Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

OffSheGoes35

No

1000 posts. Congratulations Agnes! Here's some opera...
https://youtu.be/8Qx2lMaMsl8

OffSheGoes35

No

   It is an amazing thread!

mcgruff10

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

   It is an amazing thread!

I still think spiritual dropped the ball but he still has a chance if he plays his cards right. 

njnancy

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

   It is an amazing thread!

I still think spiritual dropped the ball but he still has a chance if he plays his cards right. 

No. She likes him as a friend. He needs to figure out if he can be friends with her and let go of his romantic feelings or not. She is not going to come around. It is difficult to have a guy (or girl, I suppose) friend who wants to 'be with you' when you only want to hang out with them. He needs to find Beth. 

And we need an update about the bimonthly beer pretty soon. Work deadlines were a good excuse for postponing, but getting appendicitis was really going for a delay. I gotta give you dedication in putting this off SC. And I hope you're feeling better. 

HesCalledDyer

Force Of Nature said:

So advice on this situation...
I really like this girl.  Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone.
We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.

I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys.
I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.

Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend?
Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?

My advice: don’t dip your wick in the payroll.

lastexitlondon

Yes

Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends.  More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it

Spiritual_Chaos

bootlegger10 said:

Agnes is aware of the thread right?  Has she read it?  

She knows I asked Pearl Jam fans with a poll. haha. 

But I doubt she cares enough to search the thread out.

As in, she doesn't care enough about me. Boo-hoo.

YOU 
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Spiritual_Chaos

lastexitlondon said:

Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends.  More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIkVV2AuEQw

Spiritual_Chaos

mcgruff10 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

   It is an amazing thread!

I still think spiritual dropped the ball but he still has a chance if he plays his cards right. 

Thank you. but that's just another thing you're wrong about :P  

HughFreakingDillon

Force Of Nature said:

So advice on this situation...
I really like this girl.  Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone.
We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.

I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys.
I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.

Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend?
Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?

yes, but it's impossible to give real advice, as all people are different. you might be firmly in the friend zone, she might think she is. you might wreck the friendship, or, depending on the strength of your relationship, might go right back to being friends or you may not. 

you really just have to read the room. do you have another friend in the office you could trust with this info to get their take on it? they might be like "dude, she's totally not into you at ALL", or "um, we've all seen how she flirts with you, we've all got an office pool going wondering when you'll ask her out". 

I was once super good friends with a girl in my 20's. like, insanely close. we were both single for a while, so after a kind-of-awkward conversation, decided to give it a go. it was weird. lasted about a week before we both admitted to each other it seemed kind of icky. so we went back to being friends. (luckily, by that point, nothing significantly physical had occured). 

I agree with those who say don't regret not doing something. honestly, the things you do that you regret are forgotten. the things you regret not doing are the things you remember forever. 

Meltdown99

Yes

by the time you ask her out, she will be married with kids...

darwinstheory

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

mcgruff10 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

   It is an amazing thread!

I still think spiritual dropped the ball but he still has a chance if he plays his cards right. 

Thank you. but that's just another thing you're wrong about :P  

His Yankee fandom has nothing to do with Agnes. 

:look_at_the_time:

HughFreakingDillon

Meltdown99 said:

by the time you ask her out, she will be married with kids...

he asked her, like, 5 pages ago at least. 

OffSheGoes35

No

That's right, we have Agnes historians.

OffSheGoes35

No

Meltdown99 said:

by the time you ask her out, she will be married with kids...

Agnes's answer can be found on page 20. :glasses:

lastexitlondon said:

Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends.  More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it

What changed your mind?

PJ_Soul

Yes

Force Of Nature said:

So advice on this situation...
I really like this girl.  Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone.
We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.

I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys.
I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.

Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend?
Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?

I've been on the receiving end of this several times. It never works. I've never seen it work with other people, and it's never worked for me. In most cases, the woman would know that more is possible between her and a guy a LOT faster than that. If she isn't having the same feelings by now, she is very unlikely to ever have those feelings. Your only options are to 1) forget about it and either let the feelings go away or stop being her friend entirely so that you're not torturing yourself, or 2) express how you feel just to make sure she's not got the same feelings for you (obviously this option is riskier in terms of holding onto any possibility of a platonic friendship as you move forward, although that is definitely not impossible - I've seen that work).

OffSheGoes35

No

What advice would you give Force Of Nature, Spiritual_Chaos?

Spiritual_Chaos

OffSheGoes35 said:

What advice would you give Force Of Nature, Spiritual_Chaos?

If I worked with the person I would chill out.

If I didn't I would ask her out with a cool-as-a-cuccumber textmessage. 

And if she would say "No thanks", I would stack up as many deadlines and surgeries and trips home I could so I wouldn't have to meet her again untill some things that should not have been forgotten were lost. History became legend. Legend became myth. And for two and a half thousand years, the ring passed out of all knowledge.

HughFreakingDillon

Spiritual_Chaos said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

What advice would you give Force Of Nature, Spiritual_Chaos?

If I worked with the person I would chill out.

If I didn't I would ask her out with a cool-as-a-cuccumber textmessage. 

And if she would say "No thanks", I would stack up as many deadlines and surgeries and trips home I could so I wouldn't have to meet her again untill some things that should not have been forgotten were lost. History became legend. Legend became myth. And for two and a half thousand years, the ring passed out of all knowledge.

LOL

rgambs

PJ_Soul said:

Force Of Nature said:

So advice on this situation...
I really like this girl.  Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone.
We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.

I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys.
I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.

Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend?
Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?

I've been on the receiving end of this several times. It never works. I've never seen it work with other people, and it's never worked for me. In most cases, the woman would know that more is possible between her and a guy a LOT faster than that. If she isn't having the same feelings by now, she is very unlikely to ever have those feelings. Your only options are to 1) forget about it and either let the feelings go away or stop being her friend entirely so that you're not torturing yourself, or 2) express how you feel just to make sure she's not got the same feelings for you (obviously this option is riskier in terms of holding onto any possibility of a platonic friendship as you move forward, although that is definitely not impossible - I've seen that work).

It happens all the time!