we arrived somewhere instead of when we were going back home to the hotel. Xxxx

    I'm glad to hear you are having better days, Dreamgirl.  I hope they continue that way!

    Thanks, I hope for better days as well.  I woke up this morning and felt the heavy blanket of depression and anxiety crushing me again and I didn't want to get out of bed, but then I started thinking about a time in the late 90's when I stayed in bed for about two weeks and how dangerous that time was with the downward spiral I was going through and I said, "No!  I'm not going there again!" and pushed myself up and went and made coffee.  Thank GOD for coffee!

    Glad to hear that you got up Brian.  Sometimes, when there’s stuff bothering us that we have no control over, the bravest thing to do is to just get on with it.  Recognise, acknowledge and move on with this one single day.  (((Hugs)))
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • Purple Fairy Tree
    Purple Fairy Tree Posts: 2,055
    @brianlux well you keep getting up and drinking lots of coffee until it kicks in each day. I do the same but have recently upgraded my morning drinks to instant cappuccino and double mocha chocca, I'd highly recommend both x
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    edited October 2020
    West Coast Dreamgirl said:
    @brianlux well you keep getting up and drinking lots of coffee until it kicks in each day. I do the same but have recently upgraded my morning drinks to instant cappuccino and double mocha chocca, I'd highly recommend both x

    Those sound like good kick-starts, Dreamgirl.  I'm pretty much happy with my French roast, black, although sometimes when I'm in town I'll pick up a hemp milk latte at out very cool little coffee shop called Totem.  Mmmmmm!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Purple Fairy Tree
    Purple Fairy Tree Posts: 2,055
    @brianlux Sounds nice. Today I made hot mocha chocca and as always the dog wanted a walk as soon as my drink was ready. I drunk most of it but when I came back from the walk it was coldbut tasted like choco milk, so a good drink to allow to cool down.
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    For the last week or so, my anxiety has been at it's worst- especially the last couple of days.  It's frustrating because I can logically tell myself there is no reason to be so miserable.  But no matter how much I try to reason with myself, I'm overwhelmed by anxiety.   I can feel what it is doing to my mind and body.  I will live.  I would not take my life.  I will not inflict that kind of pain on people who are close to me.  But I also sometimes think that the only way this will end for good is when I do die.  That does not add to quality of life.  I just grit my teeth and hang by a thread.  Not a great way to live, but I guess it beats the alternative. 
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,883
    Im right with  you brian .



    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    lastexitlondon said:
    Im right with  you brian .

    I know you are, Rob, thank you.  Hang in there buddy.  I'll try to do the same.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,883
    Fuck this  . Its eaten me 


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    lastexitlondon said:
    Fuck this  . Its eaten me 

    Oh man, I know!  That's what it does. 
    Fuck anxiety!  I get so mad at it sometimes!
    I'm finding lately doing some stretches and a few yoga moves helps a bit.  I'll take anything that helps even a little. 
    Try to find something, Rob.  Whatever works, go with it. 
    I'm with you.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Purple Fairy Tree
    Purple Fairy Tree Posts: 2,055
    Sorry to hear you are struggling Rob and Brian. 
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    West Coast Dreamgirl said:
    Sorry to hear you are struggling Rob and Brian. 

    Thanks :hug:  Day at a time.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Purple Fairy Tree
    Purple Fairy Tree Posts: 2,055
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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    @brianlux and @lastexitlondon sending both of you much love.


    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,883
    Thank you so much 5th.
    Brian  i thought of you many times yesterday  i could see you in my mind and i was sending the hope for positive  thoughts your way.


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    Fifthelement said:
    @brianlux and @lastexitlondon sending both of you much love.


    I love it, thanks Fifth! 
    lastexitlondon said:
    Thank you so much 5th.
    Brian  i thought of you many times yesterday  i could see you in my mind and i was sending the hope for positive  thoughts your way.

    Thank you so much Rob, you are in my thoughts as well!  Hang in there my friend, we can do it!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Green Circle
    Green Circle Posts: 5,192
    I have been off the boards for quite some time now. I used to be a regular here. So glad there is a thread to help! My daughter and I both suffer from anxiety and depression. I can maintain a bit better than she can but shes holding strong! Take care, all of you! Blessings!
    "...And I fight back in my mind. Never lets me be right.
    I got memories. I got shit so much it don't show."
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    Green Circle said:
    I have been off the boards for quite some time now. I used to be a regular here. So glad there is a thread to help! My daughter and I both suffer from anxiety and depression. I can maintain a bit better than she can but shes holding strong! Take care, all of you! Blessings!

    Good thoughts for you and you daughter, Green Circle.  You take care as well and blessing for you too!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,883
    Its all closing in on me. One of my best friends  and tour buddy has  covid  a couple of streets up. Fuck all this 


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    lastexitlondon said:
    Its all closing in on me. One of my best friends  and tour buddy has  covid  a couple of streets up. Fuck all this 
    I’m sorry about your friend, Rob. Just know that it’s not a death sentence; so much has been learned over these past several months.

    i wish him (and you) well. 
  • Matts3221
    Matts3221 Posts: 658
    lastexitlondon said:
    Its all closing in on me. One of my best friends  and tour buddy has  covid  a couple of streets up. Fuck all this 


    I wish him the best and am hopeful he will be ok. There have been about 5 people I know thru people so  friend of a friend. All very true stories and all got it , all have recovered. 3 were able to recover at home with no medical care , one did have to go to the hospital twice for oxygen treatments. One was admitted and released after 5 days ( please note both of those that required treatment beyond the home were both above the age of 65 )

    That is not to say we should not be taking ever precaution we can and yes it is very scary when it hits so close to home , I would offer to maybe go to market and drop off stuff on his doorstep to keep yourself safe.

    All the love to your friend and to you Rob.

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