Stranger allegedly slaps crying child in store

_Crazy_Mary_

Whoa. This is quite a thread! And I only read the first page so forgive me if this has already been said, but for me the number one reason I don't take my child out of the grocery store when it is screaming is because I don't want the kid to be in charge and use the "I can scream and mom will get me out of here" card anytime it wants. The restaurant, however is a different story. I've only had to leave the restaurant with one of my daughters one time. She was 15 months old and crying in the restaurant, so I left my husband and other children in the restaurant to finish their meals, while I took my daughter out to the car, strapped her in her car seat and stared straight ahead of me out the window until 30 minutes later when my family was ready to leave. I didn't speak to her the entire time we were in the car except when we first left the restaurant and I told her we would sit and wait in the car until everyone else was finished with dinner since she couldn't control herself in the restaurant. She never misbehaved in a restaurant after that incident.

RideRick

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

Whoa. This is quite a thread! And I only read the first page so forgive me if this has already been said, but for me the number one reason I don't take my child out of the grocery store when it is screaming is because I don't want the kid to be in charge and use the "I can scream and mom will get me out of here" card anytime it wants. The restaurant, however is a different story. I've only had to leave the restaurant with one of my daughters one time. She was 15 months old and crying in the restaurant, so I left my husband and other children in the restaurant to finish their meals, while I took my daughter out to the car, strapped her in her car seat and stared straight ahead of me out the window until 30 minutes later when my family was ready to leave. I didn't speak to her the entire time we were in the car except when we first left the restaurant and I told her we would sit and wait in the car until everyone else was finished with dinner since she couldn't control herself in the restaurant. She never misbehaved in a restaurant after that incident.

Not to be an asshole but that's some serious psychological warfar you have put on a 15 month old child's mind...
Wonder what Dr. Phil thinks about that...

"The shades go down"

_Crazy_Mary_

RideRick wrote:

Not to be an asshole but that's some serious psychological warfar you have put on a 15 month old child's mind...
Wonder what Dr. Phil thinks about that...

"The shades go down"

Really??? You think so? Should I have taken her home and baked her cookies instead?

She needed to know that if you scream to get out of something, it's not going to be a party on the other side. And like I said, I've never had to do that again.

g under p

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

Whoa. This is quite a thread! And I only read the first page so forgive me if this has already been said, but for me the number one reason I don't take my child out of the grocery store when it is screaming is because I don't want the kid to be in charge and use the "I can scream and mom will get me out of here" card anytime it wants. The restaurant, however is a different story. I've only had to leave the restaurant with one of my daughters one time. She was 15 months old and crying in the restaurant, so I left my husband and other children in the restaurant to finish their meals, while I took my daughter out to the car, strapped her in her car seat and stared straight ahead of me out the window until 30 minutes later when my family was ready to leave. I didn't speak to her the entire time we were in the car except when we first left the restaurant and I told her we would sit and wait in the car until everyone else was finished with dinner since she couldn't control herself in the restaurant. She never misbehaved in a restaurant after that incident.

Sometimes when things get crazy I crack a joke with my daughter ex:....Cure For a Bad Day

Peace

pearljgirl2010

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

RideRick wrote:

Not to be an asshole but that's some serious psychological warfar you have put on a 15 month old child's mind...
Wonder what Dr. Phil thinks about that...

Really??? You think so? Should I have taken her home and baked her cookies instead?

She needed to know that if you scream to get out of something, it's not going to be a party on the other side. And like I said, I've never had to do that again.[/quote]


I think I would have done the same thing that you did.

catefrances

norm wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

dunkman wrote:

his punishment should be him being forced to read this forum for a week.

so basically you are admitting then that you are a masochist?

aren't all of us? :P

nah... im more of a sadist

Ms. Haiku

g under p wrote:

Sometimes when things get crazy I crack a joke with my daughter ex:....Cure For a Bad Day

Peace

That is so cool! I kept watching and watching until I couldn't stop laughing.

I'm a twin, and there is an image of me and my twin looking at the camera in our matching onesies, and we are so happy like we are laughing.

Nothingman54

if that motherfucker did that to my kid i would be in jail for murder. yeah it sucks when my 2 year old cries and most of the time we leave when he cries and screams but the fact is i got to do my shopping to get diapers food and stuff. i do everything i can to get him to stop crying.

RideRick

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

RideRick wrote:

Not to be an asshole but that's some serious psychological warfar you have put on a 15 month old child's mind...
Wonder what Dr. Phil thinks about that...

"The shades go down"

Really??? You think so? Should I have taken her home and baked her cookies instead?

She needed to know that if you scream to get out of something, it's not going to be a party on the other side. And like I said, I've never had to do that again.

15 month... she is not crying just to anoy you... :evil: but for some other reason maybe?
And with that signal you gave you have learned her to ignore people if it is not going in the right way.

restaurants are delicate places to take little children out for a dinner.
They need to be patient but cannot understand the fact that food ain't ready in a minute.
You want to go to a restaurant, your child just wants to eat.

But hey, it is your way and you claim it worked.
I was just amazed by your way of acting to such a little child. Or was she 15 years and did i read it wrongfully :?:

Byrnzie

Simple option if a baby's getting on your nerves in a public place = walk away from it.

That fella in the picture looks like a right miserable tosser. He looks like the sort of person that dresses in a babies nappie and has his wife spank him for being a bad boy.

iluvcats

I could not get the CNN video of the man's behavior to work. If a crying child stresses him out that badly, he should try taking a GABA supplement for his anxiety. I doubt the jail will have any of that, however. When that guy goes to jail, if the inmates find out he hit a baby, well, I'm sure he'll get it.

