"It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes..."
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Why We Have Sex: 237 Reasons and Counting
Aug. 1, 2007 — After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get intimate for mostly the same motivations. It's more about lust in the body than a love connection in the heart.
College-aged men and women agree on their top reasons for having sex — they were attracted to the person, they wanted to experience physical pleasure and "it feels good," according to a peer-reviewed study in the August edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Twenty of the top 25 reasons given for having sex were the same for men and women.
Expressing love and showing affection were in the top 10 for both men and women, but they did take a back seat to the clear No. 1: "I was attracted to the person."
Researchers at the University of Texas spent five years and their own money to study the overlooked why behind sex while others were spending their time on the how.
"It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes ... that men only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love," said University of Texas clinical psychology professor Cindy Meston, the study's co-author. "That's not what I came up with in my findings."
Forget thinking that men are from Mars and women from Venus, "the more we look, the more we find similarity," said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego. Goldstein, who wasn't part of Meston's study, said the Texas research made a lot of sense and adds to growing evidence that the vaunted differences in the genders may only be among people with sexual problems.
Meston and colleague David Buss first questioned 444 men and women — ranging in age from 17 to 52 — to come up with a list of 237 distinct reasons people have sex. They ranged from "It's fun" which men ranked fourth and women ranked eighth to "I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease" which ranked on the bottom by women.
Once they came up with that long list, Meston and Buss asked 1,549 college students taking psychology classes to rank the reasons on a one-to-five scale on how they applied to their experiences.
"None of the gender differences are all that great," Meston said. "Men were more likely to be opportunistic towards having sex, so if sex were there and available they would jump on it, somewhat more so than women. Women were more likely to have sex because they felt they needed to please their partner."
But this is among college students, when Meston conceded "hormones run rampant." She predicted huge differences when older groups of people are studied.
Since her study came out Tuesday, people are coming up with new reasons to have sex.
"Originally, I thought that we exhaustively compiled the list, but now I found that there should be some added," Meston said.
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2007/08/01/sex_hea_02.html?category=health&guid=20070801111500
Aug. 1, 2007 — After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get intimate for mostly the same motivations. It's more about lust in the body than a love connection in the heart.
College-aged men and women agree on their top reasons for having sex — they were attracted to the person, they wanted to experience physical pleasure and "it feels good," according to a peer-reviewed study in the August edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Twenty of the top 25 reasons given for having sex were the same for men and women.
Expressing love and showing affection were in the top 10 for both men and women, but they did take a back seat to the clear No. 1: "I was attracted to the person."
Researchers at the University of Texas spent five years and their own money to study the overlooked why behind sex while others were spending their time on the how.
"It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes ... that men only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love," said University of Texas clinical psychology professor Cindy Meston, the study's co-author. "That's not what I came up with in my findings."
Forget thinking that men are from Mars and women from Venus, "the more we look, the more we find similarity," said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego. Goldstein, who wasn't part of Meston's study, said the Texas research made a lot of sense and adds to growing evidence that the vaunted differences in the genders may only be among people with sexual problems.
Meston and colleague David Buss first questioned 444 men and women — ranging in age from 17 to 52 — to come up with a list of 237 distinct reasons people have sex. They ranged from "It's fun" which men ranked fourth and women ranked eighth to "I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease" which ranked on the bottom by women.
Once they came up with that long list, Meston and Buss asked 1,549 college students taking psychology classes to rank the reasons on a one-to-five scale on how they applied to their experiences.
"None of the gender differences are all that great," Meston said. "Men were more likely to be opportunistic towards having sex, so if sex were there and available they would jump on it, somewhat more so than women. Women were more likely to have sex because they felt they needed to please their partner."
But this is among college students, when Meston conceded "hormones run rampant." She predicted huge differences when older groups of people are studied.
Since her study came out Tuesday, people are coming up with new reasons to have sex.
"Originally, I thought that we exhaustively compiled the list, but now I found that there should be some added," Meston said.
