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jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Thank you.
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tbergs said:Gern Blansten said:ecdanc said:tempo_n_groove said:Gern Blansten said:I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
I think remaining open minded and being willing to listen to others preferences and experiences (aka, just being a decent person who cares about more than yourself) would alleviate negative connotations.
We all know that transgender people are not universally accepted. We know that there are people who stridently reject the very existence of trans people (in the same way we still have actual homophobes and even virulent racists). Those people purposely misgender trans persons. In other words, they use the wrong pronouns, say things like "born a man," or any number of other things from that GLAAD page I've posted a few times--they do these things to make a statement and, yes, to mock or dehumanize trans people. They do it on purpose.
So, when someone who is not one of the truly awful says something out of willful ignorance ("I don't want to know") or benign ignorance ("I don't know") it SOUNDS just like the hateful person--it's all part of the same harmful discourse that marginalized people deal with all the time. Despite what you all say about me, I don't expect anyone to get all this right away; but very often the first step is recognizing how the things you do/say are connected to the things others do/say.Post edited by ecdanc on0 -
jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Secondly, the gender/number issue is not problematic. Language evolves; we adapt to it. Dictionaries are already addressing the issue and many in the discipline of English--you know, where we study the language--are at the forefront of promoting the singular they.0 -
jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.'05 - TO, '06 - TO 1, '08 - NYC 1 & 2, '09 - TO, Chi 1 & 2, '10 - Buffalo, NYC 1 & 2, '11 - TO 1 & 2, Hamilton, '13 - Buffalo, Brooklyn 1 & 2, '15 - Global Citizen, '16 - TO 1 & 2, Chi 2
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tempo_n_groove said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Thank you.
This made more sense than anything else I have read yet.0 -
benjs said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.0
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jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people."Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.Post edited by ecdanc on0 -
ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.
that makes no fucking senseRemember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
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Gern Blansten said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.
that makes no fucking sense0 -
ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.hippiemom = goodness0 -
Gern Blansten said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.
that makes no fucking sense0 -
cincybearcat said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.0 -
ecdanc said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Secondly, the gender/number issue is not problematic. Language evolves; we adapt to it. Dictionaries are already addressing the issue and many in the discipline of English--you know, where we study the language--are at the forefront of promoting the singular they.
And apologies regarding the homophobe accusation. You technically did not call Brian that. But you were relentless in pointing out your offense to him without being particularly instructive. It was apparent to most forum readers that Brian was not intending offense. You took what could have been an opportunity to educate and/or explain, and instead hurled insults and feigned offense, which is how you also seemed to respond to just about every other poster here. That will naturally get hackles raised, and then it is game on. So if your intention was to alienate and insult the group, you've accomplished that. If you intended to instruct and facilitate acceptance, sorry for your luck."I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080 -
ecdanc said:Gern Blansten said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.
that makes no fucking senseRemember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
The Golden Age is 2 months away. And guess what….. you’re gonna love it! (teskeinc 11.19.24)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana; 2025: Pitt1, Pitt20 -
I use “they” to refer to an individual literally every day. It’s not that hard.0
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cincybearcat said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.0 -
mrussel1 said:cincybearcat said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.hippiemom = goodness0 -
Gern Blansten said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Sweden though uses it's own pronoun for situations where a specific gender is not known or wanted.
Han = Him
Hon = Her
Hen = "unknown gender"
But still, if there's a will there's a way. And how can it be wrong if it is decided upon. Then it is correct. And good people adjust instead of bickering about positive change/progress that is made to help fellow people.
that makes no fucking sense
We haven't even gotten past racism and sexism in society, which are much easier to understand and identify. There is no way significant acceptance and change happens this century.It's a hopeless situation...0 -
jeffbr said:ecdanc said:jeffbr said:tbergs said: I admit, it would take a lot of time for this concept to reach social and culture norm because it goes against every basic English language lesson we have ever been taught in regards to pronoun usage.
Secondly, the gender/number issue is not problematic. Language evolves; we adapt to it. Dictionaries are already addressing the issue and many in the discipline of English--you know, where we study the language--are at the forefront of promoting the singular they.
And apologies regarding the homophobe accusation. You technically did not call Brian that. But you were relentless in pointing out your offense to him without being particularly instructive. It was apparent to most forum readers that Brian was not intending offense. You took what could have been an opportunity to educate and/or explain, and instead hurled insults and feigned offense, which is how you also seemed to respond to just about every other poster here. That will naturally get hackles raised, and then it is game on. So if your intention was to alienate and insult the group, you've accomplished that. If you intended to instruct and facilitate acceptance, sorry for your luck.0
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