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ecdanc

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

mickeyrat

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

again I'll state you are unknown to us and we to you(unless you choose to come to a quick judgement about any of us) so what this pic is to me, shows your are defensive.

we are telling who this dude is based on our long experience engaging with him here and elsewhere on this site.

so before posts like this go on, do yourself a favor and step back and read our various responses to a given topic over time..... study....and learn.

ecdanc

HughFreakingDillon said:

and isn't "old codger" an offensive term? LOL

An interesting question. My first inclination is to say "no," but let me look up the history of the word. 

HughFreakingDillon

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

it's not that at ALL. newbie or not, we're just giving you the barometer to go by. If you piss me off, doesn't necessarily mean anything. Same with most people around here. But Brian, that's a different story. And he doesn't need "protecting", he's good on his own. It was more meant as an exercise in self-reflection. 

ecdanc

mickeyrat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

again I'll state you are unknown to us and we to you(unless you choose to come to a quick judgement about any of us) so what this pic is to me, shows your are defensive.

we are telling who this dude is based on our long experience engaging with him here and elsewhere on this site.

so before posts like this go on, do yourself a favor and step back and read our various responses to a given topic over time..... study....and learn.

A joke that missed. I'm used to that. Apologies. I really did mean that as lighthearted. 

HughFreakingDillon

ecdanc said:

mickeyrat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

again I'll state you are unknown to us and we to you(unless you choose to come to a quick judgement about any of us) so what this pic is to me, shows your are defensive.

we are telling who this dude is based on our long experience engaging with him here and elsewhere on this site.

so before posts like this go on, do yourself a favor and step back and read our various responses to a given topic over time..... study....and learn.

A joke that missed. I'm used to that. Apologies. I really did mean that as lighthearted. 

please tell me I'm reading this incorrectly. 

mickeyrat

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

and isn't "old codger" an offensive term? LOL

An interesting question. My first inclination is to say "no," but let me look up the history of the word. 

history dictates or how you used it? I read it as derisive. it surely wasnt intended to be benign.  at least in print with no visual , tonal clues to suggest otherwise

ecdanc

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

it's not that at ALL. newbie or not, we're just giving you the barometer to go by. If you piss me off, doesn't necessarily mean anything. Same with most people around here. But Brian, that's a different story. And he doesn't need "protecting", he's good on his own. It was more meant as an exercise in self-reflection. 

An occurrence from which I'd like to learn. Everyone tells me I approached this wrong, but no one can tell me what the right way to approach it is. That tends to make me think maybe there is no way...

mrussel1

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

if you are truly offended by that, then fine, my apologies and I will edit my post. 

It hit a nerve because a very old professor brought up this SNL skit at a social event while asking about my child. It took everything in my power not to floor the old codger right there. 

Sounds like your toxic masculinity was in overdrive there.  

ecdanc

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

mickeyrat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

again I'll state you are unknown to us and we to you(unless you choose to come to a quick judgement about any of us) so what this pic is to me, shows your are defensive.

we are telling who this dude is based on our long experience engaging with him here and elsewhere on this site.

so before posts like this go on, do yourself a favor and step back and read our various responses to a given topic over time..... study....and learn.

A joke that missed. I'm used to that. Apologies. I really did mean that as lighthearted. 

please tell me I'm reading this incorrectly. 

Not sure how you're reading it, but I'm pretty accustomed to making jokes people don't find funny. Mostly puns. 

ecdanc

mrussel1 said:

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

if you are truly offended by that, then fine, my apologies and I will edit my post. 

It hit a nerve because a very old professor brought up this SNL skit at a social event while asking about my child. It took everything in my power not to floor the old codger right there. 

Sounds like your toxic masculinity was in overdrive there.  

Indeed. 

ecdanc

mickeyrat said:

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

and isn't "old codger" an offensive term? LOL

An interesting question. My first inclination is to say "no," but let me look up the history of the word. 

history dictates or how you used it? I read it as derisive. it surely wasnt intended to be benign.  at least in print with no visual , tonal clues to suggest otherwise

I read Hugh's question as "is the term 'codger' itself offensive *as a term*." Obviously it can be used as an insult, which I was doing in this case. The history of the word helps determine whether it's more broadly offensive. For example, if I say to my friend "you're stupid," I'm being insulting, but (in the context of this conversation not "offensive"). If I say "you're retarded" (apologies for actually writing that out--I worry some might not know what I mean if I say "r-word") I'm being both insulting and offensive. 

hedonist

Welp, this has been an enlightening thread.

