In the spirit of V-day, humor me

GreenTeaDisease

jamainiac wrote:

Do you mean that literally? I don't think people 'randomly' kiss people... welll some people might...

well I have a few times. they've all been irish, which used to seem like a weird coincidence but now thanks to helen I've had it explained...

jamainiac wrote:

I don't think that you can try to explain physical chemistry in a plain, logical sense...

Being 'in love' with someone is different things to different people...

'Falling in Love' and 'Being in Love' are very different as well...

My best explanation of what 'falling in love' feels like is 'complete retardation'

'Being in Love' on the other hand... is the most beautiful, sound, secure feeling in the world... feeling like you are exactly where you belong... with the person you belong with

I'm not necessarily talk about "falling in love." I'm talking like, starting any type of relationship whether it be a hook up, a month of dating, or like forever. whatever. I just don't get how it all happens in the first place.

Steve Dunne

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

alcohol is looking like a common denomenator.

True. But I was in that bar for 7 hours before she did that.

blackredyellow

jamainiac wrote:

My best explanation of what 'falling in love' feels like is 'complete retardation'

You nailed it with that one

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

alcohol is looking like a common denomenator.

There was no alcohol involved in our kiss. But, we had an unusual meeting and courtship!

GreenTeaDisease

blackredyellow wrote:

I kissed her after the first date...

how/why did you kiss her if you already knew her in a work relationship?

Brain of J.Lo

jamainiac wrote:

My best explanation of what 'falling in love' feels like is 'complete retardation'

Yes! Combine that with a warm buzz that lasts for months on end, and that's how I felt.

blackredyellow

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

how/why did you kiss her if you already knew her in a work relationship?

not sure what you mean?

how? when she got out of my car after the first date I grabbed her and kissed her

why? because I really liked her

wolfbear

1. Our parents were partners.

2. He was married when I met him, and I was friends with his wife. They later divorced. I tried setting him up with friends of mine but nothing worked out. Then we just became really good friends. Then we fell in love. He says he knew before me- it took me a little longer as I did just think of him as a friend at first.

GreenTeaDisease

pearljamjen wrote:

With my ex:

We worked in the same office (though not in the same department, but our cubicles were right next to each other). When I first started, he kept trying to introduce himself to me, but every time he came over I was always on the phone! Finally he did, and every day we would chat. Also, the way my desk was set-up, the person who worked there before me had a mirror above her computer so she could see when someone walked up behind her. Well, I noticed that every time he walked by he would always look over at me. Things were flirty between us, but sometimes it is hard to tell when someone "likes" you that way. Then for the holidays I baked some people cookies, and I gave him a plate. A couple days later, he had left a note on my desk thanking me for the cookies and asking me out for a drink! We had to keep it a secret because he was a student worker and even though we worked in units didn't want people to know...although the people next to us know.

But still, I agree that sometimes it is hard to tell if you are a couple. But one time I was at his apartment and his roommate asked us, "So, are you guys like a couple now?" I was so embarrassed, but my ex said "yes." And then we were a couple! After that things got crappy and I would've been better offnot dating him, but I guess it is a cute story anyway!

ok see this is somewhat useful, he asked you out on a date in such a way that it was clear he was asking you out on a DATE, even though you knew each other work, so I guess from there it is the same as getting a date on match.com. I mean you can't just go out and replicate this, because someone needs to want to ask you out on a date. but I get it, this is a nice simple one (though I am surprised that someone asked a coworker out on a date...I wish I could ask HIM what was going through HIS mind).

GreenTeaDisease

blackredyellow wrote:

not sure what you mean?

how? when she got out of my car after the first date I grabbed her and kissed her

why? because I really liked her

so...you just kissed someone you had to see everyday? shit. that's craziness!

WildChildRose

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

I met my fiance through a friend. I was over at her house and he was coming over (he is her little brother). He needed a place to stay so my roommate invited him to stay at our house. I was cool with that too. We became really good friends and started hanging out a lot.



