I saw on facebook that my ex (we've been separated for 6 months) has a family portrait picture of her, her boyfriend, and my son... as her profile picture. And, she says she won't let me have him anymore. I've been taking care of him Friday night through Sunday night (every weekend) and most Wednesday nights.
The anger is coursing through my veins. Tears are welling. I don't know what to do...
Fathers' rights are basically non-existent... I have none.
ya man...you have rights, you just have to pay a lawyer to exercise them :roll:
There is probably a way to have your lawyer request his/her fee as part of the access claim. Might help pressure her into folding.
She can't deny you access to your son without a legit reason. If she just wants to play house with her new bf, a judge will put her in her place right quick.
And ya...unless you're a crackhead or abusive, no parent in their right mind would keep a kid from a healthy relationship with the other parent. Selfish.
Good luck. This shit is super tough. :(
Actually, I do have an attorney. I left a message with him about this but he said a few months ago that this could happen - which is why I'm filing for FULL CUSTODY. If she wants to play these games I can play them, too. And my dad has committed to paying anything it takes to get full custody. There is only an "agreement" not a court order so since she has primary custody (more than 60% of the time she takes care of him) she can withhold access... just because she wants to. Seriously, fathers have almost no rights... and no there is no reason to withhold access from me. I think I'm a pretty kick-ass dad.
Everything not forbidden is compulsory and eveything not compulsory is forbidden. You are free... free to do what the government says you can do.
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Chin up dude! I only wish my sons father had some of your desire to parent and the willingness to fight to be part of his life. Hope everything works out the best for you and your son.
Picking up my 5yo from school to find that he has a big blue bruise under his eye and a swollen and bruised cheek. :shock: Wonder if he has learnt that little boys can't fly yet?? :roll:
Was driving to do a home visit, got a bit zoned out, realised I couldn't remember the last mile or so, then realised I had forgotten to make a turn, rounded a corner and ended up in a herd of sheep. Not a good trip.
Was driving to do a home visit, got a bit zoned out, realised I couldn't remember the last mile or so, then realised I had forgotten to make a turn, rounded a corner and ended up in a herd of sheep. Not a good trip.
Actually, that would be a flock of sheep. Better than a band of gorillas! Or a surfeit of skunks!
Everything not forbidden is compulsory and eveything not compulsory is forbidden. You are free... free to do what the government says you can do.
Was driving to do a home visit, got a bit zoned out, realised I couldn't remember the last mile or so, then realised I had forgotten to make a turn, rounded a corner and ended up in a herd of sheep. Not a good trip.
Actually, that would be a flock of sheep. Better than a band of gorillas! Or a surfeit of skunks!
Obviously was in such a traumatised state, forgot my English :oops:
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
Someone just asked me what i'm getting my Dad for father's day.
Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Someone just asked me what i'm getting my Dad for father's day.
Aww, sorry Sian Hugs to you. You can still get a card and lay it at his grave if you feel up to it. Again, {{{hugs}}}
Thanks Selena. I'm going to his grave on Sunday to lay flowers and his card. My Dad always made such a fuss of getting presents on father's day... I used to really love this time of year. I guess I always knew the first one after he passed would be the hardest.
It can't be helped though, the guy at work hasn't been here long, didn't know and just asked to be polite... I actually felt quite sorry for him.
Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Stupid dream about someone who is dead and who caused a lot of problems and heartache for me when he was here. In the dream he was alive and told me that it was all set up and faked. ANd then wanted me to start life up with him again as if nothing had happened. Stupid stupid dreams, wish they would go away and just stop. :evil:
Actually, I do have an attorney. I left a message with him about this but he said a few months ago that this could happen - which is why I'm filing for FULL CUSTODY. If she wants to play these games I can play them, too. And my dad has committed to paying anything it takes to get full custody. There is only an "agreement" not a court order so since she has primary custody (more than 60% of the time she takes care of him) she can withhold access... just because she wants to. Seriously, fathers have almost no rights... and no there is no reason to withhold access from me. I think I'm a pretty kick-ass dad.
That part I made bold wouldn't fly in Indiana. Can I ask what state you are in?
Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Actually, I do have an attorney. I left a message with him about this but he said a few months ago that this could happen - which is why I'm filing for FULL CUSTODY. If she wants to play these games I can play them, too. And my dad has committed to paying anything it takes to get full custody. There is only an "agreement" not a court order so since she has primary custody (more than 60% of the time she takes care of him) she can withhold access... just because she wants to. Seriously, fathers have almost no rights... and no there is no reason to withhold access from me. I think I'm a pretty kick-ass dad.
That part I made bold wouldn't fly in Indiana. Can I ask what state you are in?
Pennsylvania. Yesterday I got a court order in place so its no longer just a written agreement.
this is so FUCKED...
I went to pick up my son yesterday and no one was there. I called, left a voice message, left 2 texts, called her mom and left a message... and no response from anyone. So now it is court ordered and she vanishes with my son...
Happy Fathers Day right?
I've called the police and of course my attorneys office but he won't be in until Monday. In the meantime I don't know what to do... The police are pretty much powerless in this sort of situation (they even said so) but I guarantee if it was me (the MALE) who withheld access I would be on the news right now for kidnapping.
