Smoking during pregnancy

PearlJamDowner
PearlJamDowner Posts: 171
edited December 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
My girlfriend quit so we could have a baby but now smokes again since she is pregnant. Nothing I can say or do, she says she doesn't want to. I am so helpless and upset. Any thoughts on this?
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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    uhhhh. i hate to see this. i wish there was something i could say to help.

    but all i can think of is, to punch her in the throat.

    know that's not what you want to hear. and it's not the "right" thing to say, but it makes me really fucking angry.

    i feel for ya. :(

    good luck.
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  • ZiggyStar
    ZiggyStar Posts: 14,328
    I have no advice. I'm sure you've told her of the dangers etc. There doesn't really seem to be anything you can do.

    A girl I know smoked her entire pregnancy. It's disgusting. She was 8 months pregnant and HUGE and walking through the city with me and smoking a cigarette and I was so embarrassed! People were staring at her and she just didn't care. Poor little baby.
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    My Mom smoked while pregnant with my older brother

    He's fine

    Of course the dangers weren't known when she was pregnant with him
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

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  • PearlJamDowner
    PearlJamDowner Posts: 171
    She's still hiding it from me and than lying about how many she has had and than I bring it up and she gets pissed off that im not being supportive of her
    im messed
  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    PearlJamDowner wrote:
    She's still hiding it from me and than lying about how many she has had and than I bring it up and she gets pissed off that im not being supportive of her

    How far along is she ?
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  • PearlJamDowner
    PearlJamDowner Posts: 171
    8 weeks
    im messed
  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    PearlJamDowner wrote:
    8 weeks

    Wow...early

    I wonder if it's worse to smoke earlier in the pregnancy or later ?

    I'm glad my wife never smoked and had to try and quit
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    PearlJamDowner wrote:
    She's still hiding it from me and than lying about how many she has had and than I bring it up and she gets pissed off that im not being supportive of her

    If she's going to do it behind your back there's nothing you can do really. that's pretty disrespectful. How do you know she's smoking?

    Just ask that she cut down as much as she can.

    Ask your doctor, they may have better advice.

    Good Luck and congrats!
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  • PearlJamDowner
    PearlJamDowner Posts: 171
    i smelled it on her a couple times than found her smokes and than mentioned it, she said she hasnt had any in like a week, cause she wanted to have a couple with a friend or something last week, i was livid, she said 2 smokes wont hurt......
    im messed
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    If she's going to do it behind your back there's nothing you can do really. that's pretty disrespectful. How do you know she's smoking?

    Maybe not disrespectful. Maybe she does understand that it's not the right thing to do but is not very proud of it. To quit smoking is very difficult. The physical withdrawals don't last that long but the psychological 'attachments' do. How many people have 'tried quitting' numerous times?

    She does need help with this. She does have a pretty good reason so hopefully she would be motivated. Do you guys have 'quit smoking' clinics where you are? Could her doctor help her?

    It's a tough thing to do!
  • PearlJamDowner
    PearlJamDowner Posts: 171
    she went to some seminar bullshit and quit like 6 months ago!!!! she picked the worst time to start again....what a tragic thing
    im messed
  • tvismyfriend
    tvismyfriend Posts: 2,118
    Sorry, but I have to do this.

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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    redrock wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    If she's going to do it behind your back there's nothing you can do really. that's pretty disrespectful. How do you know she's smoking?

    Maybe not disrespectful. Maybe she does understand that it's not the right thing to do but is not very proud of it. To quit smoking is very difficult. The physical withdrawals don't last that long but the psychological 'attachments' do. How many people have 'tried quitting' numerous times?

    She does need help with this. She does have a pretty good reason so hopefully she would be motivated. Do you guys have 'quit smoking' clinics where you are? Could her doctor help her?

    It's a tough thing to do!

    ya know, i get that. i dip. nicotine is a bitch. and i drink like its my job sometimes. i wont say this to my family friends or GF but i'm addicted to the nicotine, and borderline alcoholic , but i can say this, that if my gf were prego, i would and could stop the drinking just so i can get into daddy mode. and it wouldnt even be me with a life inside of me.

    i just really think that if you dont quit drinking or smoking while prego that its the worst.
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  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    All of our mothers smoked while pregnant and we're all fine. Is it ideal? No! But it's not the end of the earth either. I'm sure the kids will be fine. :)
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  • SPEEDY MCCREADY
    SPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 26,946
    wolfbear wrote:
    All of our mothers smoked while pregnant and we're all fine. Is it ideal? No! But it's not the end of the earth either. I'm sure the kids will be fine. :)
    You are not fine...

    In fact...

    You are FAR from fine.......

    hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe

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  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    wolfbear wrote:
    All of our mothers smoked while pregnant and we're all fine. Is it ideal? No! But it's not the end of the earth either. I'm sure the kids will be fine. :)
    You are not fine...

    In fact...

    You are FAR from fine.......

    hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe

    Hello Wolfy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Hi there! San Diego was fine! :D
    "I'd rather be with an animal." "Those that can be trusted can change their mind." "The in between is mine." "If I don't lose control, explore and not explode, a preternatural other plane with the power to maintain." "Yeh this is living." "Life is what you make it."
  • DocChicago
    DocChicago Posts: 653
    the wolf wrote:
    i just really think that if you dont quit drinking or smoking while prego that its the worst.
    It certainly sets a bad precedent. Having a kid requires sacrifices. She doesn't seem all that invested in it so far. Sorry to judge, but it pisses me off.
    It is time to admit that we used to rock like hurricanes. It is time to run for the hills and go round and round. It is time for us to shout at the devil. We've got the right to choose it, there ain't no way we'll lose it, and we're not gonna take it anymore.
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  • SPEEDY MCCREADY
    SPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 26,946
    wolfbear wrote:
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    wolfbear wrote:
    All of our mothers smoked while pregnant and we're all fine. Is it ideal? No! But it's not the end of the earth either. I'm sure the kids will be fine. :)
    You are not fine...

    In fact...

    You are FAR from fine.......

    hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe

    Hello Wolfy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Hi there! San Diego was fine! :D
    Yeah well.....

    Im going to PHILLY!!!!

    hehehehehehe........................

    Boy that just sounds ridiculous.....hehehehehe

    Ill take some pictures of the crackheads and the street beggars..........

    And I will send them out as Christmas cards....
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    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    PearlJamDowner wrote:
    My girlfriend quit so we could have a baby but now smokes again since she is pregnant. Nothing I can say or do, she says she doesn't want to. I am so helpless and upset. Any thoughts on this?

    so shes totally disrespected you. thats nice. and how long did she 'quit' for??
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  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    wolfbear wrote:
    All of our mothers smoked while pregnant and we're all fine. Is it ideal? No! But it's not the end of the earth either. I'm sure the kids will be fine. :)
    My mom didn't. :P

    Chances are the kid will be fine.. but are the chances worth a gross habit???

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