why do men have to be so feckin obvious?

soulsinging

Jeanie wrote:

Yeah! What's the problem??? Jeez!

Me too! btw. You wanna duke it out for the "who's having the most fun?" prize?

i'm in law school. ill duke it out over ANYTHING.

ps. every time i try to quote you i get the message about having too many emoticons. i've never gotten that warning before, and i'm not too happy to be getting it now... makes me feel unmasculine!

rarghrargh-brownstar

Jeanie wrote:

haha! Actually from what I saw of him, ss looks alright to me. I wouldn't call him ugly.....but then sometimes he opens his mouth!

Seriously though? I mostly see people as beautiful because of HOW they are, so they could be FOUR HUNDRED and wrinkly as a sharpei but if they've got personality and a twinkle in their eye I'd still find them gorgeous.
I don't really get all hot and bothered and oggling a guy very often, and I HATE the feeling anyway, so I usually just talk to them, and find they become more attractive as they speak or uglier depending on what they say. But then I think I'm probably odd like that.

And to be honest I don't really give a rats if people find me attractive or not generally but when I was younger I truly hated being ogled. It made me feel like shit. THANK GOD for getting old is all I can say. NOW if someone is ogling at least I know that they're looking at me as I am and not imagining me as some fucked up sex fantasy from a porn website that is nothing like who I am.

whaaaaa??? :( I wasnt commenting on anyone's "looks." I have had a bad case of experience (witnessing) the least attractive guys and their "bullying" of such topics.

SS- is a cutie Ive seen his pics.....even if someone wasnt goodlooking, why would someone even make remarks about someone's appearance? How does that make you bigger?.....Now I am gonna cry. Thats mean.....I like to joke, but not to that extent. Especially when you dont even know someone..wtf?

(if he actually WAS bad-looking I would feel bad)...:o

I dont even want to read all of the other posts.....this is why I dont always like coming here. "Technical " deception. arghhhh

jamie uk

You're in law school SS ? oh well don't worry then,..you sould be making a very handsome living by taking peoples comments out of context for the rest of your career.lol.

Jeanie

rarghrargh-brownstar wrote:

interesting....regardless of sex, anyone is liable to feel vulnerable. I cant keep up with the conversations here, as I have someone on my ignore list. Just so they wont be upset with my comments ... : ( edit: so I wont respond back to them-or they take it the wrong way.

I agree.
And as to the ignore thing, I understand. Sometimes no matter what I say, people don't get me. That's ok. Sometimes I don't get them either and it's better to just give up trying than get into fisty cuffs over it. Not that I'm very good at managing that sometimes either!

rarghrargh-brownstar wrote:

I use to judge my friends in HS + College for just wanting to be with good-looking dudes.....Maybe, I could have been more "human" too. Its almost like I felt guilty....for being judged. I was dumb. : p

ooh ra-ra! I've done that too! We're a funny bunch, humans.

rarghrargh-brownstar wrote:

Since this place can "sometimes" be notorious for generlizations...I thought Id take the opportunity to distribute my own wealth as well. : p In the real, I have noticed guys who arent attractive ( said so by themselves) get more pissy about these things.

Bit like short man syndrome?

rarghrargh-brownstar wrote:

"neutralize" my attraction- thats an interesting phrase. :cool:

oh, I figure if I'm having any kind of over the top emotional response to someone, the only thing I can do is sort it in me. Coz it's not like I can change them right? So I "neutralize". Find ways to change the way I view them. I find the best way to do that is to admit to myself what the emotion is I'm feeling in response to them and work on stopping it. Of course there are times when I don't wanna stop it! BUT they'd know that too.

Jeanie

soulsinging wrote:

i would say you're odd if i believed a word of that

And I'd believe you meant it too, if I didn't know better!

soulsinging

jamie uk wrote:

You're in law school SS ? oh well don't worry then,..you sould be making a very handsome living by taking peoples comments out of context for the rest of your career.lol.

why do you think i spend so much time here? practice!

Jeanie

soulsinging wrote:

but only cos im ugly on the inside right? or so you impled above, yeah?

no offense taken btw. i've no clue what you look like so i can't comment on the second part.

i'm sure you could resist me though. you just can't ignore me. it's ok though, few women round here can.

no you idiot! I don't think you're ugly at all. Inside or out. But you shit me sometimes. But that's ok, I'm quite sure I shit you too. Am I right? Or am I right?

I'm sure I sent you a pic at some point, I musta been memorable! HA!