Sometimes when I am in a store and a parent ignores their crying child, I wonder if the parent does not hear it b/c they are so used to it? Is it wrong for the parent to ignore the crying child? What if the child is hurting for example? One time, I was in the grocery store and I heard a boy (maybe 3) say, "Mommy, I have to poop." She completely ignored him. He repeatedly screamed it over and over. I thought that was mean on her part.
I have bad nerves and if a child cries in a store, I try to tune it out. I do carry earplugs for concerts, maybe I could put them in (or my mp3 player) at those times.

LikeAnOcean

Maybe I'm just a sick motherfucker.. but I got a little chuckle out of the article. I know its wrong, but you know its what people are thinking in their minds when they are shopping in a store and a kid won't shut the hell up.. The old man just unrightfully played it out.


My mother never would have stood for me crying in the store. She'd take me out to the car and yell at me until I'd shut the hell up.

I do have a childhood memory of misbehaving in a mall, causing her to smack me in the stomach. I was about four. First time in my life I got the wind knocked out of me. I was laying on the floor of the mall unable to speak.. I did stop fucking around though. lol

ZiggyStar

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Maybe I'm just a sick motherfucker.. but I got a little chuckle out of the article. I know its wrong, but you know its what people are thinking in their minds when they are shopping in a store and a kid won't shut the hell up.. The old man just unrightfully played it out.


My mother never would have stood for me crying in the store. She'd take me out to the car and yell at me until I'd shut the hell up.

I do have a childhood memory of misbaving in a mall causing her to smack me in the stomach. First time in my life I got the wind knocked out of me. I was laying on the floor of the mall unable to speak.. I did stop fucking around though. lol

What a great memory!

A few good smacks never hurt me. My mum had 5 kids and says we never used to carry on in public. We knew if we really fucked around, we got a smack on the bum. I'm not saying that's the solution to this problem though.....I was just talking generally.

LikeAnOcean

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

The restaurant, however is a different story. I've only had to leave the restaurant with one of my daughters one time. She was 15 months old and crying in the restaurant, so I left my husband and other children in the restaurant to finish their meals, while I took my daughter out to the car, strapped her in her car seat and stared straight ahead of me out the window until 30 minutes later when my family was ready to leave. I didn't speak to her the entire time we were in the car except when we first left the restaurant and I told her we would sit and wait in the car until everyone else was finished with dinner since she couldn't control herself in the restaurant. She never misbehaved in a restaurant after that incident.

Exactly what my mom would do. It was an inconvienince to her, but this type of stuff should be planned when you have kids. Remove the child from the situation to a private location such as a car and stress to them, life is not centered around them. I'm pretty sure it worked for me.

People who let their kids scream in public are going to have the kids grow up and scream their unrealistic, self centered needs to the other adults around them.

I know everyone raises their children differently, but thats why there's a contrast between selfish and giving people in this world.

My childhood friends whos parents let them do what they want are self-centered tools now. The ones who got discipline, even physically to a harmless extent are kind and giving people who have their shit straight now.

Ms. Haiku

I forgot something. I used to act out more in front of my mom than my dad because my mom didn't scare me. It's like when I was around her I could finally unwind. My dad would have no problem threatening to kill me, beating me up, hitting me when I'm still in the hospital after open heart surgery etc., threatening to beat me up if I took out a nail wrong and accidentally hurt myself I'll beat you up, and then I'll take you to the hospital. I took his threats seriously as he took as many chances as possible to show me he was physically stronger, and that I had no recourse. He LOVED it!

It's funny that people laugh at memories of being hit. I truly can not comprehend that.

LikeAnOcean

Ms. Haiku wrote:

I forgot something. I used to act out more in front of my mom than my dad because my mom didn't scare me. It's like when I was around her I could finally unwind. My dad would have no problem threatening to kill me, beating me up, hitting me when I'm still in the hospital after open heart surgery etc., threatening to beat me up if I took out a nail wrong and accidentally hurt myself I'll beat you up, and then I'll take you to the hospital. I took his threats seriously as he took as many chances as possible to show me he was physically stronger, and that I had no recourse. He LOVED it!

It's funny that people laugh at memories of being hit. I truly can not comprehend that.

Well, some cases are acceptable, in many its not. Phyical violence on someone for something petty or just the sake of it is not. My parents never left marks and never anything that stung for more than a few seconds. It was more for shock factor letting me know that they meant business. I deserved to have the wind knocked out of me that time. I was rolling a matchbox car around the floor of the mall, causing people to almost trip, ignoring my moms requests to stop.. My mom didn't intend to knock the wind out of me. I was fine a minute or two later... we recently had a laugh about it. I told her I was scarred mentally for life. ..though, obviously it was traumatic for me if I still remember it 26 years later in detail, and to this day I mean business when I enter a mall.

iluvcats

did the cnn video (that i can't see for some reason) show him actually slapping her? was it walmart's security camera's video?

the only video I found looked like a news video, showing him twitching in court.
http://law.rightpundits.com/?p=788
he looks like a mean grouch. He would not have to wear a costume to play in "the grinch who stole Christmas!"

Thoughts_Arrive

WaveCameCrashin

I would like to slap the shit out of people who think it's okay to talk on their cell phone while they are standing in the checkout line and those damn nextel phones :x BEEP Hey Rufus did you get those 2x4'sBEEP Yeah Boss

JaneNY

I find it interesting that much of the talk centers around annoying children, almost as if justifying the man's behavior. He assaulted a human being. No excuse for it. You don't get to hit people that annoy you.