Today, I almost

Lauri

chiquimonkey wrote:

You have really strict standards for what qualifies as "fun". If you aren't laughing like a maniac 24/7 then it's no good? Pleasant moments are good....hell that's all life is anyway. A string of moments really.

You've decided to be miserable. If you can't get your act together to plan shit or get over needing a group of people to provide a carnival of hilarity for you, guess what? It's not gonna get any better.

There are worse problems in the world than being tormented by having free time.

And no, I've NEVER known anybody with this problem. Then again I don't know people who have an excuse for everything?

None of this is true at all!!!! I have been bummed for several months about being bored on weekends, but this was the first weekend it really, really just got to me. I have NOT, but any stretch of the imagination "decided to be miserable." Far, far from it. And you really stretched and exaggerated my words way out of proportion. I didn't say I needed "a carnival of hilarity" I just meant that when I look at times I was having fun I think of laughing a lot. That's all. I tried to be honest in what I wrote. This is really very frustrating because here I lay out and once again, the response is hostile. I can't think of anyway that what I said could be construed in such a negative way as how you interpreted it here! The other person said I should think about what I had fun doing in the past, so that's what I did. There's no "deciding to miserable" or "strict definitions" or "excuses."

chiquimonkey

Lauri wrote:

None of this is true at all!!!! I have been bummed for several months about being bored on weekends, but this was the first weekend it really, really just got to me. I have NOT, but any stretch of the imagination "decided to be miserable." Far, far from it. And you really stretched and exaggerated my words way out of proportion. I didn't say I needed "a carnival of hilarity" I just meant that when I look at times I was having fun I think of laughing a lot. That's all. I tried to be honest in what I wrote. This is really very frustrating because here I lay out and once again, the response is hostile. I can't think of anyway that what I said could be construed in such a negative way as how you interpreted it here! The other person said I should think about what I had fun doing in the past, so that's what I did. There's no "deciding to miserable" or "strict definitions" or "excuses."

You were making excuses left and right in all the previous pages, every time someone tried to suggest something. Hell, even things that related to what *you* found interesting. Like I asked you about photography, and then you went on about how you can't find anything cool to take pics of. It's like well damn woman if we're all trying to give help and you keep throwing it back every time, what is one left with? Excuses.

Not being hostile at all mind you, just laying it out there. If you don't like what you're getting, then give out something a little more cooperative. If you refuse to listen to anybody, then you are in essence deciding to be miserable.

Like I said, I really wish you luck, nobody should just exist in life, you should really live it.

Lauri

pandora wrote:

Lauri, my post was very sincere. I was not belittling you, I sincerely feel by helping others you can find happiness and appreciate your own life more. The things you are doing for others are not fulfilling you, those that you mentioned, being there for family, lending or giving money to friends, helping kids find job placement. If they were working for you, you wouldn't feel this emptiness. You are calling it boredom and want to fill it with fun but really your heart needs to connect with something or someone passionately.
All I want to say is the quickest way to happiness is to do something nice for someone, happiness brings contentment and a sense of peace to your life.
Sit down make a list of the people you love, put an idea or two of down of something you could do for them, then do it on the weekends. Then expand it if need be to a local shelter, children's hospital, church, nursing home. As the weekends pass you will have a feeling of satisfaction and maybe even look forward to what the next will bring, maybe you will meet a new circle of friends or someone special to add to your life.
I truly hope you find what you need because I really do care.

Well thank you for being nice, I really do appreciate it given this atmosphere.
I just really don't think I can volunteer like that, I mean I really just don't. Please be clear I am not "shooting it down" or anything like that. I have thought about these types of things for years. I just don't think I can be around sick people dying kids or abandoned animals (well actually the last one I really can't unless I want hives, but make no mistake I do like animals). I know everyone says it is great but I think it would just upset me too much. When I'm around my elderly grandmother, it just makes me more upset by reminding me that I'm wasting my life while I'm young and healthy. I mean I really really really don't mean to reject the idea, and I'm not completely, I'd never reject that sort of thing completely, but I just know myself and I don't think I could do it. Even my family members have commented in the past that I couldn't pull off something like that. I am very compassionate on the inside but I have trouble communicating it on the outside. Plus it just seems hard to stomach the idea of committing to work 6 or 7 days a week. And I know that sounds very selfish and other people do it all the time, it just scares me. I spent most of my 20s having a commitment to be in work 7 days a week,it just scares me to get myself into that again. And I want to be outside! Like really outside! Not in a hospital...I have to be inside 5 days a week...I'm sure I deserve to be called a bad person for this, but I can't help it, it's how I feel.

Lauri

chiquimonkey wrote:

Like I asked you about photography, and then you went on about how you can't find anything cool to take pics of.

well it's true. I don't have any good ideas. what could I have said here differently?

comebackgirl

norm wrote:

everyone is different...to some people, organizing their closet is fulfilling...if it isn't for you simply say thank for the advice and move on

I like organizing my closet :oops: Sorting things by color and season! Trying on all those shoes and finding matching accessories...I'm starting to get excited!


Is that weird??? :?

norm

comebackgirl wrote:

norm wrote:

everyone is different...to some people, organizing their closet is fulfilling...if it isn't for you simply say thank for the advice and move on

I like organizing my closet :oops: Sorting things by color and season! Trying on all those shoes and finding matching accessories...I'm starting to get excited!


Is that weird??? :?

yes, but endearing :P

and if you love it so much, can you come to my place and organize my crap? organizing drives me to drink :oops: :P

chiquimonkey

Lauri wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

Like I asked you about photography, and then you went on about how you can't find anything cool to take pics of.

well it's true. I don't have any good ideas. what could I have said here differently?

