Disowning Family

covered in bliss

Have you done it? How did it work out? Details?

I haven't spoken to my mom in 6 weeks and my sister in 5. I've never felt better in my life. I imagine the Holiday's will be hard but I might escape with a cruise or Hawaii for Christmas.

I'd really love to hear stories! I'm sure a bunch of people think "that's your FAMILY!" etc. When your family makes you physically sick, isn't it time to tell them to f-off?

South of Seattle

My Dad kinda disowned my sister. Not totally, but she is out of the will for now. My sis had to deal with the unfortunate passing of her husband, but once he died she kinda went crazy and said some terrible things to my parents.

It's affected my relationship with her also. I haven't disowned her but I do find myself more distant.

Wobbie

I'm not sure that, with PJ minutes from hitting the stage in SF, you picked the best time for such a heavy subject .

Good luck with that.

covered in bliss

imalive wrote:

I'm not sure that, with PJ minutes from hitting the stage in SF, you picked the best time for such a heavy subject .

Good luck with that.

I didn't realize it.. outside Lands end, eh?

THat's ok... not everyone can be there tonight. if you're there and posting...................

covered in bliss

South of Seattle wrote:

My Dad kinda disowned my sister. Not totally, but she is out of the will for now. My sis had to deal with the unfortunate passing of her husband, but once he died she kinda went crazy and said some terrible things to my parents.

It's affected my relationship with her also. I haven't disowned her but I do find myself more distant.

I'm the oldest of 3. Sis is 4 years younger and bro was 5 when I moved out... 13 years younger.

Not talking to sis... bro (and his new wife) are being a tad distant.

Were the things she said to your parents true? Honestly?

South of Seattle

covered in bliss wrote:

South of Seattle wrote:

My Dad kinda disowned my sister. Not totally, but she is out of the will for now. My sis had to deal with the unfortunate passing of her husband, but once he died she kinda went crazy and said some terrible things to my parents.

It's affected my relationship with her also. I haven't disowned her but I do find myself more distant.

I'm the oldest of 3. Sis is 4 years younger and bro was 5 when I moved out... 13 years younger.

Not talking to sis... bro (and his new wife) are being a tad distant.

Were the things she said to your parents true? Honestly?

Nope, that's why I'm on my parents side with this. All that my parents did was try to make sure her and the kids were taken care of and that she had what she needed. She proceeded to let a cousin of the deceased husband that she'd never met take advantage and he pilfered 10k from her. So my Dad tried to step in for the sake of her and his grandkids.

covered in bliss

South of Seattle wrote:

covered in bliss wrote:

South of Seattle wrote:

My Dad kinda disowned my sister. Not totally, but she is out of the will for now. My sis had to deal with the unfortunate passing of her husband, but once he died she kinda went crazy and said some terrible things to my parents.

It's affected my relationship with her also. I haven't disowned her but I do find myself more distant.

I'm the oldest of 3. Sis is 4 years younger and bro was 5 when I moved out... 13 years younger.

Not talking to sis... bro (and his new wife) are being a tad distant.

Were the things she said to your parents true? Honestly?

Nope, that's why I'm on my parents side with this. All that my parents did was try to make sure her and the kids were taken care of and that she had what she needed. She proceeded to let a cousin of the deceased husband that she'd never met take advantage and he pilfered 10k from her. So my Dad tried to step in for the sake of her and his grandkids.

Were drugs involved. ?

How do you steal 10 grand from a cousin's wife? Renovations?

strangely enough, since I've cut off my mom and sis, I've been talking with a cousin that I haven't talked to in years. We caught up at my bro's wedding a year ago.. it's amazing how a door has closed and another has opened.

I still have pangs of guilt, though, and that's why I'm asking for viewpoints.

South of Seattle

Nope no drugs involved.

The guy basically said he needed to borrow 10k, since he was the cousin of her just-deceased husband, she gave it to him during her fragile state of mind. The dude disappeared and is possibly in jail, of course he was a fine individual( Chicago Police :roll: )

PRL1JAM

I haven't really talked to my sister in over 10 years. I sometimes wonder if it is too late to get things back to how they once were. You're right though, holidays can be the toughest times when dealing with this shit

covered in bliss

South of Seattle wrote:

Nope no drugs involved.

The guy basically said he needed to borrow 10k, since he was the cousin of her just-deceased husband, she gave it to him during her fragile state of mind. The dude disappeared and is possibly in jail, of course he was a fine individual( Chicago Police :roll: )

why would your dad disown her if she was in an obvious state of mental-fragileness? You made it sound like she gave some guy $ after her husband died.. Your dad said something to her and then she said something to your dad.

