My girlfriend read my messages

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  • TrixieCat
    TrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    soulsinging wrote:
    :rolleyes: so i've heard. i assume you mean "again"? cos it already happened once. if that's what you call finding a way, love needs googlemaps.
    I know it happened before. I just didn't want to bring it up again because you have said how much you loved that girl.
    It will happen again. You are still quite young.
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • stu gee
    stu gee Posts: 1,174
    People who read their partner's texts - What are you looking for? I cant see it as being anything other than pretty insecure or unsure of your relationship. Would rather not be in a relationship if that's the way it was!
    People say im paranoid. Well, they dont say it, but i know that's what they are thinking.
  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Are you sure you do not have any other stuff on there?
    Think hard.
    And are the text messages really from a month ago?

    You know, I thought really hard about this, and I did wonder. But then I know I've not txtd any other girls - other than friends - over the past month, and that any dodgy stuff on my phone would have been from before I first slept with her. I was still flirting with other girls just after I first met her, but we hadn't become 'a couple' at the point that I first met her in a bar, so those other txts were legit in my book.
    But yeah, I did think long and hard, but I was pretty certain that she had no case against me...thank God.
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    It's weird that she won't give you your phone. If all the text messages were from before you knew her, I think it's she's being unreasonable but I guess I really don't know the whole story. I guess just your side.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    brainofPJ wrote:
    i'm beginning to think it's not just a stereotype.

    my wife is Filipino...

    kind a living out of my car at the moment.

    My girls also Filipino, but I don't drive, so I'm safe. ;)

    Seriously, that sucks mate. I hope things pick up for ya!
  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    libragirl wrote:
    It's weird that she won't give you your phone. If all the text messages were from before you knew her, I think it's she's being unreasonable but I guess I really don't know the whole story. I guess just your side.

    people really should learn to read threads back to front. I'm guilty of it myself though, so I shouldn't say anything.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    stu gee wrote:
    People who read their partner's texts - What are you looking for? I cant see it as being anything other than pretty insecure or unsure of your relationship. Would rather not be in a relationship if that's the way it was!

    this is another excellent point about this girl's character. I don't think I'd want to be with someone who took that advantage to snoop on me. she was probably *hoping* to find something in order to create drama.
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Byrnzie wrote:
    people really should learn to read threads back to front. I'm guilty of it myself though, so I shouldn't say anything.

    Ha..ha..Im at work so that's not feasible. I assumed you told the whole story in your first post. I should have quoted it. It really comes down to trust..if you trust the person you're with you don't have to be checking their text messages, emails, etc.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • RolandTD20Kdrummer
    RolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    Byrnzie wrote:
    Ah well....I got my phone back this evening. There was nothing on there since after we first spent the night together.
    I txtd her to tell as much. I then just called her about 10 minutes ago, and she answered the phone just as I was about to give up and hang up. I said my piece...and it's all cool. She admitted that she'd over-reacted.
    I'm going down to see her Saturday now. :)

    :GiddyByrnzie:

    And thanks for all your input today guys and girls. You helped me hold my chin up.


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  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    RolandTD20Kdrummer wrote:
    There you are...Bob's your uncle.

    Now administer that firm spanking!

    Cheers my man! ;) I had your 'She'll come around' keeping me going today.
  • soulsinging
    soulsinging Posts: 13,202
    TrixieCat wrote:
    I know it happened before. I just didn't want to bring it up again because you have said how much you loved that girl.
    It will happen again. You are still quite young.

    yes, but not young enough to believe in santa clause, the tooth fairy, and true love conquering all ;)

    though it can, apparently, get your phone back for you :)
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    this is another excellent point about this girl's character. I don't think I'd want to be with someone who took that advantage to snoop on me. she was probably *hoping* to find something in order to create drama.

    Not sure if it is 'snooping' or shows anything of the lady's character. A lot of people are just plain curious and I'm sure that, faced with the same 'opportunity' a lot of people on this board would do the same... even if they are not prepared to admit it.
  • stu gee
    stu gee Posts: 1,174
    redrock wrote:
    Not sure if it is 'snooping' or shows anything of the lady's character. A lot of people are just plain curious and I'm sure that, faced with the same 'opportunity' a lot of people on this board would do the same... even if they are not prepared to admit it.

    That is not curiosity for me, its invasion of privacy. If you give permission to your partner to look at your messages/emails/mail etc fair enough, but going through it without permission in my eyes is wrong. I dont actually think ive ever gone through ANYONE's phone messages, never mind a girlfriend's. Messages sent to someone else's phone aren't meant for my eyes!!
    People say im paranoid. Well, they dont say it, but i know that's what they are thinking.
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    redrock wrote:
    Not sure if it is 'snooping' or shows anything of the lady's character. A lot of people are just plain curious and I'm sure that, faced with the same 'opportunity' a lot of people on this board would do the same... even if they are not prepared to admit it.

    I agree...I think if someone had doubt in their mind it will leave them susceptible to that type of behavior.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    stu gee wrote:
    That is not curiosity for me, its invasion of privacy. If you give permission to your partner to look at your messages/emails/mail etc fair enough, but going through it without permission in my eyes is wrong. I dont actually think ive ever gone through ANYONE's phone messages, never mind a girlfriend's. Messages sent to someone else's phone aren't meant for my eyes!!

    I agree. I had PLENTY of opportunities to read my boyfriend's emails but it never even crossed my mind.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    redrock wrote:
    Not sure if it is 'snooping' or shows anything of the lady's character. A lot of people are just plain curious and I'm sure that, faced with the same 'opportunity' a lot of people on this board would do the same... even if they are not prepared to admit it.
    I'm not denying I'd be curious... and if the opportunity were there it would be tempting :o but if I DID do it I'd be very ashamed of myself though.
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  • stu gee
    stu gee Posts: 1,174
    Surely you'd feel guilty as hell. I wouldnt want to feel that kind of guilt.
    People say im paranoid. Well, they dont say it, but i know that's what they are thinking.
  • elmer
    elmer Posts: 1,683
    One can always notice these women who trust their men, they look so terribly unhappy.
  • soulsinging
    soulsinging Posts: 13,202
    stu gee wrote:
    Surely you'd feel guilty as hell. I wouldnt want to feel that kind of guilt.

    i've lived with worse :)
  • stu gee
    stu gee Posts: 1,174
    soulsinging wrote:
    i've lived with worse :)

    Glad i havent had to, that would be enough for me.
    People say im paranoid. Well, they dont say it, but i know that's what they are thinking.

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