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Lauri

comebackgirl wrote:

ok sorry, I was just trying to get a better idea of what you were talking about. thanks for the clarification.

I'm actually thinking seriously about getting a second job part time in the fall. I'm not sure what or if it's allowed at my full time job. It will suck, I'm sure, but it seems like the only way to improve my life in the future.

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Yeah I just have to get the nerve to ask my boss if it's ok. and I wonder how long it will be before I regret not having nights and weekends free. lots of uncertainty there. I guess one could just quit if it doesn't work out, which isn't in my nature once I've made a commitment but I assume it's done all the time...I haven't had a part time job since college so I have no idea how it all works anymore![/quote]
I wasn't sure if I could do it at my job either...I had to get special permission and adjust my schedule (I work late and needed a few evenings free to be able to add a second job), but they let me do it! There are times I hate having to work so late...but the up sides are 1) extra cash to do things when I actually have time to do them 2) I'm so exhausted during the week and have so little free time that I don't get bored and am thankful for every free second even if there's nothing to do 3) I've met some really cool people 4) I'm advancing my skills & career which could pay off in the future. It doesn't have to be forever...it probably won't be (for me), but it works for now...and it's a nice change from just my FT job. Good luck! Hope it works out for you [/quote]

good to hear, those are kind of the results I'm hoping for. I just have to think of what type of part time job to get to maximize these benefits...when I was unemployed I applied at the Apple Store because it seems like a fun place to work...there's a Trader Joe's near here and people look kinda happy there...I would love to bar tend, but I have no experience...I just want to find something that is worth it in terms of extra money, allows me to meet some new people, and is at least somewhat interesting.

comebackgirl

Lauri wrote:

good to hear, those are kind of the results I'm hoping for. I just have to think of what type of part time job to get to maximize these benefits...when I was unemployed I applied at the Apple Store because it seems like a fun place to work...there's a Trader Joe's near here and people look kinda happy there...I would love to bar tend, but I have no experience...I just want to find something that is worth it in terms of extra money, allows me to meet some new people, and is at least somewhat interesting.

How could people not be happy at Trader Joe's? I love that place. I wonder if they give an employee discount? Even more worth it! Yeah if it's a combo of fun and interesting, plus some extra cash it's so worth it! (even though I complain about working 2 jobs a lot...it's worth it or I wouldn't be doing it anymore) :oops:

libragirl

Yeah I know the feeling. I need to take a real vacation. I take days off but it's not the same. I need a change of scenery.

Lauri

comebackgirl wrote:

Lauri wrote:

good to hear, those are kind of the results I'm hoping for. I just have to think of what type of part time job to get to maximize these benefits...when I was unemployed I applied at the Apple Store because it seems like a fun place to work...there's a Trader Joe's near here and people look kinda happy there...I would love to bar tend, but I have no experience...I just want to find something that is worth it in terms of extra money, allows me to meet some new people, and is at least somewhat interesting.

How could people not be happy at Trader Joe's? I love that place. I wonder if they give an employee discount? Even more worth it! Yeah if it's a combo of fun and interesting, plus some extra cash it's so worth it! (even though I complain about working 2 jobs a lot...it's worth it or I wouldn't be doing it anymore) :oops:

I think they do have an employee discount. I think I also applied there while unemployed but there was some kind of problem...I think their shifts start and end at weird times or something.

comebackgirl

Lauri wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Lauri wrote:

good to hear, those are kind of the results I'm hoping for. I just have to think of what type of part time job to get to maximize these benefits...when I was unemployed I applied at the Apple Store because it seems like a fun place to work...there's a Trader Joe's near here and people look kinda happy there...I would love to bar tend, but I have no experience...I just want to find something that is worth it in terms of extra money, allows me to meet some new people, and is at least somewhat interesting.

How could people not be happy at Trader Joe's? I love that place. I wonder if they give an employee discount? Even more worth it! Yeah if it's a combo of fun and interesting, plus some extra cash it's so worth it! (even though I complain about working 2 jobs a lot...it's worth it or I wouldn't be doing it anymore) :oops:

I think they do have an employee discount. I think I also applied there while unemployed but there was some kind of problem...I think their shifts start and end at weird times or something.

hmmmm....yeah some places have very strict shifts that you have to stick to...which doesn't work if you already have a FT job. Couldn't hurt to look into it though.

