Board Romances...updates, please!

OffSheGoes35

I'm liking this one so far...
The Power of Deliberate Listening
https://youtu.be/A343tlP5iUA

dankind

Fun fact: I have never listened to a single TED talk or podcast.

OffSheGoes35

dankind said:

Fun fact: I have never listened to a single TED talk or podcast.

That's okay, we'll be gentle.

OffSheGoes35

Maybe we'll sweeten the deal by playing some Kenny G during intermissions...

dankind

OffSheGoes35 said:

Maybe we'll sweeten the deal by playing some Kenny G during intermissions...

I have heard Kenny G.

And I’ve seen and read A Clockwork Orange many times. 

oftenreading

dankind said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Maybe we'll sweeten the deal by playing some Kenny G during intermissions...

I have heard Kenny G.

And I’ve seen and read A Clockwork Orange many times. 

You have heard Kenny G live?

You are truly a renaissance man, Daniel. 

dankind

oftenreading said:

dankind said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Maybe we'll sweeten the deal by playing some Kenny G during intermissions...

I have heard Kenny G.

And I’ve seen and read A Clockwork Orange many times. 

You have heard Kenny G live?

You are truly a renaissance man, Daniel. 

I have not heard Kenny G live -- unless live on TV or something like that counts. 

Thoughts_Arrive

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I'm so shy I am afraid to say hello and chat.

Maybe it’s a good idea to first ask about something simple, if it’s at school for example ask about some school related practical thing perhaps.

That's all I can talk about it seems, university related things, other than that there's nothing. Mind you, being 13 years older than my current cohort there's not much in common. 

Movies, arts, music, current (local) events, sports, literature, travels, ... there’s so much 

Pretzels!

Definitely! food is always a good topic
do you like the small cracker pretzels or the big breadlike ones from Germany? I love those but I always scrape the salt off

Haha. Not a fan of the big breadlike, dry versions you ate at the concert. And that a friend sometimes buy over here at Lidl. 

Not a fan of the crackers either. 

Not a pretzels person. But I think I could kill 5-10 minutes talking about them. 

Rather have a Delicatoboll.

A what now?!?!
oh but I had a cheese pretzel at the concert! Yummy! Thing is that you only got the rest of it without any cheese left

Well meine frau - ich bin sort of eine veganichen so that was win-win . 

Delicatoboll:



Something you can buy at a cafeteria and strike up a conversation about with a girl you like.



@Thoughts_Arrive - if you are so shy - to a degree of it impeding your life. Have you tried to get out of that in some way? Fighting it.

I did mention it to my psychologist and psychiatrist years ago, the medication kind of helped. It's something I've had since childhood, a fear of approaching and saying hi.

JPPJ84

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I'm so shy I am afraid to say hello and chat.

Maybe it’s a good idea to first ask about something simple, if it’s at school for example ask about some school related practical thing perhaps.

That's all I can talk about it seems, university related things, other than that there's nothing. Mind you, being 13 years older than my current cohort there's not much in common. 

Movies, arts, music, current (local) events, sports, literature, travels, ... there’s so much 

Pretzels!

Definitely! food is always a good topic
do you like the small cracker pretzels or the big breadlike ones from Germany? I love those but I always scrape the salt off

Haha. Not a fan of the big breadlike, dry versions you ate at the concert. And that a friend sometimes buy over here at Lidl. 

Not a fan of the crackers either. 

Not a pretzels person. But I think I could kill 5-10 minutes talking about them. 

Rather have a Delicatoboll.

A what now?!?!
oh but I had a cheese pretzel at the concert! Yummy! Thing is that you only got the rest of it without any cheese left

Well meine frau - ich bin sort of eine veganichen so that was win-win . 

Delicatoboll:



Something you can buy at a cafeteria and strike up a conversation about with a girl you like.



@Thoughts_Arrive - if you are so shy - to a degree of it impeding your life. Have you tried to get out of that in some way? Fighting it.

I did mention it to my psychologist and psychiatrist years ago, the medication kind of helped. It's something I've had since childhood, a fear of approaching and saying hi.

