Today, I almost
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Lauri wrote:pandora wrote:"Lauri"
I'm trying to have some smidgen of fun of life
well I don't even know if other people would want me to be there for them. I am really just not good at working with other people at all. I purposely went into a career where I really don't have to deal with people- every time I have to call a client and interact on the phone, I get super nervous. I am just not good at personal interaction, and I never have a clue what to say to people who are having a problem. I never knew it until a couple years ago, but I am really not a very likable person!
I also have that problem with the phone, actually afraid of it. I think I say stupid stuff and regret what I say.
My Mama was the same. I don't do phones either.
But sometimes though just being there for someone is all they need. A smile or just a body who cares. The caring you give will start to come easy and it will make you feel needed. We all need to be needed. Then this need will feed you and you will see you are the nice person the people around you see.0 -
pandora wrote:Lauri wrote:went to the office just because I had nothing else to do. I swear weekends are becoming so boring for me I just don't know what to do with myself. I went running yesterday (Saturday) and then was just like "now what?" I go and walk around my neighborhood, get lunch and dinner and coffee and ice cream when I'm not even hungry, and that's it. Last night I went and hung out at the pub, had two drinks, got bored sitting there, and left. It's getting to be a real problem. I sleep until noon on weekends because I know the only thing I have waiting for me is a trip to the gym, and then a lot of times I skip that because I get antsy knowing I'm wasting a weekend afternoon in the gym. I can't keep doing this for the rest of my life! I honestly went into Starbucks today and was jealous of the students in there working. When I was student, I was never bored- it's impossible to be bored, there's ALWAYS work to do. But I can't afford to go to grad school forever! I don't have any friends in town, every date I go on is a dud, there's nothing bad happening, but the boredom is making me lose my mind! I just hate sitting around more than anything in the world, and it's all I do! I just don't get it, what do other people do when they're not working?
I second this idea. By the way I am fostering two cats (one is a little kitten) now and I need a cat sitter for our St. Louis/Kansas City/ MSG Pearl Jam trips.The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way it treats its animals. Ghandi0 -
Riverrunner wrote:pandora wrote:Lauri wrote:went to the office just because I had nothing else to do. I swear weekends are becoming so boring for me I just don't know what to do with myself. I went running yesterday (Saturday) and then was just like "now what?" I go and walk around my neighborhood, get lunch and dinner and coffee and ice cream when I'm not even hungry, and that's it. Last night I went and hung out at the pub, had two drinks, got bored sitting there, and left. It's getting to be a real problem. I sleep until noon on weekends because I know the only thing I have waiting for me is a trip to the gym, and then a lot of times I skip that because I get antsy knowing I'm wasting a weekend afternoon in the gym. I can't keep doing this for the rest of my life! I honestly went into Starbucks today and was jealous of the students in there working. When I was student, I was never bored- it's impossible to be bored, there's ALWAYS work to do. But I can't afford to go to grad school forever! I don't have any friends in town, every date I go on is a dud, there's nothing bad happening, but the boredom is making me lose my mind! I just hate sitting around more than anything in the world, and it's all I do! I just don't get it, what do other people do when they're not working?
I second this idea. By the way I am fostering two cats (one is a little kitten) now and I need a cat sitter for our St. Louis/Kansas City/ MSG Pearl Jam trips.0 -
For some fulfillment, how about adopting a child?
For anxiety around people, try taking an acting class or voice class.
For money, you can sell blood, collect recyclables, or buy + sell on eBay.
Is there something you want more than anything else in the world? No matter how impossible it seems, strive for that one goal. I did this. Everyone can."May you live in interesting times."0 -
You can try meetin.org if they have a group near your city. If you're on the east coast then they probably do.
When I moved to Colorado I didn't know a single person for 1200 miles. I just started searching for groups online. I found meetin.org (which was much, much smaller back then) and a couple good meetup.com groups. I don't go to groups anymore, but a lot of my friends are people who I originally met that way.
