Question for the men

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pjl44 wrote:

I think I check on this thread five times a day. Watching this play out is fascinating.

It's fascinating for me too!

pjl44 wrote:

I definitely wouldn't bring up anything besides the karaoke evening and maybe what your friends mentioned. We've all been there when it comes to plugging someone into Google, but it could still be slightly off-putting to hear. After all, it's a great opportunity to ask questions. And how exciting is it that you already know you'll like the answers?

EXCELLENT point! I like the way you think.

I'm thinking I'll just have to carefully word my questions so as not to feel dishonest, e.g Tell me about your dissertation instead of What was your dissertation about?

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pjl44 wrote:

Imagine if they wound up getting married? I realize that's like discussing the Hall of Fame chances for a 17-year-old Venezuelan shortstop, but still.

Well if he's a Pearl Jam fan, I'm gonna have to propose! And you're all invited to the wedding. We'd have to thank you in the wedding programs: This marriage was made possible through the support of pjl44, mfc2006, Heisenberg, 81, and 10C members like you.

mfc2006

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pjl44 wrote:

Imagine if they wound up getting married? I realize that's like discussing the Hall of Fame chances for a 17-year-old Venezuelan shortstop, but still.

Well if he's a Pearl Jam fan, I'm gonna have to propose! And you're all invited to the wedding. We'd have to thank you in the wedding programs: This marriage was made possible through the support of pjl44, mfc2006, Heisenberg, 81, and 10C members like you.

:thumbup:
we're here to help! :?

Heisenberg

mfc2006 wrote:

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pjl44 wrote:

Imagine if they wound up getting married? I realize that's like discussing the Hall of Fame chances for a 17-year-old Venezuelan shortstop, but still.

Well if he's a Pearl Jam fan, I'm gonna have to propose! And you're all invited to the wedding. We'd have to thank you in the wedding programs: This marriage was made possible through the support of pjl44, mfc2006, Heisenberg, 81, and 10C members like you.

:thumbup:
we're here to help! :?

and if he messes this up we will hunt him down and cut off his pony tail

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Heisenberg wrote:

mfc2006 wrote:

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Well if he's a Pearl Jam fan, I'm gonna have to propose! And you're all invited to the wedding. We'd have to thank you in the wedding programs: This marriage was made possible through the support of pjl44, mfc2006, Heisenberg, 81, and 10C members like you.

:thumbup:
we're here to help! :?

and if he messes this up we will hunt him down and cut off his pony tail

That made me actually laugh out loud.

polaris_x

don't listen to these whack jobs ... except for the guy who mentioned cleavage ...

seriously ... my advice is this ... wear whatever the heck you want and say whatever the heck you feel like saying ... you are way over-thinking this ... if your goal is just to sleep with him then you need to strategize but if you want a relationship with someone ... just be you ...

dressing in clothes that you normally wouldn't wear or talking about things you don't want to talk about are ultimately not a reflection of who you are ... and that is what you want him to like ... you ... not some manufactured version of you ... also, this is a two-way street ... you need to see if your infatuation has any substance ... get to know him ... keep it simple and light ...

this is a getting to know each other kind of date and to see if there may be a spark or two ... i think the time frame you chose is perfect ... if there is interest - on both sides ... you'll know it ... it won't be hard to get another date ...

81

polaris_x wrote:

dressing in clothes that you normally wouldn't wear or talking about things you don't want to talk about are ultimately not a reflection of who you are ... and that is what you want him to like ... you ... not some manufactured version of you ... also, this is a two-way street ... you need to see if your infatuation has any substance ... get to know him ... keep it simple and light ...

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

RKCNDY

81 wrote:

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

soooo....are you a Chanel No 5 or a Love's Baby Soft kinda guy?

JonnyPistachio

this thread is great. Where were you people when I was failing miserably with the ladies from may 12, 2005 to November 26th, 2009?

polaris_x

81 wrote:

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

it's one thing if you're going out on a dinner date somewhere ... but this is coffee at a cafeteria or something ... if she has to win the guy over by overdressing for the occasion - it doesn't build a strong foundation ...

but i'm also a hippie treehugger that gets his clothes at thrift shops so - i may be out of touch ...

