Hey Ladies

ed243421 said:

I win

hedonist said:

Honestly, gender plays no part in whether or not I start threads.  There's no one here who intimidates me

(and I too rolled my eyes at "custom"...what does that even mean?)

trust me, I've "known" this woman for a long time, and nothing intimidates her.  Hi Hedo    I believe the polls have shown that the males outrank the number of woman PJ fans.  IMO, threads get derailed on this forum in a hot second.  So it could deter the "female" poster to just not bother even trying.  

brianlux said:

PureandEasy said:

hedonist said:

Honestly, gender plays no part in whether or not I start threads.  There's no one here who intimidates me

(and I too rolled my eyes at "custom"...what does that even mean?)

trust me, I've "known" this woman for a long time, and nothing intimidates her.  Hi Hedo    I believe the polls have shown that the males outrank the number of woman PJ fans.  IMO, threads get derailed on this forum in a hot second.  So it could deter the "female" poster to just not bother even trying.  

That's a bummer.  I think it would be cool to have more ladies here, more lady initiated threads, and fewer derailments.

I agree 100%.  I've been around for years.  Not to say that the ladies can't have fun, but I believe, as a woman, if we want to start a thread, it's often due to a serious heartfelt issue.  As I said, I've been around for years, there are a lot of members that I seek opinions about things.  However, my experience here has been if you try to open a conversation about something somewhat serious, the thread is either ignored or gets derailed.  And once it's derailed . . . why bother.  I know this is a PJ forum but over the years we have come to rely on each other to vent, to find support.  It's just not the same. I have life long friends that I met via the old forums, and I cherish them.  People I met through this (or former PJ forums) that I have known for close to 20 years.  I've done PJ road trips with them, traveled on vacation with them. That's what I miss about this place.  Maybe I should start a thread about that, lol.  Alas, I fear it will be ignored.  

PureandEasy said:

brianlux said:

PureandEasy said:

hedonist said:

Honestly, gender plays no part in whether or not I start threads.  There's no one here who intimidates me

(and I too rolled my eyes at "custom"...what does that even mean?)

trust me, I've "known" this woman for a long time, and nothing intimidates her.  Hi Hedo    I believe the polls have shown that the males outrank the number of woman PJ fans.  IMO, threads get derailed on this forum in a hot second.  So it could deter the "female" poster to just not bother even trying.  

That's a bummer.  I think it would be cool to have more ladies here, more lady initiated threads, and fewer derailments.

I agree 100%.  I've been around for years.  Not to say that the ladies can't have fun, but I believe, as a woman, if we want to start a thread, it's often due to a serious heartfelt issue.  As I said, I've been around for years, there are a lot of members that I seek opinions about things.  However, my experience here has been if you try to open a conversation about something somewhat serious, the thread is either ignored or gets derailed.  And once it's derailed . . . why bother.  I know this is a PJ forum but over the years we have come to rely on each other to vent, to find support.  It's just not the same. I have life long friends that I met via the old forums, and I cherish them.  People I met through this (or former PJ forums) that I have known for close to 20 years.  I've done PJ road trips with them, traveled on vacation with them. That's what I miss about this place.  Maybe I should start a thread about that, lol.  Alas, I fear it will be ignored.  

hedonist said:

PureandEasy said:

hedonist said:

Honestly, gender plays no part in whether or not I start threads.  There's no one here who intimidates me

(and I too rolled my eyes at "custom"...what does that even mean?)

trust me, I've "known" this woman for a long time, and nothing intimidates her.  Hi Hedo    I believe the polls have shown that the males outrank the number of woman PJ fans.  IMO, threads get derailed on this forum in a hot second.  So it could deter the "female" poster to just not bother even trying.  

Hi, P&E!

Some derailments have turned out great / funny, but not so much on heavier topics (minus the stereotypical trolls who just enjoy taking huge digital dumps wherever and whenever possible - that's when I try to laugh and point ).

And yes, as you and F Me mentioned, some of the connections made here are tremendous, even life-changing.  I'm very thankful to this forum and "my" people for that

Oh believe me, there have been some hilarious times on these boards.  I don't come around that much anymore but when I do, it doesn't feel the same.  Still love the band, love going to shows, love meeting new people.  That's the one thing about this band, it doesn't matter when you encounter someone at a show, for the most part, the band is the connection and people are so kind, you could end up hanging out all night with someone you just met two hours before.

Renfield said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

PJ_Soul said:

I think maybe the number of posts started by women about matches the ratio of women vs men in general here? This place is a complete sausage party!

There is also the possibility that women in general are more "thoughtful" or "careful" about what requires a whole thread?? Maybe, but I guess it's impossible to know for sure.

But FWIW, I have started a fair number of threads here over the years, so hopefully I'm padding the stats at least a little bit.

PJ_Soul has started 203 discussions! We have some serious work to do ladies. PJ_Soul has been doing the heavy lifting.  

That’s fantastic... also a bit intimidating... doubt I’ll get to that level.

Don't be intimidated - it is really just evidence of me not being able to keep my trap shut.