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  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,634
    mickeyrat said:
    move on.  assumption, projection and doubt.  too much to set aside in the slim hope of even a friendship much less a romantic relationship.
    Or -- Get drunk and then just friend request. 
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    mickeyrat said:
    move on.  assumption, projection and doubt.  too much to set aside in the slim hope of even a friendship much less a romantic relationship.
    I agree.  You will struggle to meet someone if you always judge.  Its best to have an open mind, if the topic of religion comes up, discuss...otherwise I would wait a while.  A lot of religious people a lot more open-minded than some think.
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  • Hi!
    Hi! Posts: 3,095
    Send the friend request. 

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  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    Maybe you guys could help Thoughts_Arrive out with tips on how to approach women you're barely acquainted with...do's and dont's.

  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Maybe you guys could help Thoughts_Arrive out with tips on how to approach women you're barely acquainted with...do's and dont's.

    Try not to gawk at their boobies.
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • Hi!
    Hi! Posts: 3,095
    Ask her if she likes Pearl Jam, if she says no, never talk to her again. My biggest regret in life.
    Small talk first. See if you have something in common, ask her out to dinner, a concert, or drinks.

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  • Renfield
    Renfield NYC NY Posts: 1,054
    dankind said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Maybe you guys could help Thoughts_Arrive out with tips on how to approach women you're barely acquainted with...do's and dont's.

    Try not to gawk at their boobies.
    :rofl:
  • Renfield
    Renfield NYC NY Posts: 1,054
    Renfield said:
    dankind said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Maybe you guys could help Thoughts_Arrive out with tips on how to approach women you're barely acquainted with...do's and dont's.

    Try not to gawk at their boobies.
    :rofl:
    p.s. I like this one better :lol:
    I’m just learning the emojis and lovin’ it
  • kce8
    kce8 Posts: 1,636
    Don't get drunk and go on FB!!! 

    Talk to her personally and stop overthinking. Forget all your prejudices, how could she feel comfortable, if you already yet do not believe that it could work?
    Be open! Give her a chance...
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 45,058
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Maybe you guys could help Thoughts_Arrive out with tips on how to approach women you're barely acquainted with...do's and dont's.

    been there done that. got the tshirt. solicits advice. finds excuses or completely ignores whats offered..

    its a shame too, he's a good dude. kind, caring , compassionate.
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  • Hi!
    Hi! Posts: 3,095
    I would imagine someone that actively participates in religious activities on a University level doesn’t take their faith lightly. If their just going to church on weekends or holidays that’s a different ball game.
    You need to find someone you have a lot in common with imo. After the initial attraction and new relationship fun, what’s left? If you have other areas that you have in common with the person that could override the religion thing. 
    You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take, so you got to put yourself out there and accept that rejection will happen.

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  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,634
    edited August 2019
    Why not just start by asking her how's it going with her studies etc? If she accepts your friend request. Ask about what you have in common/your background. Something that would come natural after you stumbled upon her on Facebook and thought "oh, we should be friends on here".

    Otherwise this has worked as an ice breaker for me (in different real life situations):

    "So what do we really think off KISS' 1980s period?"

    And this one got me reported to HR:

    "Funny thing, you have the same name as the first victim in A Nightmare on Elm Street"
    Post edited by Spiritual_Chaos on
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Hi!
    Hi! Posts: 3,095
    The friend request thing is no big deal, isn’t that the whole point of Facebook? If that’s what makes you feel more comfortable to make small talk or start a conversation, go for it. You go to the same University, perfect topic to start a conversation.

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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Thank you all for the advice. I'll think about it.
    I don't think she's into rock music, many her age at my university don't know any of the band I like. It's all modern pop.
    Thank you Mickey for the kind words.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,634
    edited August 2019
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Thank you all for the advice. I'll think about it.
    I don't think she's into rock music, many her age at my university don't know any of the band I like. It's all modern pop.
    Thank you Mickey for the kind words.
    As in, you don't having much to talk about with someone if not Rock?

    or

    As in, you don't see yourself eating breakfast together with someone and not having Dokken on in the background?
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 45,058
    pretty sure its a wise move to not taking dating advice from someone who cant evennhook up with agnes for coffee.....
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    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
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    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,634
    edited August 2019
    mickeyrat said:
    pretty sure its a wise move to not taking dating advice from someone who cant evennhook up with agnes for coffee.....
    Well, the earth becomes my throne.
    Post edited by Spiritual_Chaos on
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Thank you all for the advice. I'll think about it.
    I don't think she's into rock music, many her age at my university don't know any of the band I like. It's all modern pop.
    Thank you Mickey for the kind words.
    As in, you don't having much to talk about with someone if not Rock?

    or

    As in, you don't see yourself eating breakfast together with someone and not having Dokken on in the background?
    Nah, was just an observation. 
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,634
    edited August 2019
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Thank you all for the advice. I'll think about it.
    I don't think she's into rock music, many her age at my university don't know any of the band I like. It's all modern pop.
    Thank you Mickey for the kind words.
    As in, you don't having much to talk about with someone if not Rock?

    or

    As in, you don't see yourself eating breakfast together with someone and not having Dokken on in the background?
    Nah, was just an observation. 
    I'm meeting someone now who doesn't care about Pearl Jam one bit (literally zero) and who's favorite artist is:

    https://youtu.be/X3oB_zkAG7A


    I mean... I'm used to dating/hanging around/being together with people who are at least in the same ocean of music taste, whether it be Pearl Jam, or Nine Inch Nails, Leonard Cohen, Tegan and Sara etc. At least close enough that you can converse about music and go to the same concerts, and slowly by osmosis force them into humming Pearl jam.

    But in the end. Doesn't matter enough to not go for it. Or diss her later for it, after you have actually interacted with her. But my guess is you are looking for any reasons not to friend request?

    Go make yourself a fruity drink with Absolut Vodka and then just friend request. Just ask her "hey, been a while - how's your studies going? you think Edward Furlong will have more than a cameo in the new Terminator movie?"
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Haha I'll see. We didn't really chat, other than a quick hello. It seemed she made the effort twice with me by sitting on the same table as me and we had a quick small talk. I'm always a mute at university and try to keep to myself.
    I recently met a woman I met on Facebook and she's a huge techno/trance music fan. She's into taking ecstasy tablets.
    It made me say no to a further date (if our first meet was even considered a date).
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014

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