Tipping Culture Where You Live

mace1229 · October 2023

cutz said:

mace1229 said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

I also find it odd that I'm asked to tip at my the spa where I'll get a massage. But WTF, I'm paying $130 for a 50 minute massage. Why the fuck should I tip a professional? I don't tip my physiotherapist. And my usual non-spa massage therapist doesn't ask for tips. But they both took the same education for what they are doing.

Clarify my first comment, I am happy to tip 20% on a full service restaurant if the service is average. I just find it annoying that that is the minimum amount presented, and goes up to 30 or 35% If you're going to give me options, start at 10 or 15%. We've all had food served cold, wrong orders served, food over/under cooked. I might tip 15% in those cases. And if its fast casual, where I stand in line to order and pick up my own food, don't expect the same tip a full service restaurant does and present me with the same 20-35% options.

I find it odd what we do and don't tip. Like you said, you're expected to tip a massage, or hair cut, or any other number of things. But you don't tip your doctor for saving your life, your chiropractor for straightening out your back, your mail man for bringing mail in the snow, the pilot for making a smooth landing, or any other number of people who work as hard or harder and are honestly more important in some ways. I can't figure out the formula that decides who we do and don't tip.

Yeah, but the amount a DR & Chiropractor charge, the Tip is already on the Bill>HA

Okay, but there are hundreds of other jobs that don't, and we still don't tip. City bus drivers, the guy at the meat department who cut up the meat for you, your garbage truck driver, the nurse working at the Dr office who probably spent more time with you than the doctor himself. All probably make less per hour than a decent waiter at a good restaurant if they have a good shift.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

cutz said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

I also find it odd that I'm asked to tip at my the spa where I'll get a massage. But WTF, I'm paying $130 for a 50 minute massage. Why the fuck should I tip a professional? I don't tip my physiotherapist. And my usual non-spa massage therapist doesn't ask for tips. But they both took the same education for what they are doing.

Not sure how it's done where you go to, but the person who gives me my massage(same person for about 6 years) told me if they have no Clients they don't get paid. And they get a percentage of the cost when they do. So, they really need tips where I go. I think I give a good tip.

Man, you must be going to a High-Falutin place as I pay $131 for a 90 Minute massage.

my regular massage therapist is the normal $80 for an hour rate. Very clinical, like a doctor's office. the $130 for 50 minutes is the spa experience I like to treat myself to once in a while. Depending on the place, they have saunas, complimentary snacks, quiet rooms to read, hot tubs.

And no, not rub n tugs. I don't go to any establishment I have to look up on private mode on my phone. lol

the way it works for the woman I go to I think it similar to any chiro, etc. They have to pay rent for the space they utilize, and they keep all their revenue.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

I know people who give their postal worker xmas gifts ever year. why? he's doing his job. for not smashing your packages? and normally, yes, I understand "don't do if you don't want to" but now I know a group of postal workers that bash people that don't shower them with gifts for merely doing their jobs.

I'm a junior accountant (AKA no designation/lower pay). Give me a tip for balancing your fucking books.

mace1229 · October 2023

HughFreakingDillon said:

I know people who give their postal worker xmas gifts ever year. why? he's doing his job. for not smashing your packages? and normally, yes, I understand "don't do if you don't want to" but now I know a group of postal workers that bash people that don't shower them with gifts for merely doing their jobs.

I'm a junior accountant (AKA no designation/lower pay). Give me a tip for balancing your fucking books.

We would give gifts to our mailman growing up. My mom stayed at home, my dad was often home during the day because of his job. Not as a tip, but when you see the same guy every single day and make small talk, you become casual friends. We didn't give him a Rolex watch or anything, but maybe a bag of cookies or a small gif card for $5 or $10.
Now I don't even see the same guy long enough to know him. I think they have shortages in workers and have to do a lot of floating routes.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

mace1229 said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

I know people who give their postal worker xmas gifts ever year. why? he's doing his job. for not smashing your packages? and normally, yes, I understand "don't do if you don't want to" but now I know a group of postal workers that bash people that don't shower them with gifts for merely doing their jobs.

I'm a junior accountant (AKA no designation/lower pay). Give me a tip for balancing your fucking books.

