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ecdanc said:dignin said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:i have read what was written. no point was missed. people here need to come to the realization that just because I disagree with you, doesn't mean a point was missed, or, as dignin so elegantly put it, as usual, is "fucking weak".
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Spiritual_Chaos said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:But are we just talking about what pronoun to use till the child is 3 years old... or do you include other gender-related things into that in this discussion?0
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ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:But are we just talking about what pronoun to use till the child is 3 years old... or do you include other gender-related things into that in this discussion?
So if your method plays out over time, will the gender line between names be eliminated? That would be interesting. Would it also eliminate the tradition of names to honor a family member? As I mentioned earlier, my son is Nicholas, named after his grandfather. Would I name my daughter Nicholas? I guess maybe?0 -
dignin said:ecdanc said:dignin said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:i have read what was written. no point was missed. people here need to come to the realization that just because I disagree with you, doesn't mean a point was missed, or, as dignin so elegantly put it, as usual, is "fucking weak".0
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mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:ecdanc said:Spiritual_Chaos said:But are we just talking about what pronoun to use till the child is 3 years old... or do you include other gender-related things into that in this discussion?
So if your method plays out over time, will the gender line between names be eliminated? That would be interesting. Would it also eliminate the tradition of names to honor a family member? As I mentioned earlier, my son is Nicholas, named after his grandfather. Would I name my daughter Nicholas? I guess maybe?0 -
I met a woman named Ronnie, said her dad wanted a boy and that was it on her birth certificate. I don't think the name matters much, nowadays people are using unusual names, Gage, Summer, I saw a girl on ForgedInFire her name was Weslie.
My cousins husband, in his mid 30's, decided to have a circumcision. He was doing a bicycling around Europe for a year and a half and risk of infection was too great for him to risk. his choice, maybe some do fine with it.
Anyone could argue pro's and con's of all the choices parents have to make for their kids. I think kids need a baseline and if doesn't work as they grow, then adjust it. The part I said about accepting our bodies was more general in the sense of height, weight, hair color, complexion, everything one person doesn't like about ourselves, we have to come to terms with it IF we cannot change it. Even if you raise a child neutral, they identify with female at the age of 3 and when she turns 14 she wants to transition. what's the difference.
In certain states a child can marry at the age of 14 if both parents give permission, I don't agree with that, but if the 14 yr old wants to, they will probably find a way, or maybe not. A mom who let her 16 yr old have breast implants, I don't feel the 16yr old gave her body enough time to develop and see what the end result is, and then if she wants them okay.Amy The Great #74594
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HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.hippiemom = goodness0 -
cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit."I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080 -
jeffbr said:cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.hippiemom = goodness0 -
cincybearcat said:jeffbr said:cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.
cool thing is I ll be able to teach one of my kids next year. I taught my daughter and it was great.
I'll ride the wave where it takes me......0 -
cincybearcat said:jeffbr said:cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.0 -
You guys are old as shit.0
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jeffbr said:cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.0 -
cincybearcat said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:dignin said:HughFreakingDillon said:Spiritual_Chaos said:HughFreakingDillon said:to me, the infinitesimal reality of your child wanting/needing to transition at some point in life does not require everyone to start from a position of neutrality. as mcgruff said, i think that could be incredibly confusing to a kid who by default is highly likely going to identify as the traditional gender that goes with the biological sex they are born with.
to me that's like preparing your budget based on the possibility of winning the lottery. it just doesn't make sense.
we as a society have a long way to go in acceptance and normalization of those that want/need this in their lives, but I think it could be detrimental long term for everyone to take this road.
I have problems seeing the big deal here.
I mean. My niece loved Frozen. And I thought she still did. Then she said she HATED FROZEN and only loved pokemon. So I adjusted and started teasing her about her still having Olaf bedsheets.
But I already stated: starting from a point of neutrality, where 99.9% of all other kids are one or the other, could be incredibly harmful. The benefits just do not outweigh the cons on this. I think neutral gender kids could end up being confused when there was no actual need for it to begin with.
and I can't imagine having a FORCED identity crisis at 5 years old when I wouldn't have had one to begin with.Gotta give the guy a break though, 1st kid, 9 months I think? Regardless very young. He had no clue. It’s all Parenting book bullshit.0 -
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