And if there isn't already a meetup for your interests, you can always start one0 -
well there is a solution that would solve the lack of money, sex and the boredom
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Lauri wrote:went to the office just because I had nothing else to do. I swear weekends are becoming so boring for me I just don't know what to do with myself. I went running yesterday (Saturday) and then was just like "now what?" I go and walk around my neighborhood, get lunch and dinner and coffee and ice cream when I'm not even hungry, and that's it. Last night I went and hung out at the pub, had two drinks, got bored sitting there, and left. It's getting to be a real problem. I sleep until noon on weekends because I know the only thing I have waiting for me is a trip to the gym, and then a lot of times I skip that because I get antsy knowing I'm wasting a weekend afternoon in the gym. I can't keep doing this for the rest of my life! I honestly went into Starbucks today and was jealous of the students in there working. When I was student, I was never bored- it's impossible to be bored, there's ALWAYS work to do. But I can't afford to go to grad school forever! I don't have any friends in town, every date I go on is a dud, there's nothing bad happening, but the boredom is making me lose my mind! I just hate sitting around more than anything in the world, and it's all I do! I just don't get it, what do other people do when they're not working?
Read.
Draw.
Listen to music.
Grow some plants.
Call people you like.
Go for a walk!
Sit under a tree and write something.
Take a nap.
Get a cook book out and learn to make something new.
Research and learn about something that interests you.
Re-arrange your furniture.
Clean your entire house.
Organize your desk!
Plan a vacation.
Go to a movie.
Play an instrument.
Take a yoga class.
Dye your hair a new color.
Re-arrange your closet by color.
Sew something new.
Repair something old.
Re-pot your plants.
Go to the library and check out some new books.
Go for a bike ride.
Go for a hike.
Find a boyfriend to sleep with.&&&&&&&&&&&&&&0 -
Lauri wrote:went to the office just because I had nothing else to do. I swear weekends are becoming so boring for me I just don't know what to do with myself. I went running yesterday (Saturday) and then was just like "now what?" I go and walk around my neighborhood, get lunch and dinner and coffee and ice cream when I'm not even hungry, and that's it. Last night I went and hung out at the pub, had two drinks, got bored sitting there, and left. It's getting to be a real problem. I sleep until noon on weekends because I know the only thing I have waiting for me is a trip to the gym, and then a lot of times I skip that because I get antsy knowing I'm wasting a weekend afternoon in the gym. I can't keep doing this for the rest of my life! I honestly went into Starbucks today and was jealous of the students in there working. When I was student, I was never bored- it's impossible to be bored, there's ALWAYS work to do. But I can't afford to go to grad school forever! I don't have any friends in town, every date I go on is a dud, there's nothing bad happening, but the boredom is making me lose my mind! I just hate sitting around more than anything in the world, and it's all I do! I just don't get it, what do other people do when they're not working?
I'm single and live alone as well. I do what I want on the weekends. I'm rarely bored. I have two dogs that keep me busy. Keep my house neat, do laundry, go out with friends. I ride horses so I have lessons on Saturdays. Summer time comes and I'll work at horse shows for my instructor occasionally. My company's busy season is the fall so I work some crazy hours in September. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing with anyone and I'll be a hermit, ignore the world. Dating? eh...I don't date. I have a couple men in my life but no relationship.believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!0 -
Whizbang wrote:Lauri wrote:went to the office just because I had nothing else to do. I swear weekends are becoming so boring for me I just don't know what to do with myself. I went running yesterday (Saturday) and then was just like "now what?" I go and walk around my neighborhood, get lunch and dinner and coffee and ice cream when I'm not even hungry, and that's it. Last night I went and hung out at the pub, had two drinks, got bored sitting there, and left. It's getting to be a real problem. I sleep until noon on weekends because I know the only thing I have waiting for me is a trip to the gym, and then a lot of times I skip that because I get antsy knowing I'm wasting a weekend afternoon in the gym. I can't keep doing this for the rest of my life! I honestly went into Starbucks today and was jealous of the students in there working. When I was student, I was never bored- it's impossible to be bored, there's ALWAYS work to do. But I can't afford to go to grad school forever! I don't have any friends in town, every date I go on is a dud, there's nothing bad happening, but the boredom is making me lose my mind! I just hate sitting around more than anything in the world, and it's all I do! I just don't get it, what do other people do when they're not working?