81

RKCNDY wrote:

81 wrote:

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

soooo....are you a Chanel No 5 or a Love's Baby Soft kinda guy?

i have no idea.

81

polaris_x wrote:

81 wrote:

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

it's one thing if you're going out on a dinner date somewhere ... but this is coffee at a cafeteria or something ... if she has to win the guy over by overdressing for the occasion - it doesn't build a strong foundation ...

but i'm also a hippie treehugger that gets his clothes at thrift shops so - i may be out of touch ...

you are out of touch.

i'm not suggesting formal dinner attire, but if normal is jeans and blouse...nothing wrong with taking it up a level...this date is about breaking the ice, and scoring a second date...and giving a guy a little eye candy doesn't hurt.

Black Diamond

81 wrote:

polaris_x wrote:

81 wrote:

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

it's one thing if you're going out on a dinner date somewhere ... but this is coffee at a cafeteria or something ... if she has to win the guy over by overdressing for the occasion - it doesn't build a strong foundation ...

but i'm also a hippie treehugger that gets his clothes at thrift shops so - i may be out of touch ...

you are out of touch.

i'm not suggesting formal dinner attire, but if normal is jeans and blouse...nothing wrong with taking it up a level...this date is about breaking the ice, and scoring a second date...and giving a guy a little eye candy doesn't hurt.

We like eye candy
Only from my wife of course :angel:

Stardog3..

polaris_x wrote:

81 wrote:

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

it's one thing if you're going out on a dinner date somewhere ... but this is coffee at a cafeteria or something ... if she has to win the guy over by overdressing for the occasion - it doesn't build a strong foundation ...

but i'm also a hippie treehugger that gets his clothes at thrift shops so - i may be out of touch ...

It's crazy...but I actually agree with the smoking baby. First impressions are so important- in all aspects of life. I wouldn't wear a prom dress, but it's important to look cute/nice.

rival.

29/m chicago. IM me if you wanna chat.


ahhh, AOL circa '95.

81

rival. wrote:

29/m chicago. IM me if you wanna chat.


ahhh, AOL circa '95.

i'm back...sorry, my modem disconnected.

rival.

81 wrote:

rival. wrote:

29/m chicago. IM me if you wanna chat.


ahhh, AOL circa '95.

i'm back...sorry, my modem disconnected.

remember AOL profiles? what i would pay to see mine again from when i was 13 or 14

i remember quoting will smith a couple times under the "favorite quote"section :shock:

SweetChildofMine

polaris_x wrote:

81 wrote:

there is nothing wrong with dressing up a little more than normal to make a good first impression....you don't put on something you would wear to a formal occassion, but nothing wrong with upping the game a little.

and smell good...mmm..love me some perfume...

it's one thing if you're going out on a dinner date somewhere ... but this is coffee at a cafeteria or something ... if she has to win the guy over by overdressing for the occasion - it doesn't build a strong foundation ...

but i'm also a hippie treehugger that gets his clothes at thrift shops so - i may be out of touch ...

A thift store near me logo is "Help Cinderella get to the Ball!"

iluvcats

(to be said like Fran Drescher's "Nanny" voice)

WOW, so this has been SCB all along?

back to myself:

if they meet for coffee at the cafeteria at work, I hope he does not have the security guards with him.
I thought Mr. Hot Musician with long hair at the karaoke has a woman already?

Stardog3..

rival. wrote:

81 wrote:

rival. wrote:

29/m chicago. IM me if you wanna chat.


ahhh, AOL circa '95.

i'm back...sorry, my modem disconnected.

remember AOL profiles? what i would pay to see mine again from when i was 13 or 14

i remember quoting will smith a couple times under the "favorite quote"section :shock:

My s/n was "werd2uremama". Yes, I made this as a 7th grade girl.