it is an art to do *nothing* well....and well, i am an artist.
i can happily sit out in my garden ALL day, glass of wine in hand...magazine in lap. hell, the magazine isn't even necessary. nor the wine - tho it does make it so much better. just *being*....listening to nature, to the fountain gurgle, the dogs play, bliss! can do the same at a park, almost anywhere....and oftentimes, so much more restorative than going away, traveling - tho i LOVE that! - and besides...infinitely less expensive. plus, you don't have to pack.
I do nothing all the time, but I'm pretty bad at it. Usually when I'm doing nothing it's because I have so many things I should or could be doing that I can't organize/decide which one to do so I just check out. I do nothing at least 3 week nights a week, and then usually most of the weekend. And then it always happens that suddenly it's friday night and I haven't made any weekend plans yet, so when I wake up on saturday, the only thing I can think of to do is work out or clean, and I'll often procrastinate on those and not even get them done. Like tomorrow, it's supposed to be sunny (though a little cold) and I would like to go for a bike ride. But because I haven't organized with anyone or planned anything, I might not even get to do that (I don't have a route mapped, I'm not prepared to go too-too far into the suburbs alone, etc). My only option then is to go on the really crowded bike path (death trap) which is only a 20-mile ride, and I'll probably just think "why bother?" Haha weekends actually really stress me out!
I do enjoy sitting on my porch and stuff, but being ADHD things like this can be problematic for me.
True, packing, flying, etc are stressful! I wonder though if I would find them as stressful if I were going to do something fun and didn't need to worry about anyone else, wasn't cramming too much into a tiny period, etc. You know, an actual "vacation."
Can't you just plan things last minute with a friend or maybe even call a fella to go out spontaneously?
that you need a vacation? I've been feeling it for a while, but the past few weeks have been especially rough- it's been really hard to focus. I dunno what the purpose of this post is, just airing grievances I guess. There's no way I can take a vacation.
Read your replies and I Identify with the situation. I am stuggling with similar issues.
Can't you just plan things last minute with a friend or maybe even call a fella to go out spontaneously?
Have you ever thought that it may be depression?
No no, it's not a depression thing, definitely more of a time-management issue. I really don't have many friends in the area (ok I have about 2-3), and the few around don't really like to do the same things and they're not really "spontaneous phone call" types of people. If I want to go for a long bike ride with others, I have to find an organized club, meetup, etc. As it's just getting to be spring, things just aren't very organized yet.
I haven't socialized with my local friends very much in recent years. They don't seem to want to do stuff, and they have a lot more disposable income so if they are doing something they're usually off doing stuff with their romantic partners or whatever.
Read your replies and I Identify with the situation. I am stuggling with similar issues.
Actually that makes me feel better for some reason! Not that misery love company, but I don't feel like most people I know would identify. I know it's not a "big" problem in the grand scheme of things, but it seems to get worse when it's just pent up inside!
Read your replies and I Identify with the situation. I am stuggling with similar issues.
Actually that makes me feel better for some reason! Not that misery love company, but I don't feel like most people I know would identify. I know it's not a "big" problem in the grand scheme of things, but it seems to get worse when it's just pent up inside!
This is good for whatever it means to you. Also not taking it as misery loves company is correct. I was not trying to convey that but only to let you know that you are not alone in your struggle. It is not a big problem in the grand scheme of things you are right.
When Henry Rollins felt down, he used to put on a cape and sing some of Ronnie James Dio's more vengeful songs. He used a carrot or a piece of celery as a microphone.
When Henry Rollins felt down, he used to put on a cape and sing some of Ronnie James Dio's more vengeful songs. He used a carrot or a piece of celery as a microphone.
You'll never know unless you try it!
dio is like 2 feet tall. if he wore a cape it'd have to be the size of a hankerchief.
When Henry Rollins felt down, he used to put on a cape and sing some of Ronnie James Dio's more vengeful songs. He used a carrot or a piece of celery as a microphone.
You'll never know unless you try it!
dio is like 2 feet tall. if he wore a cape it'd have to be the size of a hankerchief.
All the better for him.....saves money on costumes!
When Henry Rollins felt down, he used to put on a cape and sing some of Ronnie James Dio's more vengeful songs. He used a carrot or a piece of celery as a microphone.
You'll never know unless you try it!
dio is like 2 feet tall. if he wore a cape it'd have to be the size of a hankerchief.
All the better for him.....saves money on costumes!
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
To a degree I understand your point, but it's not my intention to come off like that. While there is just an element of frustrating and restlessness though, there's also a very real problem that I've realized it's affecting my work. I gutta take a break and clear my head somehow or it's just gonna get worse.
Just booked a vacation in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico! Can't wait!
7/2/06 - Denver, CO
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
man, I started this post back in March and it's only really gotten worse. I am losing all ability to concentrate on work, and that's really bad because I'm getting swamped for the summer. I think there is just something that happens when you come into the office day after day without ever having a real good break or having one to look forward to...it just gets too much like, "well I'll be here again tomorrow, why not procrastinate?" I don't know, I really think my lack of vacation is affecting my work. A couple years ago I might have thought that's a bunch of bull, but it's becoming really clear to me.
people find their real selves on vacation
I might have left my real self in Bermuda
it is a most wonderful place
ahhhhhhhhh...bermuda.
the adventures i had in that place pre-mr. dream.
i had a spring-break fling that turned into a long-term, long-distance affair, actually went to england to meet his family! he wanted to get married (he was older)....i sooooo did not want to, and that was that. however, the interim.......FUN! love bermuda!
my 9 day staycation starts tonight!!!
i am soooooooooo ready!
