Board Romances...updates, please!

Thoughts_Arrive

OffSheGoes35 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I actually don't talk to her. We briefly talked in class at university and I was kind of attracted to her and our eyes would meet from time to time on campus along with a smile on her face. She keeps popping up on suggested friends on Facebook due to having a mutual friend. Not sure if worth sending her a friend request and taking it from there. She finished her degree last semester so I am not sure I'll see her again unless she and I both do Honours next year at the same university (I know she's aiming to get into Honours).
Another issue, the age gap....

As for religion, I just hate how it is a reason people use to deny others their basic human rights (like marrying someone they love). Just gets me mad.

You mention a smile on her face when your eyes would meet. How do you let girls know you like them, T_A?

I don't, I'm too scared to approach a girl and tell her. I've never done it.

OffSheGoes35

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

mickeyrat

am aware of two seperate ones. both are now married. the women emigrated here to cement the relationship. one became a citizen a couple weeks ago.

Thoughts_Arrive

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

JPPJ84

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

So what, don’t worry about it! Jill is 13 years younger than Ed

Thoughts_Arrive

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

So what, don’t worry about it! Jill is 13 years younger than Ed

Yeah but Jill was most likely older than 22-23 when she got with Ed. I think there's a stigma around dating someone in their early 20s if you are more than 7 years her senior. 

JPPJ84

Thoughts_Arrive said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

So what, don’t worry about it! Jill is 13 years younger than Ed

Yeah but Jill was most likely older than 22-23 when she got with Ed. I think there's a stigma around dating someone in their early 20s if you are more than 7 years her senior. 

Nope. It was 2000 so she was 22/23. man I sound like a stalker

Spiritual_Chaos

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

So what, don’t worry about it! Jill is 13 years younger than Ed

JPPJ84

Spiritual_Chaos said:

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

So what, don’t worry about it! Jill is 13 years younger than Ed

See?! Be like Leo!

Thoughts_Arrive

That graph has me scratching my head trying to interpret it.

OffSheGoes35

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

Well, next time someone you like smiles at you, be a mirror reflection, man
That will hopefully kick things off and you can start flirting.

Well, I did smile back. How about the age gap? 22-23 to 35.

I think if the age gap makes you uncomfortable--it's a deal breaker. Which is okay, you're allowed to have deal breakers. 

Spiritual_Chaos

Thoughts_Arrive said:

That graph has me scratching my head trying to interpret it.

Easier version:

Hobbes

SD48277

Thoughts_Arrive said:

oftenreading said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Do you people think that a relationship between a very religious girl who is part of a Christian youth group and a guy who is an atheist and hates organised religion and the Catholic church could ever work out? 

Is she Catholic or not? If you "hate organized religion and that Catholic church" and she's Catholic, I'd say no. Being an atheist is different than hating a specific religion, or all religions. Not all atheists hate organized religion.

I'd say she is Catholic. She wears crucifixes, attends these Christian youth groups, is involved with my university's religious group.
I know they are different, I just feel very strongly about the Catholic Church. I didn't say all atheists hate organised religion. I'm one that does.

How about you start with "Hello" and then see where things go. You have gotten way ahead of yourself and have doomed a relationship before it began . You have also made some assumptions about her that may not be true. Just because someone has religious faith does not mean they have a closed mind.  How about you give her an opportunity to show you who she is? 

dankind

SD48277 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

oftenreading said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Do you people think that a relationship between a very religious girl who is part of a Christian youth group and a guy who is an atheist and hates organised religion and the Catholic church could ever work out? 

Is she Catholic or not? If you "hate organized religion and that Catholic church" and she's Catholic, I'd say no. Being an atheist is different than hating a specific religion, or all religions. Not all atheists hate organized religion.

I'd say she is Catholic. She wears crucifixes, attends these Christian youth groups, is involved with my university's religious group.
I know they are different, I just feel very strongly about the Catholic Church. I didn't say all atheists hate organised religion. I'm one that does.

How about you start with "Hello" and then see where things go. You have gotten way ahead of yourself and have doomed a relationship before it began . You have also made some assumptions about her that may not be true. Just because someone has religious faith does not mean they have a closed mind.  How about you give her an opportunity to show you who she is? 

SD48277

dankind said:

SD48277 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

oftenreading said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Do you people think that a relationship between a very religious girl who is part of a Christian youth group and a guy who is an atheist and hates organised religion and the Catholic church could ever work out? 

Is she Catholic or not? If you "hate organized religion and that Catholic church" and she's Catholic, I'd say no. Being an atheist is different than hating a specific religion, or all religions. Not all atheists hate organized religion.

I'd say she is Catholic. She wears crucifixes, attends these Christian youth groups, is involved with my university's religious group.
I know they are different, I just feel very strongly about the Catholic Church. I didn't say all atheists hate organised religion. I'm one that does.

How about you start with "Hello" and then see where things go. You have gotten way ahead of yourself and have doomed a relationship before it began . You have also made some assumptions about her that may not be true. Just because someone has religious faith does not mean they have a closed mind.  How about you give her an opportunity to show you who she is? 

 

Meltdown99

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I actually don't talk to her. We briefly talked in class at university and I was kind of attracted to her and our eyes would meet from time to time on campus along with a smile on her face. She keeps popping up on suggested friends on Facebook due to having a mutual friend. Not sure if worth sending her a friend request and taking it from there. She finished her degree last semester so I am not sure I'll see her again unless she and I both do Honours next year at the same university (I know she's aiming to get into Honours).
Another issue, the age gap....

As for religion, I just hate how it is a reason people use to deny others their basic human rights (like marrying someone they love). Just gets me mad.

Do not get hung on people's religious belief's.   You have not even been on a date and you are already judging her and her beliefs.  Most people who belong to organized religion do not take the church teachings literal.  Church's and the leaders of churches are like government and politicians...they do not listen to the people they are to serve.  In many religions, people are trying to enact social change...

Renfield

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thanks. I actually don't talk to her. We briefly talked in class at university and I was kind of attracted to her and our eyes would meet from time to time on campus along with a smile on her face. She keeps popping up on suggested friends on Facebook due to having a mutual friend. Not sure if worth sending her a friend request and taking it from there. 

“Let's start at the very beginning
A very good place to start”
Send her a friend request on FB!

JPPJ84

I agree with the others. If you‘ve never even talked to her it’s way too early to think about religion. I kinda thought you knew said person. 
I disagree on the Facebook friend request however. At least one without any comment! It’s so impersonal and looks careless. If you’re too shy to talk to her at least accompany the request with some nice words.

mickeyrat

move on.  assumption, projection and doubt.  too much to set aside in the slim hope of even a friendship much less a romantic relationship.