I'm single and live alone as well. I do what I want on the weekends. I'm rarely bored. I have two dogs that keep me busy. Keep my house neat, do laundry, go out with friends. I ride horses so I have lessons on Saturdays. Summer time comes and I'll work at horse shows for my instructor occasionally. My company's busy season is the fall so I work some crazy hours in September. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing with anyone and I'll be a hermit, ignore the world. Dating? eh...I don't date. I have a couple men in my life but no relationship.
oh yeah....I'm forced to mow my lawn, which I hate, but no one else is going to do it.believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!0 -
pandora wrote:see you in KC! are you as excited as me!!! next week this time I'll be partying! It will be Pearl Jam eve
Yes, I am so excited. The week will fly by as preparing for vacation is very hectic for me. I'm self- employed so I have to take care of all of my office stuff, then arrange care for our own menagerie of strays we have taken in, as well as the two strays. And then it will be PARTY TIME! Starting with Sunday night.The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way it treats its animals. Ghandi0 -
Whizbang wrote:I'm single and live alone as well. I do what I want on the weekends. I'm rarely bored. I have two dogs that keep me busy. Keep my house neat, do laundry, go out with friends. I ride horses so I have lessons on Saturdays. Summer time comes and I'll work at horse shows for my instructor occasionally. My company's busy season is the fall so I work some crazy hours in September. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing with anyone and I'll be a hermit, ignore the world. Dating? eh...I don't date. I have a couple men in my life but no relationship.
I don't think boredom has anything to do with being single or living alone. I haven't been any less bored while in relationships or living with people. In fact sometimes I think that's worse because then you've got two people sitting around bored. I just mentioned dating as something to do, like hanging out with friends or whatever.0 -
Lauri wrote:Whizbang wrote:I'm single and live alone as well. I do what I want on the weekends. I'm rarely bored. I have two dogs that keep me busy. Keep my house neat, do laundry, go out with friends. I ride horses so I have lessons on Saturdays. Summer time comes and I'll work at horse shows for my instructor occasionally. My company's busy season is the fall so I work some crazy hours in September. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing with anyone and I'll be a hermit, ignore the world. Dating? eh...I don't date. I have a couple men in my life but no relationship.
I don't think boredom has anything to do with being single or living alone. I haven't been any less bored while in relationships or living with people. In fact sometimes I think that's worse because then you've got two people sitting around bored. I just mentioned dating as something to do, like hanging out with friends or whatever.
It's hard to be bored when you're taking care of a couple of young children or trying to take care of a house and a husband in between your own work though. Maybe you need more responsibilities?&&&&&&&&&&&&&&0 -
norm wrote:well there is a solution that would solve the lack of money, sex and the boredom
:think:justam wrote:Read.
Draw.
Listen to music.
Grow some plants.
Call people you like.
Go for a walk!
Sit under a tree and write something.
Take a nap.
Get a cook book out and learn to make something new.
Research and learn about something that interests you.
Re-arrange your furniture.
Clean your entire house.
Organize your desk!
Plan a vacation.
Go to a movie.
Play an instrument.
Take a yoga class.
Dye your hair a new color.
Re-arrange your closet by color.
Sew something new.
Repair something old.
Re-pot your plants.
Go to the library and check out some new books.
Go for a bike ride.
Go for a hike.
Find a boyfriend to sleep with.Tap into something creative, or take a class.
I'm with Whiz, I don't get bored either. If I won the lottery I'd have *no* problem finding ways to spend my time0 -
justam wrote:Read.justam wrote:Draw.justam wrote:Listen to music.justam wrote:Grow some plants.justam wrote:Call people you like.justam wrote:Go for a walk!justam wrote:Sit under a tree and write something.justam wrote:Take a nap.justam wrote:Get a cook book out and learn to make something new.justam wrote:Research and learn about something that interests you.justam wrote:Re-arrange your furniture.justam wrote:Clean your entire house.justam wrote:Organize your desk!justam wrote:Plan a vacation.justam wrote:Go to a movie.justam wrote:Play an instrument.justam wrote:Take a yoga class.justam wrote:Dye your hair a new color.justam wrote:Re-arrange your closet by color.justam wrote:Sew something new.justam wrote:Repair something old.
Re-pot your plants.justam wrote:Go to the library and check out some new books.justam wrote:Go for a bike ride.justam wrote:Go for a hike.justam wrote:Find a boyfriend to sleep with.
