Cyber bullying

whitepants

Heineken Helen wrote:

I understand if you don't want to talk about but could you please give an example of what would constitute cyber bullying.

Helen, in my situation, I was harrassed via email with taunts and teasing. My messageboard that those women used to be members of, they secretly maintained ties to the community, and access was given to them to read the comments posted there, and in turn, they would copy sensitive information, and go to a rival community and post the comments there. This was very embarrassing and hurtful. It became a cloak and dagger game of trying to decipher who the moles were, and when the wrong people were excised, on the rival board, messages would be posted like "Ha! you missed, I'm still there".

These women, because of our former close friendships, revealed my full name and place of work just to demonstrate the lengths they would go to to harm me, and to show the control they had over me by publishing private information about me. Pictures I posted in on my messageboard, in the past, were copied and saved and posted elsewhere.

It was God awful, I could go on and on. But basically, cyberbullying is serious, and when you feel scared, threaten, embarrassed by real facts and information posted about you, or even false information posted about you meant to defame your character, makes you feel completely out of control and victimized.

Be careful of whom you befriend on the internet, and be careful about what private information you share about yourself to people you meet on the net. You may be friends for a while, but it takes one bad situation to end a friendship, and for that former friend to really show their true colors.

Mind, my harrassers were women well into their 40's (some married with kids!), fucking older than me at the time, so just imagine the shit the younger people can endure. The stress from that summer of 2005 harrassment caused me to lose 11lbs, and I was already a size 6!

genie

soulsinging wrote:

i corrected your typos for you

i know proper spelling should be shit

but i prefer shite because when you say it, it sounds differently.

genie

whitepants wrote:

Be careful of whom you befriend on the internet, and be careful about what private information you share about yourself to people you meet on the net. You may be friends for a while, but it takes one bad situation to end a friendship, and for that former friend to really show their true colors.

Mind, my harrassers were women well into their 40's (some married with kids!), fucking older than me at the time, so just imagine the shit the younger people can endure. The stress from that summer of 2005 harrassment caused me to lose 11lbs, and I was already a size 6!

i'm sorry to hear this has happened to you. and yes you're completely right it can happen to any of us.

Cosmo

'Cyber-Bullying'? I don't know if it happens here.
Although, I HAVE witnessed is a whole lotta 'Cyber-Bullshitting' and 'Cyber-Blubbering' goin' on.
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The way I see it... Either bullshit people online and quit being a pussy when someone calls you on it. We all know it's the fucking Internet and no one is who they really are. If you are going to say fucking shit that'll get people riled... don't start crying when they call you on it. If you wear your heart out on your sleeve, don't make remarks that are off the cuff.
Also, If words on your screen from some random Joe out on the Internet gets to so worked up that it 'Stresses You Out'... go seek professional help. Please.
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The bottom line here, kiddies... we are fucking adults. Besides... They are only words... I have never personally witnessed threats... (except for the wussy ones)... and the comments against me... to me... are laughable... because, really... who gives a fuck? I certainly don't.
What matters to me is how you are in the real world... not this imaginary playland. In the real world, we can see you as you are and if you are prone to spewing the same bullshit that comes off of your keyboard... we can smell it on your breath.
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And yeah... The Moving Train can be a bit rough at times... but look at what's on the table... politics, religion, war, abortion, gun control... tough issues where people's opinions are deeply rooted. So, expect some opposite points of views and some heated debates. If you can't handle tough debates without getting your feelings hurt... you can always go out to the other regions and talk about what is your favorite Pearl Jam Album... for the thousandth time.

Ahnimus

TrixieCat wrote:

These are my thoughts on cyber bullying:
I don't consider some doofus calling names cyber bullying. When someone pm's me and harasses me about something that happened in a thread...that is bullying. It has happened to me a couple of times. Now, myself, I am not frightened of these people, but I imagine others might.
And that to me is so incredibly cowardly. Especially when you are some anonymous person on here.
I have not reported these people; didn't see the need to.
But I wouldn't blame anyone that did.

Really? I think I've had someone PM me like that once and I ignored it. Usually people just openly trash talk me. The PMs I get are usually in quiet support of something I've said. Which could be analogous, in the sense that they don't speak up, maybe of fear of being trash talked too. Thankfully, I really don't give a shit what people think about me.