2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

Well we were flirty a lot. We both knew we liked each other but I had some reservations. He even texted me one day and asked why we couldn't go out.... One day some other guy came over and showed a lot of interest. I was bored at the time so I was going to go out with him. Tommy, my fiance, and I were sitting in the living room and he just kissed me, picked me up and took me up to my room. And the rest is history! ;-D

thanks for the help with my research!!![/quote]

jamainiac

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'm not necessarily talk about "falling in love." I'm talking like, starting any type of relationship whether it be a hook up, a month of dating, or like forever. whatever. I just don't get how it all happens in the first place.

Well... it starts with 'intention'...

physical attraction...

one person feels 'excited' ... 'interested' in becoming physically intimate with another person... they show signs of this... either subtly or overtly... could be a gently brush against someone's arm, making direct eye contact... or more direct by kissing or full body hug...

if the intial contact is accepted and reciprocated by the other... the physical intimacy progresses...

Boy... that sounds dry and clincial :( maybe you should try reading some light erotica ?? Might get your system charged up and firing...

GreenTeaDisease

WildChildRose wrote:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

I met my fiance through a friend. I was over at her house and he was coming over (he is her little brother). He needed a place to stay so my roommate invited him to stay at our house. I was cool with that too. We became really good friends and started hanging out a lot.



2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

Well we were flirty a lot. We both knew we liked each other but I had some reservations. He even texted me one day and asked why we couldn't go out.... One day some other guy came over and showed a lot of interest. I was bored at the time so I was going to go out with him. Tommy, my fiance, and I were sitting in the living room and he just kissed me, picked me up and took me up to my room. And the rest is history! ;-D

thanks for the help with my research!!!

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hmm for a lot of people here, the other person liked them enough to make some kind of unmistakable move.

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

hmm for a lot of people here, the other person liked them enough to make some kind of unmistakable move.

If one doesn't do anything, how is anything supposed to happen?

GreenTeaDisease

jamainiac wrote:

Well... it starts with 'intention'...

physical attraction...

one person feels 'excited' ... 'interested' in becoming physically intimate with another person... they show signs of this... either subtly or overtly... could be a gently brush against someone's arm, making direct eye contact... or more direct by kissing or full body hug...

if the intial contact is accepted and reciprocated by the other... the physical intimacy progresses...

Boy... that sounds dry and clincial :( maybe you should try reading some light erotica ?? Might get your system charged up and firing...

haha I don't need to get my system charged up. I'm not taking my pills this week because I kept forgetting to go to the pharmacy, so now I have to wait until sunday to NOT be fired up anymore...

hmmm, I've flirted with a few people before, but it's never progressed the way you put it-it doesn't go any further. after reading some of these things I think maybe I am just not attractive/likable. But then I think that I *know* people who have obviously had things progress the right way and they aren't attractive or nice or interesting.

jamainiac

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

haha I don't need to get my system charged up. I'm not taking my pills this week because I kept forgetting to go to the pharmacy, so now I have to wait until sunday to NOT be fired up anymore...

hmmm, I've flirted with a few people before, but it's never progressed the way you put it-it doesn't go any further. after reading some of these things I think maybe I am just not attractive/likable. But then I think that I *know* people who have obviously had things progress the right way and they aren't attractive or nice or interesting.

This I KNOW is true...

You are what you project...

GreenTeaDisease

sennin wrote:

If one doesn't do anything, how is anything supposed to happen?

well that's really exactly what I'm trying to get at. No one's ever "done" anything to me, so I don't know what goes down in that part.

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1) I met my wife when I was in college. We lived in the same dorm my sophomore year and met through a mutual friend.

2) We met in January and started our romantic relationship in April. At first we were just in the friends and getting to know each other stage. Then I think we both realized we had feelings for one another and we started flirting around the beginning of March. When I knew that I wanted to be in a relationship with her, I finally mustered enough courage to just tell her how I felt and that I wanted to be with her. 5 years later and now we're married and are happily in love.

comebackwoman

1) We met on here...specifically on the msn thread
2) And we transitioned by chatting...then phone calls...then in-person visits...just getting to know each other, talking about similar interests and being really open.

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well that's really exactly what I'm trying to get at. No one's ever "done" anything to me, so I don't know what goes down in that part.

How about trying to do something?