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mcgruff10 said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up.0 -
ecdanc said:mcgruff10 said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up.0 -
brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up.0 -
ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:0
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mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mcgruff10 said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up.0 -
No one can control where they come from and the influences that formed them initially. Even bad parents believe they are doing their bast or maybe they don't care, not everyone has completely unpacked their baggage by the time we have kids. I don't know if I would have turned out differently, to a certain degree, but if I wanted to date or be with someone other than who I'm with, I doubt my upbringing would have made a difference. I kept several things under wraps cause I didn't want the judgement back then, but now it would be take it or leave it, live n let live.
Amy The Great #74594
New Orleans LA 7/4/95 reschedule 9/17/95
Chicago IL 1998, 10/9/00, 06/18/03, 05/16/06, 05/17/06
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mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:0
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ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:0
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ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:
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This thread has been very disappointing.hippiemom = goodness0
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mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:
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Aren't we all walking social science specimens really, everyone from a different test tube, resulting in certain and different chemicals reactions in our brains at certain times in our life all to bring us to why we believe. Can we say it's blended or complicatedPost edited by amethgr8 onAmy The Great #74594
New Orleans LA 7/4/95 reschedule 9/17/95
Chicago IL 1998, 10/9/00, 06/18/03, 05/16/06, 05/17/06
08/23/09, 08/24/09, Lolla 08/05/07
Champaign IL 4/23/03
Grand Rapids MI VFC 10/03/04
Grand Rapids MI 19May06
Noblesville IN 05/07/10 Cleveland OH 05/09/10
PJ 20 2011
Baltimore MD, Charlottesville VA, Seattle WA 2013
St. Louis MO, Milwaukee WI 2014
Tampa FL, Chicago IL, Lexington KY 2016
Missoula MT 20180 -
ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:
Ugh..
@cincybearcat - tear me out of this thread please. Shame me if I post again.0 -
ecdanc said:brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up."Antiquated notion of gender"? WTF?Anyway, so I take it you're cool with letting your kids figure out what gender they are and wouldn't fill their heads with confusion about why Timmy has a penis and Jane has a vagina and wouldn't tell both that maybe they have the wrong parts or that it's not cool to think of ones self as a man or a woman. Cool. But if your bring them up with the notion that they are an "it", you may find that kind of parenting can be like a nasty boomerang."It's a sad and beautiful world"-Roberto Benigni0 -
yes it’s time to stophippiemom = goodness0
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cincybearcat said:This thread has been very disappointing.0
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mrussel1 said:brianlux said:amethgr8 said:I am 53, female. Raised very traditionally, married to a male. And maybe a little bit of wanting to be married with children like a good wife. But four of us raised the same environment, but two boys and two girls,boys got motor cycles and we got horses. They had to shovel the do lawn and we cleaned and cook.
I hated wearing dresses and have never worn make up. There may have been a little envy, boys could do so much different. But now I see maybe they could have looked at us the same, who knows. I don't think it matters much, kids grow and do what they want as adults, there has to be a baseline.
I think 50 years from now, all the labels will be gone, people will have little pretense about what they or their parts "should" look like as they all deliver intimatcy, love and organism. It will just be people that can carry babies and people that don't.
IDK, I got thru 6pages of this post and had to give my 2cents.
On the other hand (and I know I will get clawed by some cat for saying this), but on the other hand, some of this reminds me of the way some of my generation thought back in the sixties- all that age of Aquarius bullshit and living on communes etc. Many of my peers thought they were "enlightened" and shoved these ideas onto their kids, gave then weird names like Wavy Gravy did (who also did some fine work, so I'm not saying it was all b.s.), or brought them up in squalor and that that was groovy. But then a lot of these kids grew up and rejected theirs parents notions a far fetched, and some (and I know some of these people well, so this is not conjecture), some even hated their parents for a time for raising them under conditions that they later considered questionable at best. Young parents would do well to consider that not everything they believe will be seen as gold by their kids as they grow up.
Maybe that's the role of parent: to give their kids a good reason to tell them at some point to fuck off, lol. I did that and, thankfully, they and I lived long enough to become close again.
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cincybearcat said:This thread has been very disappointing.
i think "most" might be a stretch, maybe better words "most that I know"Amy The Great #74594
New Orleans LA 7/4/95 reschedule 9/17/95
Chicago IL 1998, 10/9/00, 06/18/03, 05/16/06, 05/17/06
08/23/09, 08/24/09, Lolla 08/05/07
Champaign IL 4/23/03
Grand Rapids MI VFC 10/03/04
Grand Rapids MI 19May06
Noblesville IN 05/07/10 Cleveland OH 05/09/10
PJ 20 2011
Baltimore MD, Charlottesville VA, Seattle WA 2013
St. Louis MO, Milwaukee WI 2014
Tampa FL, Chicago IL, Lexington KY 2016
Missoula MT 20180 -
mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:
Ugh..
@cincybearcat - tear me out of this thread please. Shame me if I post again.0
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