In the spirit of V-day, humor me

GreenTeaDisease

jamainiac wrote:

This I KNOW is true...

You are what you project...

well I think I project that I am nice and interesting, better than a lot of people I know!. I'm pretty unattractive at the moment, but for a couple years I was fairly attractive.

I think I must be giving off some sort of chemical or something that is bad?

jamainiac

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well that's really exactly what I'm trying to get at. No one's ever "done" anything to me, so I don't know what goes down in that part.

perhaps you have to try being the aggressor?

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well that's really exactly what I'm trying to get at. No one's ever "done" anything to me, so I don't know what goes down in that part.

So do it to them and see where it takes you.....


wait, that sounds dirty

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well I think I project that I am nice and interesting, better than a lot of people I know!. I'm pretty unattractive at the moment, but for a couple years I was fairly attractive.

I think I must be giving off some sort of chemical or something that is bad?

No chemical....

From the sounds of it....you aren't interested in being "moved" in on. Whether intentional or not, women give signals on whether your move is ok or not.

Make some eye contact with men...give a smile...I bet some will make a move.

DaytimeDilemma

Yeah, on the reals though, all my former girlfriends made the first move on me except like one.

GreenTeaDisease

sennin wrote:

How about trying to do something?

well I have a few times, but it doesn't go down the way it normally does (I am probably not doing something right). But I don't get all that many chances to try anyway.

when it comes down to it, I've had to try to do something a lot, while most other girls seem to just sit back and they come to them. I'm always worrying about whether *I* should make a move (it's never really crossed my mind that a guy would actually make a move on me). I guess that's why I'm so interested in how these moves are made.

GreenTeaDisease

sennin wrote:

N Whether intentional or not, women give signals on whether your move is ok or not.

what are the signals?

blackredyellow

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

so...you just kissed someone you had to see everyday? shit. that's craziness!

Like I said, we talked a lot leading up to it... You kind of get an idea that the other person has feelings too. It's not like I just walked up to some random girl at work and planted one on her.

At some point you have to take a chance, or you will never get anything.

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

what are the signals?

a look (not a creepy stare), a laugh, a smile, a touch (even just a light rush on thier shoulder or hand when you talk)....your body language. You dont' have to speak your intensions.

jamainiac

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

what are the signals?

If the girl you are with is interested in you, she will exhibit certain signs of attraction and arousal. Each little mannerism, for example the sparkle in her eyes, her tone of voice, her body language should be taken into consideration when trying to decide if the lady you are with is genuinely interested in you.

Signs Of Arousal

Wide, easy smiles accompanied with a relaxed face. She blushes frequently and her skin tone become redder.

She maintains eye contact throughout and her pupils are dilated (they become larger). She would often blink more frequently than usual and her eye lashes flutter. You might even notice a sparkle in her eye. The eyes are windows to the soul and are one of the most accurate ways of telling if she is attracted to you.

Subconscious biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, wetting her lips or even chewing her fingernails.

While talking, she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass (or any cylindrical object) up and down with her thumb and index finger. (reveals what she is thinking of, if you get my meaning) She might also be fiddling with her jewelry.

She starts sitting up and her arms aren't limp. If her crossed leg is pointing in your general direction and rocking back and forth.

She adjusts the tone and pitch of her voice to match yours. In fact, any sigh that she is mimicking you can be taken as a sign of interest. For example, laughing in unison or crossing her legs if you've crossed yours.

She winks at you in the middle of a conversation or even from a distance. This means she really is interested in you. Even exposing the palms of her hand facing you show that she might be interested in you as it has been proven to be a subconscious sign telling you that she has nothing to hide.

She twirls her hair around her fingers or perhaps strokes her hair lightly with her hand while maintaining eye contact.

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xavier mcdaniel

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

the last one was a really long time ago and that was at work

we were friends, significant others, back to friends and now she's married

GreenTeaDisease

blackredyellow wrote:

L You kind of get an idea that the other person has feelings too.

Is there a way to know this? Every time I've had this feeling, I've been wrong. I mean everything SEEMS to line up with what people say, but I still get it wrong. It's like every math test I've ever taken, I *know* the stuff, but I still get the wrong answer.

ok I'm going to give an example here. A couple years ago when I was in grad school I was taking a class through a different program. there was this cute guy in the class...I assumed he was out of my league, so I would just kinda look at him and smile and stuff, never bothered trying anything. One day I was sitting there before class and I looked up from what I was doing and out of nowhere, he walks all the way around the room, sticks his hand out, and just introduces himself, for no reason. I was so shocked, I could barely remember my name. I figured no one would do this if they weren't like interested, you know. So I took every excuse to talk to him and even once emailed him for some stupid reason! But nothing happened...he never asked me out. But still it was just so weird, it really seemed like he liked me. My friend who knew him said he was just a really friendly guy.