Look, all of this is just stuff to pass the time. Reading a book and rearranging your sock drawer is what you do when DON'T have plans. These things aren't fun, they're stuff you do when you're bored. I want to get OUT and meet people and go places and kick my ass physically. I can't clean my closet every weekend, I'm tired of listening to myself think! I want to get OUT!0 -
justam wrote:Lauri wrote:Whizbang wrote:I'm single and live alone as well. I do what I want on the weekends. I'm rarely bored. I have two dogs that keep me busy. Keep my house neat, do laundry, go out with friends. I ride horses so I have lessons on Saturdays. Summer time comes and I'll work at horse shows for my instructor occasionally. My company's busy season is the fall so I work some crazy hours in September. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing with anyone and I'll be a hermit, ignore the world. Dating? eh...I don't date. I have a couple men in my life but no relationship.
I don't think boredom has anything to do with being single or living alone. I haven't been any less bored while in relationships or living with people. In fact sometimes I think that's worse because then you've got two people sitting around bored. I just mentioned dating as something to do, like hanging out with friends or whatever.
It's hard to be bored when you're taking care of a couple of young children or trying to take care of a house and a husband in between your own work though. Maybe you need more responsibilities?
well sorry but I'm certainly not going to go out and get pregnant to avoid boredom!0 -
Lauri wrote:justam wrote:Lauri wrote:
I don't think boredom has anything to do with being single or living alone. I haven't been any less bored while in relationships or living with people. In fact sometimes I think that's worse because then you've got two people sitting around bored. I just mentioned dating as something to do, like hanging out with friends or whatever.
It's hard to be bored when you're taking care of a couple of young children or trying to take care of a house and a husband in between your own work though. Maybe you need more responsibilities?
well sorry but I'm certainly not going to go out and get pregnant to avoid boredom!
When you put it that way, of course it sounds ridiculous. However, I think in the long run, you do need to find a family for yourself. First you have to fall in love. Second get settled. Third, have some long-term plans. You might even just have a husband and some dogs!!
I know you hate everything everyone else does, but sometimes "what everyone else does" is the answer to your empty feeling. :geek:&&&&&&&&&&&&&&0 -
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Lauri wrote:Look, all of this is just stuff to pass the time. Reading a book and rearranging your sock drawer is what you do when DON'T have plans. These things aren't fun, they're stuff you do when you're bored. I want to get OUT and meet people and go places and kick my ass physically. I can't clean my closet every weekend, I'm tired of listening to myself think! I want to get OUT!
Life is short. Just go do it already. Like right now, seriously google maps is like 24 hours a day open lol0 -
justam wrote:When you put it that way, of course it sounds ridiculous. However, I think in the long run, you do need to find a family for yourself. First you have to fall in love. Second get settled. Third, have some long-term plans. You might even just have a husband and some dogs!!
I know you hate everything everyone else does, but sometimes "what everyone else does" is the answer to your empty feeling. :geek:
I'm not "empty" I'm bored. I don't want a husband and I don't want children. I don't mean to be hostile, but I think that is a very condescending thing to say. It's not because "everyone else" does it, but because I don't think it is right for me. I HAVE a family. Trust me, I HAVE a family. They might not be a husband and kids, but they are still a family, and they don't help with boredom. Also, I feel VERY strongly that you can't have "plans" for romantic relationships, they just happen. If you have "plans" regarding that sort of thing, you are asking for a lifetime of trouble. I feel VERY strongly about this. I don't want to get involved in that sort of mindset, it is just recipe for disaster. In terms of kids, I've never really wanted them, and I know that I am not organized enough to take care of them. Everyone I know yells at me when I threaten to get a dog, they know I can't take care of one. Well, if I can't take care of a dog, I certainly can't take care of kids. As I said I hate cooking and food shopping and everything like that- my children would starve.
Besides, I also don't believe that this sort of thing helps with boredom. Some of the most bored, frustrated, lonely people I know are married with children. I get frustrated not having anything to do on weekends, but some married and children-having people I know are actually depressed. I think that's where the "empty" feeling lies- if you try to cure boredom by searching for someone to marry and have kids with...it's not going to work, you're going to feel REALLY "empty."0
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