Franny

If $$$ is an issue and a holiday isn't something you want to do, why not try to do some volunteer work??? There are always heaps of places looking for people to help whether it be with the elderly, homeless, disabled, animals etc helping someone else can be very good for your mindset, it takes your focus of you and your problems and puts them into perspective when compared to others that really need the help. Not only that, but you will be helping the community, and learning new skills. When my little one was a bub, I was studying p/t and I did one day/week volunteer work with a NFP group that assisted people at the family court. we didn't offer advise, but were simply there as a friendly face and support for those who needed it. It was so challenging, as you wanted to do so much more than was allowed for these people, but at the same time you had to remain detached and not get emotionally involved. I learnt so much about how the court system works and how desperate humans can become when it comes to a relationship/marriage breakdown when came to the division of assets and the care of thier children. It certainly was an eye opener. I have friends who volunteer at food services for the homeless and also riding for the disabled (horse riding).....for them it's not about themselves but the gratitude and the response from those they help.
It balances out the negative in thier lives, and they are helping make the world a way better place.

pandora

Lauri wrote:

pandora wrote:

memories, I have to work hard before I go away and play catch up on return but in between are far out memories made, even on a staycation ,and that's what life is all about, making beautiful memories
well that and loving and of course being a positive force

what kind of memories do you make on staycation? see I wouldn't mind it if I could think of something to do while I'm doing it. I've been to every museum and attraction around here a thousand times, it's not enough to give me something to look forward to, which to me seems to be a really important part of the whole vacation thing, you know? I just don't want to be alone with my thoughts all week watching TV and doing housework until I finally give up and go into the office.

I'm 20 years older than you so the memories I make that are precious to me might be different than what you might enjoy. I'm gonna pull a senior moment here though and say "when I was your age" because it is mindset that brings contentment and joy not what you are doing.
So early thirties we had just made a cross country move that left me unexpectedly heartbroken. I was left alone to raise the kids without friend or family cause JB was working 18 hour days everyday trying to get our printing company going. There was no money, zip, charging groceries, utility bills, borrowing for the house payment. This went on for months that turned into years. I was tired and lonely and just wanted to leave this world. Now I was saved from that and chose to live cause I had people who needed me, a life changer indeed.
You can look at the mundane and call it that or you can appreciate every moment you are given. You can look at God's world, smell it, feel it or you can walk right through it. Joy is found in little things, this you learn day by day but it takes effort on your part to change your mindset and let yourself be content.
Some very wise words "he whose soul is flat the sky will cave in on him by and by" Edna St. Vincent Milay

Thoughts_Arrive

Lauri wrote:

that you need a vacation? I've been feeling it for a while, but the past few weeks have been especially rough- it's been really hard to focus. I dunno what the purpose of this post is, just airing grievances I guess. There's no way I can take a vacation.

Yes, every day for the past few weeks.
Burnt out, underpaid, pissed off at managers and some other idiots there.
Only 2 and half weeks to go before I go on 5 weeks leave and overseas!

Dissidentman

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Lauri wrote:

that you need a vacation? I've been feeling it for a while, but the past few weeks have been especially rough- it's been really hard to focus. I dunno what the purpose of this post is, just airing grievances I guess. There's no way I can take a vacation.

Yes, every day for the past few weeks.
Burnt out, underpaid, pissed off at managers and some other idiots there.
Only 2 and half weeks to go before I go on 5 weeks leave and overseas!

5 weeks? Damn!

Poncier

Dissidentman wrote:

5 weeks? Damn!

We're doing something wrong here in the States. Other countries definitely have more vacation time than our normal 2 (3 if you're lucky)weeks a year (well excluding the places that make Kathie Lee Gifford's clothing lines). In Germany, doesn't the Gov't mandate like 51 weeks vacation every year.

Dissidentman

Poncier wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

5 weeks? Damn!

We're doing something wrong here in the States. Other countries definitely have more vacation time than our normal 2 (3 if you're lucky)weeks a year (well excluding the places that make Kathie Lee Gifford's clothing lines). In Germany, doesn't the Gov't mandate like 51 weeks vacation every year.

Yes, that is how Germany does it. You would think they would be better at Soccer with all that free time.

Poncier

pandora wrote:

memories, I have to work hard before I go away and play catch up on return but in between are far out memories made, even on a staycation ,and that's what life is all about, making beautiful memories
well that and loving and of course being a positive force

Excellent points. The day before leaving and the day returning from vacation definitely suck at work, but the experiences and memories of the time off are well worth it. Whether its just quality relaxation, breathtaking landscapes like Sag. Crux posted earlier, an adrelanine rush from an exciting activity or seeing the look on your kid's face the first time he sees Tigger at 6 feet tall in person, these are things that will stick with us.

And damn that puppy is too fucking cute.

unlost dogs

I don't care where I go, or what I do on my time off. The important thing is to disconnect and enjoy. Just relax and go with it.

