In the spirit of V-day, humor me

GreenTeaDisease

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1. Here
2. A kiss in Calgary after a PJ show.

GreenTeaDisease

sennin wrote:

1. Here
2. A kiss in Calgary after a PJ show.

follow up: how did you get to kissing?

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1. Oslo... part of a PJ meetup... one of the girls brought her brother!

2. No transition... it's all just kinda happened.

Sorry I can't be much help

NY PJ1

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1) got the # from a phone book

2.) i payed them

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1.) On the Joe Bonamassa BBS. It wasn't love at first site, but I noticed that he was funny and smart. I also remembered his username from the message pit and had actually laughed about it with my college BF years before I ever actually talked to him.

2.) We chatted and chatted and chatted and became really good friends, and though we never acknowledged it, we started to have "romantic" feelings for each other. He came to visit me, and then we knew we were more than just best friends, and then we lived happily ever after.

Rygar

NY PJ1 wrote:

1) got the # from a phone book

2.) i payed them

This may be your finest post to date.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

2. No transition... it's all just kinda happened.

:( this is why I can't figure all this out...no one ever discloses this part of the secret!!!

GreenTeaDisease

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

and then we knew we were more than just best friends,

how?

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

:( this is why I can't figure all this out...no one ever discloses this part of the secret!!!

that's cos I'm as surprised as you are... there IS no big secret... when it's right, it just happens. I could go into all the details if you like but they don't illustrate a transition... it's not like a jump from one phase to the other... it's all just... happened! And suddenly we are where we are

chinobaeza

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship?

1) grad-school
2)still don't know...;)

NY PJ1 wrote:

2.) i payed them

them?? :eek:

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

how?

Well, basically we both knew before actually meeting that we loved each other, but wanted to make sure that our perceptions of each other were accurate before we would actually really admit it to ourselves or each other. Once we were in the same room, and it was exactly the same as it was online (meaning we talked and laughed as effortlessly and were having a great time), we were certain that we loved each other.

We were very touchy-feely with each other, and then finally he kissed me on the nose...lol...and then I kissed him and that sealed the deal.

Heineken Helen

Oh and the reason there was no transition between us meeting and being in a relationship was cos we kissed the night we met and it just kept going and suddenly we're in a relationship and all that.

JSBE

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curiosity about these things is never satisfied... this is something I just can't figure our how many people I ask and how many times it comes up on this board. So as specifically as possible, please answer these 2 questions for me:

1) How did you MEET your significant other (or your last one)? Work? School? Bar? Match.com? Did one of you drop your papers on the street and look up and see the other one and fall in love at first sight?

2) How did you then TRANSITION from just knowing this person or liking them to actually being in a romantic relationship? Did you ask them out on a date and then it was just implied? Did you suddenly like kiss or something? Did you just like, tell them you liked them?

thanks for the help with my research!!!

1) she was the girlfriend of a friend of a person i worked with. everyone sort of hung out together. eventually they broke up, we became friends for many, many years.

2) after those many, many years i just told her i liked her. i was rebuffed the first time (mostly because she didn't want to possibly hurt our friendship) so i went for it again and she said she felt the same way. 6.5 years later we're still together.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

that's cos I'm as surprised as you are... there IS no big secret... when it's right, it just happens. I could go into all the details if you like but they don't illustrate a transition... it's not like a jump from one phase to the other... it's all just... happened! And suddenly we are where we are

:( It never happens to me though, I've never even been asked out or just hooked up with someone I knew...I swear that there has to be a method, a protocol, something...I just don't understand the process- it drives me nuts!

sennin

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

follow up: how did you get to kissing?

My hands were full. A bag in one hand, pj poster in the other.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

Oh and the reason there was no transition between us meeting and being in a relationship was cos we kissed the night we met and it just kept going and suddenly we're in a relationship and all that.

ok, see this is more useful info!

you kissed the night you met- were you both drunk?

and he actually called again? unheard of!

Pacomc79

Was in my favorite bar drinking beer with my roommate who was about to move. She walked in, I introduced myself.... rest is history.

Probably the most nerve racking ridiculous insane way to meet people but hey you have to break a few eggs to make an omlet.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

:( It never happens to me though, I've never even been asked out or just hooked up with someone I knew...I swear that there has to be a method, a protocol, something...I just don't understand the process- it drives me nuts!

You need to stop trying to understand... and you need to stop waiting for it to happen. Just enjoy everything that comes along... none of my relationships were people I'd been friends with before... they all just popped into my life with a bang.

Rygar

Heineken Helen wrote:

You need to stop trying to understand... and you need to stop waiting for it to happen. Just enjoy everything that comes along... none of my relationships were people I'd been friends with before... they all just popped into my life with a bang.

I think HH is right here.

GreenTeaDisease

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

we were certain that we loved each other.

