Does it make is racist...

Cuntified C

To say I don't date people from my own ethnic background? I am a black woman who has never been on a date with a black man in my life; neither have I slept with a black man in 16 years, and I'm 32. I don't date a lot to be honest, but when I do, it's always white people. I have nothing bad to say about black men - there are good ones and bad ones out there just like with all men. Just like with all people for that matter! I don't see a problem with people like me, who have a tendancy to date outside their race. I just think you make a connect to a person according to their spirit or personality rather than their skin colour or cultural background. However, a LOT of black people - especially women - would find it very offensive to hear of a black person never dating their race, and that annoys me to be honest as I think it's none of their business and not an issue. I don't find black men attractive, and never have done. I don't know why as there are some who are gorgeous, and I would never rule out dating a black man in the future, but I DO prefer to date white men as I do find that I tend to feel more attraction towards them. I don't know if I'd call it a preference or just a tendancy but this is honestly how I feel and I'm just interested to know your thoughts about it.

Ms. Haiku

I don't think it is up to someone else to tell you who you should be attracted to. If you go out of your way so that everyone knows you only date a certain type you may be presenting yourself as differently than how you want to come across, though.

I'm usually only attracted to brunettes, but once I dated a redheaded Robert-Redford-look-alike, and I think I'm the better for it

Cuntified C

Ms. Haiku wrote:

I don't think it is up to someone else to tell you who you should be attracted to. If you go out of your way so that everyone knows you only date a certain type you may be presenting yourself as differently than how you want to come across, though.

I'm usually only attracted to brunettes, but once I dated a redheaded Robert-Redford-look-alike, and I think I'm the better for it

I don't make a big issue outta the fact that I tend to date a certain type of person, but if you ask me, or the subject comes up I won't lie either.

UKDave

Doesn't make you racist at all....

And nothing wrong with red head's either

Cuntified C

UKDave wrote:

Doesn't make you racist at all....

And nothing wrong with red head's either

you know what they say, red on the head, fire in bed. dunno if that's true or not.

Heineken Helen

I don't really have a preference although I usually end up going out with darker men, well the typical Irish look of black hair, sallow skin and brown eyes... but they seem to be the kind who are attracted to me for some reason maybe that's cos that's what most Irish men look like

I don't know where I'm going with this. I've never dated outside of my race and I don't think I would either... and this includes not only ethnicity but different cultures in general. I'd have nothing wrong with going out with a black Irish man but I wouldn't go out with a white French man or whatever. Not to say I wouldn't, anything could happen, but... ah, I'm rambling :rolleyes:

Ms. Haiku

Cuntified C wrote:

I don't make a big issue outta the fact that I tend to date a certain type of person, but if you ask me, or the subject comes up I won't lie either.

I think you brought up a good question.

Cuntified C

Thank you miss haiku

HunterandHunted

Cuntified C wrote:

you know what they say, red on the head, fire in bed. dunno if that's true or not.

Oh yes.......i'm not but got a certain little friend who is and I can testify that it is truly a terrifying and mind-blowing experience........Lol....H

UKDave

Cuntified C wrote:

you know what they say, red on the head, fire in bed. dunno if that's true or not.

You know it baby!!!

redrock

Heineken Helen wrote:

I wouldn't go out with a white French man or whatever.

Pah!!! You'll never know what you're missing then!



Are you rejecting black men on the basis of the colour of their skin??? No... of course not.. so it's not racist. You prefer a certain type of guy, that's the way it goes. But.. never say never... I always went for the same kind of man (very tall - 6.4/6.5, chiselled/strong features with very black or very blond hair and ripped body).. the man I married is 5.9 with mousey hair!

Heineken Helen

redrock wrote:

Pah!!! You'll never know what you're missing then!

Trust me, I DO!!!!!!!!

I lived there, remember????? And that was BEFORE I got fussy

Cuntified C

Heineken Helen wrote:

Trust me, I DO!!!!!!!!

I lived there, remember????? And that was BEFORE I got fussy

T'as vecue en France? Quelle partie as - tu vecue?

reeferchief

Cuntified C wrote:

To say I don't date people from my own ethnic background? I am a black woman who has never been on a date with a black man in my life; neither have I slept with a black man in 16 years, and I'm 32. I don't date a lot to be honest, but when I do, it's always white people. I have nothing bad to say about black men - there are good ones and bad ones out there just like with all men. Just like with all people for that matter! I don't see a problem with people like me, who have a tendancy to date outside their race. I just think you make a connect to a person according to their spirit or personality rather than their skin colour or cultural background. However, a LOT of black people - especially women - would find it very offensive to hear of a black person never dating their race, and that annoys me to be honest as I think it's none of their business and not an issue. I don't find black men attractive, and never have done. I don't know why as there are some who are gorgeous, and I would never rule out dating a black man in the future, but I DO prefer to date white men as I do find that I tend to feel more attraction towards them. I don't know if I'd call it a preference or just a tendancy but this is honestly how I feel and I'm just interested to know your thoughts about it.

Do you know from your post's and username I had always assumed you were a man.:)

Heineken Helen

Cuntified C wrote:

T'as vecue en France? Quelle partie as - tu vecue?