I don't wanna see you get neked, coz I don't wanna see ANYONE get neked, unless we're planning on getting down to it. And there's only one person I'm planning on getting down with. SO everybody else should keep their clothes on around me!

And I could resist you on account, you are otherwise taken to the best of my memory, which basically activates my "off button", not to mention I consider myself "taken" which also activates the button. Oh and you're too young and on the other side of the world, and your my friend so it's easy to resist you.

But you're are so very right, (ENJOY IT!) you are VERY HARD to ignore!

catefrances

jamie uk wrote:

Ok, here we go then. Someone may have said this already, I haven't read through,..but, and it's a big but, this thread started off with a female oserving the actions of a handful of men, and instantly...tarnished the lot of us. How about I say,.."why do women have to be so feckin crafty and let you buy them a drink, and then piss off,....without even getting you one back..." It's a silly, immature generalisation, based on the actions of individuals..and therefore not worthy of debate by healthy, mature, intelligent adults (good job that rules most of us out then!). We don't all behave like it....so let's cool it.

so you buy them a drink because why exactly jamie...?

Jeanie

iluvcats wrote:

I've seen jeanie's pics before. She's good looking.

Not really. Just me. But thanks for the compliment.

You're pretty darn cute yourself girl.

soulsinging

catefrances wrote:

so you buy them a drink because why exactly jamie...?

it's called a blowjob. be generous.

catefrances

soulsinging wrote:

it's called a blowjob. be generous.

changed your name have you conor? im aware of why you'd be buying girls drinks.;) i was just curious what jamie's motivation was, cause it seemed to me as if he felt something was owed in return.

Jeanie

soulsinging wrote:

i'm in law school. ill duke it out over ANYTHING. : )

Thanks for reminding me! Like an idiot, I keep forgetting that!

soulsinging wrote:

ps. every time i try to quote you i get the message about having too many emoticons. i've never gotten that warning before, and i'm not too happy to be getting it now... makes me feel unmasculine!

hahaha! So I'm managing it without even trying????
Just put spaces or delete them in my quote. I'm an emoticon whore! I can't help it!

soulsinging

Jeanie wrote:

no you idiot! I don't think you're ugly at all. Inside or out. But you shit me sometimes. But that's ok, I'm quite sure I shit you too. Am I right? Or am I right?

I'm sure I sent you a pic at some point, I musta been memorable! HA!

I don't wanna see you get neked, coz I don't wanna see ANYONE get neked, unless we're planning on getting down to it. And there's only one person I'm planning on getting down with. SO everybody else should keep their clothes on around me!

And I could resist you on account, you are otherwise taken to the best of my memory, which basically activates my "off button", not to mention I consider myself "taken" which also activates the button. Oh and you're too young and on the other side of the world, and your my friend so it's easy to resist you.

But you're are so very right, (ENJOY IT!) you are VERY HARD to ignore!

uh... sure? not sure what 'you shit me' means, but i'll agree.

my memory has more holes than a WAC team's defense, so don't take offense. i destroyed the memory part of my head when i was a stoner.

as to the lack of interest, you explained yourself just in time. i was just about to show you some of the creative uses to which i can put peanut butter and a 12 volt battery.

soulsinging

catefrances wrote:

changed your name have you conor? im aware of why you'd be buying girls drinks.;) i was just curious what jamie's motivation was, cause it seemed to me as if he felt something was owed in return.

something is. if you've no interest in hooking up, or at least a conversation, don't accept the drink.

catefrances

soulsinging wrote:

something is. if you've no interest in hooking up, or at least a conversation, don't accept the drink.

hmm interesting conor. a girl walks up to guy that catches her eye, either she considers him maybe worth some of her time or she sees an easy target for free drinks. the guy flattered by the attention from said girl, gladly buys her a drink. she gets what she wants(if she was just after a free drink) and fucks off. he's left standing wondering what happened. RIGHT ON SISTER!!!!

soulsinging

catefrances wrote:

hmm interesting conor. a girl walks up to guy that catches her eye, either she considers him maybe worth some of her time or she sees an easy target for free drinks. the guy flattered by the attention from said girl, gladly buys her a drink. she gets what she wants(if she was just after a free drink) and fucks off. he's left standing wondering what happened. RIGHT ON SISTER!!!!

how is this better than the initial post where guy checks out girl. doesn't even take anything from her. just looks. he gets what he wanted and she's left standing there feeling "dirty" or "objectified" or whatever histrionic adjective you want to insert there. why is it ok for women to do this sort of thing and not men? a woman uses a man and you cheer her. a man uses a woman, and you scream what pigs we are.

