So far I like him enough to have another conversation with him, but not enough to sleep with him just yet (unless there's a lot of alcohol involved & I get to touch his hair). :P
:? Ok this thread has gone from oddly amusing to weird
What first attracted me to him was his great hair. It's so cool I just want to reach out and touch it! :P
Oh please judge the moment for doing that at the right time :? You don't want a security escort from the workplace
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good you enjoy the day..next time maybe will be better......
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The plan is to do nothing. I wanted to meet him and I did. If he wants to get together again, he can let me know. I'm still not 100% sure he's even available.
Ugh. So now I'm starting to wonder if ths is some kind of double standard. I'm thinking the ball's in his court now; but if he had been the one to initially contact me, I'd still be thinking the ball was in his court. Maybe that's not fair. I don't know. :?
Ugh. So now I'm starting to wonder if ths is some kind of double standard. I'm thinking the ball's in his court now; but if he had been the one to initially contact me, I'd still be thinking the ball was in his court. Maybe that's not fair. I don't know. :?
This is a tough call! If you are curious I don't think there is any harm in making one attempt to contact him and then leave it at that. What are you thinking?
Just email him and say "want to catch up for another coffee?"
It appears that you found him very interesting and enjoyed the conversation etc....so why not just try to form a friendship with him? And if it leads somewhere....good....but if not, you could still have an interesting friend who may introduce you to other interesting friends....which may lead to finding other attractive men to have coffee with?
Just email him and say "want to catch up for another coffee?"
It appears that you found him very interesting and enjoyed the conversation etc....so why not just try to form a friendship with him? And if it leads somewhere....good....but if not, you could still have an interesting friend who may introduce you to other interesting friends....which may lead to finding other attractive men to have coffee with?
Ziggy may be onto something here....
Do you still have that yearning to know him? Not "KNOW HIM". know him, don't get excited boys
Maybe you could come up with some tickets to something "Hey, I have an extra ticket for "blah blah", would you like to join me?" Of course, tickets could be scarse for the next "Evolutionary Mating Practices of Baboons & the Hierarchial Nature Pertaining to Sibling Rivalry" event :? (still can't get over that amazing convo ) Anyway, you get my drift. How are you feeling about him?
Ugh. So now I'm starting to wonder if ths is some kind of double standard. I'm thinking the ball's in his court now; but if he had been the one to initially contact me, I'd still be thinking the ball was in his court. Maybe that's not fair. I don't know. :?
Shoot him a message. Separate yourself from the situation and ask "what's the worst that can happen"? Only good can happen if you do this. Either you can see him again, or you know where you stand right?
P.S. Guys are just as confused when it comes to this stuff too...maybe even more. He might be sitting around wondering the same stuff that you are. Take action.
Of course, tickets could be scarse for the next "Evolutionary Mating Practices of Baboons & the Hierarchial Nature Pertaining to Sibling Rivalry" event :? (still can't get over that amazing convo )
One thing I may have forgotten to mention: For what it's worth, I did shoot him an email on Sunday that just said, "Thanks for the lemonade on Thursday. I enjoyed our conversation."
I did enjoy our conversation and I do still think he's interesting. A friendship might be nice. But friendships usually develop more naturally, with people you actually see somewhat regularly.
One thing I may have forgotten to mention: For what it's worth, I did shoot him an email on Sunday that just said, "Thanks for the lemonade on Thursday. I enjoyed our conversation."
I did enjoy our conversation and I do still think he's interesting. A friendship might be nice. But friendships usually develop more naturally, with people you actually see somewhat regularly.
Your email sounds perfect, short but sweet. Seems like now it is up to him to reply??
I agree with your perspective about friendships -- and in particular, I think friendships with the opposite sex develop more naturally with regular contact.
Hmmm....since we've all been picking apart every strategy and email etc....and I'm being totally over-analytical here....
I personally think replying to a THURSDAY coffee with a SUNDAY email is too long to wait....it almost feels weird. It would be hard for him to know how to reply imo. Does he say "thanks to you too" and leave it at that? Seems a bit rude. A "thanks" email would have been suitable on Thursday/Friday since you both wouldn't have had enough time to really process it yet....he'd genuinely be saying "thanks" to your thanks. But now it is 4 days down the track, he's definitely had processing time and if he replies and says "thanks", he probably now feels the need to follow it up with either yay or nay to meeting up again. Especially since he knows you've processed the coffee meet up and probably now want to follow it up with more contact....otherwise you wouldn't have emailed him 4 days later. But then again, he could also be wondering if you even want to go out again because you didn't mention it 4 days later....now he may be stuck in limbo not sure how to respond because he doesn't know where you stand.
A purely "thanks" email would have been more appropriate on Thursday/Friday. The Sunday email should have contained a "shall we meet for coffee and a chat again?"....so the intention of the Sunday email was clear.
As a guy, I would say, we do most of the chasing.. not in every case, but most.