Once again... fathers have zero fucking rights.
Everything not forbidden is compulsory and eveything not compulsory is forbidden. You are free... free to do what the government says you can do.
Yet another sinus infection.....myself and little man, 2nd time in 3 weeks. Now Dr wants to send Mr K for allergy testing as soon as he is better, and I have to get onto the specialist to hurry up and get my surgery done. Over it. :roll:
I saw on facebook that my ex (we've been separated for 6 months) has a family portrait picture of her, her boyfriend, and my son... as her profile picture. And, she says she won't let me have him anymore. I've been taking care of him Friday night through Sunday night (every weekend) and most Wednesday nights.
The anger is coursing through my veins. Tears are welling. I don't know what to do...
Fathers' rights are basically non-existent... I have none.
i never understand women who withhold children from their fathers. it sux that your ex wont allow your son to spend time with you. i cant fathom her thinking. clearly its some sort of power play. and who knows what kind of rot shes filling his little head with.
when my 2 oldest were younger i had a difficult time getting their father to have them visit. there was never a court order, never would have been and still isnt. now with the two younger ones(one of whom hes never lived with) ive pretty much got weekends to myself. im very convincing these days.
hear my name
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
scraping out my infected knee. that freaking hurt. and was gross.
no waiting to make sure the anti biotics work is even worse. oh well. only need one leg i guess
Having to go back to work tomorrow after a perfect 4-day weekend. :( Although knowing that tomorrow is our retreat day and we'll be doing Yoga and getting massages and having lunch ordered for us helps just a bit.
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
fantasizing about quitting my job, so bored and fed up
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Actually, I do have an attorney. I left a message with him about this but he said a few months ago that this could happen - which is why I'm filing for FULL CUSTODY. If she wants to play these games I can play them, too. And my dad has committed to paying anything it takes to get full custody. There is only an "agreement" not a court order so since she has primary custody (more than 60% of the time she takes care of him) she can withhold access... just because she wants to. Seriously, fathers have almost no rights... and no there is no reason to withhold access from me. I think I'm a pretty kick-ass dad.
2012 - Manchester i & ii, Berlin i & ii, Stockholm. 2014 - Amsterdam i & ii, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Leeds, Milton Keynes.
2016 - Boston Fenway i & ii, 2018 - Amsterdam i & ii, Pinkpop, London i & ii, Padova, Krakow, Barcelona, Seattle i & ii.
You sound like an awesome dad!!! Good luck.
Chin up dude! I only wish my sons father had some of your desire to parent and the willingness to fight to be part of his life. Hope everything works out the best for you and your son.
it will actually just be easier for me to be post in the "what made your day" thread.....
one thing there versus 100 things in this thread is much easier to type...
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
That's so sweet!
Actually, that would be a flock of sheep. Better than a band of gorillas! Or a surfeit of skunks!
Obviously was in such a traumatised state, forgot my English :oops:
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Aww, sorry Sian
Thanks Selena. I'm going to his grave on Sunday to lay flowers and his card. My Dad always made such a fuss of getting presents on father's day... I used to really love this time of year. I guess I always knew the first one after he passed would be the hardest.
It can't be helped though, the guy at work hasn't been here long, didn't know and just asked to be polite... I actually felt quite sorry for him.
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Yeah the thing is he WILL probably do it again! No fear.
Have a look at some of the pics
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=4249969&id=699734031
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=4249969&id=699734031#!/photo.php?pid=4249976&id=699734031&fbid=401344949031
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=4249969&id=699734031#!/photo.php?pid=4244809&id=699734031&fbid=401104069031
Algeria - 0
SHIT game.
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
Awww, it wouldn't let me look at the pictures.
Pennsylvania. Yesterday I got a court order in place so its no longer just a written agreement.
this is so FUCKED...
I went to pick up my son yesterday and no one was there. I called, left a voice message, left 2 texts, called her mom and left a message... and no response from anyone. So now it is court ordered and she vanishes with my son...
Happy Fathers Day right?
I've called the police and of course my attorneys office but he won't be in until Monday. In the meantime I don't know what to do... The police are pretty much powerless in this sort of situation (they even said so) but I guarantee if it was me (the MALE) who withheld access I would be on the news right now for kidnapping.
Once again... fathers have zero fucking rights.
i never understand women who withhold children from their fathers. it sux that your ex wont allow your son to spend time with you. i cant fathom her thinking. clearly its some sort of power play. and who knows what kind of rot shes filling his little head with.
when my 2 oldest were younger i had a difficult time getting their father to have them visit. there was never a court order, never would have been and still isnt. now with the two younger ones(one of whom hes never lived with) ive pretty much got weekends to myself. im very convincing these days.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
no waiting to make sure the anti biotics work is even worse. oh well. only need one leg i guess
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
I am sorry :(
Thank you
2003 ~ Toronto
2005 ~ London, Toronto
2006 ~ Toronto
2008 ~ Hartford, Mansfied I,
2009 ~ Toronto, Chicago I, Chicago II
2010 ~ Cleveland, Buffalo
2011 ~ Toronto I, Toronto II, Ottawa, Hamilton
2013 - London, Pittsburgh, Buffalo