catefrances

soulsinging wrote:

how is this better than the initial post where guy checks out girl. doesn't even take anything from her. just looks. he gets what he wanted and she's left standing there feeling "dirty" or "objectified" or whatever histrionic adjective you want to insert there. why is it ok for women to do this sort of thing and not men? a woman uses a man and you cheer her. a man uses a woman, and you scream what pigs we are.

conor, if you read my posts concerning the original topic you will see that i admitted to checking out guys' arses. i have not come down on guys for perving. if i had in fact called guys pigs for engaging in such activity, that would make me a hypocrite, now wouldnt it? no one ever got hurt from a good perv. sure some people jump on their high horse and feel violated and i just dont care. if i see something worth my attention then so be it. tis a bit difficult appreciating the art if one doesn't look.;) now if the perv is accompanied by lascivious leering and obscene comments then that is an entirely different kettle of fish.

Jeanie

rarghrargh-brownstar wrote:

whaaaaa??? : ( I wasnt commenting on anyone's "looks." I have had a bad case of experience (witnessing) the least attractive guys and their "bullying" of such topics.

SS- is a cutie Ive seen his pics.....even if someone wasnt goodlooking, why would someone even make remarks about someone's appearance? How does that make you bigger?.....Now I am gonna cry. Thats mean.....I like to joke, but not to that extent. Especially when you dont even know someone..wtf?

(if he actually WAS bad-looking I would feel bad)...:o

I dont even want to read all of the other posts.....this is why I dont always like coming here. "Technical " deception. arghhhh

oh ra-ra! :( I'm so confused and now I think I've upset you and I didn't mean to do that at all. Don't cry. Conor knows I'm just playing with him. I'm just kidding around.
I think all the people on the pit are lovely, and cute too, but it's not really relevant, because mostly I just like them as people which is what makes them beautiful. Don't pack up your ball and go home. I think I've just misunderstood you and you me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHjFxJVeCQs

Friends?

rarghrargh-brownstar

Jeanie wrote:

I agree.
And as to the ignore thing, I understand. Sometimes no matter what I say, people don't get me. That's ok. Sometimes I don't get them either and it's better to just give up trying than get into fisty cuffs over it. Not that I'm very good at managing that sometimes either!




ooh ra-ra! I've done that too! We're a funny bunch, humans.

Well its the first time I even had to put someone on my ignore list. And I never thought it would be due to offending someone else. But it works...Anyways, I usually joke around with most of the guys here....but there just might be "one" who cant handle it. I guess some guys are more sensitive and we all have to remember that. :( That is some guys are more sensitive than females edit: Nothing to be ashamed of should be embraced actually.....Its hard always walking on eggshells to avoid "upsetting" someone....anyone. I wont say too much. No need to make assumptions now. Well anyways, that goes for me not seeing all the posts here or responding.

Yes we are funny. .....I wish we could all learn to laugh at ourselves once in a while.

Jeanie wrote:

Bit like short man syndrome?

hey now...us gals have to be nice now. I guess you could say that. Lots of beautiful shorties out there tho!!!

Jeanie wrote:

oh, I figure if I'm having any kind of over the top emotional response to someone, the only thing I can do is sort it in me. Coz it's not like I can change them right? So I "neutralize". Find ways to change the way I view them. I find the best way to do that is to admit to myself what the emotion is I'm feeling in response to them and work on stopping it. Of course there are times when I don't wanna stop it! BUT they'd know that too.

I really liked that story on the other page, something very sweet about it....you can turn your real-life stories into some good fiction reading.

ra-ra - jamainiac calls me that. I like it!!!

Jeanie

soulsinging wrote:

uh... sure? not sure what 'you shit me' means, but i'll agree..

you shit me = you annoy me.
to get the shits up = to be annoyed
hehe!
Sometimes we annoy each other?

soulsinging wrote:

my memory has more holes than a WAC team's defense, so don't take offense. i destroyed the memory part of my head when i was a stoner..

I have the memory of a goldfish! And yet I can remember really weird little things from years ago. So I understand.

soulsinging wrote:

as to the lack of interest, you explained yourself just in time. i was just about to show you some of the creative uses to which i can put peanut butter and a 12 volt battery.

Oooh! I love peanut butter! Smooth, not Crunchy!

Someone threatened to hook me up to a factory power board with jumper cables clamped on to leg irons when I was stoned once. It was SCARY!!

Despite the peanut butter, I think I'll pass. It's not you, it's me!