GreenTeaDisease

sennin wrote:

a look (not a creepy stare), a laugh, a smile, a touch (even just a light rush on thier shoulder or hand when you talk)....your body language. You dont' have to speak your intensions.

:( I do this. I must be doing it wrong.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

jamainiac wrote:

Signs Of Arousal

Wide, easy smiles accompanied with a relaxed face. She blushes frequently and her skin tone become redder.

She maintains eye contact throughout and her pupils are dilated (they become larger). She would often blink more frequently than usual and her eye lashes flutter. You might even notice a sparkle in her eye.

These are also signs that she's about to vomit, fyi.

GreenTeaDisease

Saturnal wrote:

These are also signs that she's about to vomit, fyi.

that is freaking hilarious.

jamainiac

http://www.getsmartseries.com/Articles/fabflirt.htm

sennin

jamainiac wrote:

If the girl you are with is interested in you, she will exhibit certain signs of attraction and arousal. Each little mannerism, for example the sparkle in her eyes, her tone of voice, her body language should be taken into consideration when trying to decide if the lady you are with is genuinely interested in you.

Signs Of Arousal

Wide, easy smiles accompanied with a relaxed face. She blushes frequently and her skin tone become redder.

She maintains eye contact throughout and her pupils are dilated (they become larger). She would often blink more frequently than usual and her eye lashes flutter. You might even notice a sparkle in her eye. The eyes are windows to the soul and are one of the most accurate ways of telling if she is attracted to you.

Subconscious biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, wetting her lips or even chewing her fingernails.

While talking, she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass (or any cylindrical object) up and down with her thumb and index finger. (reveals what she is thinking of, if you get my meaning) She might also be fiddling with her jewelry.

She starts sitting up and her arms aren't limp. If her crossed leg is pointing in your general direction and rocking back and forth.

She adjusts the tone and pitch of her voice to match yours. In fact, any sigh that she is mimicking you can be taken as a sign of interest. For example, laughing in unison or crossing her legs if you've crossed yours.

She winks at you in the middle of a conversation or even from a distance. This means she really is interested in you. Even exposing the palms of her hand facing you show that she might be interested in you as it has been proven to be a subconscious sign telling you that she has nothing to hide.

She twirls her hair around her fingers or perhaps strokes her hair lightly with her hand while maintaining eye contact.

---

Should you have any questions, you can use the Romance Forums to post your queries and give advice. If you found the information here helpful, could you return the favor by referring us to a friend? It's the least you can do.

Is this from 1952?

blackredyellow

Saturnal wrote:

These are also signs that she's about to vomit, fyi.

You win some, you lose some

MattCameronKicksButt

1, a nightclub. (Actually, we met through mutual friends).

2, he got my number and we went on a date.

Obsidian22

1.I was reluctantly set-up. A mutual friend conned me into going to the hardware store to get paint. She brought her dog with us. I clued in when we got there. She said " put some lip gloss on!". I almost ran away. "oh shit, she's setting me up!" I thought.
We go in, her dog in tow, and he makes a b-line to this guy covered in tatoos, and covers him with licks and love.
I'm thinking hmmmm! I am not sure and I go hide behind the paintchips.My palms start sweating, my heart starts beating and then he comes over and asks me" what are you looking for? What color?" with a big smile.
I stammer and try and get out something that kind of resembles english and paint color. " Do you have any suede paint, you know the kind that is a little texturized?"
2.He left with us and comes back for dinner. First he fixed her Bar-B Que and cooked us steaks. We had about 2 hours to talk,all 3 of us, then he walked me home. Then a little magic happened.
3. He wrote his number on a notepad piece of paper with his full name. I laughed at it. His last name is sooooo common. I added " Are you serious, that's your last name?" "Yeah, it is!"
4.Transition was pretty immediate from there: I stood two steps higher than him on my stairs outside my apartment, so we were face to face and I planted a kiss on his lips. Wow! Electric and very tender. 10 seconds, enough to feel the warmth of his breath and softness of his lips. No tongue.

5.Then I couldn't sleep for hours, I was floating. I felt like I was 15 again, being kissed for the very first time.
6.He called me the next day. I made him wait for "it" for 3 weeks.It was torture for me as well, but so worth it.