well, far be it for me to make suggestions, but perhaps saying hello to someone who is also alone at a show could be a positive thing....not too much downside, IMHO.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.
So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).
I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.
Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.
As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"
It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.
You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's Soul remains Unawakened.
Anatole France
A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.
So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).
I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.
Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.
As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"
It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.
You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers
Dutch Ovens!!! ha ha hahahahah.............one of the things I DON'T miss about being married!!
The best use of Life is Love.
The best expression of Love is Time.
The best time to Love is Now.
A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.
So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).
I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.
Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.
As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"
It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.
You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers
dutch ovens???
I don't really take any of this very seriously. I mean right now, I am pretty ok with never even dating again-like it doesn't bother me because I know it's not really an important part of life. But I do get bored sometimes and I think it would be something to do. I don't *dis*like it.
Oh and trust me, I am definitely "myself."
sorry one more thing- I don't think anyone should ever tell anyone "it will happen." that is not necessarily true (and frankly, having heard literally since I was 15 years old, I'm pretty sick of it personally). And it's somewhat condescending. Oh and what is "it"?
A gother in love..my spelling has been atrocious for a week now.
So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).
I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.
Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.
As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"
It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.
You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers
I still got everything crossed here for you and M, lovely girl.
You two really are beautiful together and I'm so happy for you.
sorry one more thing- I don't think anyone should ever tell anyone "it will happen." that is not necessarily true (and frankly, having heard literally since I was 15 years old, I'm pretty sick of it personally). And it's somewhat condescending. Oh and what is "it"?
I used to hate hearing that too and I agree it isn't necessarily true. It's not going to "just happen" for all of us but it does happen that way for a lot of people. Ahnimus could explain it all to you from a scientific point of view. How it's all about pheremones and the like, and some people will insist that it's all about fate. I do think that alot of the time it is just about weird little things happening in the universe. Connection. It's hard to explain I guess.
I probably haven't helped at all.
I used to hate hearing that too and I agree it isn't necessarily true. It's not going to "just happen" for all of us but it does happen that way for a lot of people. Ahnimus could explain it all to you from a scientific point of view. How it's all about pheremones and the like, and some people will insist that it's all about fate. I do think that alot of the time it is just about weird little things happening in the universe. Connection. It's hard to explain I guess.
I probably haven't helped at all.
I believe in the pheremone/scientific thing. totally. I don't think I have good chemicals because I have been on birth control for a long time (also I think I might have too many male hormones and stuff because I am hairier than most women). I seriously believe that. I believe it's due to chemicals more than anything else.
I believe in the pheremone/scientific thing. totally. I don't think I have good chemicals because I have been on birth control for a long time (also I think I might have too many male hormones and stuff because I am hairier than most women). I seriously believe that. I believe it's due to chemicals more than anything else.
Me too, but I also believe that there is an element of "kismet" or a randomness to how people meet and are attracted to each other. Maybe that has to do with mathematics and the like? Shame we don't have more stats on it.
You know GTD, what you're describing regarding your hormones sounds suspiciously like polycystic ovarian syndrome to me. Not that I'm a doctor or qualified but much of what you describe regarding hormones is symptomatic of PCOS. Something that can be treated.
I understand what you're saying because I've often wondered about it all myself. Ultimately though none of us knows. I've also always thought that perhaps the problem when it comes to me is that I'm pretty independent and maybe that's not what guys are really looking for?
Me too, but I also believe that there is an element of "kismet" or a randomness to how people meet and are attracted to each other. Maybe that has to do with mathematics and the like? Shame we don't have more stats on it.
You know GTD, what you're describing regarding your hormones sounds suspiciously like polycystic ovarian syndrome to me. Not that I'm a doctor or qualified but much of what you describe regarding hormones is symptomatic of PCOS. Something that can be treated.
I understand what you're saying because I've often wondered about it all myself. Ultimately though none of us knows. I've also always thought that perhaps the problem when it comes to me is that I'm pretty independent and maybe that's not what guys are really looking for?
It's complicated huh?
yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.
I wonder about PCOS, but I asked one doctor and she poo-poo'd it. I plan to ask my new doctor this spring. unfortunately, there's not a whole lot can be done about it anyway!
I went to the Meadowlands show in 2006 alone. Even went to LA alone and sat next to a cool girl who is a big music fan but had never seen Pearl Jam before.
Reading 2004
Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
Chicago 2007
Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016 Fenway 2, 2018 MSG 2022 St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023 MSG 2024, MSG 2024 Philadelphia 2024
"I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
Things happen in the game. Nothing you
can do. I don't go and say,
"I'm gonna beat this guy up."
yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.
Sorry, I'm not laughing at you, I'm giggling at how much you are like how I was. Sometimes I wish I was that way again.
I'm not interested in changing me in order to "catch" a fella and I don't "need" one to enjoy my life, but I must say it would be nice to have that level of intimacy with some one again but as they say, que sera sera.