We were very touchy-feely with each other, and then finally he kissed me on the nose...lol...and then I kissed him and that sealed the deal.

how could you be certain you loved each other?

he kissed you on the nose...was he drunk?

p.s. sorry for all the prying, I'm just trying to get to the bottom of this. I was thinking about it last night and I decided I was going to research this to the end if it kills me. Not even for myself, it just bugs the hell out of me that I don't understand it when I understand so many other complicated concepts so well.

blackredyellow

1. At work

2. Painfully awkwardly We started talking A LOT, and we eventually started talking about a new movie that we both wanted to see, and we ended up going together. I was technically her boss, and she is younger than me, so I was thinking that A) I didn't have a chance, and this could screw me job-wise, so I was overly cautious... Eventually we got past this awkward stage and started a "top secret" romance. The fact that we hid it from everyone at work the first month or so, made it more fun Fast forward 4 years, and we are married with a beautiful baby boy

AnnaMelinda

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

:( It never happens to me though, I've never even been asked out or just hooked up with someone I knew...I swear that there has to be a method, a protocol, something...I just don't understand the process- it drives me nuts!

Here's one option...,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Go out to party....bar....meet up...concert...what have you,... Have a few drinks. Meet boy. Hang out with boy. Drink more....kiss boy....go on date....drink a bit...kiss a bit...etc...

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

ok, see this is more useful info!

you kissed the night you met- were you both drunk?

and he actually called again? unheard of!

Yep, we did... and yep we were

Out on the decking having a cigarette.

Well considering we were both staying in the same house in Oslo for the long weekend and part of the same group... and that was the first night... there was no real getting out of it .

Kissing over here on the first night is normal... it's actually kinda expected. Although this wasn't like that cos we were just out chatting and it just happened.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

You need to stop trying to understand... and you need to stop waiting for it to happen. Just enjoy everything that comes along... none of my relationships were people I'd been friends with before... they all just popped into my life with a bang.

well, I don't wait for it to happen. I stopped that when I was 17. I remember the exact moment actually .

I think it's just that I've gotten CLOSE but it doesn't work out the way it works out for other people, which is why I always want to understand...and you can never really observe it because the people are usually alone or maybe you can see it going down but you can't hear what they're saying.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

how could you be certain you loved each other?

he kissed you on the nose...was he drunk?

You're asking this question too often that I think you're gonna come to the conclusion that we're all just a pile of drunks and not really in love at all

We have spent some sober moments together so I know that's not true

jamainiac

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

follow up: how did you get to kissing?

**Please Note** There is a LOT of back story getting us to the 'kissing' part

... we were just getting back to the hotel from the show @ the Saddledome(where we were sharing a room with two other PJ fans) and both a little tipsy with booze and feeling happily spent from the roller coaster ride we call PJ LIVE!! He had his arms filled with posters & t-shirts & stuff... I was probably supposed to be getting out the key for the door...

*giggles*

I'm sure I gave him a sideways smile... and he probably looked at me with those big, beautiful, brown eyes ... with all those sexy eyelashes... trying to look as innocent as possible... biting his lip... just a little bit... and said... 'What'?

I moved closer and we kissed... the softest... most amazing... electric... knee numbing... breathtaking... KISS...

That was 2 1/2 years ago... the kisses continue to be electric and amazing...

in 9 days we will kiss for the first time all over again...

as Husband & Wife

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

how could you be certain you loved each other?

he kissed you on the nose...was he drunk?

lol, no he wasn't drunk. He just thinks my nose is cute, and wanted to kiss it. He didn't miss my mouth or anything...lol.

We just were certain that we loved each other. We'd been talking for 6 months before we met, and really got to know each other very well. I loved his values, his intellect, his humor. I loved his outlook on life, and I loved who he was/is as a person. I could go on...lol. Basically, all of that just adds up to a feeling that he gives me that is like nothing else I have ever experienced. That's how I knew I was in love with him.

chiquimonkey

Heineken Helen wrote:

You need to stop trying to understand... and you need to stop waiting for it to happen. Just enjoy everything that comes along... none of my relationships were people I'd been friends with before... they all just popped into my life with a bang.

absolutely. if you're trying to scientifically quantify it, you need to just give that up right now, because it's not possible. there is no 'protocol' to love, it just *is*. i suppose it should fall in the supernatural category

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well, I don't wait for it to happen. I stopped that when I was 17. I remember the exact moment actually .

I think it's just that I've gotten CLOSE but it doesn't work out the way it works out for other people, which is why I always want to understand...and you can never really observe it because the people are usually alone or maybe you can see it going down but you can't hear what they're saying.

So basically you want to know what people say and do to 'seal the deal'? There is no formula here gtd

I could write the book on disastrous dates but I've had some amazing ones too... ya just have to bounce back and keep positive until somebody finds you who deserves you (and NOT the other way around... although I've got lucky). If I were the kinda person to give up I woulda done it years ago, but I can understand and appreciate why some things just aren't meant to work out.

But ya have to at least be in a position to meet people... if ya wanna meet someone.

NY PJ1

Rygar wrote:

This may be your finest post to date.

it was to easy lol