PJ fans in 12 step Recovery

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catch22 wrote:

don't become a poster person

those people scare me more than any alcoholic i ever met!

"Flippers anynomous"?

Or "Poster Purchases arnonymous"??

mickeyrat

catch22 wrote:

don't become a poster person

those people scare me more than any alcoholic i ever met!

was speaking more of the boots and that.waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy to many poster threads.also seems like for quite a few on here that it's work then the boards all day every day.I mean I dearly love the music and all that but come on, some of this stuff is a bit much. see a whole lot of sarcasm towards everyone , especially newbies like me.

Piper At The Gates

You really have to take an 'Easy Does It' attitude toward anything and everything for awhile when you are first trying to stay sober. I was so obsessed with getting drunk and high for 25+ years that when I lost that, I didn't know what to do. I not only loved the booze and drugs so much, I also loved the lifestyle that went with it. That is a huge hole to fill. You are totally recreating yourself when you get sober.

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AA may not add years to your life..

but it will add life to your years...

Had enough?

mickeyrat

found out from one of my bosses today that I don't play well with others.
I am a Dept. Head (Manager) for my company and being one who has admitted my life is UNmanagable how do I strike that balance trying to live what the program teaches and getting people to do what I want.Not in selfish terms but for the good of our business?Part of me doesn't really care about what others think or feel about me But this behaviour is impacting my work.Any thoughts?

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mickeyrat wrote:

found out from one of my bosses today that I don't play well with others.
I am a Dept. Head (Manager) for my company and being one who has admitted my life is UNmanagable how do I strike that balance trying to live what the program teaches and getting people to do what I want.Not in selfish terms but for the good of our business?Part of me doesn't really care about what others think or feel about me But this behaviour is impacting my work.Any thoughts?

I am in the same boat.. like most alcholics we are control freaks..

what has worked for me is trying out some of these aspects:

1) Get 'right-sized" / reducing my incredble ego..try to stay humble...
2) Keep my side of ths street clean.. stop taking everyone else's inventory.

3) Find ways to get to "yes" with my co-workers, I try it their way for a change..was a breath of fresh air...

4) You don't have to go to every fight you are invited to... ( a big change for me).. it just ain't worth it...

A buddy of mine uses a "code word" when he disagrees with someone .. He says "You know you might be right!" (which means you might be wrong as well!)

Try it out.. changes the dynamic of your conversations..

5) I try to realize my higher power is the only one keeping score... what other people think of me is none of MY business..

Hope this helps..

remember, its progress not perfection!

mickeyrat

much appreciated.

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anyone out there have anything they can share..?

open forum here..

mickeyrat

locked wrote:

anyone out there have anything they can share..?

open forum here..

if no one else does have anything , we can certainly keep this going.

mickeyrat

todays quote from Easy Does It (haz.)

"look for similarities rather than differences" Anonymous

Damn I love that guy. comes up with some good stuff

catch22

mickeyrat wrote:

found out from one of my bosses today that I don't play well with others.
I am a Dept. Head (Manager) for my company and being one who has admitted my life is UNmanagable how do I strike that balance trying to live what the program teaches and getting people to do what I want.Not in selfish terms but for the good of our business?Part of me doesn't really care about what others think or feel about me But this behaviour is impacting my work.Any thoughts?

sorry, i've never really had any leadership positions and know nothing about trying to manage a workplace. i'm still just trying to get through law school!

mickeyrat

catch22 wrote:

sorry, i've never really had any leadership positions and know nothing about trying to manage a workplace. i'm still just trying to get through law school!

so is the wife! what year?

catch22

mickeyrat wrote:

so is the wife! what year?

third. i'm almost to the finish line. then i get to see if my past will be a problem for the bar exam's character fitness portion.

mickeyrat

catch22 wrote:

third. i'm almost to the finish line. then i get to see if my past will be a problem for the bar exam's character fitness portion.

she's first any tips on torts and contracts?

catch22

mickeyrat wrote:

she's first any tips on torts and contracts?

not offhand. i had horrible study habits and rode the curve first year. my only tip would be to sstay calm, do what worked for her to get her there, and ignore the freaks who will look like studying machines and intimidate everyone. she doesn't need to do what they do.

mickeyrat

yesterdays quote from 'seasons of the spirit' (haz) not 12 step but meditation related book for getting old farts. like me

"Who , then , can so softly bind up the wound of another , as he who has felt the same wound?" Thomas Jefferson



Todays quote later

catch22

i gave a lead today on being of service to others. good times. i've not given one of those in a while.

mickeyrat

from 'Easy Does It' (haz.)

"Our family. parents , and loved ones can ' push our buttons'. Thats because they installed them.

mickeyrat

'In Gods Care*'(haz.)
*As We Understand God


"Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from your friend's forehead" Chinese Proverb

mickeyrat

catch22 wrote:

i gave a lead today on being of service to others. good times. i've not given one of those in a while.

Asked to speak at the end of the month trying not to rehearse but....

For me I'm fine up until the opening readings get closer to the introduction.Then the butterflies get to flying something fierce.