If you think he's he's not persueing, move on.. and don't think of it as anything against you.
Shoot him one more email, but don't take offensive if he doesn't catch.. there may be somebody else, he might even not swing that way, but love is more chemical than it is mental.
Took me 32 years to find somebody I really love and loves me back and 15 months into it, I realize everyday is new territory...
Keep talking to those guys you are attracted to though, even if this one fails.. Believe it or not, I've passed on many girls, attracted to me or not, because I thought they wouldn't talk to me.. Be agressive! If we are attracted , we will like it.
I've come to learn, love isn't really complicated at all.. just takes the right person, and it's really rather simple.. If it's complicated, it's because it's with the wrong person.
Don't ever give up.. I've had many fails, but made it to a point where I'm happier than ever.. If you would have asked me how I was doing 2 Valentines days ago, I would have said I'll probably be single forever.
Hmmm....since we've all been picking apart every strategy and email etc....and I'm being totally over-analytical here....
I personally think replying to a THURSDAY coffee with a SUNDAY email is too long to wait....it almost feels weird. It would be hard for him to know how to reply imo. Does he say "thanks to you too" and leave it at that? Seems a bit rude. A "thanks" email would have been suitable on Thursday/Friday since you both wouldn't have had enough time to really process it yet....he'd genuinely be saying "thanks" to your thanks. But now it is 4 days down the track, he's definitely had processing time and if he replies and says "thanks", he probably now feels the need to follow it up with either yay or nay to meeting up again. Especially since he knows you've processed the coffee meet up and probably now want to follow it up with more contact....otherwise you wouldn't have emailed him 4 days later. But then again, he could also be wondering if you even want to go out again because you didn't mention it 4 days later....now he may be stuck in limbo not sure how to respond because he doesn't know where you stand.
A purely "thanks" email would have been more appropriate on Thursday/Friday. The Sunday email should have contained a "shall we meet for coffee and a chat again?"....so the intention of the Sunday email was clear.
But that's just me.
Yeah, I agree that it would have been more appropriate on Thursday or Friday. There are two reasons I waited: 1. I was really busy. (Not the best reason, I know, since it doesn't take much time to send a short email.) 2. I wasn't going to email him at all because I didn't want to seem too eager, but then my politeness got the better of me.
As a guy, I would say, we do most of the chasing.. not in every case, but most.
If you think he's he's not persueing, move on.. and don't think of it as anything against you.
Yeah, this is how I tend to feel too. I haven't chased a man yet and I don't intend to start now. On the other hand.... I was starting to wonder if that's an unfair double-standard. :?
Shoot him one more email, but don't take offensive if he doesn't catch.. there may be somebody else, he might even not swing that way, but love is more chemical than it is mental.
I know there's someone else because he was on a date when I first saw him. I just don't know what's up with them. I thought it was casual, but it could be more serious. Or, even if it's casual, that doesn't mean he has the time or inclination to go out with more than one person at a time.
Took me 32 years to find somebody I really love and loves me back and 15 months into it, I realize everyday is new territory...
Keep talking to those guys you are attracted to though, even if this one fails.. Believe it or not, I've passed on many girls, attracted to me or not, because I thought they wouldn't talk to me.. Be agressive! If we are attracted , we will like it.
I've come to learn, love isn't really complicated at all.. just takes the right person, and it's really rather simple.. If it's complicated, it's because it's with the wrong person.
Don't ever give up.. I've had many fails, but made it to a point where I'm happier than ever.. If you would have asked me how I was doing 2 Valentines days ago, I would have said I'll probably be single forever.
I agree that love isn't complicated if you find the right person. It's just actually finding that person to begin with that's complicated. I'm sure there are lots of great guys out there, but I meet fewer and fewer of them these days.
I'm not even looking for anyone, really. I'm quite happy being single. I was just excited that I ran across one I thought I could really like, which rarely happens. Oh well.
One thing I may have forgotten to mention: For what it's worth, I did shoot him an email on Sunday that just said, "Thanks for the lemonade on Thursday. I enjoyed our conversation."
I did enjoy our conversation and I do still think he's interesting. A friendship might be nice. But friendships usually develop more naturally, with people you actually see somewhat regularly.
Your email sounds perfect, short but sweet. Seems like now it is up to him to reply??
I agree with your perspective about friendships -- and in particular, I think friendships with the opposite sex develop more naturally with regular contact.
Yep. It's a shame, though, because there are some really amazing people (men & women) in the world whose friendship I think I would enjoy, but it's never going to happen since they aren't somehow part of my life already.
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Oh please judge the moment for doing that at the right time :? You don't want a security escort from the workplace
Hmm... well I don't know... does the security escort have great hair too? :P
time to do some research
This would be called having an two hour pass from the psych unit
Never too soon.
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Nothing.
The plan is to do nothing. I wanted to meet him and I did. If he wants to get together again, he can let me know. I'm still not 100% sure he's even available.