At your next appointment, mention it again, tell them how much it affects you and ask them for help. And I‘m not talking about medicine! There’s also behavioral psychologists who can specifically help to identify behavioral patterns and work with you on strategies to break them. Don’t just accept that you have this issue but try and tackle it.
sorry in case I’m sounding pushy, I don’t mean to. But you‘ve got to do something about it 

lastexitlondon

It comes from  parenting  i believe 

Thoughts_Arrive

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I'm so shy I am afraid to say hello and chat.

Maybe it’s a good idea to first ask about something simple, if it’s at school for example ask about some school related practical thing perhaps.

That's all I can talk about it seems, university related things, other than that there's nothing. Mind you, being 13 years older than my current cohort there's not much in common. 

Movies, arts, music, current (local) events, sports, literature, travels, ... there’s so much 

Pretzels!

Definitely! food is always a good topic
do you like the small cracker pretzels or the big breadlike ones from Germany? I love those but I always scrape the salt off

Haha. Not a fan of the big breadlike, dry versions you ate at the concert. And that a friend sometimes buy over here at Lidl. 

Not a fan of the crackers either. 

Not a pretzels person. But I think I could kill 5-10 minutes talking about them. 

Rather have a Delicatoboll.

A what now?!?!
oh but I had a cheese pretzel at the concert! Yummy! Thing is that you only got the rest of it without any cheese left

Well meine frau - ich bin sort of eine veganichen so that was win-win . 

Delicatoboll:



Something you can buy at a cafeteria and strike up a conversation about with a girl you like.



@Thoughts_Arrive - if you are so shy - to a degree of it impeding your life. Have you tried to get out of that in some way? Fighting it.

I did mention it to my psychologist and psychiatrist years ago, the medication kind of helped. It's something I've had since childhood, a fear of approaching and saying hi.

At your next appointment, mention it again, tell them how much it affects you and ask them for help. And I‘m not talking about medicine! There’s also behavioral psychologists who can specifically help to identify behavioral patterns and work with you on strategies to break them. Don’t just accept that you have this issue but try and tackle it.
sorry in case I’m sounding pushy, I don’t mean to. But you‘ve got to do something about it 

Hey, thanks.
I don't have any appointments coming up. I haven't seen someone in a number of years.
I can't afford to unless I am working full time, so expensive, like $200 for 50 minutes. 

Thoughts_Arrive

lastexitlondon said:

It comes from  parenting  i believe 

An inherited disposition to be introverted and shy combined with an abusive mother who broke me down before she could build me up.

lastexitlondon

Even the introvert. That is from being not listened to and rebuffed as a kid

Thoughts_Arrive

lastexitlondon said:

Even the introvert. That is from being not listened to and rebuffed as a kid

It could be. My older sister used to always make me feel like I could not speak. I'd rather be an introvert rather than an extrovert to be honest.

Spiritual_Chaos

I was shy growing up, and had a period of social phobia in my late teens. I can not see how that would come from my parents. In my case.

I dreamt about you lastexitlondon by the way.

Spiritual_Chaos

Thoughts_Arrive said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I'm so shy I am afraid to say hello and chat.

Maybe it’s a good idea to first ask about something simple, if it’s at school for example ask about some school related practical thing perhaps.

That's all I can talk about it seems, university related things, other than that there's nothing. Mind you, being 13 years older than my current cohort there's not much in common. 

Movies, arts, music, current (local) events, sports, literature, travels, ... there’s so much 

Pretzels!

Definitely! food is always a good topic
do you like the small cracker pretzels or the big breadlike ones from Germany? I love those but I always scrape the salt off

Haha. Not a fan of the big breadlike, dry versions you ate at the concert. And that a friend sometimes buy over here at Lidl. 

Not a fan of the crackers either. 

Not a pretzels person. But I think I could kill 5-10 minutes talking about them. 

Rather have a Delicatoboll.

A what now?!?!
oh but I had a cheese pretzel at the concert! Yummy! Thing is that you only got the rest of it without any cheese left

Well meine frau - ich bin sort of eine veganichen so that was win-win . 

