Forgot to add, When my mum mentions my future children I tell her that it won't happen and she gets all sad and scared.
Having children just because your mother wants grandchildren is one of the worst reasons to have children. They aren't accessories.
Words of wisdom.
Never let bullshit societal norms or the desires of others force you into something you don't truly want for yourself.
Won't happen. What is starting to get to me is people questioning my unemployed status. Is it a societal norm to work?
Uh, well no, I wouldn't say that. I mean, yeah, people normally work which makes it normal in society. But people have to work to support themselves, feed themselves, clothe themselves, etc. But FYI, being a full time student is considered a job. It is very very normal for a full time student not to work. That's why student loans are so high, lol. So just tell people that when they ask about your unemployment status. If you stop being a full time student and still don't have a job, then you'll just be someone who doesn't support himself.
People are like 'well I went through university and held a part time job bla bla" Psychology is so competitive that you need a very high GPA to get accepted into postgraduate degrees. If that wasn't the case I'd work part time and study full time. I need to dedicate 100% of my time to my current degree to have a chance at postgraduate.
Ya, well some people are jerks, lol. I actually worked part time all through full time university myself, but man, it sure would have been nice to not have, lol. I chose to move out from my parents' house early so had to work to support myself without screwing myself with too many loans... but that is just one of the legit options. Dude, stop caring so much about what other people think about your choices. I feel like you haven't had the greatest epiphany of adulthood: who cares what other people think???? Fuck 'em!!
Had to work to support your partying ways...lol
Yeah, and also to pay my rent , tuition and books, bills, for food and transportation, and clothing.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
Forgot to add, When my mum mentions my future children I tell her that it won't happen and she gets all sad and scared.
Having children just because your mother wants grandchildren is one of the worst reasons to have children. They aren't accessories.
Words of wisdom.
Never let bullshit societal norms or the desires of others force you into something you don't truly want for yourself.
Won't happen. What is starting to get to me is people questioning my unemployed status. Is it a societal norm to work?
Uh, well no, I wouldn't say that. I mean, yeah, people normally work which makes it normal in society. But people have to work to support themselves, feed themselves, clothe themselves, etc. But FYI, being a full time student is considered a job. It is very very normal for a full time student not to work. That's why student loans are so high, lol. So just tell people that when they ask about your unemployment status. If you stop being a full time student and still don't have a job, then you'll just be someone who doesn't support himself.
People are like 'well I went through university and held a part time job bla bla" Psychology is so competitive that you need a very high GPA to get accepted into postgraduate degrees. If that wasn't the case I'd work part time and study full time. I need to dedicate 100% of my time to my current degree to have a chance at postgraduate.
Ya, well some people are jerks, lol. I actually worked part time all through full time university myself, but man, it sure would have been nice to not have, lol. I chose to move out from my parents' house early so had to work to support myself without screwing myself with too many loans... but that is just one of the legit options. Dude, stop caring so much about what other people think about your choices. I feel like you haven't had the greatest epiphany of adulthood: who cares what other people think???? Fuck 'em!!
Had to work to support your partying ways...lol
Yeah, and also to pay my rent , tuition and books, bills, for food and transportation, and clothing.
1. Being able to forgive 2. Having a similiar interest in music/movies 3. Similiar vibes concerning sex 4. Not eating meat or vote for the unsympathetic and unempathetic right 5. A pure and magnetic sense of humour
1. Being able to forgive 2. Having a similiar interest in music/movies 3. Similiar vibes concerning sex 4. Not eating meat or vote for the unsympathetic and unempathetic right 5. A pure and magnetic sense of humour
All you need for a succesful relationship
Maybe you should be the one giving us advice.
What SC is mostly incorrect. The most successful relationship last because you are opposites. I remember the phrase "opposites attract", I have had therapist say that is correct. If you are excluding someone because they choose to have a steak once awhile seems shallow...
1. Being able to forgive 2. Having a similiar interest in music/movies 3. Similiar vibes concerning sex 4. Not eating meat or vote for the unsympathetic and unempathetic right 5. A pure and magnetic sense of humour
All you need for a succesful relationship
Maybe you should be the one giving us advice.
What SC is mostly incorrect. The most successful relationship last because you are opposites. I remember the phrase "opposites attract", I have had therapist say that is correct. If you are excluding someone because they choose to have a steak once awhile seems shallow...
The full quote is 'Opposites attract, in order to destroy'
But I do agree that you need balance in a relationship. One person can be gregarious and the other shy and they even each other out. The problems arise when the gregarious individual is more interested in mingling with others than their partner and when the shy partner refuses to go out at all. A happy medium needs to be struck with all personality traits.
Forgiveness is essential, but also one must not continually do the same thing over and over with a simple 'I'm sorry' afterwards.
Similar interests in cultural things is a plus and then the other person also brings to the relationship interests that open the others eyes to new things, or not. As long as there is a willingness to TRY. (as long as the ask is not ridiculous).
A pure and magnetic sense of humor I can understand wanting someone to have a sense of humor, esp about themselves. But 'pure and magnetic' ? What does that even mean? And are you bringing the same level of humor to the relationship? Seems like quite the high bar.
If you are going to only date people who eat what you eat, you are getting into judgement territory and that is going to make your pool of possible dates and partners small.
Yes, being sexually attracted to someone is important. But there has to be more than that. Believe me.
