Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

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  • Posts: 3,517
    No
        Spiritual_Chaos said:
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    Yeah. Didn't feel an interest. But I guess I could have thrown out an "lets go for a coffee and talk KISS!" line.
    I wonder which way she would've swiped then.
  • Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,660
    Yes
    lastexitlondon said:
    Dude ffs.  Why not try with her for a date at least. You never know if you don't  dip your toe in the water
    Yeah, I have to agree. This seems like a missed opportunity. Sigh. Oh well, too late now I guess.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Posts: 106
    Yes
    You don’t have a hair one on your ass if you don’t. 
    "Society..you're a crazy breed. I hope you're not lonely without me.."
  • Posts: 5,096
    edited November 2018
    Yes
    OffSheGoes35 said:
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    There's no way I would meet someone accidentally, I don't go out enough for that to even happen. lol
    I'm in the same situation.  I don't go to bars and don't have a workplace and I'm not trying online dating. I haven't been on a 'date' since I met  my son's father, so we're going back to the late 90's. I have no idea how things work today and I'm not a 'hook-up' kind of person, unfortunately. I have guy friends and acquaintances who have let it be known that they'd avail themselves but none that I think of in that way. 

    Ali seems to be single by choice in a good and healthy way and enjoying it and getting what she needs when she needs it.  I think that is awesome. 

    I am single by choice because of the monumental clusterf*ks I got into. I don't believe in soul mates or true love, I have never experienced a healthy mature relationship. That effects how I think about letting a man into my life (not that I'd know where to find one). 

    My elderly mother and adult son live with me and depend on me. Doesn't matter that I've got my own crap; I have no back up. So that doesn't leave much room for whatever it would take to find a relationship.  Would I even let them into my life? If I really wanted to I suppose I'd find a way.

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  • Posts: 31,453
    lastexitlondon said:
    Dude ffs.  Why not try with her for a date at least. You never know if you don't  dip your toe in the water
    I hate breaking up stuff and shit... Afraid of conflict and stuff... so rather not get involved in things if I don't feel super. Can't stand "dumping" someone after one date or whatever -- "It was nice, but it didn't feel right" can't do it. Haha.

    She remembered my name though. Which was very weird. With us not saying a word to eachother and the match happened like 2-3 months ago.
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Posts: 5,096
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
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    I hate breaking up stuff and shit... Afraid of conflict and stuff... so rather not get involved in things if I don't feel super. Can't stand "dumping" someone after one date or whatever -- "It was nice, but it didn't feel right" can't do it. Haha.

    She remembered my name though. Which was very weird. With us not saying a word to eachother and the match happened like 2-3 months ago.
    Maybe you're just not in a place with yourself that you are really ready for a relationship. You think that's what you should be doing because that's what society tells you to do, but maybe you need to work on you for awhile and then you'd know what you wanted. Or not. I really am not the best adviser I suppose. 
  • Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,660
    edited November 2018
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
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    I hate breaking up stuff and shit... Afraid of conflict and stuff... so rather not get involved in things if I don't feel super. Can't stand "dumping" someone after one date or whatever -- "It was nice, but it didn't feel right" can't do it. Haha.

    She remembered my name though. Which was very weird. With us not saying a word to eachother and the match happened like 2-3 months ago.
    There is no such thing as dumping someone after one date man. Where would the conflict come from? If you even hear back from the girl ever again after one bad date, which is very unlikely, you saying "It was nice bit it didn't feel right" by text after the fact is very very very easy. Come on man, suck it up. I mean honestly, if you can't even do that, you're done for. And you're going to have a real hard time meeting anyone if you're not even willing to go for one single date with someone just to find out if maybe there is more than meets the eye.

    But Nancy has a good point. Maybe you just want to be single but feel like you need to meet someone because society says so. Trust me, it's not worth it, lol. I chose to ignore that societal pressure, and as soon as I did, life got so much more fun.... Although if you want children ignore that advice. That only really works for men who either already have kids or don't want any.
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Posts: 3,517
    No
    njnancy said:
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    Maybe you're just not in a place with yourself that you are really ready for a relationship. You think that's what you should be doing because that's what society tells you to do, but maybe you need to work on you for awhile and then you'd know what you wanted. Or not. I really am not the best adviser I suppose. 
       That's my favorite part. Really good advice! :star:
  • Posts: 31,453
    edited November 2018
    njnancy said:
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    Maybe you're just not in a place with yourself that you are really ready for a relationship. You think that's what you should be doing because that's what society tells you to do, but maybe you need to work on you for awhile and then you'd know what you wanted. Or not. I really am not the best adviser I suppose. 
    But I just wrote didn't feel super concerning her, with her fingers in my nose. That is saying I knew I didn't want it...

    But in general, looking-for-love wise I'm:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1CmNuKsgaI
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Posts: 3,517
    edited December 2018
    No
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
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    But I just wrote didn't feel super concerning her, with her fingers in my nose. That is saying I knew I didn't want it...