I have a job that is considered one of the most unpleasantly stressful in the organization, but when I leave work at the end of the day, the end of the week, or for vacation _ I leave it behind me. It's highly confidential, which is great because I never talk about cases with my husband or my friends, thus no reliving work stresses.

I don't stress about what the house looks like. We don't apologize for having a lived in house with occasional tumbleweeds of dog fur. It's comfortable. Come in, put your feet up, have a laugh.

In my experience, until my head is in the right place I have no clarity and can't enjoy my time off. Once you get to that point, the simplest things bring the most pleasure. I had as much fun throwing the ball for the dogs yesterday after work as I did on my vacation to Florida a couple of months ago.

It's not the setting or the activity: it's you.

Dissidentman

unlost dogs wrote:

It's not the setting or the activity: it's you.

It IS me, isn't it? Thanks for saying so.

unlost dogs

Dissidentman wrote:

unlost dogs wrote:

It's not the setting or the activity: it's you.

It IS me, isn't it? Thanks for saying so.

So true. The secret to clarity and inner peace is: Dissidentman.

Kind of like Buddah, with a bucket hat.

Dissidentman

unlost dogs wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

unlost dogs wrote:

It's not the setting or the activity: it's you.

It IS me, isn't it? Thanks for saying so.

So true. The secret to clarity and inner peace is: Dissidentman.

Kind of like Buddah, with a bucket hat.

You sayin' I'm fat?

Poncier

Dissidentman wrote:

unlost dogs wrote:

So true. The secret to clarity and inner peace is: Dissidentman.

Kind of like Buddah, with a bucket hat.

You sayin' I'm fat?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rTgrKpLrs4

unlost dogs

Poncier wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

unlost dogs wrote:

So true. The secret to clarity and inner peace is: Dissidentman.

Kind of like Buddah, with a bucket hat.

You sayin' I'm fat?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rTgrKpLrs4

Think of it as more of you to love, just like Cartman.

Dissidentman

Poncier wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

unlost dogs wrote:

So true. The secret to clarity and inner peace is: Dissidentman.

Kind of like Buddah, with a bucket hat.

You sayin' I'm fat?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rTgrKpLrs4

"festively" hahaha

Lauri

unlost dogs wrote:

I don't care where I go, or what I do on my time off. The important thing is to disconnect and enjoy. Just relax and go with it.

I have a job that is considered one of the most unpleasantly stressful in the organization, but when I leave work at the end of the day, the end of the week, or for vacation _ I leave it behind me. It's highly confidential, which is great because I never talk about cases with my husband or my friends, thus no reliving work stresses.

I don't stress about what the house looks like. We don't apologize for having a lived in house with occasional tumbleweeds of dog fur. It's comfortable. Come in, put your feet up, have a laugh.

In my experience, until my head is in the right place I have no clarity and can't enjoy my time off. Once you get to that point, the simplest things bring the most pleasure. I had as much fun throwing the ball for the dogs yesterday after work as I did on my vacation to Florida a couple of months ago.

It's not the setting or the activity: it's you.

I think I turn off and tune out TOO much. I get home from work and totally zone out in front of the TV. I don't want to do anything. It's all I can do to cook dinner and go through the trouble of eating it. I blow off everything I know I'm *supposed* to be doing. I don't get my stuff ready for the next day, I don't fold my laundry, I don't go to bed early, which means I don't wake up early, which means I don't work out, and then I get to work later than I want to. It's like nothing is important to me. I think a lot of people are misunderstanding what I've written that I'm obsessed with my job or workaholic or something. It couldn't be further the from the truth. My job is ok, there's no reward for it, I'm supposedly doing something "important," but it in the end no one even reads our reports, and in the end, I have major focus/ADHD issues, so on a daily basis I get bored after like an hour and on a long term basis I get bored after like 6 months. Believe me, I don't have problems tuning out at the end of the day. I'm tuned out by 11 am. Tuning out when you're not supposed to is stressful- that's why anxiety is so highly linked with ADHD. And it's all the other stuff too- I know my life would be less stressful if I just dialed in and went to bed early and stayed organized and got to the gym on time (I love working out, and I know I have to to stay healthy and look good, and I know it makes me feel better and focus more...and yet, it's not motivation enough to get me to bed at night? that's stressful). So it's more like being a slacker stresses me out. There's something about removing yourself from the situation and kind of starting over and rebooting that seems like it would really help me, just getting a fresh start. It's hard to know where to draw that line of a fresh start if it's not really clear and all the days are just running together.