A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

Matts3221

Fifthelement said:

lastexitlondon said:

Im worried that  as we spoke about on previous pages people will distance from me because im negative and repetitive 

hedonist said:

lastexitlondon said:

Im worried that  as we spoke about on previous pages people will distance from me because im negative and repetitive 

Not I! And I’m pretty sure I speak for many

I’m here for you too, Rob.  An ear to listen if you want.  good vibes being sent.  

Yeah we are all here for you Rob.

Fifthelement

lastexitlondon said:

mickeyrat said:

who has contact with T_A outside of here?

have you or can you reach out to see how things are going for him?

I sent him a whatsapp a couple days ago and he said he was doing better  but didnt elaborate . He could have been using the advice he was given about  just saying he is fine i will send him another.

Thanks Rob.

what dreams

Can I repeat again for clarity -- especially since I seem to be the source of this anxiety, for lack of a better word -- nobody said that anybody needs to stop sharing here or that their sharing is a burden on anyone. I see everyone agrees with me in that regard. Nobody in this thread should feel silenced. Let that go. 
What I said that appears to have sparked this concern -- is that in my own life I have ended a few in-the-flesh relationships with people who drained me emotionally because their problems were too big for me to handle. I had my own problems to work through and was not getting the support I needed from that very, very needy friend. It was part of my own treatment for own mental illness and dysfunction to end the friendship. I needed to cut off the source of the anxiety and dysfunction to get well for myself. 
Out of that history I shared, I suggested that when people feel stuck in a cycle, they could try to be more open to new things to resolve their anxiety. That was it. It was a suggestion to break the cycle. It was not a judgment on any individual's strength or weakness or over-sharing or under-sharing. We all know here that some days are way easier than others.  If you need to reach out, reach. Someone will be here, whoever is able at that moment in time.

Fifthelement

I’m not blaming you in any way what dreams.  We’re all here to offer friendship and to support each other by sharing our own personal experiences.  I believe most of us are not therapists.  Any suggestions we make come from personal experience, stuff that may or may not help others.  No one is obliged to take that advice.

Each of us are carrying our own emotional weight.  We come here to support, but not carry the weight for others.

deadendp

lastexitlondon said:

You  know how it gets. Saying the same thing over and over and its hard to say anything.  I hate to think people think im not trying. Ive smoked too much and hate myself im still sober and ive used weed as an escape. Problem  is it makes me confused more but an escape. I tried a month just doing no anything and i couldnt  cope with my symptoms.  Still cant. Im losing reality  now

You are making strides. Repetition is sometimes helpful in working through. 

It reminds me of Myth of Sisyphus. There is a Minus The Bear song (Cold Company) that is not applicable here, but it goes along the MoS line. 

As far as your partner is concerned, she is scared to death. Great energy coming to you both. 

Thoughts_Arrive

Sorry to worry you all. I've been dealing with shit and thought you are all better off without me on here so I've stayed away.
Thanks for caring and reaching out on Whatsapp and via PM.

Plus, I didn't come on this thread to be labelled a narcissist and then ignored on PM when reaching out by a hostile person.
Peace out.

hedonist

I don’t know about the pm thing, but I’m sorry it got to you. 

Try not to let one person dictate your mood and actions. 

There are many shoulders and ears for you here. 

lastexitlondon

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Sorry to worry you all. I've been dealing with shit and thought you are all better off without me on here so I've stayed away.
Thanks for caring and reaching out on Whatsapp and via PM.

Plus, I didn't come on this thread to be labelled a narcissist and then ignored on PM when reaching out by a hostile person.
Peace out.

Say as you feel . If ever someone  or others are upsetting you say it here.
We all know how that  feels to be upset by something when we are at our lowest everything  hurts. Mate dont not come here because of any one else. Just type how you feel . I for one would be fucked without this thread because i do not type anywhere else or really run any thing  by anyone else. I dont have anyone that i can just keep saying this to without upsetting  them. 
Those  that know  you . Know you. You  are in a hole but  you  will rise.

lastexitlondon

I would also add. Move past any post or pm or whatever that makes you  feel hurt.  On to the next that may help.

Thoughts_Arrive

"Safe place"

mickeyrat

it can be. depends on how much we absorb and allow into our heart.

some truths given can, do and should sting or hurt.its intent is growth. they dont call em growing pains for nothing!!!

others utilize truth in a malevolent way. using truth as a bludgeon because they can and do because they are an asshole.

sometimes its hard to discern which is which.

JPPJ84

Thoughts_Arrive said:

"Safe place"

This place is full of compassion and comfort and people trying to help so it’s a hell of a lot safer than the rest of the internet. Stop dwelling on one comment, here or in the real world. Take anything that’s said to you and evaluate whether it’s spot on, way off the mark or there’s a bit of truth in it. And then work with that. Don’t take it as an excuse to wallow for two weeks instead of facing the choices you have to make. It may have been a bit much but on the last pages were a lot of people trying to give constructive advice. You may not have liked everything that’s been said but in the end this is all just talk. You’re the one that has to take action if (IF) you really want to change your life. Don’t take one comment as another excuse not to do anything 

lastexitlondon

I want this to be a safe place also. I originally  wanted nobody to scare me with diagnosis  or symptoms.  And as this moved forward i am pleased  with the care and support  i have received i believe  we here care for eachother 

lastexitlondon

We do tend to gravitate  to a comment or phrase and not see all the other things. That is me sometimes

Fifthelement

lastexitlondon said:

We do tend to gravitate  to a comment or phrase and not see all the other things. That is me sometimes

That’s me a lot of the time too.

lastexitlondon

Ive been thinking and self reflection  is really helpful.

mickeyrat

lastexitlondon said:

Ive been thinking and self reflection  is really helpful.

more so with action following, I have found.

lastexitlondon

Well even a realization  can lead to some enlightenment.  Actions follow if and when . The  looking at ones self can give some  answers

Glorified KC

Somedays I just want to be in isolation.  Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear.  Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day.  I've had a lot of those days recently.

Matts3221

TA , don't let anyone get your down , don't focus on that one negative comment ( this is coming from someone who focus's on the one negative comment by my wife tells me to let it go )

Just the other day HugeDillon posted something along the lines of "those who say just go to the gym don't get it" for just a few seconds I thought he was speaking about myself and then I had to get rid of that negative thought as it was me just thinking.

As far as safe space , obviously we are all here for each other but the forum is open and there is always going to be a flame thrower just trying to rattle anyone just to get that reaction. I never found the appeal of trolling people on the internet.

We are here for you and care for you and even if it is just to say hello pop on , people were worried and honestly that should make you feel good and loved that people from all over the world were wondering about what was going on.