This is a tough call! If you are curious I don't think there is any harm in making one attempt to contact him and then leave it at that. What are you thinking?
It appears that you found him very interesting and enjoyed the conversation etc....so why not just try to form a friendship with him? And if it leads somewhere....good....but if not, you could still have an interesting friend who may introduce you to other interesting friends....which may lead to finding other attractive men to have coffee with?
★ 2009 - Sydney, Brisbane, Auckland, Christchurch ★
★ 2011 - EV Newcastle, Melbourne 1, Melbourne 2 ★
Do you still have that yearning to know him? Not "KNOW HIM". know him, don't get excited boys
Maybe you could come up with some tickets to something "Hey, I have an extra ticket for "blah blah", would you like to join me?" Of course, tickets could be scarse for the next "Evolutionary Mating Practices of Baboons & the Hierarchial Nature Pertaining to Sibling Rivalry" event :? (still can't get over that amazing convo
Shoot him a message. Separate yourself from the situation and ask "what's the worst that can happen"? Only good can happen if you do this. Either you can see him again, or you know where you stand right?
P.S. Guys are just as confused when it comes to this stuff too...maybe even more. He might be sitting around wondering the same stuff that you are. Take action.
Ziggy is always onto something. She's like the 10c Yoda for male-female relationships
I did enjoy our conversation and I do still think he's interesting. A friendship might be nice. But friendships usually develop more naturally, with people you actually see somewhat regularly.
Your email sounds perfect, short but sweet. Seems like now it is up to him to reply??
I agree with your perspective about friendships -- and in particular, I think friendships with the opposite sex develop more naturally with regular contact.
I personally think replying to a THURSDAY coffee with a SUNDAY email is too long to wait....it almost feels weird. It would be hard for him to know how to reply imo. Does he say "thanks to you too" and leave it at that? Seems a bit rude. A "thanks" email would have been suitable on Thursday/Friday since you both wouldn't have had enough time to really process it yet....he'd genuinely be saying "thanks" to your thanks. But now it is 4 days down the track, he's definitely had processing time and if he replies and says "thanks", he probably now feels the need to follow it up with either yay or nay to meeting up again. Especially since he knows you've processed the coffee meet up and probably now want to follow it up with more contact....otherwise you wouldn't have emailed him 4 days later. But then again, he could also be wondering if you even want to go out again because you didn't mention it 4 days later....now he may be stuck in limbo not sure how to respond because he doesn't know where you stand.
A purely "thanks" email would have been more appropriate on Thursday/Friday. The Sunday email should have contained a "shall we meet for coffee and a chat again?"....so the intention of the Sunday email was clear.
But that's just me.
★ 2009 - Sydney, Brisbane, Auckland, Christchurch ★
★ 2011 - EV Newcastle, Melbourne 1, Melbourne 2 ★
If you think he's he's not persueing, move on.. and don't think of it as anything against you.
Shoot him one more email, but don't take offensive if he doesn't catch.. there may be somebody else, he might even not swing that way, but love is more chemical than it is mental.
Took me 32 years to find somebody I really love and loves me back and 15 months into it, I realize everyday is new territory...
Keep talking to those guys you are attracted to though, even if this one fails.. Believe it or not, I've passed on many girls, attracted to me or not, because I thought they wouldn't talk to me.. Be agressive! If we are attracted , we will like it.
I've come to learn, love isn't really complicated at all.. just takes the right person, and it's really rather simple.. If it's complicated, it's because it's with the wrong person.
Don't ever give up.. I've had many fails, but made it to a point where I'm happier than ever.. If you would have asked me how I was doing 2 Valentines days ago, I would have said I'll probably be single forever.
Yeah, I agree that it would have been more appropriate on Thursday or Friday. There are two reasons I waited: 1. I was really busy. (Not the best reason, I know, since it doesn't take much time to send a short email.) 2. I wasn't going to email him at all because I didn't want to seem too eager, but then my politeness got the better of me.
Oh well. We'll see what happens.
Yeah, this is how I tend to feel too. I haven't chased a man yet and I don't intend to start now. On the other hand.... I was starting to wonder if that's an unfair double-standard. :?
I know there's someone else because he was on a date when I first saw him. I just don't know what's up with them. I thought it was casual, but it could be more serious. Or, even if it's casual, that doesn't mean he has the time or inclination to go out with more than one person at a time.
I agree that love isn't complicated if you find the right person. It's just actually finding that person to begin with that's complicated. I'm sure there are lots of great guys out there, but I meet fewer and fewer of them these days.
I'm not even looking for anyone, really. I'm quite happy being single. I was just excited that I ran across one I thought I could really like, which rarely happens. Oh well.
Yep. It's a shame, though, because there are some really amazing people (men & women) in the world whose friendship I think I would enjoy, but it's never going to happen since they aren't somehow part of my life already.
this...
just text him.....say....if you aren't busy tonight, i have some work for ya...and send a picture of your who ha