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cincybearcat said:I'm certainly willing to try and use whatever anyone wants in regards to pronouns. And I would expect them to be willing to let me know in a pleasant manner and also work to see intent. If I screw up, don't beat me up for it. I find it a very hard subject to even think about and remember, probably because while I have had many Ls and Gs throughout my life, I don't believe I've had many Ts. Although thinking about it, probably at least 1 of those Ls is a T.
Regardless, it comes down to everyone just being compassionate with each other.
It's a shame this thread roller-coasters between civility and the ugly side of human nature.0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:cincybearcat said:Spiritual_Chaos said:tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
I'd estimate you have very few people over 45 that really understand this movement and why they need to change their way of speaking for what they see as a non issue either way because it is not something they encounter in their work or social settings. Even just 5 years ago, it was almost a non-existent topic. Personally we have numerous friends who have young children (all under 10) who who are choosing to identify either neutrally (they, it, them) or as the opposite of their assigned sex. In every case, the parents are supportive and educating themselves as well as us as friends and fellow parents of young children. It means talking with our own children about how their friend is identifying without associating any negative stereotypes or judgments. It really doesn't change much for them because their friend is still their friend who they enjoy playing with even though they may now wear different clothes or go by a different name.
People also e.g. attacked when a movement formed to change the name of beloved pastry "n-word ball" to "chocolate ball"
What I have noticed during my 36 years on this planet (but please keep labeling me a millennial @mcgruff10) is that it is most often better to be a person who goes with and encouraging positive change, than be one of the ones standing with their arms folded. Historically they often end up on the wrong side it. Whatever age they might be in.It's a hopeless situation...0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
I'd estimate you have very few people over 45 that really understand this movement and why they need to change their way of speaking for what they see as a non issue either way because it is not something they encounter in their work or social settings. Even just 5 years ago, it was almost a non-existent topic. Personally we have numerous friends who have young children (all under 10) who who are choosing to identify either neutrally (they, it, them) or as the opposite of their assigned sex. In every case, the parents are supportive and educating themselves as well as us as friends and fellow parents of young children. It means talking with our own children about how their friend is identifying without associating any negative stereotypes or judgments. It really doesn't change much for them because their friend is still their friend who they enjoy playing with even though they may now wear different clothes or go by a different name.
People also e.g. attacked when a movement formed to change the name of beloved pastry "n-word ball" to "chocolate ball".
What I have noticed during my 36 years on this planet (but please keep labeling me a millennial @mcgruff10) is that it is most often better to be a person who goes with and encouraging positive change, than be one of the ones standing with their arms folded. Historically they often end up on the wrong side of it. Whatever age they might be in.I'll ride the wave where it takes me......0 -
tbergs said:ecdanc said:cincybearcat said:I'm certainly willing to try and use whatever anyone wants in regards to pronouns. And I would expect them to be willing to let me know in a pleasant manner and also work to see intent. If I screw up, don't beat me up for it. I find it a very hard subject to even think about and remember, probably because while I have had many Ls and Gs throughout my life, I don't believe I've had many Ts. Although thinking about it, probably at least 1 of those Ls is a T.
Regardless, it comes down to everyone just being compassionate with each other.0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
They in this context was named Word of the Year for 2015 by the American Dialect Society, and for 2019 by Merriam-Webster. In 2020, the American Dialect Society also selected it as Word of the Decade for the 2010s.
So you are actually attacking and bickering over correct grammar. Is your mind blown yet?"I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080 -
ecdanc said:
Or how about vinyl and vinyl being the same both in plural and singular?
In the end, what does it matter? You don't go around saying "boom" now do you?
It was a lesson in pronunciation or did it have a bigger meaning that is escaping me?0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:cincybearcat said:Spiritual_Chaos said:tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
I'd estimate you have very few people over 45 that really understand this movement and why they need to change their way of speaking for what they see as a non issue either way because it is not something they encounter in their work or social settings. Even just 5 years ago, it was almost a non-existent topic. Personally we have numerous friends who have young children (all under 10) who who are choosing to identify either neutrally (they, it, them) or as the opposite of their assigned sex. In every case, the parents are supportive and educating themselves as well as us as friends and fellow parents of young children. It means talking with our own children about how their friend is identifying without associating any negative stereotypes or judgments. It really doesn't change much for them because their friend is still their friend who they enjoy playing with even though they may now wear different clothes or go by a different name.
