A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

HughFreakingDillon said:

jhager79 messaged me to let everyone here know they are ok and getting assistance. 

West Coast Dreamgirl said:

Thank you @OffSheGoes35

Matts3221 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Does anyone feel like talking about some healthy habits in general? What works for you? 

Taking time away form the internet ( this is my first time in a while posting  ). Not to say I’m not checking world  news but trying to get away from things that suck up more of my time because I’m using them in a negative way ( scroll on my phone in bed ) 

Legos - never did a Lego set before and my wife got me me the Seinfeld set and I found it calming to me to put them together. I tend to hyper focus so at least I’m doing it with something like legos instead of negative thoughts. Have done a few more sets ( be warned they are expensive) 

Belly Breathing - I never really practice this before but it can move me from a 9 to a 6-7 rather fast so helpful at work.

Sun and Movement - it’s finally getting some what nice in New England ( 67 today ) , clocks change next week so more sunlight. I have not moved much this winter but just 3-5 mile walks every night after work once it gets nice out makes a world of difference for me.

Eating Well- I know obviously, when I’m depressed or having a panic attack the last thing I am thinking about is the healthness just of my food intake. So just keeping that at front of of mind.

therapy , meds , friends to talk to. Just what came off the top of my head 

HughFreakingDillon said:

Matts3221 said:

I’m currently reading a book on toxic positivity.
one t think that keeps coming up for me is “ I hope I’m not being toxic in this group “

by that , I hope no one thinks that I am saying do what I do to feel better , if I have to apologize as ever one of us processing things differently. Just because running helps me does not mean it will help you.

really trying to learn more better ways to communicate this year and want to offer that apology up in case anyone has ever felt that I am telling them how to feel without proper understanding that we are all dealing with different degrees of issues and ways to cope.

I don't find your positivity or suggestions toxic at all. I think they are all helpful in their own way. you don't come across as one of those newly non-smokers or weight watchers success stories. haha. I've come across a lot of those in my lifetime (I actually, regrettably, was one of those reformed non-smokers about 30 years ago and then a friend woke me up to the fact that I was being an asshole). 

I think you make great suggestions, and you're some will work for some and some won't. but nothing is a bad suggestion. 

OffSheGoes35 said:

Matts3221 said:

I’m currently reading a book on toxic positivity.
one t think that keeps coming up for me is “ I hope I’m not being toxic in this group “

by that , I hope no one thinks that I am saying do what I do to feel better , if I have to apologize as ever one of us processing things differently. Just because running helps me does not mean it will help you.

really trying to learn more better ways to communicate this year and want to offer that apology up in case anyone has ever felt that I am telling them how to feel without proper understanding that we are all dealing with different degrees of issues and ways to cope.

I'm sorry if something I said made you feel that way. I really liked your list. 

HughFreakingDillon said:

I really have to find better ways of spending my time. I find I'm getting reallllllly reallllly bored. and when I'm bored, I decide to party. which leads to regret and anxiety. 

I just don't find I'm interested in doing anything. I scroll endlessly for shows to watch. nothing piques my interest. then I give up. I'm not interested in playing bass or guitar. I have about 15 books I haven't read, and I don't know when I'll pick them up. or really much of anything. I'm starting to hate the weekends. Winter in Winnipeg is fucking awful. especially this year. it's been cold as fuck and a ton of snow. which I'm sure has been part of this. not like i'm super outdoorsy in the winter either, but I think it's also that we were more active when the kids were younger, making sure they were active. now that they do things on their own with their friends, we're left kinda twiddling our thumbs. 

I never run out of things to do in the summer. But that just seems so far away still. 

HughFreakingDillon said:

Matts3221 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Matts3221 said:

I’m currently reading a book on toxic positivity.
one t think that keeps coming up for me is “ I hope I’m not being toxic in this group “

by that , I hope no one thinks that I am saying do what I do to feel better , if I have to apologize as ever one of us processing things differently. Just because running helps me does not mean it will help you.

really trying to learn more better ways to communicate this year and want to offer that apology up in case anyone has ever felt that I am telling them how to feel without proper understanding that we are all dealing with different degrees of issues and ways to cope.

I'm sorry if something I said made you feel that way. I really liked your list. 

I promise no one said anything to have me post it. I just happened to post and then when reading this book I thought “ I hope I never did that to anyone on this because board “

so I just wanted to put that out there. 

haha, this is so close to home. the endless cycle of pre-apologizing and then having to explain your apology because someone thought they were the basis of your apology. 

I can't even tell you how many times I've typed out the words "no no no it was nothing you said, I was just making sure...." lol