"It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes..."

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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Somehow i dont think your advice is very helpful.

    it depends on what you want out of her. if you just want a nice piece of ass, it's the way to go. now if you're looking for love... you might wanna go back to the first post. girls that age don't want love. they just want to fuck guys like me and get it outta their system.
  • JuberooJuberoo Posts: 472
    This thread reminds me of my own problems.

    If you had random sex with someone a long time ago and then you get a girlfriend who thinks sex should only be for love, do you have to tell her that you had random sex with someone? Or is just telling her you're not a virgin okay?
    You should be able to respect each other enough to satisfy both persons needs.

    For example...if she "needs" to know details then you should be willing to give them up. But if you "need" a sense of privacy and don't want to talk about it, then she should be willing to let it go. In other words, there is give and take in a relationship. Both partners should feel that their needs are being met. If that can't happen or if one person is in control, then the relationship is doomed.
    Makes much more sense, to live in the present tense.

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  • JuberooJuberoo Posts: 472
    i give them all the graphic details. it turns them on and prepares them for all the kinky shit im gonna wanna do to them. and if it spooks em, then i know it wasn't meant to be anyway cos they're a prude. plus, if she thinks she's got a lot to live up to, she'll try harder to please you cos women are way more competitive than men and every woman feels the need to prove her pussy is the best.
    You're an idiot. I feel sorry for ANY woman who gets tangled up with you.
    Makes much more sense, to live in the present tense.

    A truly liberal person is conservative when necessary.

    Pro-life by choice.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    This thread reminds me of my own problems.

    If you had random sex with someone a long time ago and then you get a girlfriend who thinks sex should only be for love, do you have to tell her that you had random sex with someone? Or is just telling her you're not a virgin okay?

    I had random (safe) sex with a girl a week before I met my girlfriend, she was totally against one-night stands and stuff like that... When we were talking about this she was surprised by how I felt about it and then asked if I would ever do it, then I said I had already.

    She was kind of annoyed, for a while, but that's because she was insecure and judged everything I did and jumped to conclusions about everything.

    If your girl is mature enough, you should be able to tell her, if she is like my ex, she'll keep throwing it in your face everytime you have a fight.
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Juberoo wrote:
    You're an idiot. I feel sorry for ANY woman who gets tangled up with you.

    you wouldn't be the only one. and i kinda do too ;)
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    hands up for anyone else in a meaningless relationship now?? ... i mean the sex is fantastic but really - at some point i gotta grow up and try and forge something real with someone ...
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    polaris wrote:
    hands up for anyone else in a meaningless relationship now?? ... i mean the sex is fantastic but really - at some point i gotta grow up and try and forge something real with someone ...

    i have the exact opposite problem. it's meaningful and real, but lackluster sex. ill trade you.
  • polaris wrote:
    hands up for anyone else in a meaningless relationship now?? ... i mean the sex is fantastic but really - at some point i gotta grow up and try and forge something real with someone ...

    I too am in the opposite. No sex but a pretty serious relationship.
    All I know is that to see, and not to speak, would be the great betrayal.
    -Enoch Powell
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    I too am in the opposite. No sex but a pretty serious relationship.

    i've never been in a relationship with no sex ... do u guys shower? ... :p

    you guys must be young ... i believe women's sex drive goes up with age up until a certain point ... and men go in the opposite direction ...
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    polaris wrote:
    i've never been in a relationship with no sex ... do u guys shower? ... :p

    you guys must be young ... i believe women's sex drive goes up with age up until a certain point ... and men go in the opposite direction ...

    interesting. becos i've heard that child-birth, women's sex drive plummets. maybe only single or childless women do that.
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    interesting. becos i've heard that child-birth, women's sex drive plummets. maybe only single or childless women do that.

    yeah ... that varies from women to women ... i've slept with women with children and their appetite seems to coincide with their age ...
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    polaris wrote:
    yeah ... that varies from women to women ... i've slept with women with children and their appetite seems to coincide with their age ...

    figures, when they're at their peak of sex appeal and looking their hottest, they don't want you to touch them. but once they get to the point where the last thing you wanna do is bury your face in those wrinkles, suddenly they want you all the time.
  • VictoryGinVictoryGin Posts: 1,207
    polaris wrote:
    yeah ... that varies from women to women ... i've slept with women with children and their appetite seems to coincide with their age ...

    you're so smart. it's no wonder you get all the ladies. :)
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  • VictoryGinVictoryGin Posts: 1,207
    figures, when they're at their peak of sex appeal and looking their hottest, they don't want you to touch them. but once they get to the point where the last thing you wanna do is bury your face in those wrinkles, suddenly they want you all the time.

    uh, not with that attitude.
    if you wanna be a friend of mine
    cross the river to the eastside
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    figures, when they're at their peak of sex appeal and looking their hottest, they don't want you to touch them. but once they get to the point where the last thing you wanna do is bury your face in those wrinkles, suddenly they want you all the time.

    i find sex appeal in the energy a woman gives off and in confidence ... looks are subjective for the most part ... sexual energy goes well beyond looks ... the woman i am sleeping with now feels sexy to herself and her vibe is very appealing ...
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    VictoryGin wrote:
    you're so smart. it's no wonder you get all the ladies. :)

    i would give it all up for a shot at you ... ;)
  • figures, when they're at their peak of sex appeal and looking their hottest, they don't want you to touch them. but once they get to the point where the last thing you wanna do is bury your face in those wrinkles, suddenly they want you all the time.