It's really brought out the best in some folks!

HughFreakingDillon

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

it's not that at ALL. newbie or not, we're just giving you the barometer to go by. If you piss me off, doesn't necessarily mean anything. Same with most people around here. But Brian, that's a different story. And he doesn't need "protecting", he's good on his own. It was more meant as an exercise in self-reflection. 

An occurrence from which I'd like to learn. Everyone tells me I approached this wrong, but no one can tell me what the right way to approach it is. That tends to make me think maybe there is no way...

we've told you. 

-don't condescend
-allow others' viewpoints
-stating your the expert and scholar on any given subject will basically shut down any meaningful dialogue
-just read the room. if everyone's annoyed with one person, there's probably good reason. 

HughFreakingDillon

hedonist said:

Welp, this has been an enlightening thread.

It's really brought out the best in some folks!

as enlightening as this post. 

ecdanc

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

it's not that at ALL. newbie or not, we're just giving you the barometer to go by. If you piss me off, doesn't necessarily mean anything. Same with most people around here. But Brian, that's a different story. And he doesn't need "protecting", he's good on his own. It was more meant as an exercise in self-reflection. 

An occurrence from which I'd like to learn. Everyone tells me I approached this wrong, but no one can tell me what the right way to approach it is. That tends to make me think maybe there is no way...

we've told you. 

-don't condescend
-allow others' viewpoints
-stating your the expert and scholar on any given subject will basically shut down any meaningful dialogue
-just read the room. if everyone's annoyed with one person, there's probably good reason. 

And this approach has proven effective for getting people to admit they are wrong?

mickeyrat

ecdanc said:

mickeyrat said:

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

and isn't "old codger" an offensive term? LOL

An interesting question. My first inclination is to say "no," but let me look up the history of the word. 

history dictates or how you used it? I read it as derisive. it surely wasnt intended to be benign.  at least in print with no visual , tonal clues to suggest otherwise

I read Hugh's question as "is the term 'codger' itself offensive *as a term*." Obviously it can be used as an insult, which I was doing in this case. The history of the word helps determine whether it's more broadly offensive. For example, if I say to my friend "you're stupid," I'm being insulting, but (in the context of this conversation not "offensive"). If I say "you're retarded" (apologies for actually writing that out--I worry some might not know what I mean if I say "r-word") I'm being both insulting and offensive. 

I have to ask, and this is earnest and sincere, are you on the spectrum to some degree?

cincybearcat

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

ecdanc said:

cincybearcat said:

mrussel1 said:

Rule of thumb on the AMT.. if you piss off @brianlux, it's probably you.  It's pretty simple.  Brian is the nicest, least argumentative person that's a regular here.  

Didn’t see you post it before I said basically the same thing again. Right on

I thought you liked to learn? Apparently not. You just like to lash out with pictures like some others around these parts. 

I meant this as a lighthearted joke. I get it: I'm the new guy arguing with one of the regulars. See my other post about Brianlux. 

it's not that at ALL. newbie or not, we're just giving you the barometer to go by. If you piss me off, doesn't necessarily mean anything. Same with most people around here. But Brian, that's a different story. And he doesn't need "protecting", he's good on his own. It was more meant as an exercise in self-reflection. 

An occurrence from which I'd like to learn. Everyone tells me I approached this wrong, but no one can tell me what the right way to approach it is. That tends to make me think maybe there is no way...

we've told you. 

-don't condescend
-allow others' viewpoints
-stating your the expert and scholar on any given subject will basically shut down any meaningful dialogue
-just read the room. if everyone's annoyed with one person, there's probably good reason. 

And this approach has proven effective for getting people to admit they are wrong?

Again, I thought you "like to learn" not get people to admit they were wrong.  Sheesh...if that's all you are here for....

mickeyrat

yeah now I get a troll vibe....

hedonist

HughFreakingDillon said:

hedonist said:

Welp, this has been an enlightening thread.

It's really brought out the best in some folks!

as enlightening as this post. 

It appears you're still het up.

I am not.

Let's not do this yet again.