people find their real selves on vacation
I might have left my real self in Bermuda
it is a most wonderful place
ahhhhhhhhh...bermuda.
the adventures i had in that place pre-mr. dream.
i had a spring-break fling that turned into a long-term, long-distance affair, actually went to england to meet his family! he wanted to get married (he was older)....i sooooo did not want to, and that was that. however, the interim.......FUN! love bermuda!
my 9 day staycation starts tonight!!!
i am soooooooooo ready!
i will, i will, i will!
i think i have perfected the art and appreciation of a good staycation.
sometimes there really is no place like home!
so restorative...and inexpensive too!
people find their real selves on vacation
I might have left my real self in Bermuda
it is a most wonderful place
ahhhhhhhhh...bermuda.
the adventures i had in that place pre-mr. dream.
i had a spring-break fling that turned into a long-term, long-distance affair, actually went to england to meet his family! he wanted to get married (he was older)....i sooooo did not want to, and that was that. however, the interim.......FUN! love bermuda!
my 9 day staycation starts tonight!!!
i am soooooooooo ready!
ENJOY!!!!!
What she said I'm lookin forward to my 3day weekend for my birthday. Hoping to take more time off come next month too, I have mega hours I need to use up!
What she said I'm lookin forward to my 3day weekend for my birthday. Hoping to take more time off come next month too, I have mega hours I need to use up!
i'll be making our anniversary weekend a 3-day celebration, and that will burn up the last of my vacation hours. *right* on time...as july 1st is the start of our fiscal year, and brand-new vacation balance.....22 more days!
i will never have mega-hours to burn up....i always use em, plan em all out early...spread the love around each year!
What she said I'm lookin forward to my 3day weekend for my birthday. Hoping to take more time off come next month too, I have mega hours I need to use up!
i'll be making our anniversary weekend a 3-day celebration, and that will burn up the last of my vacation hours. *right* on time...as july 1st is the start of our fiscal year, and brand-new vacation balance.....22 more days!
i will never have mega-hours to burn up....i always use em, plan em all out early...spread the love around each year!
dream our vacations begin in a few hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i post on the board of a band that doesn't exsist anymore .......i need my head examined.......
What she said I'm lookin forward to my 3day weekend for my birthday. Hoping to take more time off come next month too, I have mega hours I need to use up!
In case I miss it sending a sunny birthday wish your way !!
i'll be making our anniversary weekend a 3-day celebration, and that will burn up the last of my vacation hours. *right* on time...as july 1st is the start of our fiscal year, and brand-new vacation balance.....22 more days!
i will never have mega-hours to burn up....i always use em, plan em all out early...spread the love around each year!
Good timing! I only have the mega hours cuz the dimwits in HR forgot to increase my monthly accrual after my 10th and 15th anniversary at work, so I got a crapload of hours bestowed to my balance which has now made it go over the limit. Hoping PJ does some shows in the fall to help burn it up!
Thanks Pandora, I can use that glass right now! lol
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Can't you just plan things last minute with a friend or maybe even call a fella to go out spontaneously?
Have you ever thought that it may be depression?
No no, it's not a depression thing, definitely more of a time-management issue. I really don't have many friends in the area (ok I have about 2-3), and the few around don't really like to do the same things and they're not really "spontaneous phone call" types of people. If I want to go for a long bike ride with others, I have to find an organized club, meetup, etc. As it's just getting to be spring, things just aren't very organized yet.
I haven't socialized with my local friends very much in recent years. They don't seem to want to do stuff, and they have a lot more disposable income so if they are doing something they're usually off doing stuff with their romantic partners or whatever.
Actually that makes me feel better for some reason! Not that misery love company, but I don't feel like most people I know would identify. I know it's not a "big" problem in the grand scheme of things, but it seems to get worse when it's just pent up inside!
This is good for whatever it means to you. Also not taking it as misery loves company is correct. I was not trying to convey that but only to let you know that you are not alone in your struggle. It is not a big problem in the grand scheme of things you are right.
You'll never know unless you try it!
All the better for him.....saves money on costumes!
dio is like 2 feet tall. if he wore a cape it'd have to be the size of a hankerchief.[/quote]
All the better for him.....saves money on costumes![/quote]
very true! \m/[/quote]
When it comes to post 70's and pre-90's Dio knowledge, I am most often correct. Recognize!
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
To a degree I understand your point, but it's not my intention to come off like that. While there is just an element of frustrating and restlessness though, there's also a very real problem that I've realized it's affecting my work. I gutta take a break and clear my head somehow or it's just gonna get worse.
haha thanks. I don't think I know where base camp is though
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
I might have left my real self in Bermuda
it is a most wonderful place
ahhhhhhhhh...bermuda.
the adventures i had in that place pre-mr. dream.
i had a spring-break fling that turned into a long-term, long-distance affair, actually went to england to meet his family!
my 9 day staycation starts tonight!!!
i am soooooooooo ready!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
i will, i will, i will!
i think i have perfected the art and appreciation of a good staycation.
sometimes there really is no place like home!
so restorative...and inexpensive too!
tho the wine tab does add up... :?
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
i'll be making our anniversary weekend a 3-day celebration, and that will burn up the last of my vacation hours. *right* on time...as july 1st is the start of our fiscal year, and brand-new vacation balance.....22 more days!
i will never have mega-hours to burn up....i always use em, plan em all out early...spread the love around each year!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
dream our vacations begin in a few hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that's right!
you're off to even hotter miami!
i'll be chillin' in the garden on the island.
mine starts even earlier than anticipated...out for drinks with colleagues at 3pm...wooohoooo!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
sweeeeeeeeeet enjoy
In case I miss it sending a sunny birthday wish your way !!
Thanks Pandora, I can use that glass right now! lol