O.K. how many people here are pregnant?

genevieve wrote:

I understand exactly what you are saying.
But there were some parents that cared only about what thier kids looked like.
Would fuss if there was a stain on the shirt that wasnt there before but couldnt be bothered to give thier 19 month old a little cuddle.
Thats what bothered me. Parents who had an attitude about the stupedist stuff and would rip a strip off the workers and then drag their kid out of the place like piece of deadwood.
we knew the parents like you were doing their best.
We knew because the kids didnt have issues at the age of 6months.
We knew because some of the parents didnt care if we thought thier little boy might be deaf. Or thier little girl was oozing crap out of her ear from an ear infection. Or wouldnt treat the excema so bad i could see flesh through and would out of my own pocket pay for cream for that little girl and put it on her while she was around.
We knew who cared.
And like I said.
It depends on the parent and the caregiver.
Working together is really important.

Gotcha.

Working together is very important yes!!!

You asked why daycares are getting bad rep... because unfortunately things have been happening and they've made it to news that scare parents.

dayhomes are not better... but cheaper. I freaked out when I was looking for one and this lady was coughing while there were kids in background and saying she'd accept one more kid. ugh.

The daycares I've had... some good and bad experiences.

Bad experiences where I had to deal with the workers who would not work with me or understand the issues I was trying to resolve.

For example, my son did not like naps and does not like vegetables (who doesn't right?).

So I told him to just lay down and pretend for a while... make up stories in his mind until it's time to "get up".

But there was one time when he really had to go to the bathroom and the workers wouldn't allow him.

He complained this to me and I spoke to them about that... "well that's the rules..." blah blah.

I went off on them because they wouldn't listen to me.

And I witnessed one worker yelling at a little four years old girl who was still in her potty training phase.

They were working together - she was all smiling. I was watching her while waiting for my children and they were unaware of me watching them.

Worker: "What's that smell?" *sniff sniff*
girl: *scared face, shrugs uncomfortably*

Worker: "Is that you???" *checks her pants and smells her*
"You pooped in your pants?!!!"
girl: *head down, tries not to try*

I. Went. Off. On. Her.

I screamed on the top of my lungs - scared the shit out of the worker.

I fucking blew the roof off in that place - everyone was running to see what the hell happened. Thought someone got hurt badly.

Oh yes, that girl's self-esteem got blown bad and big time with that worker's attitude.

That was the day I started questioning daycare. I could not wait until I graduated from college to say goooood bye to them (I couldn't transfer them 'cause I was getting grant to cover for the daycare).

Obviously, you were one of the caring workers...but I don't think there are that many around.

But then again...that was years ago.

I still don't trust people...it's so hard.

I can't even get a babysitter if I wanted to anyway.

genevieve wrote:

Wow that would soooo never happen at the place I worked at.
Sure the mats the kids slept on werent brand new. And neither were the toys.
But I ate what the kids ate everyday for lunch.
And I had a snuggle and nap beside a different kid everyday.
And potty training you have to say "shit happens" literally.
I have to say working there was the most rewarding job, but the most draining. The worst paying and yet the best paying.

Sounds like a great daycare!

That daycare I mentioned was "one of the best ones" - all fancy and stuff, even with security....

Ha!

It's tough these days...how do you convience parents it's really the best?

The best is to look for messageboards or blogs on parents' experiences with certain daycares, I guess?

I'm not trying to scare any parents here...but it's good to keep your eyes open!

Love the new pics, Gen! She really looks JUST like you! Annabelle really looks more like Greg (hubby), but she is starting to look like me. People say she has my smile.

As far as staying home vs. working goes, I think every family has to do what works best for everyone in question. I'm still trying to figure out what that is for our family. We're moving to New Jersey in one week and we will be very close to Greg's parents, who will be available for free babysitting anytime we need it. I'm thinking of getting some sort of part time job because I'm really REALLY missing the adult interaction that I used to have at work. I absolutely love every minute I spend with the baby, but I have to admit, I have been feeling kind of isolated from the rest of the world. I think it would be good for my mental health to get out a little more. Now that we'll be living so close to my in-laws, I think I'll feel okay leaving the baby with my mother-in-law for a couple of hours at least a couple of days a week. I trust her completely and I feel ok leaving the baby with her on a very part-time basis. But then, at the same time, the thought of leaving Annabelle for any amount of time makes me sad... So I think I'll just do it on a trial basis and see how it feels.

I honestly never expected to stay at home with a baby, until I got pregnant. I do plan to go back to work full-time at some point (doing god knows what, because I was not satisfied with my old career, lol). I don't know when, though, because I be at home for baby #2 and I am not really sure when he or she will be coming. (Last week I thought baby #2 might be coming in Sept 07, and that turned out to be a false alarm, lol...but that's another story! ) So yeah...I have a lot of thinking to do about that.

Most importantly, I think that as long as you're actively *thinking* about what will be best for your individual family, half the battle is won. It's the people who only consider themselves or only consider the child's well-being that are missing out.

and today we will give our Bird away .The Parents of my friend will get him.

genevieve wrote:

This can be either your significant other or you personally.
I keep seeing people post in different threads that they are,
so I thought we deserve a thread for it.

Im due May 17th. Have no idea if its a boy or girl, but secretly want a girl a bit more.
This is my first baby.
I thought us ladies could swap info and so-on its always nice to have support.

Hey I went on the Foo Fighters website and in thier Goods section they have bibs and one-pieces, sooo much more than here. I think Ill email 10c and see if they have any plans in the future for the same sort of thing.

Any way to make this a sticky?
Kat? Sea?

They also have light up FF pacifiers.

Ok I'm not pregnant....but you all need to go to Meddle's myspace. There is a little diva there u all need to meet.

http://www.myspace.com/meddledeal

ACCBootlegGoddess wrote:

Ok I'm not pregnant....but you all need to go to Meddle's myspace. There is a little diva there u all need to meet.

http://www.myspace.com/meddledeal

Yay!!! Congratulations, Meddle (whenever you see this!!)!!! She is beautiful! Welcome to the world little Choe!!

I can't wait to see more pics!

ACCBootlegGoddess wrote:

Ok I'm not pregnant....but you all need to go to Meddle's myspace. There is a little diva there u all need to meet.

http://www.myspace.com/meddledeal

oh she is sooo cute .Congrates !!!!And i wish you all the best for your family::):):):):)

I made a post on her myspace page already but CONGRATS again girl!