I wonder about PCOS, but I asked one doctor and she poo-poo'd it. I plan to ask my new doctor this spring. unfortunately, there's not a whole lot can be done about it anyway!
Yeah, don't let them put you off. Some doctors will do that. You should get it investigated so you know one way or the other. There are some great things that can be done to help if you find out you have them.
yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.
other than the "crapped excellence" part, take a look at my signature line.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
lol, well I guess we do need oxygen, water, food, and some money .
funny part about that quote? got that from a guy I dated. He claimed he was attracted to my independent spirit but he was ultimately too scared to handle it and said he "needed" a girl who he could take care of.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
funny part about that quote? got that from a guy I dated. He claimed he was attracted to my independent spirit but he was ultimately too scared to handle it and said he "needed" a girl who he could take care of.
haha I'm trying to picture you being taken care of by some dude...
haha I'm trying to picture you being taken care of by some dude...
STILL TRYING!
pretty funny, eh? I mean....I suppose I could keep one around to kill spiders? It's not easy being with me so I admire a guy who's got the sack to stand as my partner and not lose himself or expect me to change to fit some housewife or wallflower role.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
funny part about that quote? got that from a guy I dated. He claimed he was attracted to my independent spirit but he was ultimately too scared to handle it and said he "needed" a girl who he could take care of.
honestly it is really unbelievable how common a sentiment this is among guys. a lot of times they do want a girl who "needs" them. I've heard of guys dumping my friends because another girl need them to "fix" her. I think it is very common. Of course I'm not saying all men want this, I'm just saying that I've heard of it a number of times that I find surprising.
honestly it is really unbelievable how common a sentiment this is among guys. a lot of times they do want a girl who "needs" them. I've heard of guys dumping my friends because another girl need them to "fix" her. I think it is very common. Of course I'm not saying all men want this, I'm just saying that I've heard of it a number of times that I find surprising.
I know what you mean. There are plenty of women looking to have a man take care of her; plenty of men who want a woman they can take care of. Kind of goes to the generalization of "women get married to change a man; men get married hoping she'll never change. Again, a generalization based on some experiences and living/seeing life. Every marriage I've seen stand the test of time has been examples of true partnership where partners were there for each other with little or no emphesis on traditional gender roles.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
hahahhaa... I called that and knew you were gonna come up with that one!
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Do you mean that literally? I don't think people 'randomly' kiss people... welll some people might...
I don't think that you can try to explain physical chemistry in a plain, logical sense...
Being 'in love' with someone is different things to different people...
'Falling in Love' and 'Being in Love' are very different as well...
My best explanation of what 'falling in love' feels like is 'complete retardation'
'Being in Love' on the other hand... is the most beautiful, sound, secure feeling in the world... feeling like you are exactly where you belong... with the person you belong with
Beautifully and very very well put
But I have to disagree with the random kissing thing you've never been in temple bar, have ya?
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Oh I don't really worry about it per se. I like being single, and I don't think that dating is all it's cracked up to be (but that's sort of why I am interested in this because all my friends say it's because I haven't met the "right" people). I've just been starting to get bored lately as my job is less than inspiring, and I realized that if I want to date again, I'm going to be screwed because I really don't know how. I'm basically back in the same place I was like 6 years ago. Without online dating plus the extra 40 lbs, I'm pretty much screwed. And as far is this thread goes, I've just never understood how it all works and it really baffles me, so I thought I would try to figure it out once and for all.
Until 2 years ago... I'd been single for 6 years too and ya kinda resign yourself to the fact that you're never gonna find anyone, that this is just how it's gonna be and how it's meant to be... then some guy came along, was sat beside him at a rugby match and we got chatting and went to the pub after the match (along with my friend and his friend). That one took a bit of trying and effort on both our parts, it was still good but it wasn't gonna last and it didn't... BUT it was that few months with him that kinda got me realising that I CAN do this... ya just never know where they're gonna come from.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
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lol, does anyone besides me go to shows alone?
I do occasionally.
same here.....
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
So Greenteadisease, words of wisdom for you.
I was underweight and a nervous nelly and bitter for 5 years(age26-31).
I basically gave up on finding my mate, and left it up to the universe.I wrote in a journal about the attributes I wanted in a man/partner. They were corny, but I never gave up on Love. In my heart I knew I just wanted to be with someone who gave a damn about this world, the earth, and animals.
Our paths crossed through a mutual friend. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't tell him "I Love you". He's my hero.
As once stated above, be yourself, be honest and act on your impulses. The fact that I kissed him on the first meeting really did a number on him. He liked that alot. Guys have a hard time with making the first move. They won't tell you that until later. I still had him on "hold" for 2 months, as he had also.
I still remember the day he told me "thank god you're not a psycho!"
It's absolutley liberating to just not play head games and be your honest self with someone who cares. It will happen...have faith in yourself.
