Dating as A PJ Fan

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  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,967
    There used to be one im sure


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited November 2017
    hedonist said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    I'm a little surprised at your double use of hating a certain group, when you have asked for a break from others' judgment many a time, for your own reasons.

    I've been given the same spiel from my family's older relatives and may have bristled internally in the moment, but chalked it up to cultural differences more than ill-will on their part.  People may immigrate but (and especially in older age) still hold on to their traditions and mindsets.

    Jenny, is "swiiping left and right" a euphemism?

    (I know it's not, but couldn't resist =) )
    They refuse to accept that things are different in their new country.
    They cause more mental anguish than anything.
    Every family does it in my cultural group.
    They don't ask "how are you going?" but "have you got a girlfriend?"
    Sorry for feeling animosity towards them.
    They obviously know I am single but need to ask after having boasted about how their son has a girlfriend and a new car.
    It's a way of rubbing it in to make my parents envious.
    If it wasn't for my parents I'd tell them to go fuck off.
    Post edited by Thoughts_Arrive on
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  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,967
    Tell em anyway. Be kind to yourself


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,814
    Glad I’m not in dating scene but if I was it wouldn’t matter at all wether they liked PJ or not , I’ve been married for so long when we started dating PJ was not even on the radar..
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • tempo_n_groove
    tempo_n_groove Posts: 41,624
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    Shit, you probably pull more action from the divorcé crowd now than you did when you were in your 20s!
    Monkey Driven, Call this Living?
  • tempo_n_groove
    tempo_n_groove Posts: 41,624
    rgambs said:
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    Shit, you probably pull more action from the divorcé crowd now than you did when you were in your 20s!
    I have all my hair, a good job, i'm not a fat slob so I'm ahead of the curve, lol.
  • Hobbes
    Hobbes Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,438
    tempo_n_groove said:
    rgambs said:
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    Shit, you probably pull more action from the divorcé crowd now than you did when you were in your 20s!
    I have all my hair, a good job, i'm not a fat slob so I'm ahead of the curve, lol.

    But you have a sock fetish. Strike one.
  • Bentleyspop
    Bentleyspop Craft Beer Brewery, Colorado Posts: 11,530
    lastexitlondon said:
    There used to be one im sure
    http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/5445/pearl-jam-dating-service/p1
  • Vitalogensia
    Vitalogensia Posts: 2,209
    I've been told by friends that my passion for music (Pearl Jam specifically) and sports (Pittsburgh teams specifically) can be intimidating.  You walk anywhere in my apartment and you'll be reminded of both, and I travel to a lot of shows and games.  Even though I don't believe a partner would need to live up to, or match my passions for those things, it's more of a "just respect the fact that I'm passionate about them and don't prevent me from enjoying them" thing.  Not sure how much of a concern that really is, but thought I'd throw it into the conversation.  
  • bootlegger10
    bootlegger10 Posts: 16,263
    Golf would be the deal breaker for me.   I would need to be able to play golf when I want to play golf.  I have always been independent so hoping to find a girl who is as well.  I know so many people whose spouses can be very clingy.
  • Hobbes
    Hobbes Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,438
    A hole in one does not always lead to one in the hole.
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,498
    I dated a girl last year for a few months who was into PJ.  That’s how I approached her, actually. She was wearing an Eddie Vedder t-shirt. She totally screwed me over and I went thru about a 2 month period where I didn’t even want to listen to the band. Made me sick to my stomach. Thus, I’ll never date a PJ fan ever again.

    That said, I’m not too worried about what music they like or any of that (although country might be a deal breaker). I just seem to have a problem finding a woman who isn’t a cheating fucking whore. This modern “hook-up culture” has pretty much ruined dating for me. No one gives a flying fuck about exclusivity and faithfulness anymore. It’s all about sneaking around and “side pieces.”
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  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    edited November 2017
    HesCalledDyer said:
    I dated a girl last year for a few months who was into PJ.  That’s how I approached her, actually. She was wearing an Eddie Vedder t-shirt. She totally screwed me over and I went thru about a 2 month period where I didn’t even want to listen to the band. Made me sick to my stomach. Thus, I’ll never date a PJ fan ever again.

    That said, I’m not too worried about what music they like or any of that (although country might be a deal breaker). I just seem to have a problem finding a woman who isn’t a cheating fucking whore. This modern “hook-up culture” has pretty much ruined dating for me. No one gives a flying fuck about exclusivity and faithfulness anymore. It’s all about sneaking around and “side pieces.”
    There's absolutely nothing wrong with being someone's side piece.

    Someone's got to scratch that itch; just don't get your ass shot off.

    And it ain't nothing new. There's a rich history.

    https://youtu.be/aVIA1n5ng4Y
    Post edited by dankind on
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • tempo_n_groove
    tempo_n_groove Posts: 41,624
    edited November 2017
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Wow. I understand liking tall women if you're very tall, but geez, that really limits your options. There aren't very many women who are taller than 6'.... unless you mean when they wear heels (hubba hubba btw - sounds like you're really really tall; that is very attractive to me - I like extremely tall men ... but I'm "only" 5'10" :lol:;) ).
    I am 6' 2". Do you love No Code?
    Lol, of course I do!
    Let's get together. 
    Move to Canada and I'll think about it. ;)
    Too cold for my liking. I don't handle cold weather too well.
    And I can't stand hot weather... I don't think it was meant to be! :heartbreak::tongue:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    Dr. Delight said:
    We need that dating thread bumped......ah, who am I kidding, its complete waste land.
    Haha, no wonder. It turned into people "advertising" themselves with "Male/female, aged xx, live in xxxxxxx." Sounds like a real catch! :lol:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    edited November 2017
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    Ditto. TBH I don't even really think about dating. I'm open to falling in love again if it randomly hits me over the head, but until then it kind of just seems like way more trouble than it's worth. I am absolutely not looking. Lucky for me, my parents think I've got the right idea, lol.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    See this was my mantra as well only from the time I was about 10. Life was sweet.
    Then I joined the fan club, got involved in SS, started talking with my giftee more and more, met at a show and now I live in North Carolina.  :o
    Basically if it happens with fellow fan great, but not the main focus.
    PS. Stay off the internet kids. 
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • tempo_n_groove
    tempo_n_groove Posts: 41,624
    northerndragon said:
    tempo_n_groove said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Speaking of love, my parents' friends turned up uninvited and the lady is like "have you got a girlfriend yet?" "not good, you're nearly 40" 
    Gosh I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans. 
    Now my mum is at me (indirectly via conversations with my dad) as her friend's son has a girlfriend and I don't and how it makes my parents look bad and how people will talk how shit my family situation is.
    P.S. I'll say it again, I hate immigrant south eastern Europeans.
    When I was 20 I said "no marriage, no kids".

    I'm 42 now and I've stuck to my guns, lol.  Not to say that I might change my mind but I'm in no rush.
    See this was my mantra as well only from the time I was about 10. Life was sweet.
    Then I joined the fan club, got involved in SS, started talking with my giftee more and more, met at a show and now I live in North Carolina.  :o
    Basically if it happens with fellow fan great, but not the main focus.
    PS. Stay off the internet kids. 
    Good for you.

    I traveled for work for years so it wasn't fair to anyone if I was to marry or have kids so I tried dating long distance which only works so long...

    I'm in one place now so we shall see.

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