We would give gifts to our mailman growing up. My mom stayed at home, my dad was often home during the day because of his job. Not as a tip, but when you see the same guy every single day and make small talk, you become casual friends. We didn't give him a Rolex watch or anything, but maybe a bag of cookies or a small gif card for $5 or $10.
Now I don't even see the same guy long enough to know him. I think they have shortages in workers and have to do a lot of floating routes.

absolutely, but what I'm talking about here isn't people who see their mailperson every day like back in the day. My dad used to tip the paperboy, the milk guy, and maybe the mail man too. what I'm referring to is the person who never sees their mail person. A friend of mine and her coworkers seem to think a thin layer of snow that wasn't shoveled the second it hit the ground (when most are at work) requires extra compensation.

F Me In The Brain · October 2023

We gift the mailman, the housekeeper, the babysitter, or anyone else who provides services of value, when provided throughout the year.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

the housekeeper? this your house?

Maid in Chelsea - Mansion Global

F Me In The Brain · October 2023

HughFreakingDillon said:

the housekeeper? this your house?

We haven't brought then back since Covid. The place just doesn't look the same.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

"my house got dust RHINOS since we let the help go"

F Me In The Brain · October 2023

Not sure what that means.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2023

F Me In The Brain said:

Not sure what that means.

instead of dust bunnies. there's a local band from here called The Dust Rhinos.

F Me In The Brain · October 2023

Definitely more dust

mcgruff10 · October 2023

I go:
20-25% at a restaurant
$1-2 a drink if paying with cash. 20% with a card
usually $10-$15 for a food delivery
$20-$50 for my ups and usps worker during the holidays (providing I have the same person all year)

I used to tip my trash man but now it’s just an arm that puts my can in the truck so nada.

A couple bucks if I order take out and pick it up myself.

Usually a $20 Amazon gift card around the holidays for my son’s teacher.

When I go to the barber, it costs $22 for a haircut and I tip $5.

lastexitlondon · November 2023

What would happen if you didn't tip? Would you be frowned upon?
Seems like a lot of extra expenses on top of already expensive things.

F Me In The Brain · November 2023

lastexitlondon said:

What would happen if you didn't tip? Would you be frowned upon?
Seems like a lot of extra expenses on top of already expensive things.

I guess it might depend of what you were buying. In a transactional setting (getting a beer or a hot dog at a sporting event) I would be surprised if anything was said.
If you didn't tip on a large restaurant bill I would think the manager would come over and ask if everything was OK, what they could do better next time, etc. It is customary in US and the wait staff depend on it to make liveable wages in most states. (Setting aside how anyone feels about the fact that they get paid less than minimum wage should make this understandable)

For all other instances? I'm not sure
As a generous tipper I am used to getting positive feedback from people. I can count on one hand the times I've either not tipped for a large meal or left a small tip to be somewhat insulting to the wait staff. These were instances where the service was horrid and I was hoping people would say something
They never did. Think they knew why.

mace1229 · November 2023

lastexitlondon said:

What would happen if you didn't tip? Would you be frowned upon?
Seems like a lot of extra expenses on top of already expensive things.

more than frowned upon, a restaurant will almost see it as skipping out on part of the bill unless you justify it.
If I've had horrible service, I'll tip maybe $1 just to show I didn't forget to add it. That is rare, can only think of twice where that has happened.
One time I did actually just forget, and the manager followed me out into the parking lot to ask me why I didn't tip. I felt so bad, and stupid. But his demeanor was more irritated with me like I was skipping out, more than asking what was wrong with the service. He was sort of right, but it was an accident.

mace1229 · November 2023

It's actually not uncommon for restaurants to add 18 or 20% tip to the bill for parties of 6 or more. I've even seen a few restaurants recently just do it to all bills, but I've only seen that a couple times.

mcgruff10 · November 2023

I hate when restaurants add 4% to your bill when you use your check or credit card to cover their fees.

Gern Blansten · November 2023

mcgruff10 said:

I hate when restaurants add 4% to your bill when you use your check or credit card to cover their fees.

That is becoming much more common. Probably going to be the norm soon.

Merkin Baller · November 2023

Gern Blansten said:

mcgruff10 said:

I hate when restaurants add 4% to your bill when you use your check or credit card to cover their fees.

That is becoming much more common. Probably going to be the norm soon.

I work for a manufacturer and we're asking our customers to switch over to paying by check or ACH so we don't have to start implementing a credit card service fee.

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