People also e.g. attacked when a movement formed to change the name of beloved pastry "n-word ball" to "chocolate ball"
What I have noticed during my 36 years on this planet (but please keep labeling me a millennial @mcgruff10) is that it is most often better to be a person who goes with and encouraging positive change, than be one of the ones standing with their arms folded. Historically they often end up on the wrong side it. Whatever age they might be in.0 -
mcgruff10 said:Spiritual_Chaos said:tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
I'd estimate you have very few people over 45 that really understand this movement and why they need to change their way of speaking for what they see as a non issue either way because it is not something they encounter in their work or social settings. Even just 5 years ago, it was almost a non-existent topic. Personally we have numerous friends who have young children (all under 10) who who are choosing to identify either neutrally (they, it, them) or as the opposite of their assigned sex. In every case, the parents are supportive and educating themselves as well as us as friends and fellow parents of young children. It means talking with our own children about how their friend is identifying without associating any negative stereotypes or judgments. It really doesn't change much for them because their friend is still their friend who they enjoy playing with even though they may now wear different clothes or go by a different name.
People also e.g. attacked when a movement formed to change the name of beloved pastry "n-word ball" to "chocolate ball".
What I have noticed during my 36 years on this planet (but please keep labeling me a millennial @mcgruff10) is that it is most often better to be a person who goes with and encouraging positive change, than be one of the ones standing with their arms folded. Historically they often end up on the wrong side of it. Whatever age they might be in.
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
jeffbr said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
They in this context was named Word of the Year for 2015 by the American Dialect Society, and for 2019 by Merriam-Webster. In 2020, the American Dialect Society also selected it as Word of the Decade for the 2010s.
So you are actually attacking and bickering over correct grammar. Is your mind blown yet?0 -
tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:cincybearcat said:Spiritual_Chaos said:tbergs said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
I'd estimate you have very few people over 45 that really understand this movement and why they need to change their way of speaking for what they see as a non issue either way because it is not something they encounter in their work or social settings. Even just 5 years ago, it was almost a non-existent topic. Personally we have numerous friends who have young children (all under 10) who who are choosing to identify either neutrally (they, it, them) or as the opposite of their assigned sex. In every case, the parents are supportive and educating themselves as well as us as friends and fellow parents of young children. It means talking with our own children about how their friend is identifying without associating any negative stereotypes or judgments. It really doesn't change much for them because their friend is still their friend who they enjoy playing with even though they may now wear different clothes or go by a different name.
People also e.g. attacked when a movement formed to change the name of beloved pastry "n-word ball" to "chocolate ball"
What I have noticed during my 36 years on this planet (but please keep labeling me a millennial @mcgruff10) is that it is most often better to be a person who goes with and encouraging positive change, than be one of the ones standing with their arms folded. Historically they often end up on the wrong side it. Whatever age they might be in."Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
Are you comfortable with Gern's example: I should say "is they going to shut up?" Sounds like a one-toothed hillbilly.
They in this context was named Word of the Year for 2015 by the American Dialect Society, and for 2019 by Merriam-Webster. In 2020, the American Dialect Society also selected it as Word of the Decade for the 2010s.
So you are actually attacking and bickering over correct grammar. Is your mind blown yet?0 -
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Start asking people to respect trans people’s pronoun choices and suddenly everyone’s a prescriptivist.0
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ecdanc said:Start asking people to respect trans people’s pronoun choices and suddenly everyone’s a prescriptivist.
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
ecdanc said:Start asking people to respect trans people’s pronoun choices and suddenly everyone’s a prescriptivist."I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080
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jeffbr said:
And so was every editor I've ever interacted with, as they set or enforced the standard for a particular organization."Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
And so was every editor I've ever interacted with, as they set or enforced the standard for a particular organization."I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080 -
jeffbr said:Spiritual_Chaos said:jeffbr said:
And so was every editor I've ever interacted with, as they set or enforced the standard for a particular organization.0 -
ecdanc said:Start asking people to respect trans people’s pronoun choices and suddenly everyone’s a prescriptivist.
Calling a person "they" fits in to that to me and doesn't feel right. I don't have a problem calling someone They if that is what they want.
I just don't understand the other non gender, non binary, genderqueer definitions. Transgender is the easy one.0 -
jeffbr said:ecdanc said:Start asking people to respect trans people’s pronoun choices and suddenly everyone’s a prescriptivist.0
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