Jeanie

whitepants wrote:

Helen, in my situation, I was harrassed via email with taunts and teasing. My messageboard that those women used to be members of, they secretly maintained ties to the community, and access was given to them to read the comments posted there, and in turn, they would copy sensitive information, and go to a rival community and post the comments there. This was very embarrassing and hurtful. It became a cloak and dagger game of trying to decipher who the moles were, and when the wrong people were excised, on the rival board, messages would be posted like "Ha! you missed, I'm still there".

These women, because of our former close friendships, revealed my full name and place of work just to demonstrate the lengths they would go to to harm me, and to show the control they had over me by publishing private information about me. Pictures I posted in on my messageboard, in the past, were copied and saved and posted elsewhere.

It was God awful, I could go on and on. But basically, cyberbullying is serious, and when you feel scared, threaten, embarrassed by real facts and information posted about you, or even false information posted about you meant to defame your character, makes you feel completely out of control and victimized.

Be careful of whom you befriend on the internet, and be careful about what private information you share about yourself to people you meet on the net. You may be friends for a while, but it takes one bad situation to end a friendship, and for that former friend to really show their true colors.

Mind, my harrassers were women well into their 40's (some married with kids!), fucking older than me at the time, so just imagine the shit the younger people can endure. The stress from that summer of 2005 harrassment caused me to lose 11lbs, and I was already a size 6!

Thanks for sharing that whitepants.
It's an awful thing that has happened to you and I don't really understand the mindset of the perpertrators.
It seems we're having hard enough trouble here even acknowledging the existence of cyber bullying let alone what we should do about it.
I really hope that things have improved for you because that must have been a truly horrible experience.

Trailer

genie wrote:

yep, sometimes it happens so that the person is just a joker but he/she gets taken seriously, thats where the problem starts.

Yeah, I thought you were just a big joker at first... but now I think you are a bully!! Stop bullying me, bully!

edit: I'm joking... I know how sensitive you are:p:D

Cosmo

whitepants wrote:

Helen, in my situation, I was harrassed via email with taunts and teasing. My messageboard that those women used to be members of, they secretly maintained ties to the community, and access was given to them to read the comments posted there, and in turn, they would copy sensitive information, and go to a rival community and post the comments there. This was very embarrassing and hurtful. It became a cloak and dagger game of trying to decipher who the moles were, and when the wrong people were excised, on the rival board, messages would be posted like "Ha! you missed, I'm still there".

These women, because of our former close friendships, revealed my full name and place of work just to demonstrate the lengths they would go to to harm me, and to show the control they had over me by publishing private information about me. Pictures I posted in on my messageboard, in the past, were copied and saved and posted elsewhere.

It was God awful, I could go on and on. But basically, cyberbullying is serious, and when you feel scared, threaten, embarrassed by real facts and information posted about you, or even false information posted about you meant to defame your character, makes you feel completely out of control and victimized.

Be careful of whom you befriend on the internet, and be careful about what private information you share about yourself to people you meet on the net. You may be friends for a while, but it takes one bad situation to end a friendship, and for that former friend to really show their true colors.

Mind, my harrassers were women well into their 40's (some married with kids!), fucking older than me at the time, so just imagine the shit the younger people can endure. The stress from that summer of 2005 harrassment caused me to lose 11lbs, and I was already a size 6!

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You know what, kiddo? You don't need all the 'I'm so sorry for you...' crap... you needed someone to reach through the screen and slap you. Don't let them turn you into a victim. By doing so... you enable them.
And i hope you've learned a lesson from that experience... don't put out on the internet anything you don't want out there. it's the same as posting your personal information on a public shithouse wall... that the whole world can visit.
Sorry if that's tough... but, I'm not going to treat you as a victim and let those other bitches maintain power over you. Fuck those skanks... in fact... go over to their houses right now and tell them that Cosmo says, "Hey douchebags... quit being douchebags!"

Yoyoyo

Time to quit cryin.

Jeanie

Mestophar wrote:

Time to quit cryin.

Well I'm sorry you're upset.

Don't forget it helps to talk it out.

Yoyoyo

Jeanie wrote:

Well I'm sorry you're upset.

Don't forget it helps to talk it out.