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2007/08/01/sex_hea_02.html?category=health&guid=20070801111500
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Actually. This pertains to a discussion we had a few months ago about statutory rape. The general census was that a 40 year old woman having sex with a 15 year old boy was more acceptable than if the genders were reversed. This study shows that whatever the genders are, the level of "taking-advantage-of" is roughly equivelant. That girls do not get into bed for love significantly more than boys do.
It's a very common stereotype that "women are far more interested in love than sexual intercourse" and the opposite is true for men. The results of this research shows that men and women are roughly the same.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
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That must have been a joke answer or something.
my opposition to that is that women are more vulnerable to consequences. a 14 year old girl can get pregnant and have her life altered. a 14 year old boy can't. also, women are more susceptible to STD's becos they have an "open" reproductive system, whereas men's are closed.
that said, im glad to have scientific proof that women are as shallow as they always bitch about men being. it's all about the looks people. no more bullshit denying it.
hahahaaa!! ... kabong - you stud! ...
anyhoo - my experience is that women enjoy sex as much as men but they for sure attach an emotional component to it that men sometimes leave out ...
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He can get stuck with child-support payments.
And men can get STDs.
This might not be politically correct but as a 15 year old boy , I would have done almost anything to have a 40 year old woman have sex with me .
Hell , as a 43 year old man I'd do almost ......
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Yea, me too. And if that hot 40 year old went for me I wouldn't have blamed her. But it should be a universal rule, including young girls, if we make any concessions for it.
But I can't say that anything underage really ever appeals to me.
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ah, remember the 1950s when women were said not to enjoy sex and then kinsey tried to disprove that? we're still there?
cross the river to the eastside
Just another reason to be sure and use protection EVERY time.
A truly liberal person is conservative when necessary.
Pro-life by choice.
A truly liberal person is conservative when necessary.
Pro-life by choice.
child support payments pale in comparison to the time and toll birth and physically raising a child take.
yes, men can. but medically speaking, it is easier for women to get them becos of the way their system is designed.
there has been study on the effects of sense on both genders. men react the way they do to a large turkey meal... contentment, satiation, and sleep. women release hormones that promote bonding. thus the stereotype of the guy rolling over to sleep while the girl wants to cuddle. this study does not disprove that. this study simply says that motivations are not dramatically different. women want sex for the same reasons men do... it feels good. that does not mean men and women respond to it in the same way. and despite ahnimus's conclusions, they DID note differences. they were jsut not as dramatically different as pop culture would have us believe. women did rank emotional connection higher and men did rank conquest higher. in addition, this is a sample of college kids who just want to fuck and experiment.
If you had random sex with someone a long time ago and then you get a girlfriend who thinks sex should only be for love, do you have to tell her that you had random sex with someone? Or is just telling her you're not a virgin okay?
-Enoch Powell
When I was a virgin, I told my girlfriend I had had sex before.
After the first time, she said, "I'm proud to be your first."
I'm a horrible liar.
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aww, is this your way of telling us you got laid? i think the most important question here is: did you wrap that shit up?
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my question is still why he didn't wait until marriage like his religion tells him to and how come he gets to ignore the rules he finds inconvenient but nobody else can? i mean, if he can't contain his desire for his gf even a year or two until the wedding, how can he demand a homosexual must supress their desires until they die?
i give them all the graphic details. it turns them on and prepares them for all the kinky shit im gonna wanna do to them. and if it spooks em, then i know it wasn't meant to be anyway cos they're a prude. plus, if she thinks she's got a lot to live up to, she'll try harder to please you cos women are way more competitive than men and every woman feels the need to prove her pussy is the best.
yeah i was wondering that too, but i just didn't feel like typing so much. thanks!
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Yeah. This is like a legit problem for me though. My current girlfriend wanted to know all sorts of details about who it was when etc. I was content with telling her the number and that I have no STDs.
-Enoch Powell
what's the number and when was the last time you were tested? like i said, give her details. she will feel inadequate and then work harder to make up the difference. also, act very remorseful. those holy chicks eat that shit up. she'll think she's saving you by fucking you in love.
i think honesty is good for relationships. if someone can't handle being honest or hearing the honest, then it doesn't seem like the right relationship.
cross the river to the eastside
Somehow i dont think your advice is very helpful.
-Enoch Powell