My girlfriend read my messages

Byrnzie

Heineken Helen wrote:

actually no! That was my one non sarcastic post of the day (seriously... no sarcasm)

I have friends who do things like that... read messages, hack into email and voicemail and stuff and the whole thing just makes me quite uncomfortable

To be honest though, that part of it doesn't really bother. I mean, I really had nothing to hide anyway. I really can't understand it. Maybe she's just using it as an excuse. I dunno. But then she was all set to come and see me that same day before she read my phone messages. Ah fuck! I dunno. Hopefully I'll find out over the next few days.

Heineken Helen

Byrnzie wrote:

To be honest though, that part of it doesn't really bother. I mean, I really had nothing to hide anyway. I really can't understand it. Maybe she's just using it as an excuse. I dunno. But then she was all set to come and see me that same day before she read my phone messages. Ah fuck! I dunno. Hopefully I'll find out over the next few days.

That would bother me... someone going through my messages. I mean it's just a bit too control freakish for my liking. And I certainly don't have anything to hide unfortunately

well hopefully you'll get the phone back and the mystery will be solved

faithful227

How did you manage to still have texts over a month old?!? Seems like mine is full every other day! Constantly having to delete texts. I need whatever phone it was that you had.

And i would be pissed if someone were to read my messages. Sorry about your situation though, I hope it works out for you!

stu gee

I know!, what kind of phone do yo have?! I have to empty mine once a week usually. Seriously though, if my girlfriend went through my messages im not sure id want to be with her, they are private. I wouldnt go through her phone. Hoep you get it sorted though.

reeferchief

Get your phone back and get a new girl.

TrixieCat

I would go down there and talk to her.
Of course she is overreacting a little bit..she is young and in love with you. Give her some slack here. If you really like her, just go down there, be a man and talk to her.
And yes, I would have looked too. I am nosey like that.
And all of the talk about meant to be...I just don't believe in things like that. It was a phone, she is in love, and a bit nosey.
So what, in my opinion.
You sound like you like her.
I would go with what Rolandthedrummer said...give her a good little spanking when you get down there. And give the relationship another go.
good luck.

stu gee

Cant believe people saying they would have looked at his phone as well. Its his phone so any messages on it are for him and him alone, its no-one else's business. Ive got nothing to hide but id be raging if i caught my gfriend going through mine, its rude and nosey as hell to do that.

Heineken Helen

stu gee wrote:

Cant believe people saying they would have looked at his phone as well. Its his phone so any messages on it are for him and him alone, its no-one else's business. Ive got nothing to hide but id be raging if i caught my gfriend going through mine, its rude and nosey as hell to do that.

exactly... unless you're at the stage of the relationship where you don't have any secrets... and it's not even being nosy, more like just bored... and I still couldn't imagine there being a time where I would look through somebody's phone unless I had serious suspicions about something... if that were the case it would mean I don't trust him anyway and either way it's only a matter of time.

TrixieCat

stu gee wrote:

Cant believe people saying they would have looked at his phone as well. Its his phone so any messages on it are for him and him alone, its no-one else's business. Ive got nothing to hide but id be raging if i caught my gfriend going through mine, its rude and nosey as hell to do that.

Byrnzie said even he probably would have looked. lol

reeferchief

Heineken Helen wrote:

exactly... unless you're at the stage of the relationship where you don't have any secrets... and it's not even being nosy, more like just bored... and I still couldn't imagine there being a time where I would look through somebody's phone unless I had serious suspicions about something... if that were the case it would mean I don't trust him anyway and either way it's only a matter of time.

Been with the missus for over 5 years now and even when the relationship has had it's rocky moments, I've never felt the need to invade her privacy and her own space like that and I'm one hundred percent certain that she has not neither.(my space that is, she invades her own constantly):p

stu gee

I just think its a private thing. I wouldnt want to read her messages, id feel guilty and it'd make me think i didnt trust her, and if i caught her looking at mine id think she didnt trust me.

In other words i dont know her security code.

MattCameronKicksButt

reeferchief wrote:

Been with the missus for over 5 years now and even when the relationship has had it's rocky moments, I've never felt the need to invade her privacy and her own space like that and I'm one hundred percent certain that she has not neither.(my space that is, she invades her own constantly):p

Same here. Bf and I never look at each other's messages. :cool:

Which might be a good thing.

Heineken Helen

reeferchief wrote:

Been with the missus for over 5 years now and even when the relationship has had it's rocky moments, I've never felt the need to invade her privacy and her own space like that and I'm one hundred percent certain that she has not neither.(my space that is, she invades her own constantly):p

awww... see that's the way it SHOULD be. There are serious problems if you think you're entitled to do that. I understand if you're both comfortable with it... some couples share phones, whatever! But if it's never been discussed and you do it cos you're suspicious... well you have issues... and the couple's in trouble.

NY PJ1

my advice ... look for a good looking girl where u work

TrixieCat

stu gee wrote:

I just think its a private thing. I wouldnt want to read her messages, id feel guilty and it'd make me think i didnt trust her, and if i caught her looking at mine id think she didnt trust me.

In other words i dont know her security code.

Try 1 2 3 4
If you ever find my phone and it is locked...go for it.

given2fly78

my best friend and his wife are in a nasty dispute over her reading his text messages and taking something totally out of context.

Paranoia at it's finest.

So now I text him messages to her on his phone. Something like "Hi Amy, hope this finds you well"

His wife's name is Amy, she loves that.

fanch75

WTF is she doing reading your texts? You should have yelled at her and told her that if she was doing what she was SUPPOSED to be doing - cleaning the house & scrubbing the toilets - then she wouldn't have time to do that shit.

Tell her you're going out tonight and you'll come home whenever you damn well please. I'd take her down to the WalMart and smack her around a bit, learn her a good'un.

soulsinging

Byrnzie wrote:

My girl told me this week she doesn't want to see me anymore. I lost my phone down her way a couple of weeks ago, and someone found it and handed it in to her. She then read my txt messages and has told me she doesn't want to see me anymore.
Any messages to other girls were made before I met her - about a month and a half ago. She hasn't told me what it was specifically that upset her - I still haven't gotten my phone back so I can't see. But WTF? Is she being unreasonable?
I'm a bit gutted.

yes, she's being unreasonable. she should not have read your messages. either way she damn well should return your phone. that said, what do you keep old texts from old girlfriends on your phone for? what good purpose could that ever possibly serve? let this be a lesson to ya. when you part ways with a woman, you get rid of that kind of shit.

TrixieCat

fanch75 wrote:

WTF is she doing reading your texts? You should have yelled at her and told her that if she was doing what she was SUPPOSED to be doing - cleaning the house & scrubbing the toilets - then she wouldn't have time to that shit.

Tell her you're going out tonight and you'll come home whenever you damn well please. I'd take her down to the WalMart and smack her around a bit, learn her a good'un.

She was being nosey...leave her alone. She is young and in love.

Byrnzie

Heineken Helen wrote:

That would bother me... someone going through my messages. I mean it's just a bit too control freakish for my liking. And I certainly don't have anything to hide unfortunately

well hopefully you'll get the phone back and the mystery will be solved

Ah well....I got my phone back this evening. There was nothing on there since after we first spent the night together.
I txtd her to tell as much. I then just called her about 10 minutes ago, and she answered the phone just as I was about to give up and hang up. I said my piece...and it's all cool. She admitted that she'd over-reacted.
I'm going down to see her Saturday now.

:GiddyByrnzie:

And thanks for all your input today guys and girls. You helped me hold my chin up.