My sister is a photographer and she manages to find awesome pic opportunities no matter where she is, even in places that aren't immediately obvious as being a good place for photos.

I think it's a matter of perspective. Seeing possibilities instead of roadblocks, you know? And that goes beyond photography when you think about it

comebackgirl

norm wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

norm wrote:

everyone is different...to some people, organizing their closet is fulfilling...if it isn't for you simply say thank for the advice and move on

I like organizing my closet :oops: Sorting things by color and season! Trying on all those shoes and finding matching accessories...I'm starting to get excited!


Is that weird??? :?

yes, but endearing :P

and if you love it so much, can you come to my place and organize my crap? organizing drives me to drink :oops: :P

Only if you have shoes and bags that need to be organized

See - so easily amused. No reason to be bored. Tonight I'm going to organize my cutlery! WOOHOO!

Cliffy6745

12 pages and not one good suggestions, damn all you for trying to help.

Wobbie

Cliffy6745 wrote:

12 pages and not one good suggestions, damn all you for trying to help.

she mentioned she's in the northeast...........maybe she could join Red Sox Nation! :shock:

Lauri

chiquimonkey wrote:

Lauri wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

Like I asked you about photography, and then you went on about how you can't find anything cool to take pics of.

well it's true. I don't have any good ideas. what could I have said here differently?

My sister is a photographer and she manages to find awesome pic opportunities no matter where she is, even in places that aren't immediately obvious as being a good place for photos.

I think it's a matter of perspective. Seeing possibilities instead of roadblocks, you know? And that goes beyond photography when you think about it

well then your sister is good at it, I am not. I just don't like to bother taking a photo unless it's really interesting, it's just the way I do it. And I am the first person to admit, I am not very creative, I'm just ok at getting the lighting and colors to look ok. But again, you didn't say what I "should have" answered that would have pleased you. If I can't think of things to shoot, I'm just telling the truth. If you don't like that answer that's fine but if I could think of something to shoot, I would be out shooting it, wouldn't it?

Poncier

imalive wrote:

Cliffy6745 wrote:

12 pages and not one good suggestions, damn all you for trying to help.

she mentioned she's in the northeast...........maybe she could join Red Sox Nation! :shock:

Or have some BBQ at Redbones then head to The Joshua Tree B&G for some good Irish pub atmosphere.

STONEd and dAMENT-ED

Seems to me you should just keep creating posts... Looks like this has kept you plenty busy.

Lauri

STONEd and dAMENT-ED wrote:

Seems to me you should just keep creating posts... Looks like this has kept you plenty busy.

well yeah I like mindless typing. it's not something I want to spend my time doing, but as a habit it's very satisfying to me. I'm just really needing the distraction.

Cliffy6745

imalive wrote:

Cliffy6745 wrote:

12 pages and not one good suggestions, damn all you for trying to help.

she mentioned she's in the northeast...........maybe she could join Red Sox Nation! :shock:

I would even be happy to buy her the required pink hat.

Wobbie

Cliffy6745 wrote:

imalive wrote:

Cliffy6745 wrote:

12 pages and not one good suggestions, damn all you for trying to help.

she mentioned she's in the northeast...........maybe she could join Red Sox Nation! :shock:

I would even be happy to buy her the required pink hat.

I hope you didn't waste that in the wrong thread.

adropinthepark

'Open the fridge, now I know life is worth'

It's probably just 'cause I'm super hungry, but this thread reminds me of when I want something to eat and I have a house full of perfectly edible food, but nothing sounds good.

I think a lot of people on here have posted worthwhile suggestions. Maybe they'll sound good at another time.

Here's mine: It's Spring, what about joining a softball team or some other sports organization? I think there's a recreational league for just about anything out there, except sprinting. I've checked. Nothing for sprinters. If anybody hears of anything for sprinters, please send me the link. I don't even care if it's nowhere near me, I just want to know about its existence.

Lauri, you've mentioned budget restraints a few times. What's your fun budget? It might help narrow down some suggestions. Also, I understand if you want to remain as anonymous as possible, but telling us your metro area could be helpful as well.

Cliffy6745

imalive wrote:

Cliffy6745 wrote:

imalive wrote:

she mentioned she's in the northeast...........maybe she could join Red Sox Nation! :shock:

I would even be happy to buy her the required pink hat.

I hope you didn't waste that in the wrong thread.

Haha, I think I did. Shit.

chiquimonkey

Lauri wrote:

well then your sister is good at it, I am not. I just don't like to bother taking a photo unless it's really interesting, it's just the way I do it. And I am the first person to admit, I am not very creative, I'm just ok at getting the lighting and colors to look ok. But again, you didn't say what I "should have" answered that would have pleased you. If I can't think of things to shoot, I'm just telling the truth. If you don't like that answer that's fine but if I could think of something to shoot, I would be out shooting it, wouldn't it?

I'm not gonna say what you should answer....it doesn't matter anyway, you'd dismiss it up and down and sideways anyway.

Hope you find your way before your whole life passes ya by....take it easy.

justam

Lauri, I suggested TWENTY-SIX things. You had excuses for why you wouldn't want to do even one of these things.

Only one of them was to re-arrange your closet by color. And, some people would find that fun. (Comebackgirl and me!) Not you. You prefer to tell everyone why you can't do anything. And, in my defense, most of the things on my list are more interesting than re-arranging a closet!!

I am never going to give you the benefit of the doubt again. I wash my hands of this "Lauri" user name as well as all the other newer user names you will show up under in the future. And, we all know you WILL have more because in the past you have had quite a few.