Dating as A PJ Fan

HesCalledDyer

Thoughts_Arrive said:

tempo_n_groove said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.

When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.

I don't think I want kids.
Can't picture myself as a father.
I have never been good with kids.
No patience. 
World is overpopulated anyways and it's not a world I want my child to live in.

Same here. I’m barely able to take care of myself. If I had to be financially responsible for someone else, I’d be totally fucked and so would the kid. Let alone all the teaching, mentoring, protecting, etc. I couldn’t handle it. And I’ll be damned if I’d want to raise a kid in this world anyway.  Between me and society as a whole, the poor kid wouldn’t stand a snowballs chance in hell.

lastexitlondon

Cheating is never acceptable in my opinion. There is no actual need to.
If everyone was honest why cheat.
If you have had enough in a marriage or relationship then stop or end it. Have respect.
From experience i sought councilling,tried to communicate.
When that wasn't happening even though i had 3 children,the honest thing was to separate after 25 years. Then and only then i met somebody else. Truth prevails. No need for devious behaviour

Thoughts_Arrive

HesCalledDyer said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

tempo_n_groove said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.

When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.

I don't think I want kids.
Can't picture myself as a father.
I have never been good with kids.
No patience. 
World is overpopulated anyways and it's not a world I want my child to live in.

Same here. I’m barely able to take care of myself. If I had to be financially responsible for someone else, I’d be totally fucked and so would the kid. Let alone all the teaching, mentoring, protecting, etc. I couldn’t handle it. And I’ll be damned if I’d want to raise a kid in this world anyway.  Between me and society as a whole, the poor kid wouldn’t stand a snowballs chance in hell.

How can I be a fit dad if I can't sort myself out in terms of my own demons.

lastexitlondon

You may become a fit dad as a dad if you know what im saying

Thoughts_Arrive

lastexitlondon said:

You may become a fit dad as a dad if you know what im saying

Yeah I get ya.

darwinstheory

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

Thoughts_Arrive

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

hahaha

eeriepadave

there's this thread in the porch section
http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/5445

also if you're on facebook, there's a PJ singles group. 

Not that either of them have helped me :sad:

F Me In The Brain

darwinstheory said:

F Me In The Brain said:

darwinstheory said:

I really prefer that they just be breathing and willing. Hahahaha

When in college I had two basic rules for the end of the night rounds.
1)  Weighed less than I did
2)  Were willing participants

I have a feeling you were pretty lax on the first rule. Just a hunch.

I should note that heels are a plus....not a requirement. 

I may have had to be 'top dog' a small number of times.  #1 was a rule to stick to but not to live by.  (#2 was the must.  Anything beyond that was fair game at that age as long as the booze was flowing)

ratmando

I just want to find someone near me-- who enjoys the same music- even as pals- just so when I have my mp3's playing in the car, I don't have to hear, "That band again??" or "don't you listen to stuff that isn't from seattle?" I do, I listen to Dhani Harrison, PJ Harvey, Glen Hansard, The Temptations and a BUNCH of Motown, Fugazi.... it's just I  have been to a lot of shows, and my music is filled with concerts I've been to. I mean, jezuscrimminy, I SING in a tribute to pj band! (you can stalk me on fb under ratmando)

HesCalledDyer

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

I'm actually both surprised and very, very lucky I don't have any.  I was waaaaaayyyyyyyyy too careless "practicing how" in my 20's!!

Must be shootin' blanks!

WhatYouTaughtMe

HesCalledDyer said:

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

I'm actually both surprised and very, very lucky I don't have any.  I was waaaaaayyyyyyyyy too careless "practicing how" in my 20's!!

Must be shootin' blanks!

Or there is a couple mini Dyers running around that you aren't aware of!

PJ_Soul

WhatYouTaughtMe said:

HesCalledDyer said:

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

I'm actually both surprised and very, very lucky I don't have any.  I was waaaaaayyyyyyyyy too careless "practicing how" in my 20's!!

Must be shootin' blanks!

Or there is a couple mini Dyers running around that you aren't aware of!

Or option #3.

darwinstheory

HesCalledDyer said:

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

I'm actually both surprised and very, very lucky I don't have any.  I was waaaaaayyyyyyyyy too careless "practicing how" in my 20's!!

Must be shootin' blanks!

I don't know how I'd feel if I found out I shot blanks. Part of me would be ready to GET BUSY NOW!!!. The other part would think of all the "practicing" I did in a needlessly overly safe manner all of these years.

Dr. Delight

I hooked up with a 27 year old bartender the other night. Was a little surprising but a long time coming.

F Me In The Brain

He shoots, he scores!

Did she (or he,) like Pearl Jam?

Dr. Delight

F Me In The Brain said:

He shoots, he scores!

Did she (or he,) like Pearl Jam?

I would guess she doesnt know too much about them, just the basics. It really isnt a necessity for me at all.

F Me In The Brain

Dr. Delight said:

F Me In The Brain said:

He shoots, he scores!

Did she (or he,) like Pearl Jam?

I would guess she doesnt know too much about them, just the basics. It really isnt a necessity for me at all.

Good for you.
(And for her, I hope!)

Hobbes

Dr., did you give the bartender a taste of Pearl Jam?

HesCalledDyer

WhatYouTaughtMe said:

HesCalledDyer said:

darwinstheory said:

I have no desire whatsoever to have children. However, I don't mind practicing how to make them should I ever change my mind.

I'm actually both surprised and very, very lucky I don't have any.  I was waaaaaayyyyyyyyy too careless "practicing how" in my 20's!!

Must be shootin' blanks!

Or there is a couple mini Dyers running around that you aren't aware of!

Only one of the lucky ladies has a child, and it definitely isn't mine.  Unless my little guys survived in there for 3 months.