Je ne comprends pas. J'etais courrement quand j'y habitais mais maintenant je le parle seulement quand j'ai trop bu . J'habitais a Paris il y a 8 ans.

redrock

Heineken Helen wrote:

Trust me, I DO!!!!!!!!

I lived there, remember????? And that was BEFORE I got fussy

You got a crappy one or two. For a good number of reasons, frenchmen are still high on my list (if I had a list, of course!!!!). And it's not because I'm French...

UKDave

redrock wrote:

You got a crappy one or two. For a good number of reasons, frenchmen are still high on my list (if I had a list, of course!!!!). And it's not because I'm French...

Rita... I'm getting confused here can we have a potted history?

We've had US, Hawaii and France all featuring heavily, anywhere else???

Heineken Helen

UKDave wrote:

Rita... I'm getting confused here can we have a potted history?

We've had US, Hawaii and France all featuring heavily, anywhere else???

For a good number of reasons, French men are LOW on MY List but that doesn't mean that the French are bad people or anything

redrock

UKDave wrote:

Rita... I'm getting confused here can we have a potted history?

We've had US, Hawaii and France all featuring heavily, anywhere else???

Russian and Finn... ... other secrets for another day.....

UKDave

redrock wrote:

Russian and Finn... ... other secrets for another day.....

No wonder you get the little voices you've got your own little UN going on in your head!!!!

redrock

UKDave wrote:

No wonder you get the little voices you've got your own little UN going on in your head!!!!

I've lived in many countries and travelled a lot..

And Dave... we can't hijack this thread with our rubbish!!!! (Just trying to save some face here....)

UKDave

redrock wrote:

I've lived in many countries and travelled a lot..

And Dave... we can't hijack this thread with our rubbish!!!! (Just trying to save some face here....)

Ooops!! did we do it again....? :eek:

soulsinging

Cuntified C wrote:

To say I don't date people from my own ethnic background? I am a black woman who has never been on a date with a black man in my life; neither have I slept with a black man in 16 years, and I'm 32. I don't date a lot to be honest, but when I do, it's always white people. I have nothing bad to say about black men - there are good ones and bad ones out there just like with all men. Just like with all people for that matter! I don't see a problem with people like me, who have a tendancy to date outside their race. I just think you make a connect to a person according to their spirit or personality rather than their skin colour or cultural background. However, a LOT of black people - especially women - would find it very offensive to hear of a black person never dating their race, and that annoys me to be honest as I think it's none of their business and not an issue. I don't find black men attractive, and never have done. I don't know why as there are some who are gorgeous, and I would never rule out dating a black man in the future, but I DO prefer to date white men as I do find that I tend to feel more attraction towards them. I don't know if I'd call it a preference or just a tendancy but this is honestly how I feel and I'm just interested to know your thoughts about it.

why would you want to date white guys? dont you know black men are hung like horses?

for the record, redheads ARE wilder. it's been statistically studied... women with red hair have more sex, and even blond/brunette women have more sex when they dye their hair red (signals looking for a mate). i wish i could find that article again. when i met my gf, she had recently dyed her hair red

rebornFixer

soulsinging wrote:

why would you want to date white guys? dont you know black men are hung like horses?

Believe it or not, there's actually been a penis size study, and basically there are no ethnic differences in the size of one's willy.
Lots of within-group individual differences, mind you.

decides2dream

reborncareerist wrote:

Believe it or not, there's actually been a penis size study, and basically there are no ethnic differences in the size of one's willy.
Lots of within-group individual differences, mind you.

i've read that as well.


anyway, as others have said...i don't think it makes one a racist, it's merely what attracts you. if it was a *conscious* choice for other reasons, perhaps....but otherwise, we cannot control our tastes.


and believe you me, not ALL redheads are wild. my mother is a redhead, and yikes...you really couldn't get much more puritanical.

soulsinging

reborncareerist wrote:

Believe it or not, there's actually been a penis size study, and basically there are no ethnic differences in the size of one's willy.
Lots of within-group individual differences, mind you.

i know, i was just messin. what's the saying? black guys show, white guys grow, hehe.

decides2dream

soulsinging wrote:

i know, i was just messin. what's the saying? black guys show, white guys grow, hehe.

for a hetero male, you sure do seem to know an awful lot about other men's penises.

i've never heard that saying before. haha.

miller8966

Is it racist if you only hook up for certain parts of the anatomy due to race?

Like black girls for their glutes...

Spanish girls for their fire

and white girls for their eyes?

Ms. Haiku

miller8966 wrote:

Is it racist if you only hook up for certain parts of the anatomy due to race?

Like black girls for their glutes...

Spanish girls for their fire

and white girls for their eyes?

I'm not Spanish, but why would you be with anyone without fire? By fire I'm thinking embracing life, and sharing it.

Boom The Cat

I'm white and will never date a black woman, because I'm not into them, I dont care if you say I'm racist, name calling isnt gonna change my choice of women.

rebornFixer

Boom The Cat wrote:

I'm white and will never date a black woman, because I'm not into them, I dont care if you say I'm racist, name calling isnt gonna change my choice of women.

That's basically where I am at. Some group attributes just don't attract me, whereas others do. My fiance is Metis, so I cannot claim that only completely white chicks catch my eye.