I can understand politics being a problem in a relationship. It depends on how much the person cares about politics and how much it effects their actions. I could never date a tea party or Trump supporter. I'm open to any religion, race, background, etc - but that is a line in the sand.
Didn't mean to pull apart your list SC - but you posted it so in this thread that means it's a free for all. Only trying to help.
I personally don't have anything against opposites attracting. I quoted him to spark conversation. I eat meat, for the record.
I thought I was posting an opinion. Sheesh. As in conversing.....
We're all allowed to have our own opinions. Maybe meltdown felt like his opinion was misunderstood? I don't know. I have no idea what just happened, but you didn't do anything wrong njnancy.
I personally don't have anything against opposites attracting. I quoted him to spark conversation. I eat meat, for the record.
I thought I was posting an opinion. Sheesh. As in conversing.....
We're all allowed to have our own opinions. Maybe meltdown felt like his opinion was misunderstood? I don't know. I have no idea what just happened, but you didn't do anything wrong njnancy.
Thanks. I don't understand how things work around here sometimes. And after almost 5 years, maybe I never will.
I personally don't have anything against opposites attracting. I quoted him to spark conversation. I eat meat, for the record.
I thought I was posting an opinion. Sheesh. As in conversing.....
We're all allowed to have our own opinions. Maybe meltdown felt like his opinion was misunderstood? I don't know. I have no idea what just happened, but you didn't do anything wrong njnancy.
Thanks. I don't understand how things work around here sometimes. And after almost 5 years, maybe I never will.
I like your new profile pic.
You're welcome. And I don't think we're meant to ever figure this place out, it's like the fight club.
I just noticed this thread. Does anyone know if the original poster asked Agnes out on a date, are they going steady, are they getting married now?
He did ask her out on a date. She said what kind of date? Eventually she said no. They planned to get together like normal for drinks and then SC's had surgery for something and so they did not meet up. Now she is traveling to South Korea when the rescheduled meet up was to occur. Appears they are solidly in the friend zone.
In between page 1 and 50 is tons and tons of soul searching and amateur psychology (including my own).
I just noticed this thread. Does anyone know if the original poster asked Agnes out on a date, are they going steady, are they getting married now?
He did ask her out on a date. She said what kind of date? Eventually she said no. They planned to get together like normal for drinks and then SC's had surgery for something and so they did not meet up. Now she is traveling to South Korea when the rescheduled meet up was to occur. Appears they are solidly in the friend zone.
In between page 1 and 50 is tons and tons of soul searching and amateur psychology (including my own).
Most importantly - he asked her by text. And showed her the thread (somehow since they have not been together since said text).
I just noticed this thread. Does anyone know if the original poster asked Agnes out on a date, are they going steady, are they getting married now?
He did ask her out on a date. She said what kind of date? Eventually she said no. They planned to get together like normal for drinks and then SC's had surgery for something and so they did not meet up. Now she is traveling to South Korea when the rescheduled meet up was to occur. Appears they are solidly in the friend zone.
In between page 1 and 50 is tons and tons of soul searching and amateur psychology (including my own).
You're minimizing the fun we've had. You had fun, right?
I just noticed this thread. Does anyone know if the original poster asked Agnes out on a date, are they going steady, are they getting married now?
He did ask her out on a date. She said what kind of date? Eventually she said no. They planned to get together like normal for drinks and then SC's had surgery for something and so they did not meet up. Now she is traveling to South Korea when the rescheduled meet up was to occur. Appears they are solidly in the friend zone.
In between page 1 and 50 is tons and tons of soul searching and amateur psychology (including my own).
You're minimizing the fun we've had. You had fun, right?
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But I do agree that you need balance in a relationship. One person can be gregarious and the other shy and they even each other out. The problems arise when the gregarious individual is more interested in mingling with others than their partner and when the shy partner refuses to go out at all. A happy medium needs to be struck with all personality traits.
Forgiveness is essential, but also one must not continually do the same thing over and over with a simple 'I'm sorry' afterwards.
Similar interests in cultural things is a plus and then the other person also brings to the relationship interests that open the others eyes to new things, or not. As long as there is a willingness to TRY. (as long as the ask is not ridiculous).
A pure and magnetic sense of humor
If you are going to only date people who eat what you eat, you are getting into judgement territory and that is going to make your pool of possible dates and partners small.
Yes, being sexually attracted to someone is important. But there has to be more than that. Believe me.
I can understand politics being a problem in a relationship. It depends on how much the person cares about politics and how much it effects their actions. I could never date a tea party or Trump supporter. I'm open to any religion, race, background, etc - but that is a line in the sand.
Didn't mean to pull apart your list SC - but you posted it so in this thread that means it's a free for all. Only trying to help.
I eat meat, for the record.
I like your new profile pic.
Thank you very much!
Anyway, I thought the above had some wise points, along with many others here.
Horse, you've been led to water - an ocean's full - many times. It's up to you to take a sip or two, or at least try.
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sidenote: was looking at a North Korean travel group the other day. Go skiing at a resort there. Best case scenario would be a broken leg from a fall.
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Apparently she fled to South Korea.
He did ask her out on a date. She said what kind of date? Eventually she said no. They planned to get together like normal for drinks and then SC's had surgery for something and so they did not meet up. Now she is traveling to South Korea when the rescheduled meet up was to occur. Appears they are solidly in the friend zone.
In between page 1 and 50 is tons and tons of soul searching and amateur psychology (including my own).