In the spirit of V-day, humor me

GreenTeaDisease

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

well, far be it for me to make suggestions, but perhaps saying hello to someone who is also alone at a show could be a positive thing....not too much downside, IMHO.

lol, does anyone besides me go to shows alone?

DaytimeDilemma

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

lol, does anyone besides me go to shows alone?

I do occasionally.

Whizbang

DaytimeDilemma wrote:

I do occasionally.

same here.....

Obsidian22

A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.

So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).

I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.

Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.

As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"

It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.

You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers

PJPixie

Obsidian22 wrote:

A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.

So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).

I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.

Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.

As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"

It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.

You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers

Dutch Ovens!!! ha ha hahahahah.............one of the things I DON'T miss about being married!!

lalalalaaaaaaaa

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

lol, does anyone besides me go to shows alone?

I do sometimes...but no one buys me drinks that way!

GreenTeaDisease

Obsidian22 wrote:

A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.

So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).

I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.

Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.

As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"

It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.

You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers

dutch ovens???

I don't really take any of this very seriously. I mean right now, I am pretty ok with never even dating again-like it doesn't bother me because I know it's not really an important part of life. But I do get bored sometimes and I think it would be something to do. I don't *dis*like it.

Oh and trust me, I am definitely "myself."

sorry one more thing- I don't think anyone should ever tell anyone "it will happen." that is not necessarily true (and frankly, having heard literally since I was 15 years old, I'm pretty sick of it personally). And it's somewhat condescending. Oh and what is "it"?

GreenTeaDisease

Saturnal wrote:

I do sometimes...but no one buys me drinks that way!

who buys you drinks when you go with someone else?

lalalalaaaaaaaa

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

who buys you drinks when you go with someone else?

They do...my friends. But only sometimes.

Jeanie

Obsidian22 wrote:

A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.

So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).

I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.

Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.

As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"

It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.

You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers

I still got everything crossed here for you and M, lovely girl.

You two really are beautiful together and I'm so happy for you.

But you can keep the dutch oven! :eek:

GreenTeaDisease

Jeanie wrote:

I still got everything crossed here for you and M, lovely girl.

You two really are beautiful together and I'm so happy for you.

But you can keep the dutch oven! :eek:

ok, what the f--- is a dutch oven!

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

dutch ovens???

Trust me you don't want to know.

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

sorry one more thing- I don't think anyone should ever tell anyone "it will happen." that is not necessarily true (and frankly, having heard literally since I was 15 years old, I'm pretty sick of it personally). And it's somewhat condescending. Oh and what is "it"?

I used to hate hearing that too and I agree it isn't necessarily true. It's not going to "just happen" for all of us but it does happen that way for a lot of people. Ahnimus could explain it all to you from a scientific point of view. How it's all about pheremones and the like, and some people will insist that it's all about fate. I do think that alot of the time it is just about weird little things happening in the universe. Connection. It's hard to explain I guess.
I probably haven't helped at all.

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

ok, what the f--- is a dutch oven!

it's when one of you farts in the bed and then pulls the covers up on the other so you're trapped in there with the stench. :eek:

told you you didn't want to know.

GreenTeaDisease

Jeanie wrote:

Trust me you don't want to know.






I used to hate hearing that too and I agree it isn't necessarily true. It's not going to "just happen" for all of us but it does happen that way for a lot of people. Ahnimus could explain it all to you from a scientific point of view. How it's all about pheremones and the like, and some people will insist that it's all about fate. I do think that alot of the time it is just about weird little things happening in the universe. Connection. It's hard to explain I guess.
I probably haven't helped at all.

I believe in the pheremone/scientific thing. totally. I don't think I have good chemicals because I have been on birth control for a long time (also I think I might have too many male hormones and stuff because I am hairier than most women). I seriously believe that. I believe it's due to chemicals more than anything else.

GreenTeaDisease

Jeanie wrote:

it's when one of you farts in the bed and then pulls the covers up on the other so you're trapped in there with the stench. :eek:

told you you didn't want to know.

oh I don't think you need to be married to experience THAt.

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I believe in the pheremone/scientific thing. totally. I don't think I have good chemicals because I have been on birth control for a long time (also I think I might have too many male hormones and stuff because I am hairier than most women). I seriously believe that. I believe it's due to chemicals more than anything else.

Me too, but I also believe that there is an element of "kismet" or a randomness to how people meet and are attracted to each other. Maybe that has to do with mathematics and the like? Shame we don't have more stats on it.

You know GTD, what you're describing regarding your hormones sounds suspiciously like polycystic ovarian syndrome to me. Not that I'm a doctor or qualified but much of what you describe regarding hormones is symptomatic of PCOS. Something that can be treated.

I understand what you're saying because I've often wondered about it all myself. Ultimately though none of us knows. I've also always thought that perhaps the problem when it comes to me is that I'm pretty independent and maybe that's not what guys are really looking for?

It's complicated huh?

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

oh I don't think you need to be married to experience THAt.

Oh I know you don't! Having suffered it myself. :eek:

GreenTeaDisease

Jeanie wrote:

Me too, but I also believe that there is an element of "kismet" or a randomness to how people meet and are attracted to each other. Maybe that has to do with mathematics and the like? Shame we don't have more stats on it.

You know GTD, what you're describing regarding your hormones sounds suspiciously like polycystic ovarian syndrome to me. Not that I'm a doctor or qualified but much of what you describe regarding hormones is symptomatic of PCOS. Something that can be treated.

I understand what you're saying because I've often wondered about it all myself. Ultimately though none of us knows. I've also always thought that perhaps the problem when it comes to me is that I'm pretty independent and maybe that's not what guys are really looking for?

It's complicated huh?

yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.

I wonder about PCOS, but I asked one doctor and she poo-poo'd it. I plan to ask my new doctor this spring. unfortunately, there's not a whole lot can be done about it anyway!

xavier mcdaniel

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

lol, does anyone besides me go to shows alone?

I went to the Meadowlands show in 2006 alone. Even went to LA alone and sat next to a cool girl who is a big music fan but had never seen Pearl Jam before.

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.

Sorry, I'm not laughing at you, I'm giggling at how much you are like how I was. Sometimes I wish I was that way again.
I'm not interested in changing me in order to "catch" a fella and I don't "need" one to enjoy my life, but I must say it would be nice to have that level of intimacy with some one again but as they say, que sera sera.

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I wonder about PCOS, but I asked one doctor and she poo-poo'd it. I plan to ask my new doctor this spring. unfortunately, there's not a whole lot can be done about it anyway!

Yeah, don't let them put you off. Some doctors will do that. You should get it investigated so you know one way or the other. There are some great things that can be done to help if you find out you have them.