You have "dutch ovens" to look forward to.(when you're really comfortable with your mate!!) there's the humour.
cheers
Anatole France
Dutch Ovens!!! ha ha hahahahah.............one of the things I DON'T miss about being married!!
The best expression of Love is Time.
The best time to Love is Now.
I'm never as good as when you're there.........
dutch ovens???
I don't really take any of this very seriously. I mean right now, I am pretty ok with never even dating again-like it doesn't bother me because I know it's not really an important part of life. But I do get bored sometimes and I think it would be something to do. I don't *dis*like it.
Oh and trust me, I am definitely "myself."
sorry one more thing- I don't think anyone should ever tell anyone "it will happen." that is not necessarily true (and frankly, having heard literally since I was 15 years old, I'm pretty sick of it personally). And it's somewhat condescending. Oh and what is "it"?
who buys you drinks when you go with someone else?
I still got everything crossed here for you and M, lovely girl.
You two really are beautiful together and I'm so happy for you.
But you can keep the dutch oven! :eek:
*~You're IT Bert!~*
Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
ok, what the f--- is a dutch oven!
Trust me you don't want to know.
I used to hate hearing that too and I agree it isn't necessarily true. It's not going to "just happen" for all of us but it does happen that way for a lot of people. Ahnimus could explain it all to you from a scientific point of view. How it's all about pheremones and the like, and some people will insist that it's all about fate. I do think that alot of the time it is just about weird little things happening in the universe. Connection. It's hard to explain I guess.
I probably haven't helped at all.
*~You're IT Bert!~*
Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
it's when one of you farts in the bed and then pulls the covers up on the other so you're trapped in there with the stench. :eek:
told you you didn't want to know.
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Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
I believe in the pheremone/scientific thing. totally. I don't think I have good chemicals because I have been on birth control for a long time (also I think I might have too many male hormones and stuff because I am hairier than most women). I seriously believe that. I believe it's due to chemicals more than anything else.
oh I don't think you need to be married to experience THAt.
Me too, but I also believe that there is an element of "kismet" or a randomness to how people meet and are attracted to each other. Maybe that has to do with mathematics and the like? Shame we don't have more stats on it.
You know GTD, what you're describing regarding your hormones sounds suspiciously like polycystic ovarian syndrome to me. Not that I'm a doctor or qualified but much of what you describe regarding hormones is symptomatic of PCOS. Something that can be treated.
I understand what you're saying because I've often wondered about it all myself. Ultimately though none of us knows. I've also always thought that perhaps the problem when it comes to me is that I'm pretty independent and maybe that's not what guys are really looking for?
It's complicated huh?
*~You're IT Bert!~*
Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
Oh I know you don't!
*~You're IT Bert!~*
Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
yeah I am extremely independent too. I don't look like I need a man. But if I have to change that to get one, I would rather be alone, because frankly I *don't* need one.
I wonder about PCOS, but I asked one doctor and she poo-poo'd it. I plan to ask my new doctor this spring. unfortunately, there's not a whole lot can be done about it anyway!
I went to the Meadowlands show in 2006 alone. Even went to LA alone and sat next to a cool girl who is a big music fan but had never seen Pearl Jam before.
Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
Chicago 2007
Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
Fenway 2, 2018
MSG 2022
St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
MSG 2024, MSG 2024
Philadelphia 2024
"I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
Things happen in the game. Nothing you
can do. I don't go and say,
"I'm gonna beat this guy up."
I'm not interested in changing me in order to "catch" a fella and I don't "need" one to enjoy my life, but I must say it would be nice to have that level of intimacy with some one again but as they say, que sera sera.
Yeah, don't let them put you off. Some doctors will do that. You should get it investigated so you know one way or the other. There are some great things that can be done to help if you find out you have them.
*~You're IT Bert!~*
Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
other than the "crapped excellence" part, take a look at my signature line.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
lol, well I guess we do need oxygen, water, food, and some money
funny part about that quote? got that from a guy I dated. He claimed he was attracted to my independent spirit but he was ultimately too scared to handle it and said he "needed" a girl who he could take care of.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
STILL TRYING!
pretty funny, eh? I mean....I suppose I could keep one around to kill spiders? It's not easy being with me so I admire a guy who's got the sack to stand as my partner and not lose himself or expect me to change to fit some housewife or wallflower role.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
honestly it is really unbelievable how common a sentiment this is among guys. a lot of times they do want a girl who "needs" them. I've heard of guys dumping my friends because another girl need them to "fix" her. I think it is very common. Of course I'm not saying all men want this, I'm just saying that I've heard of it a number of times that I find surprising.
I know what you mean. There are plenty of women looking to have a man take care of her; plenty of men who want a woman they can take care of. Kind of goes to the generalization of "women get married to change a man; men get married hoping she'll never change. Again, a generalization based on some experiences and living/seeing life. Every marriage I've seen stand the test of time has been examples of true partnership where partners were there for each other with little or no emphesis on traditional gender roles.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Beautifully and very very well put
But I have to disagree with the random kissing thing
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you