Delicatoboll:



Something you can buy at a cafeteria and strike up a conversation about with a girl you like.



@Thoughts_Arrive - if you are so shy - to a degree of it impeding your life. Have you tried to get out of that in some way? Fighting it.

I did mention it to my psychologist and psychiatrist years ago, the medication kind of helped. It's something I've had since childhood, a fear of approaching and saying hi.

At your next appointment, mention it again, tell them how much it affects you and ask them for help. And I‘m not talking about medicine! There’s also behavioral psychologists who can specifically help to identify behavioral patterns and work with you on strategies to break them. Don’t just accept that you have this issue but try and tackle it.
sorry in case I’m sounding pushy, I don’t mean to. But you‘ve got to do something about it 

Hey, thanks.
I don't have any appointments coming up. I haven't seen someone in a number of years.
I can't afford to unless I am working full time, so expensive, like $200 for 50 minutes. 

There is no option through your public health care?

lastexitlondon

Spiritual_Chaos said:

I was shy growing up, and had a period of social phobia in my late teens. I can not see how that would come from my parents. In my case.

I dreamt about you lastexitlondon by the way.

I hope it was good

Spiritual_Chaos

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

It comes from  parenting  i believe 

An inherited disposition to be introverted and shy combined with an abusive mother who broke me down before she could build me up.

Have you distanced yourself from your mom, or have you resolved your problems with her, or is it the same today?

Thoughts_Arrive

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I'm so shy I am afraid to say hello and chat.

Maybe it’s a good idea to first ask about something simple, if it’s at school for example ask about some school related practical thing perhaps.

That's all I can talk about it seems, university related things, other than that there's nothing. Mind you, being 13 years older than my current cohort there's not much in common. 

Movies, arts, music, current (local) events, sports, literature, travels, ... there’s so much 

Pretzels!

Definitely! food is always a good topic
do you like the small cracker pretzels or the big breadlike ones from Germany? I love those but I always scrape the salt off

Haha. Not a fan of the big breadlike, dry versions you ate at the concert. And that a friend sometimes buy over here at Lidl. 

Not a fan of the crackers either. 

Not a pretzels person. But I think I could kill 5-10 minutes talking about them. 

Rather have a Delicatoboll.

A what now?!?!
oh but I had a cheese pretzel at the concert! Yummy! Thing is that you only got the rest of it without any cheese left

Well meine frau - ich bin sort of eine veganichen so that was win-win . 

Delicatoboll:



Something you can buy at a cafeteria and strike up a conversation about with a girl you like.



@Thoughts_Arrive - if you are so shy - to a degree of it impeding your life. Have you tried to get out of that in some way? Fighting it.

I did mention it to my psychologist and psychiatrist years ago, the medication kind of helped. It's something I've had since childhood, a fear of approaching and saying hi.

At your next appointment, mention it again, tell them how much it affects you and ask them for help. And I‘m not talking about medicine! There’s also behavioral psychologists who can specifically help to identify behavioral patterns and work with you on strategies to break them. Don’t just accept that you have this issue but try and tackle it.
sorry in case I’m sounding pushy, I don’t mean to. But you‘ve got to do something about it 

Hey, thanks.
I don't have any appointments coming up. I haven't seen someone in a number of years.
I can't afford to unless I am working full time, so expensive, like $200 for 50 minutes. 

There is no option through your public health care?

If you're eligible, your GP writes you a 10 session mental health plan which entitles you to a rebate. So a $200 session will leave you around $70-$80 out of pocket. I've had that before and 10 sessions go so fast. I may be entitled to a lower rate seeing I am unemployed. I have 5 sessions free at my university which I used 2 years ago. Problem is I need more than 5 or 10 sessions and it's too much. I paid over $3,000 when I was working full time.

Thoughts_Arrive

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

It comes from  parenting  i believe 

An inherited disposition to be introverted and shy combined with an abusive mother who broke me down before she could build me up.

Have you distanced yourself from your mom, or have you resolved your problems with her, or is it the same today?

We live in the same house but we don't speak much. There are moments when it is all normal but then we have arguments or she gets upset at me and stops talking to me.