Talking it out might actually do something, but your just mulling about typing to cyber"friends". It is not productive. Find some humans that can watch you cry, tears are easy sympathy for the pathetic.

Jeanie

Mestophar wrote:

Talking it out might actually do something, but your just mulling about typing to cyber"friends". It is not productive. Find some humans that can watch you cry, tears are easy sympathy for the pathetic.

Clearly you couldn't get past yourself again to see that I was being sarcastic.

Anyway my charming little judge and jury I'll start taking advice about my life from you when you actually appear to be capable of offering something of value.

But seriously now, I do hope you have a great life. Coz it seems for all your carry on you still keep popping up for more of this rubbish conversation between us.

One would have to wonder why that is?

dunkman

genie wrote:

i know proper spelling should be shit

but i prefer shite because when you say it, it sounds differently.

wrong.. shite is spelled correctly.

its a Scottish word.

genie

Trailer wrote:

Yeah, I thought you were just a big joker at first... but now I think you are a bully!! Stop bullying me, bully!

edit: I'm joking... I know how sensitive you are:p:D

how could you say this to me Trailer??!! i'm on my second tissue now :( , i'm crying non-stop, if i don't stop crying i will flood my workplace and then i will definitely get fired!!


hehe

genie

dunkman wrote:

wrong.. shite is spelled correctly.

its a Scottish word.

wow, it is true! thank you dunkman i do like learning new things in here.

and SS thought you made a typo :rolleyes:

dunkman

genie wrote:

and SS thought you made a typo :rolleyes:

he didnt really think i'd made a typo...he was making a joke... and in this joke he changed my quote to read something different which meant that instead of me mocking him turned him into a cool dude... re-read them and you'll see what he's done.

Heineken Helen

whitepants wrote:

Helen, in my situation, I was harrassed via email with taunts and teasing. My messageboard that those women used to be members of, they secretly maintained ties to the community, and access was given to them to read the comments posted there, and in turn, they would copy sensitive information, and go to a rival community and post the comments there. This was very embarrassing and hurtful. It became a cloak and dagger game of trying to decipher who the moles were, and when the wrong people were excised, on the rival board, messages would be posted like "Ha! you missed, I'm still there".

These women, because of our former close friendships, revealed my full name and place of work just to demonstrate the lengths they would go to to harm me, and to show the control they had over me by publishing private information about me. Pictures I posted in on my messageboard, in the past, were copied and saved and posted elsewhere.

It was God awful, I could go on and on. But basically, cyberbullying is serious, and when you feel scared, threaten, embarrassed by real facts and information posted about you, or even false information posted about you meant to defame your character, makes you feel completely out of control and victimized.

Be careful of whom you befriend on the internet, and be careful about what private information you share about yourself to people you meet on the net. You may be friends for a while, but it takes one bad situation to end a friendship, and for that former friend to really show their true colors.

Mind, my harrassers were women well into their 40's (some married with kids!), fucking older than me at the time, so just imagine the shit the younger people can endure. The stress from that summer of 2005 harrassment caused me to lose 11lbs, and I was already a size 6!

:eek: I'm really really sorry to hear all that. Obviously there's no doubt in my mind that once 'real' stuff is made public and shared that they've definitely gone too far

Heineken Helen

Ahnimus wrote:

Really? I think I've had someone PM me like that once and I ignored it. Usually people just openly trash talk me. The PMs I get are usually in quiet support of something I've said. Which could be analogous, in the sense that they don't speak up, maybe of fear of being trash talked too. Thankfully, I really don't give a shit what people think about me.

Yep, I've had PLENTY of pm's from people backing me up whenever I speak out against members of a certain clique. People ARE afraid to say anything... and I don't understand why cos this clique is full of pussies and as soon as you call them on anything they get all upset and get the rest of the clique to back them up and it can be quite funny! But yes, I have got one or two pretty scary pm's... but luckily those people didn't know where I live. If they knew where I live it would be a whole differrent matter.

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

wrong.. shite is spelled correctly.

its a Scottish word.

Shite's an Irish word ya bollox. You brits stole it off us in the 12th century :cool:

surfanddestroy

dunkman wrote:

wrong.. shite is spelled correctly.

its a Scottish word.

Not just Scottish, we say it in England all the time.