After a death, people say f'ed up things. for your dad to disown her after a tragic thing like that... sorry but I don't know who to side with.

Correct me if I'm wrong, please!

patrickredeyes

My middle sister hasn't talked to any of my family members since April. But its a good thing IMO cause were so sick of her bullshit. I feel bad for my folks cause they haven't seen their grand daughter. My sister has always been a black cloud in our family. There is no point in us trying to reach out to her cause she is cold as ice. I could write a book about her. lol

South of Seattle

covered in bliss wrote:

South of Seattle wrote:

Nope no drugs involved.

The guy basically said he needed to borrow 10k, since he was the cousin of her just-deceased husband, she gave it to him during her fragile state of mind. The dude disappeared and is possibly in jail, of course he was a fine individual( Chicago Police :roll: )

why would your dad disown her if she was in an obvious state of mental-fragileness? You made it sound like she gave some guy $ after her husband died.. Your dad said something to her and then she said something to your dad.

After a death, people say f'ed up things. for your dad to disown her after a tragic thing like that... sorry but I don't know who to side with.

Correct me if I'm wrong, please!

I kinda thought that too, but her fragile mind state went on for over a year of her treating my parents like shit. He didn't do it right away.

Like I said he didn't disown he still talks to her, but he cut her out of the will and is giving her share to her kids so they have something.

South of Seattle

beautifullife wrote:

I haven't really talked to my sister in over 10 years. I sometimes wonder if it is too late to get things back to how they once were. You're right though, holidays can be the toughest times when dealing with this shit

BTW you avatar is pretty rad.

PRL1JAM

South of Seattle wrote:

beautifullife wrote:

I haven't really talked to my sister in over 10 years. I sometimes wonder if it is too late to get things back to how they once were. You're right though, holidays can be the toughest times when dealing with this shit

BTW you avatar is pretty rad.

Thank you! I appreciate that

Tried to combine two of my favorite things when I was making it

South of Seattle

beautifullife wrote:

South of Seattle wrote:

beautifullife wrote:

I haven't really talked to my sister in over 10 years. I sometimes wonder if it is too late to get things back to how they once were. You're right though, holidays can be the toughest times when dealing with this shit

BTW you avatar is pretty rad.

Thank you! I appreciate that

Tried to combine two of my favorite things when I was making it

My friend is a huge dodger fan and PJ fan. He'd love it.

covered in bliss

patrickredeyes wrote:

My middle sister hasn't talked to any of my family members since April. But its a good thing IMO cause were so sick of her bullshit. I feel bad for my folks cause they haven't seen their grand daughter. My sister has always been a black cloud in our family. There is no point in us trying to reach out to her cause she is cold as ice. I could write a book about her. lol

why is she the black cloud????

please answer because in my family, I'm the black cloud!!!

Mom has been an alcoholic for most of my life. I'm the one that has been thru therapy, ACOA meetings, alanon meetings... every book I can find along with anti-depressants... they haven't done anything but love mom... aka: been co-dependant and enabling.

I'm the black sheep and I'm done.

patrickredeyes

covered in bliss wrote:

patrickredeyes wrote:

My middle sister hasn't talked to any of my family members since April. But its a good thing IMO cause were so sick of her bullshit. I feel bad for my folks cause they haven't seen their grand daughter. My sister has always been a black cloud in our family. There is no point in us trying to reach out to her cause she is cold as ice. I could write a book about her. lol

why is she the black cloud????

please answer because in my family, I'm the black cloud!!!

Mom has been an alcoholic for most of my life. I'm the one that has been thru therapy, ACOA meetings, alanon meetings... every book I can find along with anti-depressants... they haven't done anything but love mom... aka: been co-dependant and enabling.

I'm the black sheep and I'm done.

Ohh where do I begin. lol

She is just a stuck up witch that is just ungrateful. I'll will try and explain but I may run out of space on here typing it all. lol

covered in bliss

it's funny that PJ itself was formed around fuckd up family situations but 3 people are talking here.

South of Seattle

covered in bliss wrote:

it's funny that PJ itself was formed around fuckd up family situations but 3 people are talking here.

PJ was formed because a singer overdosed. Ed's lyrics have fucked up family overtones, but that's about it. It's not like we're all fans because we have messed up families. I grew up normal and in the burbs

covered in bliss

South of Seattle wrote:

covered in bliss wrote:

it's funny that PJ itself was formed around fuckd up family situations but 3 people are talking here.

PJ was formed because a singer overdosed. Ed's lyrics have fucked up family overtones, but that's about it. It's not like we're all fans because we have messed up families. I grew up normal and in the burbs

ok

patrickredeyes

South of Seattle wrote:

I grew up normal and in the burbs

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