    I don't know, my girlfriend and I don't have sex but she definitely likes to be touched...

    Is it uncommon for younger girls to masturbate?
    All I know is that to see, and not to speak, would be the great betrayal.
    -Enoch Powell
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    polaris wrote:
    i find sex appeal in the energy a woman gives off and in confidence ... looks are subjective for the most part ... sexual energy goes well beyond looks ... the woman i am sleeping with now feels sexy to herself and her vibe is very appealing ...

    yeah well, im stuck with neither. so maybe im just pissed off.
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    I don't know, my girlfriend and I don't have sex but she definitely likes to be touched...

    Is it uncommon for younger girls to masturbate?

    women need to learn to masturbate - it gets them in touch with their own sexuality and its easier for them to orgasm when they are better connected with their body ...

    although in your case - i don't know what to say ... i would find it difficult myself ...
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    I don't know, my girlfriend and I don't have sex but she definitely likes to be touched...

    Is it uncommon for younger girls to masturbate?

    uncommon? no. but less do than guys. ive dated 2 girls in a row who claim to have never done it and never had an orgasm before meeting me. that seems messed up to me. if she says she doesn't, it's a warning sign. means she's not comfortable with sexuality and is going to be a cold fish.
  • polaris wrote:
    women need to learn to masturbate - it gets them in touch with their own sexuality and its easier for them to orgasm when they are better connected with their body ...

    although in your case - i don't know what to say ... i would find it difficult myself ...

    Hah i wasn't talking about myself obviously since i'm not a chick...oh...i see what you were saying.

    i was just saying that my girlfriend is kind of the opposite of what soulsinging was describing.
    All I know is that to see, and not to speak, would be the great betrayal.
    -Enoch Powell
  • AhnimusAhnimus Posts: 10,560
    Juberoo wrote:
    Unfortunately it's not. I have had several patients who due to anger over contracting a disease themselves (in this case HIV) they developed a non-care attitude "I got from someone so why should I care about anyone else"? Or they are retaliating against a scornful relationship (HIV again) "men are scum and they all deserve to die".

    Just another reason to be sure and use protection EVERY time.

    I guess that confirms my theory that people are stupid.
    I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    yeah well, im stuck with neither. so maybe im just pissed off.

    tough
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    polaris wrote:
    tough

    no shit. which brings us back to my initial advice... don't let that lovey dovey, touchy-feely crap cloud your mind. make sure she's going to be a tiger in bed. otherwise, the sweetest girl in the world can't hold your interest if she has absolutely zero sexuality.
  • uncommon? no. but less do than guys. ive dated 2 girls in a row who claim to have never done it and never had an orgasm before meeting me. that seems messed up to me. if she says she doesn't, it's a warning sign. means she's not comfortable with sexuality and is going to be a cold fish.

    My girlfriend and I haven't had sex but she orgasms before me usually when we do hook up. She's definitely not a cold fish, but at the same time, she has serious problems with random sex.
    All I know is that to see, and not to speak, would be the great betrayal.
    -Enoch Powell
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    My girlfriend and I haven't had sex but she orgasms before me usually when we do hook up. She's definitely not a cold fish, but at the same time, she has serious problems with random sex.

    that's her problem, not yours.
  • VictoryGinVictoryGin Posts: 1,207
    polaris wrote:
    i would give it all up for a shot at you ... ;)

    aww. sweet, smart, funny, and progressive. a rare breed! there are some lucky ladies up there.
    if you wanna be a friend of mine
    cross the river to the eastside
  • AhnimusAhnimus Posts: 10,560
    child support payments pale in comparison to the time and toll birth and physically raising a child take.

    Bullshit.

    I know for a fact that kidney stones hurt a lot more than child birth. I'm also pretty sure getting hit by a truck is more painful.

    It's blown out of proportion. The only way to make comparisons is to find a woman that has experienced both. How many women have given birth and been kicked in the balls? Probably none.

    I've known many men in this situation where they pay out their nose most of their income for their ex-wives, the money never goes to the children. With visitation rights they can see their kids, but can't afford to take em out to the movies or even buy them an ice-cream.
    yes, men can. but medically speaking, it is easier for women to get them becos of the way their system is designed.

    Oh yeah? Then why is it that gay men tend to transmit alot of STDs?

    I don't think it's easier for women to get STDs. See, in order for that to happen, the guy would have to have the STD first... then it would seem that it's easier for men to have STDs. But in actuality, I think it's pretty much even, since that's how STDs are spread.
    I necessarily have the passion for writing this, and you have the passion for condemning me; both of us are equally fools, equally the toys of destiny. Your nature is to do harm, mine is to love truth, and to make it public in spite of you. - Voltaire
  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    VictoryGin wrote:
    aww. sweet, smart, funny, and progressive. a rare breed! there are some lucky ladies up there.

    i think most rue the day they met me ... :p

    you need to add indifferent and way too independent to balance that out!
  • jlew24asujlew24asu Posts: 10,118
    Ahnimus wrote:
    Actually. This pertains to a discussion we had a few months ago about statutory rape. The general census was that a 40 year old woman having sex with a 15 year old boy was more acceptable than if the genders were reversed. This study shows that whatever the genders are, the level of "taking-advantage-of" is roughly equivelant. That girls do not get into bed for love significantly more than boys do.

    It's a very common stereotype that "women are far more interested in love than sexual intercourse" and the opposite is true for men. The results of this research shows that men and women are roughly the same.

    I very much agree with that.
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