Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

rgambs said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

LongestRoad said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

How girls feel when I try to get to know them...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlkUmmnAyy8

Are you trying to get to know them with a light sabre ? etc.??  I’m not sure what this is showing? 

Just showing that every girl is frightened of me. Makes me feel like I am a movie villain.

As a psychology student, you should recognise this as projection.  

Hahaha, Freud's theories had a lot of criticism 

Older ladies rock. Your eyes will be well and truely opened. I really hope you gain a friend and maybe more. Good man. Best wishes from London that s for sure

Thoughts_Arrive said:

PJ_Soul said:

You know, I read that and at first read "but she is years old". I was all :tired: . But then I read again.

Who cares if she's 8 years older? Hell, Emmanuel Macron's wife is 25 years older than he is, they're madly in love, and nobody gives a shit. 8 years isn't a big gap. Remember, you wouldn't have brought the age gap up if she was the man. So forget about the sexist double standards.

Good luck!

I don't have a problem with dating older women. I actually would prefer it over immature girls.
It's me who thinks she may have an issue with it.
Thanks.
I don't think anything will eventuate, especially when she learns I am a hermit with few friends as opposed to her gazillions and her party lifestyle. 
I hold onto the hope that things happen when you don't expect them to and when you don't look.
Hope...

you defeat yourself before even playing the game, dude. how do you know she won't like an introvert? there are many couples that have separate social lives. some prefer it that way. the introvert gets their time alone, the extrovert gets their time out with friends, win win. 

my wife and I used to be concert buddies. over the years, she is now more inclined to listen to pop music or even GASP! fucking talk radio like she's 85 years old. is it a deal breaker? of course not. is it disappointing for me? yes, but people and relationships evolve. you roll with it. I go to shows alone or I find a buddy to go with, which, at my age, is difficult, all my old concert buddies rarely go to shows anymore, let alone if it isn't an obligatory saturday night show. I had to get a buddy of mine to fly from Toronto to Winnipeg just to have someone to go to the fucking Headstones shows with! 

anyway, just get out of your own head and stop thinking about it too much. that's your entire problem. 

lastexitlondon said:

Older ladies rock. Your eyes will be well and truely opened. I really hope you gain a friend and maybe more. Good man. Best wishes from London that s for sure

Thank you. I love older women.

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

PJ_Soul said:

You know, I read that and at first read "but she is years old". I was all :tired: . But then I read again.

Who cares if she's 8 years older? Hell, Emmanuel Macron's wife is 25 years older than he is, they're madly in love, and nobody gives a shit. 8 years isn't a big gap. Remember, you wouldn't have brought the age gap up if she was the man. So forget about the sexist double standards.

Good luck!

I don't have a problem with dating older women. I actually would prefer it over immature girls.
It's me who thinks she may have an issue with it.
Thanks.
I don't think anything will eventuate, especially when she learns I am a hermit with few friends as opposed to her gazillions and her party lifestyle. 
I hold onto the hope that things happen when you don't expect them to and when you don't look.
Hope...

you defeat yourself before even playing the game, dude. how do you know she won't like an introvert? there are many couples that have separate social lives. some prefer it that way. the introvert gets their time alone, the extrovert gets their time out with friends, win win. 

my wife and I used to be concert buddies. over the years, she is now more inclined to listen to pop music or even GASP! fucking talk radio like she's 85 years old. is it a deal breaker? of course not. is it disappointing for me? yes, but people and relationships evolve. you roll with it. I go to shows alone or I find a buddy to go with, which, at my age, is difficult, all my old concert buddies rarely go to shows anymore, let alone if it isn't an obligatory saturday night show. I had to get a buddy of mine to fly from Toronto to Winnipeg just to have someone to go to the fucking Headstones shows with! 

anyway, just get out of your own head and stop thinking about it too much. that's your entire problem. 

I don't know, just thinking 'birds of a feather flock together'

Thoughts_Arrive said:

LongestRoad said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

LongestRoad said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

How girls feel when I try to get to know them...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlkUmmnAyy8

Are you trying to get to know them with a light sabre ? etc.??  I’m not sure what this is showing? 

Just showing that every girl is frightened of me. Makes me feel like I am a movie villain.

Is it possible you feel this because you may be over analyzing yourself and your feelings internally and vocalizing everything you’re analyzing about yourself and are you analyzing everything the girls are saying and doing? 

It's because women avoid me. If they see me on campus at university they try sneak past or pretend they didn't see me.
One time in a lecture, the fold down desk on my chair was broken so I had to move to the seat next to me so I could write notes during the lecture. The girl next to me then moved one chair over, there was one chair empty between us but she still moved. Like wtf? Am I that creepy? Do I ooze scary Kylo Ren intimidation?

   If you are intimidating in some way, maybe you could watch some Queer Eye on Netflix for helpful tips. I haven't watched the reboot of the show, but the old show on bravo was great. Netflix has all the answers-you just have to find the right show/movie.

Yes, I recall the tellings of the girl who moved her seat.

Good (if awkward!) point made above; also consider someone may want their personal space or just don't feel like chit-chatting.  It's not always about you.

I got nothing else, TA.  You've asked for and been given so much worthy advice - and support - but aside from saying thanks or offering up an excuse or claiming you'll look into a suggestion, that's it.

So, I wish you luck.

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thank you dude.
I'll see if she initiates conversation with me first. If it's only me doing the initiating then that's a sign of no interest.
If she initiates I'll chat for a bit here and then ask her out.
As I said before, not getting my hopes up as I've been down this road so many times.
As for opposites attracting, every single lecturer at university tells us that they do not based on evidence. Even as recently as this semester in my social psychology subject. 

If you always wait for the woman to initiate, I’ve got bad news for ya...
Just strike up conversation and go from there. If you don’t talk to her, she’s gonna think the same thing (no interest) and move on. Women don’t waste time.