I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
but your intent here is supposed to excuse things, right.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
Remember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago 2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy 2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE) 2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston 2020: Oakland, Oakland:2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana 2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville 2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
I'd love not to argue, but people keep saying offensive things here, then they want to argue when I say "umm, that's offensive."
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
It should and it does, in my experiences anyways.
I agree that intentionally dehumanizing someone is worse than unintentionally dehumanizing someone.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
I'd love not to argue, but people keep saying offensive things here, then they want to argue when I say "umm, that's offensive."
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
I think most here would agree with the bolded. I do.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
I'd love not to argue, but people keep saying offensive things here, then they want to argue when I say "umm, that's offensive."
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
I think most here would agree with the bolded. I do.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
I'd love not to argue, but people keep saying offensive things here, then they want to argue when I say "umm, that's offensive."
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
I guess I have a hard time putting it in context.
Remember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago 2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy 2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE) 2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston 2020: Oakland, Oakland:2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana 2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville 2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
I think you just want to argue regardless of what anyone says here.
I'd love not to argue, but people keep saying offensive things here, then they want to argue when I say "umm, that's offensive."
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
It should and it does, in my experiences anyways.
I agree that intentionally dehumanizing someone is worse than unintentionally dehumanizing someone.
In my experience, although very limited, the trans people I know are very understanding. I work with a trans person, but I had the luxury of being introduced to her with her name. So that's how I refer to her.
But even with my best intentions, I could probably still fuck that up somehow and I get the impression she would be forgiving. Most of us have spent our entire lives using two pronouns so we're bound to slip every once in awhile, even with the best of intentions.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
well said....
I get that saying "there is only male and female" is probably incorrect. I'm not a scientist so I just can't argue about it.
Remember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago 2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy 2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE) 2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston 2020: Oakland, Oakland:2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana 2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville 2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
It should and it does, in my experiences anyways.
I agree that intentionally dehumanizing someone is worse than unintentionally dehumanizing someone.
In my experience, although very limited, the trans people I know are very understanding. I work with a trans person, but I had the luxury of being introduced to her with her name. So that's how I refer to her.
But even with my best intentions, I could probably still fuck that up somehow and I get the impression she would be forgiving. Most of us have spent our entire lives using two pronouns so we're bound to slip every once in awhile, even with the best of intentions.
Absolutely. The goal is to minimize—and eventually eliminate—their need to be forgiving (in this precise way).
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
Remember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago 2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy 2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE) 2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston 2020: Oakland, Oakland:2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana 2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville 2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
So? What's the point trying to be made here?
Who has asked you to know this?
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"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
well said....
I get that saying "there is only male and female" is probably incorrect. I'm not a scientist so I just can't argue about it.
No, no, no. Science has nothing to do with this. Science does not determine when and how you treat someone with decency.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I guess you missed the part where I admit to not getting it?
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
See, what’s the proper way for me to tell Gern he’s being offensive?
keep in mind that I don't care what pronoun people use....I'm just not going to use it
So you’re reinforcing the dehumanization of trans, non-binary, and gender fluid people.
Not intentionally. I don't think it is fair to make that case against someone who truly doesn't care how people choose to identify.
Why does your intent matter? I doubt it does to the trans people you’re misgendering.
It should and it does, in my experiences anyways.
I agree that intentionally dehumanizing someone is worse than unintentionally dehumanizing someone.
In my experience, although very limited, the trans people I know are very understanding. I work with a trans person, but I had the luxury of being introduced to her with her name. So that's how I refer to her.
But even with my best intentions, I could probably still fuck that up somehow and I get the impression she would be forgiving. Most of us have spent our entire lives using two pronouns so we're bound to slip every once in awhile, even with the best of intentions.
Absolutely. The goal is to minimize—and eventually eliminate—their need to be forgiving (in this precise way).
For this to really happen wouldn't we have to get rid of the terms "his or her"?
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I guess you missed the part where I admit to not getting it?
Sorry. My bad. I quoted you to reinforce my point to Gern. I was unclear.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
Ask?
Isn't that like assuming a woman "when is your due date?" when she may have just put on a few lbs?
Asking someone what their pronoun is makes no sense. If I need to ask you in order for someone to avoid being offended then you need to just announce occasionally so that everyone knows.
Remember the Thomas Nine !! (10/02/2018)
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago 2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy 2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE) 2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston 2020: Oakland, Oakland:2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana 2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville 2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
Ask?
Isn't that like assuming a woman "when is your due date?" when she may have just put on a few lbs?
Asking someone what their pronoun is makes no sense. If I need to ask you in order for someone to avoid being offended then you need to just announce occasionally so that everyone knows.
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
Ask?
I'm full of questions here.
I would think it might come off as rude if you asked?
I'll say this....I don't care how people identify and want to live their lives. Life is too short for us to tell anyone how they can live.
That being said, this pronoun crap is ridiculous. They even have to document your preferred pronoun on medical records now. I told my wife I am going to use "her/they" if they ask me.
A lot of people think this way. I think this way.
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
“This ... is ridiculous” does not sound like someone trying to understand.
I apologize if that offended you, truly. I think it is ridiculous in the sense that no one could possibly know what pronoun someone wants to be referred to as when we don't have it tattooed on our foreheads or wear some sort of sign/tag.
Ask?
I'm full of questions here.
I would think it might come off as rude if you asked?
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1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
Just say, "I hadn't thought about how my choice of words might have an impact on marginalized people; I'll respect people's pronoun choices so I don't unwittingly align myself with these harmful discursive formations" and we'll have no argument.
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
It is something I try and understand and do not get, I just don't.
I have gay neighbors that have an adopted son that wants to trasngender/transform to a woman. They don't understand but are trying.
I'm trying.
It may take a lot of questions and people telling me I'm offending them or I am not getting it but I am trying.
In the end I may not understand but that doesn't mean that I am against what they are doing. Live and let live.
But even with my best intentions, I could probably still fuck that up somehow and I get the impression she would be forgiving. Most of us have spent our entire lives using two pronouns so we're bound to slip every once in awhile, even with the best of intentions.
I get that saying "there is only male and female" is probably incorrect. I'm not a scientist so I just can't argue about it.
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
Who has asked you to know this?
Asking someone what their pronoun is makes no sense. If I need to ask you in order for someone to avoid being offended then you need to just announce occasionally so that everyone knows.
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Wrigley; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I would think it might come off as rude if you asked?
or is the wrong pronoun more egregious?
or is it different case for different people?