    But in general, looking-for-love wise I'm:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1CmNuKsgaI
    I actually kinda liked that song.  I'm starting to worry about myself.
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  • Posts: 3,517
    edited December 2018
    No
    njnancy said:
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    I'm in the same situation.  I don't go to bars and don't have a workplace and I'm not trying online dating. I haven't been on a 'date' since I met  my son's father, so we're going back to the late 90's. I have no idea how things work today and I'm not a 'hook-up' kind of person, unfortunately. I have guy friends and acquaintances who have let it be known that they'd avail themselves but none that I think of in that way. 

    Ali seems to be single by choice in a good and healthy way and enjoying it and getting what she needs when she needs it.  I think that is awesome. 

    I am single by choice because of the monumental clusterf*ks I got into. I don't believe in soul mates or true love, I have never experienced a healthy mature relationship. That effects how I think about letting a man into my life (not that I'd know where to find one). 

    My elderly mother and adult son live with me and depend on me. Doesn't matter that I've got my own crap; I have no back up. So that doesn't leave much room for whatever it would take to find a relationship.  Would I even let them into my life? If I really wanted to I suppose I'd find a way.

    I definitely understand monumental clusterf*cks. I am right there with you. #1 Don't trust my instincts anymore when it comes to the men I'm attracted to.#2 I don't trust my ability to be in a healthy relationship. All I've ever known is avoiding confrontations at all costs, and if that doesn't work, get ready to endure the silent treatment. I don't think I've ever been a part of a discussion/argument that ended with both parties feeling understood. The very few times I argued with my then husband, we didn't argue from the viewpoint that we're  on the same team trying to iron something out, we argued like it was me vs.him and there was one clear winner and solution.
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  • Posts: 5,096
    Yes
    OffSheGoes35 said:
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    I definitely understand monumental clusterf*cks. I am right there with you. #1 Don't trust my instincts anymore when it comes to the men I'm attracted to.#2 I don't trust my ability to be in a healthy relationship. All I've ever known is avoiding confrontations at all costs, and if that doesn't work, get ready to endure the silent treatment. I don't think I've ever been a part of a discussion/argument that ended with both parties feeling understood. The very few times I argued with my then husband, we didn't argue from the viewpoint that we're  on the same team trying to iron something out, we argued like it was me vs.him and there was one clear winner and solution.
    I get you. Completely. I have no trust in the men  I've 'loved' and in my instincts and I second guess everything about a relationship since I never had one that worked as it should.There was never listening and responding, just yelling and yelling and more. My last relationship was the worst by far, but I have a pattern of picking the wrong people throughout my life. So I don't want to live that way anymore. A burden I will always have, as I should, is that I brought a child into this dysfunction. Of course I did not know until it was too late, but no child should have to grow up in such a contentious environment. Never.  
  • LaPorte, IN Posts: 7,346
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    So, I've had surgery and had to take out my two piercings because of that. And I don't know how to lock them by myself. So today I went to a piercing place in town to get some help.

    And while I'm sitting there and this woman helps me get my septum back into my nose she says:

    "We matched on Tinder a while back didn't wee..? You're Emil right..?" 

    Haha. A bit uncomfortable. 

    Clumsy like hell I confirmed that was my name and changed the subject. Didn't remember matching with her. And she knew my name and all.
    Are you kidding me? I don't know what the hell to tell you.
    "A smart monkey doesn't monkey around with another monkey's monkey" - Darwin's Theory
  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    Yes
    OffSheGoes35 said:
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    There's no way I would meet someone accidentally, I don't go out enough for that to even happen. lol
    I understand that.  I do not go out much either.  I am not looking at the moment.  
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    Yes
    Doctors must treat the epidemic of loneliness

    https://www.seattletimes.com/opinion/doctors-must-treat-the-epidemic-of-loneliness/

    I thought I'd post this.  I found this article while looking for another article about loneliness that showed up on my facebook feed.


    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Posts: 3,517
    No
      .Nancy, hopefully in this one case, your son is like me. My mom has apologized for staying with my dad as long as she did, and that was the easiest apology I've ever accepted. 

    My mom would be the very last person on this earth to intentionally harm me. It would just never happen. And knowing that makes a big difference.
  • Posts: 3,517
    No
    Meltdown99 said:
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    I understand that.  I do not go out much either.  I am not looking at the moment.  
    Me either. If you ever feel like making up funny online dating profiles, PM me, we can collaborate.
  • Posts: 3,517
    No
    Let me re-phrase that, honest to a fault online dating profiles. See if we get any replies. hehe
  • Posts: 3,517
    No
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
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    I hate breaking up stuff and shit... Afraid of conflict and stuff... so rather not get involved in things if I don't feel super. Can't stand "dumping" someone after one date or whatever -- "It was nice, but it didn't feel right" can't do it. Haha.

    She remembered my name though. Which was very weird. With us not saying a word to eachother and the match happened like 2-3 months ago.
    You're a Kiss Army Major Colonel Lieutenant Sergeant, why wouldn't she remember your name?
  • Posts: 31,453
    edited December 2018
    OffSheGoes35 said:
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    You're a Kiss Army Major Colonel Lieutenant Sergeant, why wouldn't she remember your name?
    I'm hated on the KISS board. They don't like me talking about Pearl Jam all the time.

    I hate that I couldn't figure out the music she had on in the store though... sounded a bit like Mark Lanegan or something...
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"

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