PJ fans in 12 step Recovery

I totally missed what happened but its so easy to get caught in an off day after everything went shit ,by some clown with nothing  better to do than sit all day mocking and chastising  honest  folk.

I commend each and every one of you who are sober and those struggling to get sober.  My brother lost his battle to addiction at the young age of 49...

mickeyrat said:

lastexitlondon said:

I totally missed what happened but its so easy to get caught in an off day after everything went shit ,by some clown with nothing  better to do than sit all day mocking and chastising  honest  folk.

doesnt help being a participant in the back and forth either.....

You know that anger isn't a good emotion to hold onto for an extended time. It messes us up. 

I didn't see exactly what the posts were but I do see an escalation in posts recently. Escalators usually run to the mods. Don't fall into that trap. Either stay out of the thread or scoot past any posts by adversaries, you know that they win when they get a reaction out of you. And if you answer or ask something pertinent, there will be no response. You don't want to let people live rent free in your head. 

If you were given a time out, I'd just take it easy for awhile and maybe use the ignore button. If you are looking to engage, then something is going on in RL that you are getting pleasure from the back and forth here and you should call your sponsor or go to a meeting and share. 

You don't have to take my advice, but I love that you started this thread for those of us in recovery, and I can see that you seem angry or provocative lately (and it don't take much to provoke in some threads).  I care more about your well being and sobriety than winning a stupid argument on this forum. And there is never a winner when some people just enjoy being contrary. It's not your problem, let go and get thee to a meeting. I don't want to see you disappeared.   (cyber but take it anyway). 

njnancy said:

Meltdown99 said:

I commend each and every one of you who are sober and those struggling to get sober.  My brother lost his battle to addiction at the young age of 49...

Thank you very much...there is a lot of support here. 

I also lost my brother when he was 40. Losing siblings hurts. I'm sorry for you and your family. 

Thank you for your kind words.  So sorry to hear you lost a brother so young.  Did the loss change you?  My brother's loss, then my mothers passing 3 years later changed me...it's a struggle.  It cost me my marriage...as you said...in sickness and health till death do us part.  In reality with some people, they cannot deal with real life...

Meltdown99 said:

njnancy said:

Meltdown99 said:

I commend each and every one of you who are sober and those struggling to get sober.  My brother lost his battle to addiction at the young age of 49...

Thank you very much...there is a lot of support here. 

I also lost my brother when he was 40. Losing siblings hurts. I'm sorry for you and your family. 

Thank you for your kind words.  So sorry to hear you lost a brother so young.  Did the loss change you?  My brother's loss, then my mothers passing 3 years later changed me...it's a struggle.  It cost me my marriage...as you said...in sickness and health till death do us part.  In reality with some people, they cannot deal with real life...

I lost my dad in his 60's and ten years later I lost my brother and seven years later I lost my sister.  And my ex brainwashed my son and 'stole' him for 5 years doing all kinds of evil crap. 

I've been through a lot and losing my sister and my son at the same time definitely changed me. He's home now, but I lost all of his teen years so I don't know how to parent him. He's different. And I have PTSD from my psychotic ex accusing me of child abuse/neglect through DYFS courts - that was 2 years of hell, my son went along with it. This was after I raised him alone till 15. It was child abuse to use him to screw with me. 

My ex-husband (I never married my son's father though we were together for 10 long years) left me when I didn't get sober after a year. He was my drinking buddy and it was a shitty divorce, my dad died a month before it was final. 

I got sober before it and have stayed sober throughout all this stuff. But the last 5 years or so have been difficult and the last year has been very difficult, not for sobriety, but for my mental health. 

Thanks. We all have a bag full of garbage, even when we think we're alone. Life is not fair, it is a roller coaster. I'm not carefree and spontaneous and trusting and funny anymore. I have a hard time leaving the house and have intense anxiety. I'll get through it, as will you. 

I visit here as a man who hopes to be happy one day.
 Last night i didnt drink  in a hope that i can be free and even  try and fix my broken brain and body. 
 Ive cry all the  time  and anger is a new emotion  that i really am not used to. 
I always read this thread  with admiration and love
 I may never be free  or well. But i will always try even though  atm i lose 

Ive just had some bad news  and i need emergency  colonoscopy.  So i no longer  can think of drinking.  Please keep me in your thoughts.  I may not be around here much. 

lastexitlondon said:

Ive just had some bad news  and i need emergency  colonoscopy.  So i no longer  can think of drinking.  Please keep me in your thoughts.  I may not be around here much. 

Thinking of you and wishing you the very best.

The  dr said he has to check its not cancer. I am in turmoil and havent managed to eat for 2 days. I cant cope at all.

Yes it is. And thats an attitude i need. Im a very pessimistic  guy . I have a chronic illness already so i have no room for anymore fear amd sorrow